lightnlife:
Hello everyone,

Please can I ask for some advise or a procedural guideline on inviting one's parent to the UK?

What docs are required for visa application?

Is the purchase of a return ticket mandatory before visa app?

@babajeje123, I think you've recently invited or secured a visa for a parent from Naija, can you please share some insight?

Thanks

Nothing much. Passport, my bank statement and letter of invitation. I bought a returned ticket as I heard my parent would be denied entry without it.

babajeje123:

Nothing much. Passport, my bank statement and letter of invitation. I bought a returned ticket as I heard my parent would be denied entry without it.

Please did you get the tickets after the visa approval? I applied for my sister and mum. I and my other sister invited them individually.

[Crosspost from Living in the UK thread]
Perhaps, these discourse should be thoroughly engaged here in parenting in the UK thread
Seems this thread raised areas of concerns: https://www.nairaland.com/7732928/uk-schools-teach-kids-lgbt

Treadway:
... ... E go soon rish the level wey you either pay good money to send your children to a private PROPER school, or tish your pikin by yourself. These people will not rest until they achieve their aim of misdirecting these young and impressionable children.
... ... ![/b]

semmyk:
[Crosspost from Living in the UK thread]
Perhaps, these discourse should be thoroughly engaged here in parenting in the UK thread
Seems this thread raised areas of concerns: https://www.nairaland.com/7732928/uk-schools-teach-kids-lgbt

To be honest this stuff has been disturbing me for months now. If there is anything I hate in my life, it’s being made to accept without my approval. I saw in my child’s nursery book, diagrams of family’s and there was a gay family pic. That’s fine by me as it’s in our society already. But having to teach them sexually inappropriate things (by my own standard) at a young age (primary education) is a no no for me.

Someone said something about private schools being different. Can anyone please confirm that. Do you decide to take out some courses from your child’s program if you don’t want them?

Abeg who know make e help us cos by August next year we are entering primary. And I don’t mind starting to do private from that time. I know families that home school, to be honest I believe relating with people in the society (in school) helps with some aspect of understanding the world and people in general. I don’t even think I have the knowledge enough to do that.

CheesyTee:


Please did you get the tickets after the visa approval? I applied for my sister and mum. I and my other sister invited them individually.

Yes

Ticha:


It's not an issue to see or use an SLT. My son needed an SLT. He wasn't even speaking clearly at 4. Now I bribe him to stop talking.

Please can you confirm if this those not amount to public funds? Because my daughter was also recommended to see a speech therapist but we are not sure if is not public fund

courage54:


Please can you confirm if this those not amount to public funds? Because my daughter was also recommended to see a speech therapist but we are not sure if is not public fund

It's not public funds. You can always confirm with the SLT directly as well. The support is offered to all children regardless of visa or parental visa status.

Chreze:


To be honest this stuff has been disturbing me for months now. If there is anything I hate in my life, it’s being made to accept without my approval. I saw in my child’s nursery book, diagrams of family’s and there was a gay family pic. That’s fine by me as it’s in our society already. But having to teach them sexually inappropriate things (by my own standard) at a young age (primary education) is a no no for me.

Someone said something about private schools being different. Can anyone please confirm that. Do you decide to take out some courses from your child’s program if you don’t want them?
.

It’s True. They don’t collect government money so do not have to collect government nonsense. Most (not all) private schools too have Godly foundations so you will hear a lot more about Christianity than a public school.

In our experience, they do not teach any of these things at all in Junior/Primary school. In Senior school where it’s discussed, you have the right to ask that your child be excused from the class if you prefer. And it’s mainly rights of everyone, not mast*rba*tion.

You’re paying cash, your opinions are much more heard and very valuable.

If you can go private, do so with the quickness.

There is a really good catholic school which is out of my catchment area, almost 15 min drive from the house. I applied for nursery and I got an afternoon slot which I declined as it was not convenient (applied for morning). Anyway luckily I found out there was a 30 hour space cos someone dropped out last minute which I applied for. I let them know will pay for the extra 15 hours.
Now my question is, do guys think there is hope that my daughter might be given a place in the reception when I apply. I know they always say that nursery admission does not guarantee a place in reception but is that very practical? I am a bit worried, don't want her going there for a year, making friends and all and then having to change to a totally different school.

JanegirlN:
There is a really good catholic school which is out of my catchment area, almost 15 min drive from the house. I applied for nursery and I got an afternoon slot which I declined as it was not convenient (applied for morning). Anyway luckily I found out there was a 30 hour space cos someone dropped out last minute which I applied for. I let them know will pay for the extra 15 hours.
Now my question is, do guys think there is hope that my daughter might be given a place in the reception when I apply. I know they always say that nursery admission does not guarantee a place in reception but is that very practical? I am a bit worried, don't want her going there for a year, making friends and all and then having to change to a totally different school.

Unfortunately, doing nursery there truly gives her no preference for primary unless they have space for her.

You can use the one year to move within the catchment of the school. That way she’s almost guaranteed to get in.

Mamatukwas:


It’s True. They don’t collect government money so do not have to collect government nonsense. Most (not all) private schools too have Godly foundations so you will hear a lot more about Christianity than a public school.

In our experience, they do not teach any of these things at all in Junior/Primary school. In Senior school where it’s discussed, you have the right to ask that your child be excused from the class if you prefer. And it’s mainly rights of everyone, not mast*rba*tion.

You’re paying cash, your opinions are much more heard and very valuable.

If you can go private, do so with the quickness.

If I understand correctly, you mean the sexual stuff is not taught in primary (at least, the annoying and irritating suggestions)? Cos if that is the case, then we can do the primary close to the house (as it got good reviews from people outside of our location who lived here years back).

My son’s best friend’s family said they are planning on sending him to a catholic primary school not too far from us. I presume it’s a good school cos her husband is Muslim. May have to look into the school and find out more. We still have 1year. I don’t want too much of church stuff (and not expose him to the reality of the world) or having him in regular school and over exposing him (at-least not from that young age). Teachers contributes to a very big part of our lives. Some kids even bond with their teachers more. It will be easy to suggest crazy things to a child if it is coming from a teacher, especially the ones they see everyday.

Abeg make una help us, sey catholic schools no de over do? Becos e b like I de reason am with my Naija head.

Chreze:


If I understand correctly, you mean the sexual stuff is not taught in primary (at least, the annoying and irritating suggestions)? Cos if that is the case, then we can do the primary close to the house (as it got good reviews from people outside of our location who lived here years back).
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I can only speak for private schools cause that’s where I have experience. They do not teach anything like that in my kids schools.

The current furor however is that government is demanding that it be taught as part of the curriculum to young kids in public primary schools. That’s why parents are complaining. Any parents here with kids In Catholic school can come and advise us if it’s better there, so you’ll be better informed.

Please people… do we have Nigerians living and working on Stornoway in Scotland please?

Does anyone have any experience?
I and the husband are seriously considering moving out of South East England, to somewhere nice, cheap and serene. Where there is at least an NHS trust.

Mamatukwas:


It’s True. They don’t collect government money so do not have to collect government nonsense. Most (not all) private schools too have Godly foundations so you will hear a lot more about Christianity than a public school.

In our experience, they do not teach any of these things at all in Junior/Primary school. In Senior school where it’s discussed, you have the right to ask that your child be excused from the class if you prefer. And it’s mainly rights of everyone, not mast*rba*tion.

You’re paying cash, your opinions are much more heard and very valuable.

If you can go private, do so with the quickness.

Funny cos I once worked at a Private Catholic school Pri / Dec school and I saw LGBT kinikan pasted everywhere in their classes and hallway

hustla:



Funny cos I once worked at a Private Catholic school Pri / Dec school and I saw LGBT kinikan pasted everywhere in their classes and hallway

Atoh! That’s why doing research is important. With private schools you are the piper dictating the tune so go to where works for you. If you don’t like anything in the school you have the right to complain and move your child and money elsewhere. Chikena

hustla:



Funny cos I once worked at a Private Catholic school Pri / Dec school and I saw LGBT kinikan pasted everywhere in their classes and hallway

To be fair I don’t really mind teaching them about gay marriages and family. Cos if they don’t explain, you will have to, when they see two men kissing at Eiffel Tower. So that’s not really an issue for me as it’s already in the society (for me, na God I go ask some questions when I reach heaven). But my problem really is “suggesting”.

Joined my wife in a movie over the weekend, on ITV X. It was about a boy that joined secondary school and wanted to cut off his PP cos he felt uncomfortable with it. He claimed he wasn’t gay, most likely the T alphabet. I didn’t complete the movie. The few minutes I watched I could see how uncomfortable the father was about the whole thing. It was well acted that you could feel his anger and pain.

I thought of it for long while doing other things that day. In fact it led me to remembering “Pose” a film I saw years back. How the boy turned gay and all that. I am just not okay with teaching too deep. Teaching that they should respect other people’s choice/decision in life is fine by me. But you see that “suggesting” or “practicing” is a no no for me. Cos primary school kids are yet to figure out if they want cereal or toast (even after having both for years). Can’t imagine them understanding the concept/process of being gay.

Chreze:


To be fair I don’t really mind teaching them about gay marriages and family. Cos if they don’t explain, you will have to, when they see two men kissing at Eiffel Tower. So that’s not really an issue for me as it’s already in the society (for me, na God I go ask some questions when I reach heaven). But my problem really is “suggesting”.

Joined my wife in a movie over the weekend, on ITV X. It was about a boy that joined secondary school and wanted to cut off his PP cos he felt uncomfortable with it. He claimed he wasn’t gay, most likely the T alphabet. I didn’t complete the movie. The few minutes I watched I could see how uncomfortable the father was about the whole thing. It was well acted that you could feel his anger and pain.

I think its even better in the UK.. US is on another level of ment that God sef must be wondering what's going on

Even Cartel movies that I used to find solace in that I won't see Alphabet people, they're slowly bringing it there

Hopefully, the world gets a reset in a few years

Mamatukwas:


Atoh! That’s why doing research is important. With private schools you are the piper dictating the tune so go to where works for you. If you don’t like anything in the school you have the right to complain and move your child and money elsewhere. Chikena

Right

Thanks for sharing.

Did you state the purpose and duration of her in the invitation letter?

For those without children (grand-children), is it safe to say my parent just want to come visit me as I know a lot of the Naija parents have come based on the need to see their grand children.

About the return ticket, I'm assuming that was after the visa was approved, right?

babajeje123:

Nothing much. Passport, my bank statement and letter of invitation. I bought a returned ticket as I heard my parent would be denied entry without it.

lightnlife:
Thanks for sharing.

Did you state the purpose and duration of her in the invitation letter?

For those without children (grand-children), is it safe to say my parent just want to come visit me as I know a lot of the Naija parents have come based on the need to see their grand children.

About the return ticket, I'm assuming that was after the visa was approved, right?

Yes, I stated the purpose of her visit but made no mention to the duration since the application was for 6 months.

You can state in your letter that your parents are coming for vacation and also to learn about British culture. And of course, visiting you would be a good reason in my opinion.

Tickets were bought after visa approval.

babajeje123:

The only thing I can say is that they are very close, not sure of the techniques she uses. I don't like what I read online about going speech therapy way. Will still search more sha.

Any updates on this ? Care to share?

Sending prayers to the little girl

hustla:




I think its even better in the UK.. US is on another level of ment that God sef must be wondering what's going on

Even Cartel movies that I used to find solace in that I won't see Alphabet people, they're slowly bringing it there

Hopefully, the world gets a reset in a few years

lol bro it's worse in canada

hammed71:
lol bro it's worse in canada

courage54:


Please can you confirm if this those not amount to public funds? Because my daughter was also recommended to see a speech therapist but we are not sure if is not public fund

No.child left behind... stuff like this can never be public funds. Please proceed and get any help she needs

Mamatukwas:


It’s True. They don’t collect government money so do not have to collect government nonsense. Most (not all) private schools too have Godly foundations so you will hear a lot more about Christianity than a public school.

In our experience, they do not teach any of these things at all in Junior/Primary school. In Senior school where it’s discussed, you have the right to ask that your child be excused from the class if you prefer. And it’s mainly rights of everyone, not mast*rba*tion.

You’re paying cash, your opinions are much more heard and very valuable.

If you can go private, do so with the quickness.

England are teaching primary school level... you even hear them teach wet dreams and some other graphic stuff from year 4 all in the name of PSHE

LagosismyHome:


England are teaching primary school level... you even hear them teach wet dreams and some other graphic stuff from year 4 all in the name of PSHE

A family friend said their school mgt sent them a video the school intended to play for the students so they could request exclusion if they didn’t want their child to watch (sec level). He said the video was GROSS and he asked his child to be excused. Apparently when they went back to class, the ones that watched said they were traumatized by it. I don’t know what the schools hope to gain by assaulting young peoples senses so early. It’s crazy.

Mamatukwas:


A family friend said their school mgt sent them a video the school intended to play for the students so they could request exclusion if they didn’t want their child to watch (sec level). He said the video was GROSS and he asked his child to be excused. Apparently when they went back to class, the ones that watched said they were traumatized by it. I don’t know what the schools hope to gain by assaulting young peoples senses so early. It’s crazy.

This country is slowly going MAD right in front of our eyes. Problem really no dey finish. Naija issues, UK too has its own issued

Hello everyone, I will be relocating to The UK early next month. Pls any link to an affordable accommodation in Liverpool? Thanks

skankhunt101:
Hello everyone, I will be relocating to The UK early next month. Pls any link to an affordable accommodation in Liverpool? Thanks

You might be better off asking in the main Living in Uk thread

Good morning guys, please i need some clarification on this questions.
1. Tier 2 visa holder came to UK with 7months old baby, if the baby is put under benefits it is fall under public funds.
2. About to have another new born baby in UK, if the new born baby put under benefits it is fall under public funds?
Thank

jagbasneh:
Good morning guys, please i need some clarification on this questions.
1. Tier 2 visa holder came to UK with 7months old baby, if the baby is put under benefits it is fall under public funds.
2. About to have another new born baby in UK, if the new born baby put under benefits it is fall under public funds?
Thank

If the both parents are tier 2 holders then I think none of the children should be under benefit . That will be wrong and probably cause problems later on.

jagbasneh:
Good morning guys, please i need some clarification on this questions.
1. Tier 2 visa holder came to UK with 7months old baby, if the baby is put under benefits it is fall under public funds.
2. About to have another new born baby in UK, if the new born baby put under benefits it is fall under public funds?
Thank

Is the other parent British or EU settled? If not, neither child will be entitled to benefits or any public funds.