Is it proper for a wife to maltreat the husband in the event that he is no longer working?

A 56 yrs old man, married with 3 kids is currently being maltreated by the wife.

The man was retrenched due to the covid pandemic, he was laid off and paid some money, he use the money to buy a Corolla and started an Uber business with a weekly payment 25k, the wife opened the account and the money goes to the account the wife opened.

A few months ago, he was paid his retirement benefits as at today the money is about 900k and I asked how come, he said," my wife is with his atm card, if I requests for money she usually ask what do I need money for since I am longer working. A weekly stipend of 1k is given to meweekly, in some instances if there is an argument, I don't get the 1k money weekly in addition to no food for the week".

He said," I am living like a prisoner, my calls are being monitored & recoded by wife, my ATM cards are with her, I am at her whimps and caprices. My second daughter is the one that gives me =N=1,500 monthly upon collecting her salary'. Even worsening the situation she has instigated the my first daughter and last born against me.

He further said, " my wife has gone out to the saloon since 10:00am this morning, the time is 6:25pm she is not back.
I married her when she as a full-time house wife, I paid for her to go to teachers college so that she will be able to get a teacher job, to this day, I don't know how much my wife earns but she knows how much I earn, even after that I opened a shop for her, till today how the shop closed down is what I don't know".

What are you thoughts?

The wife has become husband while husband has been given the post of a wife.

Shuoooooo


It is either the woman don jazz am or the man na born simp , my advice na for his kinsmen to carry am go somewhere, flog shege commot for him head and make him scream many times that he is a man , a head and not the tail . Our government suppose don create agency for MEN ABUSE , weak men and simps need to report to that agency ASAP

How can he surrender his power to the wife?

Nanaborga:
Shuoooooo


It is either the woman don jazz am or the man na born simp , my advice na for his kinsmen to carry am go somewhere, flog shege commot for him head and make him scream many times that he is a man , a head and not the tail . Our government suppose don create agency for MEN ABUSE , weak men and simps need to report to that agency ASAP

Nanaborga:
Shuoooooo


It is either the woman don jazz am or the man na born simp , my advice na for his kinsmen to carry am go somewhere, flog shege commot for him head and make him scream many times that he is a man , a head and not the tail . Our government suppose don create agency for MEN ABUSE , weak men and simps need to report to that agency ASAP

What kind of man is this.

Yes, a servile or feeble-minded husband like the one in your story deserves the maltreatment from his oppressive wife. He's a true personification of what a man shouldn't be.

A feeble-minded person is as repulsive as an oppressive one.

How did he become like this?

Well, tell him to go and open another account then change his account details with uber. Life is simple...money is power. How could he let his madam hold his power? Funny peep!

The way you stated the title is not even proper. Everybody without reading knows the answer is "No". Only the man can answer why he relinquished his position to his wife

Great people always have an account not known to anyone but them. I guess he's one of those decent people.

Nanaborga:
Shuoooooo


It is either the woman don jazz am or the man na born simp , my advice na for his kinsmen to carry am go somewhere, flog shege commot for him head and make him scream many times that he is a man , a head and not the tail . Our government suppose don create agency for MEN ABUSE , weak men and simps need to report to that agency ASAP

He said," I am living like a prisoner, my calls are being monitored & recoded by wife, my ATM cards are with her, I am at her whimps and caprices. My second daughter is the one that gives me =N=1,500 monthly upon collecting her salary'. Even worsening the situation she has instigated the my first daughter and last born against me.

He further said, " my wife has gone out to the saloon since 10:00am this morning, the time is 6:25pm she is not back.
I married her when she as a full-time house wife, I paid for her to go to teachers college so that she will be able to get a teacher job, to this day, I don't know how much my wife earns but she knows how much I earn, even after that I opened a shop for her, till today how the shop closed down is what I don't know".

He is not even ashamed to say all this outside.

Nothing can be done to save this man again, he's gooone...

My sincere opinion is for other guys to learn from this man's mistakes. It is also possible that the man has done wrong by her in the past in a way that she finds it hard to forgive.

All the same, don't marry a person who your happiness is not theirs. Many people go into marriage for love knowing fully well that the other person would no have their backs when the roses are down.

Why would be not imo how much his wife warns? He should know if they a real couple. It doesn't mean that he would collect it from her.

Why would a person marry a person who finds them disposable?

Teleprompter:
My sincere opinion is for other guys to learn from this man's mistakes. It is also possible that the man has done wrong by her in the past in a way that she finds it hard to forgive.

All the same, don't marry a person who your happiness is not theirs. Many people go into marriage for love knowing fully well that the other person would no have their backs when the roses are down.

Why would be not imo how much his wife warns? He should know if they a real couple. It doesn't mean that he would collect it from her.

Why would a person marry a person who finds them disposable?

My thought as well, he might have offended her in the past and she felt the hurt and this a way of getting back.

ayomilore:
How can he surrender his power to the wife?

No money again na

I AM NOT SEEING ANY MAN HERE BUT A SISSY

nifemi25:
The wife has become husband while husband has been given the post of a wife.

The fact you think it is ok for a wife to be treated like this is troubling.

ABOVEDELAW:
I AM NOT SEEING ANY MAN HERE BUT A SISSY

Oga easy

IyaTola:
Is it proper for a wife to maltreat the husband in the event that he is no longer working?

A 56 yrs old man, married with 3 kids is currently being maltreated by the wife.

The man was retrenched due to the covid pandemic, he was laid off and paid some money, he use the money to buy a Corolla and started an Uber business with a weekly payment 25k, the wife opened the account and the money goes to the account the wife opened.

A few months ago, he was paid his retirement benefits as at today the money is about 900k and I asked how come, he said," my wife is with his atm card, if I requests for money she usually ask what do I need money for since I am longer working. A weekly stipend of 1k is given to meweekly, in some instances if there is an argument, I don't get the 1k money weekly in addition to no food for the week".

He said," I am living like a prisoner, my calls are being monitored & recoded by wife, my ATM cards are with her, I am at her whimps and caprices. My second daughter is the one that gives me =N=1,500 monthly upon collecting her salary'. Even worsening the situation she has instigated the my first daughter and last born against me.

He further said, " my wife has gone out to the saloon since 10:00am this morning, the time is 6:25pm she is not back.
I married her when she as a full-time house wife, I paid for her to go to teachers college so that she will be able to get a teacher job, to this day, I don't know how much my wife earns but she knows how much I earn, even after that I opened a shop for her, till today how the shop closed down is what I don't know".

What are you thoughts?

There is more to this story, we haven't heard from the wife

But if true he was once loving and caring to his family, taking his responsibilities before his predicaments then the wife is a devils advocate but if the wife is paying him back for the wicked attitudes he gave her while he was in money then it a pay back

Yes! Thesame way it's proper for a man to maltreat his wife.

frozen70:


There is more to this story, we haven't heard from the wife

But if true he was once loving and caring to his family, taking his responsibilities before his predicaments then the wife is a devils advocate but if the wife is paying him back for the wicked attitudes he gave her while he was in money then it a pay back

Pay back? what Happened to Forgiveness and the live they once had.

IyaTola:
Pay back? what Happened to Forgiveness and the live they once had.

You need to discuss that with her when you guys meet

That's how men keep hurting women believing that they will forgive when they apologize

When a man allows the wife be the head of the house this is what it results to. Too much of everything is bad. Love ,respect and treasure your wife but let her know her place gently.

prettysassygirl:
When a man allows the wife be the head of the house this is what it results to. Too much of everything is bad. Love ,respect and treasure your wife but let her know her place gently.

Can't believe that lady wrote this without sentiments and emotions..
Precise and candid in your opinion..

As for the so called man.. this is what you get when you are never incharge of your home in the guise of being a nice and gentleman.. more premium tears for him..

Hmm, he just a willing prisoner. Don't blame the woman alone here. The man abuses himself way more that the women does.

Perhaps! One day he will come to self realisation and love himself more. Then he will stand and fight for his self worth because his self worth is what his currently getting.that man is telling himself that he has failed and the woman is doing him a favour by staying with him, he deserves the wife's treatment because he permits it.

I know these men can be silly and annoying but I hate it with passion when a woman maltreat a good man, i have brothers and no single sister and if any lady dare maltreat any of my brothers, she will have me to face.

I hate men that can't control thier home and be in charge.




I know a man who fetches water outside thier house for his grown up children (19,22,23,) and wife, every morning.



sometimes he goes to market, looking so wretched.




lord Jesus, I don't want sissy type of husband. bless me with Good, reasonable husband that will take charge of his family.

He's a pathetic SIMP and weakling and he deserves it. Rubbish.

That man is not normal. But what about his family?

@topic. It is not proper to maltreat anyone at all.

LordKO:
Yes, a servile or feeble-minded husband like the one in your story deserves the maltreatment from his oppressive wife. He's a true personification of what a man or woman shouldn't be.

A feeble-minded person is as repulsive as an oppressive one.

No one should accept that type of treatment

prettysassygirl:
When a man allows the wife be the head of the house this is what it results to. Too much of everything is bad. Love ,respect and treasure your wife but let her know her place gently.

No head of the house should act that way. Those are the actions of an oppressive partner. Not a leader