₦airaland Forum

FireUpNow:
If the said jobless man should tell the woman to leave then go marry another man she won't accept it. OP how was the man doing before he got married to her? Some women can kill a man's zeal for life

SalamRushdie:
Please go and cheat lets rest , any small things y'all start threatening with cheating, is your Vagina a transaction?

Akalia:
Any woman that would loose respect for her husband just because he ain't able to provide due to circumstances beyond his control is an unfortunate bitch that does not deserve that man.

In Western climes men and women in marriage hustle alike and pull resources together to run a home but here in Africa everything as per pecuniary burden is on only the man's should.This is generally true with a minute exceptions here and there.

Darlingme:
Are you for real? Have some men lower their self pride to this extent?

Oyerinde16:
I pity this situation o... But I remember when I left a good job, I became jobless yet had to provide... The available jobs were hotel, 25k teaching 25k driving Keke 35k marketing 45k I got one job as a loan marketer 60k, I resumed n left after 2weeks, I was to walk corner to corner giving and retrieving loans with interest as at when due... I heard stories of co workers not earning full salaries due to deductions, incomplete money bla bla bla... I looked at the outfit n dressing of co workers, those I was to work with, faded cloths, stiched cloths, I just left the job... I spent all my savings within 6 months no good job, I started doing bolt/Uber, this was pretty lucrative cos it was my car, I was my own boss, I worked whenever I wanted, but it wasn't really for me, it began to tell on my car, I knew what I wanted... I wanted to create a good job for myself n employ people I would pay well... But where was the capital, I kept on waiting while my wife was saying I should just take any job, all she was concerned about was just provide not minding the mental state of the man... Just provide... She wasn't working, I provided all just that it wasn't as much as when I was working ... I told her to get a job to support, she said I knew she wasnt working before I married her, so I should work n provide, she said it was the job of the husband to provide... I even became weaker...

I support what someone said up there, give the man a job with a good pay, if he refuses, then flog him, but if you can't assist him with a good job, not minding what he is going through, just shut up... Men are people's children as well someone's daughter (liability) should not come n use marriage to kill him in the name of men are wired to provide...

Darlingme:
You're somehow right anyway, but not getting up to provide for himself too is way out of it

SalamRushdie:
Please go and cheat lets rest , any small things y'all start threatening with cheating, is your Vagina a transaction?

Zee0007:
Let them give him a job with a handsome pay check. If he rejects it, then we can conclude that he needs to be flogged.

Wodu89:
His spirit is dead inside. He needs motivation. I've met several people in this situation during my counselling sessions. The work of men is extremely hard, and it goes deeply beyond hardworking or being lazy. It goes deeper than the soul into the spirit.

What I can advice the woman is to take what he needs to him to revive his spirit.

In such a case, preachings that can revive his spirit and soul. She should be playing very good scripture based teachings at home to revive his spirit.

He's dead internally and revival can't take place if there's nothing to bring him back to life.


Ezekiel 37:13-15



If he listens to good preachings at home for sic months, he'll find his lost zeal.

Nice2023:
Let me give u am example.
There was a time my younger brothers friend followed me and he was to drop at a junction before mine.

In the course of our discussion,he told me he was planning to marry,and me being me,I advised him never to marry a woman that is not doing anything at all because the guy works in place that has great future.
I wasn't surprised he told my brother everything which he too advised him further never to try it.

Do u know this guy married a liability,I mean a non contributing wife,his income has depleted badly that,he now beg and live basically on loan,just immediately his wife gave birth.

If u go to his house,he would be begging u for money because he got it all wrong. There were girls in his level and those above his level In the office but he left there and got hooked with a liability...now his father that depends him can no longer get anything from him anymore and i heard that his father is very angry.

What a life.

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

IamMobisola:
Sad story but not a new thing. What we believe or see online about marriages are lies. Many married women are the breadwinners of their home. See lots of married men in newspaper stands early in the morning, arguing and giving takes about politics. Pass by bars during the day and see same. Lots of these wives take the financial burden of the family upon their heads just to cover shame on their husbands.

But social media won’t tell you this. “Nigerian women are liabilities” is what social media will keep telling the world.

DIVAD2000:
How many organizations in the society are there to empower men unlike the economic organizations that empower women specifically.

This is one of the disadvantages

If men are empowered this issue won't be occurring

Darlingme:
The location is Abuja. If you're serious about helping, I can link you up with his wife then she can bring in her husband

HussenAdul:
Do u know area of specialization or profession?
The jobs are in Delta or Anambra

Darlingme:
Pity in what contex?

oliverwrites:
I hate monsters and no matter what my experience in life, I will never treat a woman bad, especially as I have girls, but these days, when I read about men being monsters to their women, my first instinct blames the woman.

That feel is as a result of what I am going through.

Darlingme:
But you said the State. Your sisters who stayed back in Nigeria, do you still advice them to do what you wrote up there?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Taylor90:


Do you know that it’s the responsibility of the brides family to pay for wedding expenses?

They’re just scamming us

Darlingme:
When there's hunger in the house. What is he overseeing?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Nice2023:
Let me give u am example.
There was a time my younger brothers friend followed me and he was to drop at a junction before mine.

In the course of our discussion,he told me he was planning to marry,and me being me,I advised him never to marry a woman that is not doing anything at all because the guy works in place that has great future.
I wasn't surprised he told my brother everything which he too advised him further never to try it.

Do u know this guy married a liability,I mean a non contributing wife,his income has depleted badly that,he now beg and live basically on loan,just immediately his wife gave birth.

If u go to his house,he would be begging u for money because he got it all wrong. There were girls in his level and those above his level In the office but he left there and got hooked with a liability...now his father that depends him can no longer get anything from him anymore and i heard that his father is very angry.

What a life.

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Darlingme:
Oh. You don't know before?

Darlingme:
Pls, it's a serious issue here. Men are wired to be in charge. That's how God made it. When you reverse it, it's against God's original plan and it doesn't always go well.

Darlingme:
I have no idea. But I can ask

FOJEM:
Is the wife sick, that she cannot work to also provide for the family? Let me ask you, who benefits more from the children when they become successful in future?
Any man who kills himself trying to provide for the family must be a fool. The day he dies, the wife starts having sex with other men on their so-called matrimonial bed!

Darlingme:
Pls, it's a serious issue here. Men are wired to be in charge. That's how God made it. When you reverse it, it's against God's original plan and it doesn't always go well.

Kobojunkie:
If men were indeed "wired" as you claim then you wouldn't find men who are able to go against this programming, would you? It is women who refuse to accept the reality of things that get hit the hardest.

And please stop dragging the mentions of God into what is foolishness. He never did or did any of what you claim, so you have no reason to mention him.