marlow1962:
I hate that shit, sometin you can't do to your children but it fun to do to another's child.
When I get married and my wife says we should call in a house help, if she ever maltreats her, that's the end of our marriage.

You will not know when she starts maltreating the child

Klass99:
Why do men (husbands) stand by and watch their wives maltreat helps, without intervening, stopping their wives and putting an end to the maltreatment?

What I find most annoying is how you men who are supposedly the head of the family/household, allow these things to happen and repeatedly occur in your homes. While saying nonsense like madam will accuse me of taking sides with the help or accuse me of sleeping with her.

Where does all that logical, alpha male energy you like flexing, suddenly goes to, in the face of cruel treatment of helps? Is the logical thing to do not to caution your wives and end the maltreatment? You people will not do it but will continue to shout we are logical.

Some of you married folks will sha not make heaven because of this issue, both of you, as in, husbands and wives, who do this.

Most women maltreat their househelps when the husband is not around.

OP IF D HUSBAND CAUTION HER NOW SHE WILL QUICKLY ACCUSE D HUSBAND OF SLEEPING WITH THE HOUSEHELP, DEY SAY THIS TO PERPETRATE EVIL AND WICKEDNESS.

marlow1962:
I hate that shit, sometin you can't do to your children but it fun to do to another's child.
When I get married and my wife says we should call in a house help, if she ever maltreats her, that's the end of our marriage.

End of marriage ke? How old are you?

Just send the help away, then the both of you can join hands to the house chores.

JuanDeDios:

An average man is AFRAID of his wife and will not challenge her in house matters. But you don't know that, do you?

NO we are not afraid; we just want our PEACE.

That rightly so, maltreating an house help is not one of those things a real man should not act on. Caution the woman, if it continues send the house help away and let her do her things by herself. You help when you are able to.

Acekidc4:
Many Married Women are generally Wicked at heart. They Only Care about their own Children!!

Vaginarians are naturally wicked whether married or single but you see divorcees and single mothers, they are not just wicked, they are wickedness personified.

Klass99:
Why do men (husbands) stand by and watch their wives maltreat helps, without intervening, stopping their wives and putting an end to the maltreatment?

What I find most annoying is how you men who are supposedly the head of the family/household, allow these things to happen and repeatedly occur in your homes. While saying nonsense like madam will accuse me of taking sides with the help or accuse me of sleeping with her.

Where does all that logical, alpha male energy you like flexing, suddenly goes to, in the face of cruel treatment of helps? Is the logical thing to do not to caution your wives and end the maltreatment? You people will not do it but will continue to shout we are logical.

Some of you married folks will sha not make heaven because of this issue, both of you, as in, husbands and wives, who do this.

@bolded, the truth is that, through manipulation, women are usually the true heads of households, while men are the providers and ceremonial heads. They use nagging, crying, sex, emotional blackmail to become the heads, and the man is reduced to just being grateful she's ok with him. It takes a really attentive and "strong" man to avoid this scenario.
A wife can be terribly maltreating a man's child from a previous marriage and he won't do anything.
The reverse will never happen. He dares not!

Nonexisting1:
Vaginarians are naturally wicked whether married or single but you see divorcees and single mothers, they are not just wicked, they are wickedness personified.

Single mothers and divorcees don show this one shege

Acekidc4:
Many Married Women are generally Wicked at heart. They Only Care about their own Children!!

I recently observed it amongst the goats we're rearing, mother only after her own..

lollybizzu:


NO we are not afraid; we just want our PEACE.

That rightly so, maltreating an house help is not one of those things a real man should not act on. Caution the woman, if it continues send the house help away and let her do her things by herself. You help when you are able to.

Easier said than done. See my previous post above.
JuanDeDios is right. Even powerful ones including govs, up to Tinubu.
*There must be a word for it - fear of wife

*I googled it. See below

Holysucker:
THIS IS NOT RIGHT.

Madam, if you are not ready to buy something for your househelp when you take her out with your own kids, please leave her at home. She is someone's child too.

She came in with her husband, 2 kids and their help, another kid of about 11 or 12 years. Immediately they sat down, the husband left probably to come and pick them up later. She ordered three turkey, a Hollandia yoghurt for the kids and Star radler.

When it was served, she gave one turkey to her son of about 6years, one to the daughter of say 3-4yrs and the other one for herself. While they were feasting on the turkey and drinks, the house help sat on another table starring hungrily and helplessly. Every time the madam turns towards her, the house help will quickly look away to avoid eye contact with madam.

That lady even ate the little piece left by her daughter, paid the bills and left..

I know that she might not be the only person guilty of this despicable act, so let's have your comments and opinions on the matter so others like her will learn and probably change....

cause to me I feel her action might put the children at great risk of maltreatment and possible harm by the househelp.

The thing still dey pain me sha 😡😡😡

Asides their biological children, women don't care about anyone including their husbands. Know this and cease to be amazed by a woman's selfishness and wickedness.

They pour out their marital frustrations, anger and vexations on the poor innocent househelps.

Fahvvy:
Women are naturally wicked and selfish ...
It's in their primal nature to be that way to everyone other than themselves and their children ...

Though some women have been able to tame this nature of wickedness and selfishness, but a very large majority of females haven't ...

And a proof of that is seen in how house helps are treated ...

How many times have you heard of a man maltreating a house help? A couple of times I guess ...

Now compare that with the number of times you've heard of women maltreating their house helps ...

You'll realize that OVERWHELMINGLY, the females are the ones causing untold harm to the house helps ...

And what's funny is that, these house helps, come to live with them for the SOLE purpose of helping the women with running the home, but alas! They get beaten and maimed in the process ...

Indeed, house helps need to be protected from women ...

One even maltreated her own house help until she died. The satan went and disposed her remains in a shallow grave and filed a missing person report with the police.

Klass99:
Why do men (husbands) stand by and watch their wives maltreat helps, without intervening, stopping their wives and putting an end to the maltreatment?

What I find most annoying is how you men who are supposedly the head of the family/household, allow these things to happen and repeatedly occur in your homes. While saying nonsense like madam will accuse me of taking sides with the help or accuse me of sleeping with her.

Where does all that logical, alpha male energy you like flexing, suddenly goes to, in the face of cruel treatment of helps? Is the logical thing to do not to caution your wives and end the maltreatment? You people will not do it but will continue to shout we are logical.

Some of you married folks will sha not make heaven because of this issue, both of you, as in, husbands and wives, who do this.

1. The man is not always around to see some of these maltreatment.
2. The woman would accuse the Inocent man of sleeping with the house help and will go around telling everyone.


This is a very dangerous thing you are suggesting and you know it.

Vijuchoco:
I recently observed it amongst the goats we're rearing, mother only after her own..

Good observation.

Abeg Mek all of una calm down. It's the natural order of things.

All female animals are naturally selfish and only care about themselves and their offspring,what you lots called *wicked*. That's why men hardly do stuff like this. When some men dey eye them househelp sef.


Besides, WICKED IS GOOD.

if anybody can tell me the book where this phrase was mentioned,5k don sure for that person.

Klass99:
Why do men (husbands) stand by and watch their wives maltreat helps, without intervening, stopping their wives and putting an end to the maltreatment?

What I find most annoying is how you men who are supposedly the head of the family/household, allow these things to happen and repeatedly occur in your homes. While saying nonsense like madam will accuse me of taking sides with the help or accuse me of sleeping with her.

Where does all that logical, alpha male energy you like flexing, suddenly goes to, in the face of cruel treatment of helps? Is the logical thing to do not to caution your wives and end the maltreatment? You people will not do it but will continue to shout we are logical.

Some of you married folks will sha not make heaven because of this issue, both of you, as in, husbands and wives, who do this.

We have heard you. When next it happens, men should just file for divorce. That's the almighty formula for resetting the brain of those Jezebels

When the house help get nyansh pass them, they get jealous

lollybizzu:


End of marriage ke? How old are you?

Just send the help away, then the both of you can join hands to the house chores.

You don't need to know my age brother.
Why request for help when you know you're not going to take her too as your own?
I've lived with so many Igbo family (not only the Igbo family, but they're the majority I've lived closed with) that do these nasty things to their house helps. I hate it, it's disgusting, I can't condo such under my roof.

Badmashii:


Good observation.

Abeg Mek all of una calm down. It's the natural order of things.

All female animals are naturally selfish and only care about themselves and their offspring,what you lots called *wicked*. That's why men hardly do stuff like this. When some men dey eye them househelp sef.


Besides, WICKED IS GOOD.

if anybody can tell me the book where this phrase was mentioned,5k don sure for that person.

The Maze Runner

marlow1962:
I hate that shit, sometin you can't do to your children but it fun to do to another's child.
When I get married and my wife says we should call in a house help, if she ever maltreats her, that's the end of our marriage.

GOD bless u so much for this comment sir. I stand on this with you.
I was a victim of maltreatment as I became orphaned at age 7. My anty took me in as a hiuseboy and suffered all forms of dehumanizing treatment. Now that I am of age and living alone, I still find it difficult to relate with people. I just feel everyone is wicked

To some extent, blame the men in those homes

I won't tolerate that, once you maltreat or hit a child more than once in my presence, I go change am for you. My wife knows that!

Women generally are wicked, if you don't control things they can even turn you their husband to a slave.

Very very wicked gender.
The only thing they know how to do is to shout domestic violence, whereas they are mini-devils and demons in human skin.
Most of these females are devil's apprentice pretending to be loving

Nazgul:
What disgusts me about these women is that when they're single, they'll claim to love kids, you'll see them in church struggling to babysit. Calling kids all kinds of sweet names.

But once they marry, they'll start seeing every child as a competition to theirs. Men should start speaking up, cos I don't know why a man would feel comfortable sleeping under the same roof with a monster who maltreats kids.

I certainly cannot tolerate such woman.

I was a victim of this when I became an orphan at age 7. Am in in my late twenties now and I still feel the negative impact on me. I am now vindictive, I see everybody as wicked. I trust nobody. The treatment I got from been a hiuseboy to my anty was quite tormenting

Amumaigwe:


Asides their biological children, women don't care about anyone including their husbands. Know this and cease to be amazed by a woman's selfishness and wickedness.

They care about the husband to the extent he's the one financing everything

minakom:
Dem never born my wife well to bring in house help, it's either she does the chores by herself or the kids do it. Can't cope with lazy wife. And if I will need the services of one, the girl must've complete front and back. She must dress attractive and sweet coz I can't live with a smelly house help always wearing rags coz of one lazy wife.

Your wife wouldn't allow her to be attractive. She will convince u against this and if u don't comply, she will deny u kpekus at night.

Amumaigwe:


One even maltreated her own house help until she died. The satan went and disposed her remains in a shallow grave and filed a missing person report with the police.

Has happened more than once

Opanka44:


Your wife wouldn't allow her to be attractive. She will convince u against this and if u don't comply, she will deny u kpekus at night.

Then she must do all the chores herself

some househelps too are evil trust me, me personal have had an unfair share of them .... so not just madams pls

onefourseven:


The Maze Runner

sharp guy. 5k sent.

Badmashii:


Good observation.

Abeg Mek all of una calm down. It's the natural order of things.

All female animals are naturally selfish and only care about themselves and their offspring,what you lots called *wicked*. That's why men hardly do stuff like this. When some men dey eye them househelp sef.


Besides, WICKED IS GOOD.

if anybody can tell me the book where this phrase was mentioned,5k don sure for that person.

My mum was very nice to our maids back then though, many people didn't even know we were not related..

WICKED IS GOOD was mentioned in the book titled "WICKED WITCH" and also "MAZE RUNNER"

complexstuffs:



1. The man is not always around to see some of these maltreatment.
2. The woman would accuse the Inocent man of sleeping with the house help and will go around telling everyone.


This is a very dangerous thing you are suggesting and you know it.

3. Most men are "afraid" of their wives

4. The dynamic of the home usually leads to the wife being the real head of the family while the husband is provider and ceremonial head

They are just like that, wickedness.
Do you know if the husband can comfortably afford private school for house help, they will never allows the husband to send her to the school, instead it's one local school that their children can never go, if at all they allow her to go to school.
Wicked gender.