frozen70:


Because of some circumstances and family values,
I will suggest you take her along to visit your family and spend some times with her and your family

If she is comfortable with your family and relate well with your mum and sisters, then they are the one that will tell you their observations in her be it good or bad

But if she dodges your mum and sisters at home, they are still the ones that will observe her too

After the trip, if there are any positive comments about her, that's when you will get the green light

But if there are negative comments about her, then you draw her attention and advice her to make adjustment or corrections in the case maybe

At the end if you are ok, you can make your proposal to her

I believe that if you make your proposal and take her along and they reject her base on whatever reasons, you will find it difficult to go on with her and if you tell her what and who makes observations on her, she will feel bad

If eventually she succeeded in penetrating into the family

She will start enmity with those who opposed her coming and that's another cold war that will linger long and affect every one including you

phemmyfour:
Proposing to the person you intend to marry isn't cultural bind. It was imported into our system.

Culturally, we don't do proposal, dating, white/court wedding. These stuff are foreign to our culture .

Tell your woman your intentions and if she agrees with you, introduce her to your family and vise versa. Fixed a date for traditional wedding and after that both of you can start living as husband n wife .

All these "kneeling on one leg to propose" , "giving her engagement ring " etc are mere paparazzi

ibinaboonline:
I already told her I'm not kneeling and she responded she didn't ask me to. So, chill😄.

anointedlinks:


Spiritually, your parents are higher than your cleric in terms of screening your spouse (nowhere in the scriptures does it mention clerics involvement in marriage but parents are involved and mentioned).

Will be nice to take her casually to see your parents introducing her as your girlfriend. Then discuss your intentions with your parents and see their reactions and reasons for acceptance of her or otherwise. Then pray and you will know the next action to take.

SmartyPants:


Don't you think you should ask your parents as the most immediate custodians of your specific culture? It is your parents you are taking the girl to, and they are the ones who can tell you the right order.

APCNig:



Go to Church. I am currently typing from the Church.

Drayco007:
Make money
Give her money
Send her family money
Make more money
Give her more money
Send her family more money..

They will propose to you..

phemmyfour:
You don't even have to propose.... whether standing or kneeling. It's not in our culture. Not even biblical or Islamic if you are the religious type.

ibinaboonline:
😮. So, what exactly do you mean by "tell her your intentions"?

phemmyfour:
E.g I want you to be my wife, what ya say? Yes/No

doneback04:
I am here to learn because I don't have idea which of them to do first
but on the little Education I attended I think the right thing to do was to make the lady familiar with your family, let your family know the lady then after that you can now propose so it will not be a new things to your family

bigeliot:
It is a decision u have to be very sure of and pls don’t do it and run o. Do anyone

ibinaboonline:
Quick question for married people: take the woman to see your parents before proposing to her, or propose to her before taking her to see your parents? In what order is this culturally appropriate?

frankson1:
His family should have known the lady before proposal. If I were the lady I won't accept the proposal without knowing his family.

ibinaboonline:
Quick question for married people: take the woman to see your parents before proposing to her, or propose to her before taking her to see your parents? In what order is this culturally appropriate?

Bennysam:

Take her to your parents first

saphiere:
The appropriate time is when you can foot her bills.
When you are earning at least half a million Naira.
Get a good paying job with stable income before you think of proposing.

Dear young ladies, please don't accept a proposal from any man who is not financially buoyant.
You can't suffer as a single lady and still suffer as a married woman. Be wise. Don't let them sweet talk you into suffering.
Refuse to suffer.
Mr guesser I need a job. I base in PH.
Can men just stop with the nonsense "what can you bring to the table?"
What women bring to the table outweighs what men bring.
Some of the things women bring to marriage are things money can't buy. Example; children.

lawani:


Ah!. Are you marrying for your parents?. Na WA o

Bennysam:

No but to avoid situation the both side parents will disagree, my opinion

lawani:


Your parents must have given you minimum requirements. For example, a Pastor might say No children of Alhaji etc etc and then you search based on what you agreed with your parents.

ibinaboonline:
Omo, that's proposal na. There are more than a million ways of asking a woman to marry you. As long as you're not abducting her or marrying her against her wishes, that "Yes/no" u mentioned is still a proposal.

Scrupulous419:


No risk am... woman matter na MMM.
after investing my Az money on mmm.. bros i regret am die. To buy market hard me that time. I just come dey do my normal rochi and TM plus little weed. Well thank God today am a big dealer. I get two barracks and one bunk now.

No time for them Girls.

Marathon continues...Cuh!

Oceanjagaban:
Around 13:48 pm on Tuesday.

saphiere:
The appropriate time is when you can foot her bills.
When you are earning at least half a million Naira.
Get a good paying job with stable income before you think of proposing.

Dear young ladies, please don't accept a proposal from any man who is not financially buoyant.
You can't suffer as a single lady and still suffer as a married woman. Be wise. Don't let them sweet talk you into suffering.
Refuse to suffer.
Mr guesser I need a job. I base in PH.
Can men just stop with the nonsense "what can you bring to the table?"
What women bring to the table outweighs what men bring.
Some of the things women bring to marriage are things money can't buy. Example; children.

Scrupulous419:


No risk am... woman matter na MMM.
after investing my Az money on mmm.. bros i regret am die. To buy market hard me that time. I just come dey do my normal rochi and TM plus little weed. Well thank God today am a big dealer. I get two barracks and one bunk now.

No time for them Girls.

Marathon continues...Cuh!

Hezzyluv:
If you propose to her before taking her to your parents and they vehemently reject her nko

If you take her to your parents they like her and later propose to her and she reject your proposal nko

OZIOGU1:
When you are ready to take the relationship to next level, don't use proposal tie daughter of Abraham down when you know you still have some years to study her.

KingOfTheDamned:
When she is still a virgin and maximum 25 years old. Anything older then well.you are on your own.

A woman's best time to give birth without wahala is between age 19 to 25 years. 25 to 30 years max is pushing the envelope of risk. Above 30 then you have money to spend on csections and wahala and also brave yourself you just might have a kid with down syndrome, trisomy 21 or schizophrenia.

Watch as ENPs rush me and abuse me also telling us how they know a lady who gave birth at 80 years old. Watch the gay men support them

phemmyfour:
We all understand the type of proposal the OP is talking about . Our forefathers never had such

BluntCrazeMan:
Someone I know..


Had done the bride-price and trad...

Then, two months later,, just on the Saturday before the Saturday for the wedding,, they did an elaborate engagement party.
And the lady even pretended (or abi faked) to be very surprised when the guy knelt and popped the question to her.

Like....
She already had her bride-price fully paid by the same guy.
She had already carried palm-wine and searched for the same man in the midst of crowds of men and women.
Both of them were planning for the wedding that was coming up the next following Saturday.

But they just needed to perform this elaborate faked formality...

ednut1:
Your parents are not aware you are dating the babe or what