Rayban25:


Being quiet has it's own advantage.

Some extroverted dads have put their family in danger by revealing more than they should in some way or another

Also remember that gentility is not stupidity.

fergie001:

Leave this man, he is quiet even on issues he shouldn't.
If not my mum, who is his opposite, Dem for don marchnus enter ground.

Rayban25:
Oh alright I understand.
The type of quietness that can make people use you as a doormat

Hezzyluv:
Too meek

SultanOfPuna:
My Dad is a classic Simp
I learnt a lot from his mistakes 🙏🏽

Then I discovered Red pill which changed my life for the best!!

Karemarealty288:
1) My Father was too kind to a fault and always want to solve everybody's problems. 2) My mom hold my Dad's mumu button.......me I no come get at all.

Nairas2dollars:
He is too humble and simple to the core. I hate it, you are so rich and still humble? WTF! He is a semi billionaire and still gist with his employees as friends..talks to them as if he is in the same social class with them!

1Sharon:


Nigerian men that desire polygamy, are you listening

no one from a polygamous home has anything good to say, and will hardly replicate it in own homes.

Klass99:


This sounds like my dad and almost every Nigerian man I know. Sadly you may marry, have kids and still make the same mistake your father and mine did.

Because you men don't ever listen to your wives when they try to caution or shield you from the pack of wolves you call your relatives. You wrongly assume your wives are selfish or hateful and they don't want you to help your families. That's usually not the case.

Women can see how your blood relatives are often entitled, lazy, covetous or envious and they want to take advantage of you. However majority of you are unable to see what your relatives are really like and you carry blood is thicker than water on your heads like gala. Until blood shows you shege then your wife's words of caution start to make sense.

I smile and shake my head when ignorant men say things like a wife is not your blood or relative. Your own blood relatives will wound you quicker and faster than the wife who is not related to you. Most of us grew up seeing this happen in our parents' homes but we become adults and think it can't happen to us, after all blood is thicker than water na.

Oh....and genuine condolences for the loss of your father, that must have been really rough. I spoke with mine today and I can't wait to go see him. None of us is promised tomorrow.

blingxx:


Don't blame him I've friends that despise their parents gentleness, and they ain't wrong you have any neve been in his shoes.. Some of this yahoo boys and hkp girls you see today are result of their parent too soft on them.

emmyN:


I have good things to say about polygamy misty!

Rayban25:


Oga polygamy is not the flex most of you think it is. Most of you only think of having different women. Learn to think further than that. Children have issues with their step siblings and step mothers a lot and when you go to the grave it will become a whole lot worse. Some of you cant even handle the stress of courtship talk less monogamy.

blingxx:


Mine was the opposite.. Infact my dad is the most stubborn man I've ever met in my life, that man feared no one except God, no one is as hard is him,he use to tell us story how he hung out with criminals and was the blackship of the family.. he's morals about life are both wrong and right tho, I actually learnt a lot from him it helped us a lot because of him I can adapt to any situation.. Depression and crying are for weak men, damn my dad

UyaiIncomparabl:


Keep quiet, you disgusting classist.

Yxxx:


Same here. My dad groomed me to be tough. As a woman I'm always told you have mind. My children must follow that path. My husband is hard but soft with me so I remove my hard girl person with him.

blingxx:


My dad once seized ladder from Nepa men once they wanted to extort us. I thought they were going to call police the idiots came back beautiful begging the next day

Skyview01:
While thinking and reminiscing, I am thinking of my childhood and growing up, as kids, whenever our fatger would come back from work, we would allwys all run out of the house through the backdoor at the sound of his car horn.

The biggest reason is immediately he is stepping in, he would start complaining about things not being in their right places.
Chores not being done or improperly done, house not clean enough and he would always have something to complain about in an angry tone of voice.

I came to believe it was his own way of dealing with a stressful day at work and over time, it kinda created some tensions between us.

I told myself, no matter what, if I had my own family, no matter the stress I pass through during the day, i would never take it out on the kids or wife.

So whenever i come back from work and i see chores not done properly, my father's reaction would flash in my mind and i would take a deep breath and go the opposite directio , ask the kids and wife how their day went.
and generaly chit chat about them without making them uncomfortable around me.

At the end, I might ask my son, "sweetheart, when are you going to wash the dishes? Even at the peak of a very stressful day, I would find a way to smile and go to my room in solitude.

Secondly, shouting at the children while correcting the. My dad as a true Nigerian man would yell at a high octave while correcting us and it frequently drives me crazy as a teenager.

With my kids and family, I practice a low even tone of voice while i am angry or making neccessary corrections. I find this to be very effective as it made the kids receptive and willing to change.

The results, kids are free with me and can discuss virtually everything in their lives with me.

So, what did you see your father do while growing up you were unhappy with and wanted to change in your own family.

SonofGod231:
I think my Dad had bipolar disorder.
This minute, he can be sweet as to buying you nice stuffs and the next minute he's extremely mad to the extent of smashing or burning that same thing in your very before.
My Dad has smashed tv, expensive phone etc he bought for me and burnt my combat pants because he felt it had too many pockets and was meant for rogues.
I am not anything like him.
I don't even get angry.
I snub.

Rayban25:


Being quiet has it's own advantage.

Some extroverted dads have put their family in danger by revealing more than they should in some way or another

Also remember that gentility is not stupidity.

735i:
He was nice.
Nice to a fault.
He wanted to uplift his extended family.
He invested too much on extended family.
Same extended family are now fighting his children.
My cousins have made some unsavory comments now that he's late.

NEVER AGAIN!!!

riko1010:
My father framed me up for murder after this incident.
Would not wish the habit of destroying his own children's lives remain in him. My brothers are sisters lives were reasonably ruined by him and I thought it was their fault. Recent evidence shows he's at the center of it all.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hwBbEzawrqI&pp=ygUOTW91a2EgRW1tYW51ZWw%3D

Skyview01:
While thinking and reminiscing, I am thinking of my childhood and growing up, as kids, whenever our fatger would come back from work, we would allwys all run out of the house through the backdoor at the sound of his car horn.

The biggest reason is immediately he is stepping in, he would start complaining about things not being in their right places.

Chores not being done or improperly done, house not clean enough and he would always have something to complain about in an angry tone of voice.

I came to believe it was his own way of dealing with a stressful day at work and over time, it kinda created some tensions between us.

I told myself, no matter what, if I had my own family, no matter the stress I pass through during the day, i would never take it out on the kids or wife.

So whenever i come back from work and i see chores not done properly, my father's reaction would flash in my mind and i would take a deep breath and go the opposite directio , ask the kids and wife how their day went.
and generaly chit chat about them without making them uncomfortable around me.

At the end, I might ask my son, "sweetheart, when are you going to wash the dishes? Even at the peak of a very stressful day, I would find a way to smile and go to my room in solitude.

Secondly, shouting at the children while correcting the. My dad as a true Nigerian man would yell at a high octave while correcting us and it frequently drives me crazy as a teenager.

With my kids and family, I practice a low even tone of voice while i am angry or making neccessary corrections. I find this to be very effective as it made the kids receptive and willing to change.

The results, kids are free with me and can discuss virtually everything in their lives with me.

So, what did you see your father do while growing up you were unhappy with and wanted to change in your own family.

folake4u:



Lol. I can relate. My father is a very kind person. Too kind infact. He wanted to uplift his extended family too but they never just liked him at all.

He got burnt all the time until he learnt his lesson and left them alone for good.

Well, I learnt a lesson from him. I'd NEVER marry into any family where the extended family doesn't accept you. You're not just marrying your spouse alone, you're marrying into their family too.

Farfalla:


In my father's case, they bludgeoned him as he was coming out of the car and left him for dead. This was executed by his own cousin, whose mother's medical costs my father catered for until she recovered from her illness. They were shocked to see him alive the following morning.

My father is a very tough dude but he'd somehow soften when handling his relatives (relatives my arse). These fools would sell his property with wanton abandon, completely disregarding the legal consequences, knowing very well my dad go shout tire but do nothing about it.

What lessons have I learnt from my dad? - That your blood is not necessarily your family. My relatives must earn my friendship. We won't just relate because we share grandparents or that our parents are siblings. They must treat me with kindness for them to be a part of my life. Otherwise, they cease to exist in my world.

folake4u:


Sometimes water (friends) is thicker than blood (family).

Farfalla:


Allow me borrow these words of wisdom.

Skyview01:
While thinking and reminiscing, I am thinking of my childhood and growing up, as kids, whenever our fatger would come back from work, we would allwys all run out of the house through the backdoor at the sound of his car horn.

The biggest reason is immediately he is stepping in, he would start complaining about things not being in their right places.
Chores not being done or improperly done, house not clean enough and he would always have something to complain about in an angry tone of voice.

I came to believe it was his own way of dealing with a stressful day at work and over time, it kinda created some tensions between us.

I told myself, no matter what, if I had my own family, no matter the stress I pass through during the day, i would never take it out on the kids or wife.

So whenever i come back from work and i see chores not done properly, my father's reaction would flash in my mind and i would take a deep breath and go the opposite directio , ask the kids and wife how their day went.
and generaly chit chat about them without making them uncomfortable around me.

At the end, I might ask my son, "sweetheart, when are you going to wash the dishes? Even at the peak of a very stressful day, I would find a way to smile and go to my room in solitude.

Secondly, shouting at the children while correcting the. My dad as a true Nigerian man would yell at a high octave while correcting us and it frequently drives me crazy as a teenager.

With my kids and family, I practice a low even tone of voice while i am angry or making neccessary corrections. I find this to be very effective as it made the kids receptive and willing to change.

The results, kids are free with me and can discuss virtually everything in their lives with me.

So, what did you see your father do while growing up you were unhappy with and wanted to change in your own family.