I am really hurting as I type this and would appreciate some help. I have a girlfriend that I really love and willing to do anything for, she is the best thing that ever happened to me, supportive, loving, caring and we really love each other so much. I never went through her phone as I trusted her, but then something happened and I was curious, she was lying on my chest yesterday night and was texting someone till I fell asleep, we were both on our phones at the moment though, and then today I checked through her chats with that same person she was texting yesterday night, and I found photos of her that she sent me, semi n*des picture of her n*vel, and one she took when she was in shower, though it wasn't a full n*de pictures as they were cropped to only showed her abd*men and n*vel, plus photos of gifts I sent her, my clothes that I gave her myself, she wore them, snapped pics and sent it to him.
I confronted her and she told me he was just a friend and nothing else between them. That she did it because he always taunted her that she is a kiddo, and she only wanted to prove him wrong.

I've never dealt with something like this and I don't really know what to do, she has agreed that what she did what very unselfish of her and she put our relationship at risk, she was writing in her diary yesterday about the incident and she started shedding tears, though she didn't know I saw her crying when she was writing.

I am willing to forgive her and work our way to healing and making the relationship better. Any ideas on how we can do both recover together would be really appreciated.

SwitNovemba:
I am really hurting as I type this and would appreciate some help. I have a girlfriend that I really love and willing to do anything for, she was the best thing that ever happened to me and we really love each other so much. I never went through her phone as I trusted her, but then something happened and I was curious, she was lying on my chest yesterday night and was texting someone till I fell asleep, we were both on our phones at the moment though, and then today I checked through her chats with that same person she was texting yesterday night, and I found photos of her that she sent me, semi n*des picture of her n*vel, and one she took when she was in shower, though it wasn't a full n*de pictures as they were cropped to only showed her abd*men and n*vel, plus photos of gifts I sent her, my clothes that I gave her myself, she wore them, snapped pics and sent it to him.
I confronted her and she told me he was just a friend and nothing else between them. That she did it because he always taunted her that she is a kiddo, and she only wanted to prove him wrong.

I've never dealt with something like this and I don't really know what to do, she has agreed that what she did what very unselfish of her and she put our relationship at risk, I am willing to forgive her and work our way to healing and making the relationship better. Any ideas on how we can do both recover together would be really appreciated.

There is no issue here yet... You're still safe till proven otherwise.

Coman give us an update 3 months from now

dawnomike:
There is no issue here yet... You're still safe till proven otherwise.

Coman give us an update 3 months from now

What do you think of the whole thing though??

What would you have done if you were in my shoes??

SwitNovemba:


What do you think of the whole thing though??

What would you have done if you were in my shoes??

I would continue with the relationship since it is still a boyfriend/girlfrund thing.

A SIMPle man in the making

dawnomike:
I would continue with the relationship since it is still a boyfriend/girlfrund thing.

Would you still trust her the same??

No man is infallible my bro.......I think there was a time I chatted my banny up with a different account on Facebook and she said she was single.....I was really furious cuz I was beginning to see her as someone to wife down......At last,she realized I was the one and begged for forgiveness....I forgave her and we moved on.... Today, she's Been the best friend I can ever boast of having even when I'm presently facing hard times...... Sometimes,we should learn how to control our anger,forgive, forget,and most importantly understand that everyone is prone to making mistakes....And sometimes,the Angel that we seek for tomorrow may come to us like a devil today......But the most important thing in every relationship like I do tell people is that,so long that person is willing to change,then forgiving him/her for one single act shouldn't be a difficult thing.

SwitNovemba:


Would you still trust her the same??

Time will tell on that.

For Me as a person, trusting someone is a choice... It is not by what anyone does or does not do. Neither is it about what anyone says about the person.

It is not even about what the person tells me about who they are.

before forgiving someone, you have to go to the bottom of this and UNDERSTAND why she did it.
- if she can do that while laying on your stomach. what else could she do when you are not around?
- what exactly was she aiming to achieve with that friendship with this dude?
- where did she meet that "friend" and/or how they started being friendly like that?
- ask her if she would be cool if you were doing the same with other women?

there is a CLEAR lack of respect for YOU and/or your relationship. there is no smoke without fire, if she could do the above, she could do even more... tread carefully!

This flag is pink and it's on it's way to turn red. Anyway sha chill and keep a close eye on her, don't rush to anything yet

dawnomike:
Time will tell on that.

For Me as a person, trusting someone is a choice... It is not by what anyone does or does not do. Neither is it about what anyone says about the person.

It is not even about what the person tells me about who they are.

Don't you think what she did may have an effect on how much you trust her??

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Mumu simple boy, for a girl to send a 'Just friend' her nudes, there's 100% chances that the 'just Friend' had several times shifted her womb


wise up, the guy is definitely hot at the moment and he just wants bust nut with your gf nudes, and after leaving your house, she definitely branching to his house

Sonnobax15:

No man is infallible my bro.......I think there was a time I chatted my banny up with a different account on Facebook and she said she was single.....I was really furious cuz I was beginning to see her as someone to wife down......At last,she realized I was the one and begged for forgiveness....I forgave her and we moved on.... Today, she's Been the best friend I can ever boast of having even when I'm presently facing hard times...... Sometimes,we should learn how to control our anger,forgive, forget,and most importantly understand that everyone is prone to making mistakes....And sometimes,the Angel that we seek for tomorrow may come to us like a devil today......But the most important thing in every relationship like I do tell people is that,so long that person is willing to change,then forgiving him/her for one single act shouldn't be a difficult thing.

Trust me my bro, she is the friend I needed, she is everything you could ever ask for in a woman, I am thinking of giving her another chance because I know who she is.

She is willing to change and I could see it in her, I just hope she would stand the test of time

SwitNovemba:


Trust me my bro, she is the friend I needed, she is everything you could ever ask for in a woman, I am thinking of giving her another chance because I know who she is.

She is willing to change and I could see it in her, I just hope she would stand the test of time

. Bro, give her another chance.....

MrBrownJay1:
before forgiving someone, you have to go to the bottom of this and UNDERSTAND why she did it.
- if she can do that while laying on your stomach. what else could she do when you are not around?
- what exactly was she aiming to achieve with that friendship with this dude?
- where did she meet that "friend" and/or how they started being friendly like that?
- ask her if she would be cool if you were doing the same with other women?

there is a CLEAR lack of respect for YOU and/or your relationship. there is no smoke without fire, if she could do the above, she could do even more... tread carefully!

Thanks for your input man. Really appreciate it.

Her mom stays in another state and the dude is her neighbour there, so they meet when she goes there, and her mom confirmed he was a friend to her,

And she didn't sent him the photos to him when she was was resting on my chest, it happened before then. I got to the root Nd she told me she only sent it to him because he kept taunting her that she's a kiddo, and she wanted to prove him wrong, of which that isn't a valid reason for her doing what she did. She already accepted it was a mistake on her part and she's willing to cut off ties with him of which she already did.

Sonnobax15:
. Bro, give her another chance.....

Can you be more elaborate on it please?? What would you have done if you were in my shoes??

SwitNovemba:


Don't you think what she did may have an effect on how much you trust her??

nothing affects my trust for people till the day I add one plus two in my head and make a decision not to trust them any longer

Jaybee3456:
This flag is pink and it's on it's way to turn red. Anyway sha chill and keep a close eye on her, don't rush to anything yet

That's why I'm taking it slow to see where everything would lead to

SwitNovemba:


Thanks for your input man. Really appreciate it.

Her mom stays in another state and the dude is her neighbour there, so they meet when she goes there, and her mom confirmed he was a friend to her,

And she didn't sent him the photos to him when she was was resting on my chest, it happened before then. I got to the root Nd she told me she only sent it to him because he kept taunting her that she's a kiddo, and she wanted to prove him wrong, of which that isn't a valid reason for her doing what she did. She already accepted it was a mistake on her part and she's willing to cut off ties with him

MUMU!


That babe will soon bring another man's seed into your house soon, you are believing what came out of a serpent mouth

he taunted her she's a kiddo and the best thing she can do is sending nudes to guy she called just a friend, i fit woss sense into that your thick skull

She don dey go small small be that...

CANDYDADDY:




MUMU!


That babe will soon bring another man's seed into your house soon, you are believing what came out of a serpent mouth

Can you address people with respect please??

SwitNovemba:


Can you be more elaborate on it please?? What would you have done if you were in my shoes??

. Bro,The only thing I'd have needed if I were in your shoe would have been her reaffirmation that such thing wouldn't repeat itself,and then forgive her....But that's when my street credibility will have to come in place......I go just dey use one eye dey observe her from henceforth....Give her another chance but be observant from now on..

Sonnobax15:
. Bro,The only thing I'd have needed if I were in your shoe would have been her reaffirmation that such thing wouldn't repeat itself,and then forgive her....But that's when my street credibility will have to come in place......I go just dey use one eye dey observe her from henceforth....Give her another chance but be observant from now on..

Thanks man. I really appreciate your honest input. Really means a lot, and I'll keep a good eye on her from now henceforth

SwitNovemba:
Thanks for your input man. Really appreciate it.
Her mom stays in another state and the dude is her neighbour there, so they meet when she goes there, and her mom confirmed he was a friend to her,

And she didn't sent him the photos to him when she was was resting on my chest, it happened before then. I got to the root Nd she told me she only sent it to him because he kept taunting her that she's a kiddo, and she wanted to prove him wrong, of which that isn't a valid reason for her doing what she did. She already accepted it was a mistake on her part and she's willing to cut off ties with him of which she already did.

here is what i have always believed:
- women who try to impress certain people, are indirectly looking for validation from them. the important question you need to ask yourself IS: why does she need validation from such person, to the point of disrespecting you and/or your relationship?

- when you caught someone doing something wrong, NEVER listen/believe anything that their friend and family is saying to back her explanation. they are all on her side and would say anything to back her claim (even if false/wrong)

- women who suddenly decide to cut ties with someone because they fukced up (and not because they willingly believed it was wrong) are suspect. what she did was only wrong to her, because you caught her. she never used her brain to understand that what she did wasnt right. thats a very dangerous way of thinking.

MrBrownJay1:


here is what i have always believed:
- women who try to impress certain people, are indirectly looking for validation from them. the important question you need to ask yourself IS: why does she need validation from such person, to the point of disrespecting you and/or your relationship?

- when you caught someone doing something wrong, NEVER listen/believe anything that their friend and family is saying to back her explanation. they are all on her side and would say anything to back her claim (even if false/wrong)

- women who suddenly decide to cut ties with someone because they fukced up (and not because they willingly believed it was wrong) are suspect. what she did was only wrong to her, because you caught her. she never used her brain to understand that what she did wasnt right. thats a very dangerous way of thinking.

What's really making me ask questions is why does she needs validations from that person?? And that is where it gets tricky.

Not only her family but I could also attest to most of her behaviours which makes me wonder why she did that.

It wont be her enemy b4 naaa lol.
She's d best thing to happen to u lol, see this fool.

Fuk n move along

SwitNovemba:


Trust me my bro, she is the friend I needed, she is everything you could ever ask for in a woman, I am thinking of giving her another chance because I know who she is .

She is willing to change and I could see it in her, I just hope she would stand the test of time

Hahahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

SwitNovemba:


What's really making me ask questions is why does she needs validations from that person?? And that is where it gets tricky.

Not only her family but I could also attest to most of her behaviours which makes me wonder why she did that.

lmao, so u never wised up, the guy is her rebound guy, she is nursing him for the time u will bleeped up


Nigerian girl are just brutal, they will teach u a lesson your parents failed to give u

Runnerzz:

Hahahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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SwitNovemba:
What's really making me ask questions is why does she needs validations from that person?? And that is where it gets tricky.

Not only her family but I could also attest to most of her behaviours which makes me wonder why she did that.

if you have no answer to your own questions, then you need to get to the bottom of this... because there is something fishy here. people dont just get up and start sending semi nude pics to people on the other side of the country, for no damn reason.

i would even go further and ask:so after sending the pic to show this dude that you are "not a kiddo", then what will you guys now be doing when you next meet (since you are not a kiddo any longer)?!?!?

She get better plug fosho


Damn Kayamata be working af