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Skyview01:
Begin to study stoic philosophy. Its helped me a lot to find understanding, meaning and inner peace.

Proserpina:
To be honest, I don't blame you for feeling this way. As a matter of fact I'm glad to read this from a guy, it shows my mediation wasn't amiss. Sometime last week I thought on the life of an average Nigerian Man and I couldn't help but feel sorry for him. I'm not a guy, I know so I may be wrong in some things but seeing this thread shows I am on the right path with some of the things I came up with.

The average Nigerian man is what I would describe as a snake on a hill, a shadow of himself, a body without a head. These words may be harsh but it is what it is. If you have better words I'm open to them. Take away family, wife or children from him then you leave him a naked man. A being with no direction and impact. Africans are big on family, culture and religion so they nurture, mould and raise their young ones around these things, this is not a crime but the problem is taking away the essence of one's life to suit the existence of other lives.

A typical male child in Nigerian is raised to tend to others, he is guided to choose is career path for others, he gets a job to provide for others, his enjoyment comes from paying or taking more responsibility for others to make him happy. He is practically raised for those around him then you ask if he is fulfilled. The truth is He doesn't know what fulfilment is without validation of others and that isn't Fulfillment. When God made all things, his fulfillment didn't come from the hails or cries of his creations but from his inner satisfaction of him achieving things he wanted to do.

First question to you op, aside what society expect of you have you achieved that one thing you want? If no, then you have your first step to fulfilment.


Life goes beyond hustling, making money, having twelve wives and 1000 sidechicks. Our society makes it seem like having money is all to life but it isn't. "The goal isn't to live forever but to create that which will" my favorite quote that year. Lol I always smile when people say enjoy life once you die people will forget you. No that will only be true if you die the average Nigerian person, if you don't you will be remembered forever. The likes of Darwin, Faraday, Mayo, Aristole etc are still mentioned today even though they are long gone.

My second question to you Op : What is your purpose on earth? What do you want to be remembered for?


Peace comes not from the east, north , south or west but from your inner self. One of the things that disrupt human peace is lack of contentment. Do you give yourself some accolades or you keep pushing yourself? . A former employer once told me, "Nigerians rush a lot but they are not moving" . Around the clock the average Nigerian is on about patching his or her life, sadly only a restful mind can think about making his or her life better. When your pain is more than your gain you end up feeling cheated, lost and drain. Only you can give retain your peace by the choices you make.
My last question: What do you choose peace or chaos?

Ibechris2:
If u are not okay yet,get a ministry job and see what it means to be monotonous.

pansophist:
If you're lucky, you'll start experiencing the difficulties that is intrinsic to life from 20 upwards, and by being lucky, I'm assuming your parents were your shield against the brutality of the outside world.

If you're unlucky and have to suffer from a child, the world will pretty much to you, be a jungle. A place of strength to oppress the weak, no empathy, and cut throat survival.

You're feeling void not because it's a new phenomena, but because you've been sheltered away from it. The world have always been like this. It's meaningless until you give it a meaning yourself.

At the very basic, fast forward maybe 20years ago (assuming you're 21), you're a sperm waiting to loaded in your moms womb. This is not to offend, but you have to accept that you're nothing. There is nothing special about you.

Billions of ejaculations annually would have produced billions of people, but they were all flushed off, with a hot spank on the woman's arse thanking her for making him come. That's a human being flushed off like it's nothing.

But to fill in that void, the answer have always been the same. And it's to find something that will make all the struggles, disappointment, depression, poverty, rejection etc worth it. There should be something more to your existence.

There is this place in the Bible where the Devil went to tempt Jesus when he was fasting on the mountain. The devil promised Jesus the whole world if Jesus will bow to him. And Jesus response is where your answer lies.

He said, "man shall not live by bread alone". Jesus's answer shows that fleshy desires should not be what you're living for only. When you live for something bigger, fleshy desires will not tempt you, and life's problem would just be ignored just like you ignored the dog barking.

Where the issue is for most people is to find that thing that awakens them, makes them feel alive everyday, and return back to their childhood, where everyday is an adventure, and they are filled with energy to discover the day.

It is only those that don't have money thinks money is the answer. Money is like a car, those that have it can reach their destination faster and those who don't will have to crawl, but money is not a purpose.

Purpose is something unique to you, that can't be replicated, and even the wealthy cant buy it. I mean, Dangote is richer than Usain Bolt, but he can never buy Bolt's record of being the fastest man. That's purpose. Bolt trained for over 20 years to break that record.

So purpose have a price tag. And your inability to pay it will keep the void open, and deeper, and you'll become sad as times goes by. Also, purpose is not something the world have to recognise. It's uniquely you.

Sometimes I'll see this gospel preachers as early as 5am, preaching about God, to them, that's a purpose and it keeps them alive that they are winning souls for God. You might think they are mad, but it doesn't have to make sense to you.

Having said that, the antidote is in you. You have to find it. You're both your own oppresor, and your own liberator. If you face this void and pursue a purposeful life even if hard, you'll liberate yourself. If not, well, enjoy the slow ride to hell.

Proserpina:
To be honest, I don't blame you for feeling this way. As a matter of fact I'm glad to read this from a guy, it shows my mediation wasn't amiss. Sometime last week I thought on the life of an average Nigerian Man and I couldn't help but feel sorry for him. I'm not a guy, I know so I may be wrong in some things but seeing this thread shows I am on the right path with some of the things I came up with.

The average Nigerian man is what I would describe as a snake on a hill, a shadow of himself, a body without a head. These words may be harsh but it is what it is. If you have better words I'm open to them. Take away family, wife or children from him then you leave him a naked man. A being with no direction and impact. Africans are big on family, culture and religion so they nurture, mould and raise their young ones around these things, this is not a crime but the problem is taking away the essence of one's life to suit the existence of other lives.

A typical male child in Nigerian is raised to tend to others, he is guided to choose is career path for others, he gets a job to provide for others, his enjoyment comes from paying or taking more responsibility for others to make him happy. He is practically raised for those around him then you ask if he is fulfilled. The truth is He doesn't know what fulfilment is without validation of others and that isn't Fulfillment. When God made all things, his fulfillment didn't come from the hails or cries of his creations but from his inner satisfaction of him achieving things he wanted to do.

First question to you op, aside what society expect of you have you achieved that one thing you want? If no, then you have your first step to fulfilment.


Life goes beyond hustling, making money, having twelve wives and 1000 sidechicks. Our society makes it seem like having money is all to life but it isn't. "The goal isn't to live forever but to create that which will" my favorite quote that year. Lol I always smile when people say enjoy life once you die people will forget you. No that will only be true if you die the average Nigerian person, if you don't you will be remembered forever. The likes of Darwin, Faraday, Mayo, Aristole etc are still mentioned today even though they are long gone.

My second question to you Op : What is your purpose on earth? What do you want to be remembered for?


Peace comes not from the east, north , south or west but from your inner self. One of the things that disrupt human peace is lack of contentment. Do you give yourself some accolades or you keep pushing yourself? . A former employer once told me, "Nigerians rush a lot but they are not moving" . Around the clock the average Nigerian is on about patching his or her life, sadly only a restful mind can think about making his or her life better. When your pain is more than your gain you end up feeling cheated, lost and drain. Only you can give retain your peace by the choices you make.
My last question: What do you choose peace or chaos?