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Samantha124:
Fortunately, the only social media platforms that I use are WhatsApp and nairaland.

Some nairalanders tried sending me emails, but I rejected them all because I prefer keeping my life private and I don't need any crowd in my life.

cool...



but is it reasonable rejecting them all ....

Most SA women are hard workers and they don't mind being with an SA man who earns below their salary.

But they can't do that with Nigerian men... You guys have already given them the impression that a Nigerian man is supposed to spend on his woman no matter what.

Maybe in Nigeria not every man throws money at women... But when they come to SA, they'd start doing it because they know that no SA woman would bother looking into their direction if they don't promise to shower them with money.

Dshocker:
South Africa, or no South Africa, women generally hardly dates a broke guy, anywhere in the world.

Besides, not every Nigerian men thrown money at women.

Yes, it is.

Silentgroper:
cool...



but is it reasonable rejecting them all ....

Sorry, I was just trying to explain further.

Silentgroper:
I don't get it.,


you said no Nigerian man has ever approached you..


my question was in regard to the above



no nairalander has ever slid into your DM on here??

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Samantha124:
Most SA women are hard workers and they don't mind being with an SA man who earns below their salary.

But they can't do that with Nigerian men... You guys have already given them the impression that a Nigerian man is supposed to spend on his woman no matter what.

Maybe in Nigeria not every man throws money at women... But when they come to SA, they'd start doing it because they know that no SA woman would bother looking into their direction if they don't promise to shower them with money.

Well, since you are adamant with your ideology, i will hands off from trying to make you understand it otherwise.

I need to buy a big eraser, to erase that thought from your brain

Take that eraser and erase this mentality your brothers have of using money to buy women's love.

Caution them against it... Because if you guys keep doing it, then no woman would take you seriously if you're broke or earn less.

Dshocker:
Well, since you are adamant with your ideology, i will hands off from trying to make you understand it otherwise.

I need to buy a big eraser, to erase that thought from your brain

Samantha124:
Take that eraser and erase this mentality your brothers have of using money to buy women's love.

Caution them against it... Because if you guys keep doing it, then no woman would take you seriously if you're broke or earn less.

What is left now, is to shoot you, because you are too stubborn 🤣🤣🤣

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Dshocker:
What is left now, is to shoot you, because you are too stubborn 🤣🤣🤣

Samantha124:
Yes, it is.

you do have some has friends out there in the real life tho right

Samantha the hard truth in Nigeria relationship or situationship is you need to spend money to date Nigerian lady you know from Ojuelegba to Orile iganmu you will take mole e or e hailing taxi and all this add up quickly so dating Nigerian women is super hard yes you need deep pocket to go far. Cheers

Samantha124:
Of course they'd agree to get married to them just so they could keep showering them with money.

Let those Nigerian men in SA go broke and see what happens.. .. that's why your women in Nigeria also treat you guys the same way, you made them believe that there's no love without money.

I'd say acquaintances... But sure, back in varsity I was close to two of them who are all females, the male one was just an acquaintance from the beginning.

Silentgroper:
you do have some has friends out there in the real life tho right

Samantha124:
I'd say acquaintances... But sure, back in varsity I was close to two of them who are all females, the male one was just an acquaintance from the beginning.

lol .. you sound like you're scared of getting intimate with the males ...


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Have you been hurt by one

Do you want me to be honest?

Silentgroper:
lol .. you sound like you're scared of getting intimate with the males ...


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Have you been hurt by one

luminouz:
Lol...she just described igbo men. Even mentioned Chukwuemeka ... Seems men from that region are the biggest simps of Nigeria. Train women in school, actively cultivate laziness in women by equating love with money and gifts.

I agree that many men from other regions of Nigeria also simp with this mentality. They even prefer to suffer in silence and smile while providing for women who give no fuqs about them. Tell them of the redpill and they will term you broke and curse you yet they keep crying online about heartbreaks from women.

I have never used money to woo any woman and will not, yet I have dated some gorgeous women in my life. Men forget that most women will collect your money but never love you because attraction can't be bought.

This message is for a simp on NL who thinks paying his gf rent, school fees and allowances are signs of 'care' while neglecting his own life. Some even borrow app loans to shop for their girlfriends. Take the redpill today or Perish!!!

Unrepentant and foolish simps will rather perish than taking the redpill. 😂😂

Samantha124:
Take that eraser and erase this mentality your brothers have of using money to buy women's love.

Caution them against it... Because if you guys keep doing it, then no woman would take you seriously if you're broke or earn less.

So practically and in lay men terms, how do you recommend we buy South African women's love without money and maybe women from other countries too.

I'd recommend that you go for your Nigerian ladies.

But if you want foreign ladies, then woo them the same way their men woo them.

MrSamsung:
So practically and in lay men terms, how do you recommend we buy South African women's love without money and maybe women from other countries too.

Samantha124:
I'd recommend that you go for your Nigerian ladies.

But if you want foreign ladies, then woo them the same way their men woo them.

It is the 'wooing' of South African women without money that I am asking about in practical ways. So you are saying just only wooing you guys without the Zar is how to get your true love 🤔

Yes, unless you find yourself attracted to those broke gold diggers who prey for men like you Nigerians for money.

MrSamsung:
It is the 'wooing' of South African women without money that I am asking about in practical ways. So you are saying just only wooing you guys without the Zar is how to get your true love 🤔

Samantha124:
Yes, unless you find yourself attracted to those broke gold diggers who prey for men like you Nigerians for money.

Sorry to ask be candid with me, do you have anything against Nigerian men?

No, I don't..😂😂😂

MrSamsung:
Sorry to ask be candid with me, do you have anything against Nigerian men?

Samantha124:
No, I don't..😂😂😂

I believe you 50:50

I asked that because from your writing so far here, it comes off as if you do have anything against them.
Although I must be honest with you, I for one don't subscribe to the notion of buying love with money. I have seen how terrible the consequences can be if one do buy love with $$

Truth is growing up I was afraid of Nigerians because I only heard bad stories about them... I never wanted to come across a Nigerian.. .. I only started getting exposed to them in varsity.

Even now I'd hear some bad things that most of the Nigerian men do here in SA... Sure, not all of them do it bad things, but it sounds like majority of them do... And apparently some of them would also use SA ladies for rituals.

And sure, there's crime in SA committed by SA men, but I'd rather stick to the thungs I'm already familiar with than those that I don't know, not that I'm saying most SA men are thugs... But I can relate more with SA men.

There's also a major cultural difference... So I don't think you guys are my cup of tea... I can't imagine myself in the kitchen cooking your native food..

My family also have this dislike for Nigerian men, that's why I'm here on nairaland to learn about you guys.

Happy now?

MrSamsung:
I believe you 50:50

I asked that because from your writing so far here, it comes off as if you do have anything against them.
Although I must be honest with you, I for one don't subscribe to the notion of buying love with money. I have seen how terrible the consequences can be if one do buy love with $$

Samantha124:
Truth is growing up I was afraid of Nigerians because I only heard bad stories about them... I never wanted to come across a Nigerian.. .. I only started getting exposed to them in varsity.

Even now I'd hear some bad things that most of the Nigerian men do here in SA... Sure, not all of them do it bad things, but it sounds like majority of them do... And apparently some of them would also use SA ladies for rituals.

And sure, there's crime in SA committed by SA men, but I'd rather stick to the thungs I'm already familiar with than those that I don't know, not that I'm saying most SA men are thugs... But I can relate more with SA men.

There's also a major cultural difference... So I don't think you guys are my cup of tea... I can't imagine myself in the kitchen cooking your native food..

My family also have this dislike for Nigerian men, that's why I'm here on nairaland to learn about you guys.

Happy now?

It's not about me being happy now, you are doing the right thing as a lady to go for your own men whom you are familiar with. I wouldn't wish for you to do the opposite. It was about me knowing what would 'buy' a typical SA woman genuine love.

As for the nonsenses you mentioned about Nigerian men engaging with like crimes and rituals, you are justified or reasonable to be afraid of them or not even engaging with them, though not all of them indulge in it.

Since you said you suspected that I have something against Nigerian men, I thought I should be honest with you.

I told you the truth and now you say it's nonsense..🤦🤦🤦

Sure, not all Nigerians are bad, but the good ones don't walk around with a writing on their foreheads stating that they're good... So it's better to be safe than sorry.. I don't want to be used for rituals.. .. if I get killed, I'd prefer that it be a South African.

But I don't hate you guys, I just have this fear of the unknown when it comes to Nigerian men... I prefer talking to you guys from a distance.. .. I have no issues with your ladies though.

Just be yourself if you want to buy an SA woman's love, unless you find yourself attracted to one of those broke SA gold diggers who'd always want you to spend on them.

MrSamsung:
It's not about me being happy now, you are doing the right thing as a lady to go for your own men whom you are familiar with. I wouldn't wish for you to do the opposite. It was about me knowing what would 'buy' a typical SA woman genuine love.

As for the nonsenses you mentioned about Nigerian men engaging with like crimes and rituals, you are justified or reasonable to be afraid of them or not even engaging with them, though not all of them indulge in it.

Samantha124:
Since you said you suspected that I have something against Nigerian men, I thought I should be honest with you.

I told you the truth and now you say it's nonsense..🤦🤦🤦

Sure, not all Nigerians are bad, but the good ones don't walk around with a writing on their foreheads stating that they're good... So it's better to be safe than sorry.. I don't want to be used for rituals.. .. if I get killed, I'd prefer that it be a South African.

But I don't hate you guys, I just have this fear of the unknown when it comes to Nigerian men... I prefer talking to you guys from a distance.. .. I have no issues with your ladies though.

Just be yourself if you want to buy an SA woman's love, unless you find yourself attracted to one of those broke SA gold diggers who'd always want you to spend on them.

The nonsenses I referred to is another word for bad things you said Nigerians engage in. It is not about you or what you said.

Okay, I'm sure Nigerian women also feel the same way about SA men.

MrSamsung:
The nonsenses I referred to is another word for bad things you said Nigerians engage in. It is not about you or what you said.

Samantha124:
Truth is growing up I was afraid of Nigerians because I only heard bad stories about them... I never wanted to come across a Nigerian.. .. I only started getting exposed to them in varsity.

Even now I'd hear some bad things that most of the Nigerian men do here in SA... Sure, not all of them do it bad things, but it sounds like majority of them do... And apparently some of them would also use SA ladies for rituals.

And sure, there's crime in SA committed by SA men, but I'd rather stick to the thungs I'm already familiar with than those that I don't know, not that I'm saying most SA men are thugs... But I can relate more with SA men.

There's also a major cultural difference... So I don't think you guys are my cup of tea... I can't imagine myself in the kitchen cooking your native food..

My family also have this dislike for Nigerian men, that's why I'm here on nairaland to learn about you guys.

Happy now?

Really?
So you are using Us(Nigerian men) for your Social sciences qualitative and quantitative analysis?😂

Yes, the more I get to know you, the more I'll stop having this fear of the unknown about Nigerian men..😂😂😂

sageb:
Really?
So you are using Us(Nigerian men) for your Social sciences qualitative and quantitative analysis?😂

Samantha124:
Okay, I'm sure Nigerian women also feel the same way about SA men.

Nigerian women abeg no make me laugh. See eh Nigerian women can hardly leave Nigerian men because of how we overwhelm them with things material or immaterial but mostly materials things, and because of that they hardly go for non-Nigerian men because they think/know that they can't get it better elsewhere.

Can you blame them though?

You guys are known to shower your women with money even when they're working because you want them to have class at all times..😂😂😂

MrSamsung:
Nigerian women abeg no make me laugh. See eh Nigerian women can hardly leave Nigerian men because of how we overwhelm them with things material or immaterial but mostly materials things, and because of that they hardly go for non-Nigerian men because they think/know that they can't get it better elsewhere.

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