thesilentman:
My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman...

I need candid advice,folks.

My son, madam is going through postpartum depression. She needs lots of love and support now to prevent it from deteriorating. I know a lady suffering from mental illness now as a result of poorly managed postpartum depression. Trust me, you don't want that at all.

She'll need physical assistance with chores and emotional support in form of encouraging words, gifts, etc. especially from you. Please try to be around her as much as your job can allow while you also find a way to unwind yourself. Get paid help for chores if there's no capable relation around. It's a tough time for you both (more so for her) but it usually passes quickly; tops one month if you both cooperate in the healing process.

Her strength and joy will return and she will always remember those who stood by her in her time of distress. Be one of those she will remember for good.

Peace!

AllBlack:


Jeeeesus. why the hell are you RAGE TYPING? Damn you must be really angry. 😁
Red piller, This is your real test and you are considering running away (divorce) just because your wife yelped? What would you do when she roars?

That woman just gave birth through CS (every woman's dream... right?) and all the hormonal distortion might be at work but all you see is your ego. Chill my gee, chill. Wetin be 300k? Oya come and carry belle for 9 months and let me cut you up and give you 500k. 😁
That is your wife and this is the time for you to prove your Alpha worthiness by applying patience, plenty love and face your CALL OF DUTY as a man (shun her childishness, na her time).
Apply wisdom.

Haha everyone is a millionaire online

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

Your wife is simply going through some sort of Postpartum depression, They simply get uninterested in alot of things.
This is a period for you to show a lot of understanding and care not to be irritated also .
Its a cycle that would go away with time, even the interest in sex will seem fizzled out and alot of her attention will be shifted also.
Alot of women go through this experience ,So your wife is fine and will return to her self.

Hassanmaye:

Haha everyone is a millionaire online

I don't know about that but you have just shown that NOT EVERYONE can stick to the message and accept the hypothesis for what is. Especially the ones with single digit IQ.

for example, I also said HE SHOULD CARRY A BABY FOR 9 MONTHS can he? i also said I WILL CUT HIM UP; does that make me a surgeon?
Keep your stupidity within your family.

Why did you "tame" your wife for life or rather, why did you think it was a good thing for you to tame your own wife for life? I think that's where you should start from; was she "wild" before marriage & only "pretended" to be tamed just to satisfy your ego of successfully taming a woman only for her true colors to show up now after two sons?

Secondly, why do you make the money you paid for CS seem like you did her and your child a huge favour? The alternative would've been letting both your wife and unborn child die if the surgery hadn't been done; would that have made you happy?

I don't have the details of what goes on in your home; how your wife behaves, how you also behave and other factors that are leading you to contemplate "divorce" but if I were to assess your temperament or attitude towards your wife and marriage based on what you wrote, you seem like a well-to-do individual with a very big ego and get a kick off people kowtowing to you just because you play an important role in their life - this time a role as husband which you willingly and lovingly took a vow for before God and men.

Abi, dem force you to marry your wife?

Kindly find middle grounds with your wife; try to understand where she's coming from or what may've led to her sudden change in attitude before you start entertaining divorce thoughts in your head. After all, you didn't take a wheel spanner and smash your vehicle windscreen in anger every time it developed a mechanical or electrical fault: what you did instead was try to find out (through your mechanic/ auto electrician) what the problem was & solve it.

elipheleh:


So a responsible man does not have the rights to be respected by his own household?

So being responsible does not worth anything in your house?

So a man should invite others to beg before his own wife will act in line and respect him?

So a woman giving birth gives her license to start disrespecting her husband? Hasn't many women on earth given birth and still sensible?

You see how stupid and daft you sound?

Oga ade, be calming down. I don't want to reply to the op details, but seeing this spark something out of me. I was so angry when I saw the word "tamed", when I read "after spending 300k for are C's". I'm very sorry to say this but I can smell pride, too much ego and so on ... This is wife we're talking about not girlfriend, it's his responsibility to cater for his family, who else does he expects to cater for the hospital bills? Me? You?. Though, it is not that I'm supporting the behavior of the wife, and as a man, it pains when your wife is acting in a disrespectful manner. He should try to find out why not yelling for respect hereandia. It takes some stupidity sometimes to stay in marriage. Oga the poster, pls calm down all will be fine.

Persephone1:
Infact some women are really trying.

May God help

Amen oh.

Pueperal psychosis.
Give her your backing and support. Keep being positive and surprising her.
Take her out on outing and date.
You will earn her respect and she go wan born multiple for you again.

You didn't say what her offense is. You just wasted our time oga.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S.

This statement tells me a lot about you and your mindset. You didn't do your wife any favour by paying for the Ceasarean Section, you did yourself good.

Pregnancy and childbirth are emotionally and psychologically draining on women and not all women have the same strength level to handle.

You should make your marriage work. I feel your attitude to her (maybe because of the 300k) is getting to her. Only God knows what you have put her through these few days considering your TONE in this message.

TWO of you have become ONE sir. Pet her. apologise to her. Make her happy. Your happiness is embedded in her own if you truly love her. God bless you.

donb06:

Your double standards stink to high heavens... In other of your comments you. Said your friend was only talking to her child and mum. These are the people she found solace on... Just imagine, your wife doesn't find solace in you. Yet this guy just advised him not to take any drastic action just be silent all the time.... It has come from pit of hell... Na una women go mk Isaiah 4: 1-8 come to pass shaperly...

she married the guy a virgin, her fear was the fact that the man got her pregnant. She doesn’t hate her husband it’s the fear of pregnancy she had. They went for counseling and the family is beautiful now. The husband never for once felt insulted he understood and the situation. He’s loving the wife and the family is rather at peace and full of harmony not all these stupid redpill men that will be carrying cheap gnorrhea filled prostitutes.

[quote author=thesilentman post=125599395]
ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.[/quote Reason what? You have not explained what really happened.

thesilentman:

ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.

So would you have allowed her die because of N300,000? You didn't do her any favours. She instead risked her life for the family. She is obviously tired of taking your rubbish. Did you see what you wrote. I tamed her is she an animal? Your intimidation has ended, come off your high horse and mend fences with your wife. Marriage is not a master/slave relationship as you term submission from your context. It's mutually submitting to one another.

donb06:


I understand you, sacrifices of the woman is the whole world, but sacrifice of the man is just casual.... The guy might be over reacting but don't be stupid to demean his sacrifices... 300k to you might mean small, 300k to him might be his ,3 months salary.... I'm not saying you're stupid ooo just don't be

Gracias

You can continue to be stupid, as your groin directs you to be.

It's not a big deal. Many single women do it and continue to do it without coming out to sound so aggrieved about taking care of their own children. Why is it such a big deal to men? Aren't they route children anymore? Is it because it's a man you want to give him a medal for the commonplace activity of taking care of ones own child. Or are the sacrifices of single women not enough? Why do you think his case is special suddenly? We can see through your bullshit.

I'm not going to pretend you're not stupid ooo.

Men will applaud mediocrity as if it's the all-in-all, provided it is a man being whiny and mediocre.

If you've been beating your wife and you com up with this just know that all what you typed hear is trash and baseless you have to apologize to her quickly, but if you had been the enduring man kudos to you what you need is more patience and understanding, be above her in knowledge and try to know where you both had got it wrong of course u can. I hope things go well in Ur marriage, do away with the I did this I did that for her mentality if you didn't who will?

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

Hmmm God's your strength.

Right now Boss if you haven't been close to God please be. One candid truth I will tell you is that if you can beat this trying times of your matrimonial challenge then your marriage will last forever.

Now back to her sudden change of character after birth, sometimes things like this happen among some women even after 1st child bearing but yours is second child birth related acrimony. Please be patient with her, many things and changes happens to women after birth. She's kinda psychologically going through that phase of self hurting which could be hormonally triggered.

Don't argue or fight her, just apply some level and degree of patience and tolerance this period and most importantly be PRAYERFUL.

GOD HELP YOU TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE BRO

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

"Tamed for life."
"300k for CS"
"RedPill OT"


Bros... if anyone insults you here, it would be as a result of their ignorance. First of all, you don't tame people you love as it is a give and take process. Your redpill orientation may crash your marriage and you might blame yourself later on.

300k and she gave you two boys. Don't do any silly thing because those boys will need a mother and a father together to grow up responsibly,else they come for your soul, emotionally or otherwise.

She changed and you're suspecting witchcraft... as a counselling psychologist who dropped out of school, I would advise you to do some googling or even research from ChatGPT about the effects of "Post-Partum Depression" on women. After childbirth.

BRATISLAVA:


You can continue to be stupid, as your groin directs you to be.

It's not a big deal. Many single women do it and continue to do it without coming out to sound so aggrieved about taking care of their own children. Why is it such a big deal to men? Aren't they route children anymore? Is it because it's a man you want to give him a medal for the commonplace activity of taking care of ones own child. Or are the sacrifices of single women not enough? Why do you think his case is special suddenly? We can see through your bullshit.

I'm not going to pretend you're not stupid ooo.

Men will applaud mediocrity as if it's the all-in-all, provided it is a man being whiny and mediocre.

Continue in your foolery and wallow in I don't give a damn...... Let me give you advise that will help you and that you stupid self...

Never underrate the sacrifice of your husband ( if you will ever get one)... No matter how small.

This is my last engagement with you for the sake of my sanity

donb06:


Continue in your foolery and wallow in I don't give a damn...... Let me give you advise that will help you and that you stupid self...

Never underrate the sacrifice of your husband ( if you will ever get one)... No matter how small.

This is my last engagement with you for the sake of my sanity

I will give you free advice that will help you and your chronically stupid self, if you can see anything past your loud, bollocks-sniffing public stupidity and the red pill:

Never overrate the responsibilities of a husband (if you will ever be one) because globally other men are doing it without half as much crying and abuse. Man up.

thesilentman:

ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.

You did the normal thing please. She would have lost her life in the process.

There's this term Post Parturm Depression PPD who knows if that's what she's suffering from.

She needs you more now.

Please take care of yourself too

This reply just show you follow be the problem

thesilentman:

You no read wetin i write ni,abi you dey wain me ni?

And yet you never said anything wrong she does.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

thesilentman:

ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.

300k can't be compared to labour pain.

thesilentman:

I appreciate this a lot,it makes a lot of sense to me.Thanks!

It is called postpartum depression....read it up

She will be fine.Shower her with love.
Ni vex for your wife biko

It sounds like your wife had a latent or undiagnosed mental illness, and something in pregnancy, birth or motherhood caused it to manifest in a really dramatic way. This happens a lot.

There's no easy path out here. Therapy can help if you're committed. It can get better.

Your wife is going through postpartum depression, she needs you now more than ever

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

folake4u:


For real oh. I can't deal at all. I'm very quick to LEAVE whatever gives me discomfort. I don't know how marriage own will be.

I chant "God Abeg" like 1k times a day. I hope I've not exhausted my "God abeg" bundle at this point.

You will do another Subscription naw.

Persephone1:
My daily prayer point! I just can't deal. Every time I think of marriage i find myself chanting "God abeg" "God abeg"

I have a bell I can give to you so that whenever you want to chant God abeg, your chant would be aided by the vigorous ringing of the Bell by you, and your prayers would gather momentum and overcome the dark forces and get to heaven.

This I have seen.

thesilentman:

I appreciate your advice so much.I'd give it a try before i do what's on my mind.

Pls, let divorce be the last thing. What you have listed is not a life threatening issue so you can still cope, worse has been done to some of us but I always consider my two wonderful children. Try to work on your emotion, shelf off her attitude, be supportive to her in the house work. Come to think of it, it might be the aftermath of the surgery that is having turn on her. All in all, pray to God to help us overcome the emotional trauma and teach you what to do.

donb06:


I doubt you're married....

This young man is newly married and most likely inexperienced in things like this... He raging from the place of ignorance.... He came for advice... From his subsequent posts... He has mellowed down and taking the advices of people... If you're not married, your turn go come...


Gracias

I Will not marry a mad mad,unempathetic man ,a psychopath and an unthinking man in Jesus name,amen.i Will not see a narcissistic man, narcissistic men will not see me in Jesus name.evert evil pronouncements back to your head in Jesus name amen