shogotermies:
The first page of the thread, shows how irresponsible some people are.
If the brother couldn’t house him in the first place, he was suppose to tell him to stay back in the village.
These are the same men that will squander thousands of Naira on a random girl from Facebook.

An older sibling opt to be a leader, a friend, a father, a role model, a pace setter for the younger ones.
If you want your junior brother to man up, show him first that you are man enough.



The boy is barely 21, no skills yet, no tertiary education , no support from the one he calls brother.
And some of you were blaming MOHBAD’s family, most of y’all are worse.

I wouldn't do that to a younger one but we don't really know the full story... We've only heard from him.
But What happened to the boy's parents?
He's their sole responsibility not the brother.

zionstaar75:
u shouldn't be eating more than once a day when living with someone,,you have entitlement mentality

Everything for some of you is entitlement mentality. Expecting food from an elder brother you are living with is entitlement mentality? How did you people get to this?

Thank God I still have a younger one. When I stand my ground, she will experience something differentt.

Gajagojo:


That is exactly how Nigeria got to 200 million
Having babies anyhow,not educating them and hoping first born will train them

So a man will not marry till he is 40 because he has brothers

You are free to make that choice for yourself not everyone

Which one is a man will not marry till his 40? 😂 Na wetin wey dey talk be that? Abi you misread my comment?

Oga, stay away from marriage if you can't provide for your parents!
Stay away from marriage if you cannot assist or help your brothers until they find their feet.

How can you be talking about marriage when you're not financially stable enough? How would you take care of the girl and her parents who will be your in-laws? Abi did they tell you that marriage is a child's play?

Openfortruth:


Yes he agreed. Even before now, I use to come and go. I think may be because I'm staying now.

You are not sounding straightforward
Did he invite you yes or no?
How old are you? How old is he
Are your parents alive? Does he give them money?
What job is he doing?
Did you discuss how you will sustain yourself
So in the past he did not starve you?
How long did you stay before this starvation started
The place you are learning work Did he help you find it?

TheBillyonaire:


If he does what I tell him to do in a smart way, he will come back with valuable information and some action potentials.

That's why your advice is among the ones our dear OP should take notice of..

At least, man needs to first understand his position and situation, then acts accordingly.

I want to see if the shameless elder brother can say no when his younger sibling asks him for such basic matters.

People get mind o. And me wey dey take care of our lastborn, the small girl go still team up with my daughter dey fire me... smh

Gajagojo:


You are not sounding straightforward
Did he invite you yes or no?
How old are you? How old is he
Are your parents alive? Does he give them money?
What job is he doing?
Did you discuss how you will sustain yourself
So in the past he did not starve you?
How long did you stay before this starvation started
The place you are learning work Did he help you find it?

This questions too plenty please.

Me: brother, please I'm wasting away here in the village as I'm not doing anything. I want to come to the city to stay with you and learn phone repair, before my admission.

Him: No problem. Come

Gajagojo:


No I am Not thinking anything

My position is I don't know

Whilst yours is that you know

There was a conversation and the brother should have told him before he came


We don't have that information so we ask not assume to the left or the right

No, that's not the case.

If you don't know, you'll have asked questions rather than make the points you made.

This is 2023. With the proliferation of phones with calling and chatting capabilities, the probably of him landing suddenly in his brothers house without prior notice is 1 out of 99. Infact, all the family members would be aware he was traveling to meet his brother in the city. The mum and father including himself would have acquainted the said elder brother for some time before he finally took off. Except the family is dysfunctional, this s the norm. It should be a family thing. This is how it is in every healthy family. That's why the OP has such expectations. Otherwise, he wouldn't have expected such from his brother.

The way you replied made me think that you saw things from that angle because that's how your family is. I may be wrong actually.

GO0DHardDick:


Which one is a man will not marry till his 40? 😂 Na wetin wey dey talk be that? Abi you misread my comment?

Oga, stay away from marriage if you can't provide for your parents!
Stay away from marriage if you cannot assist or help your brothers until they find their feet.

How can you be talking about marriage when you're not financially stable enough? How would you take care of the girl and her parents who will be your in-laws? Abi did they tell you that marriage is a child's play?

Not everyone is from a poor background needing to provide for parents

Parents is not what we are talking about here
Nigerians have been having children in poverty for ever? That you must be financially stable before marriage is not the reality in Nigeria.
It has never been
Did they tell me marriage is a child play Funny

Why do you assume your father is my age mate?

You are talking childish theory

There are different cultures in Nigeria
The Igbo approach is very different from the Urhobo approach and different from the Hausa approach

This idea of responsibility for your brothers sounds like a tribal perspective. It is not shared by all Nigerians

EruditeSupport:


No, that's not the case.

If you don't know, you'll have asked questions rather than make the points you made.

This is 2023. With the proliferation of phones with calling and chatting capabilities, the probably of him landing suddenly in his brothers house without prior notice is 1 out of 99. Infact, all the family members would be aware he was traveling to meet his brother in the city. The mum and father including himself would have acquainted the said elder brother for some time before he finally took off. Except the family is dysfunctional, this s the norm. It should be a family thing. This is how it is in every healthy family. That's why the OP has such expectations. Otherwise, he wouldn't have expected such from his brother.

The way you replied made me think that you saw things from that angle because that's how your family is. I may be wrong actually.

I asked questions not once but repeatedly
Scroll up

You are the one assuming with poor comprehension of English

I don't know about probability you are just making baseless assumptions
Simple question
Did his brother invite him and agree to accommodate him?
Answer we don know unless he says so


Stop talking rubbish about probability

M

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

@OP, please don't heed to all doz who think your brother should not be of help to you at this critical point of your life.

What are brothers for?? And please, don't hold a grudge against him because of this. There could be some reasons to this character of his.

You may sit him down and tell him your Ernest worries and how you suffer of hunger. Probably, he'll turn a new leaf.

I wish you a fazt breakthrough.

Gajagojo:

I asked questions not once but repeatedly
Scroll up

You are the one assuming with poor comprehension of English

Asking questions and taking such callous positions is counterproductive. If you've simply asked questions without taking those positions I wouldn't mention you.

I mentioned you on the basis of your position and not on the basis of your questions.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

This is the most unreasonable comment I will see in ages.
Nobody owe you nothing quote is bullshit.
Expecting to be fed by my own blood brother is not out of place. If reversed is the case, I would do thesame too

Nasri100:


You mean its your duty to feed someone you are housing?? So i kept someone homeless in my apartment so its automatically my duty to feed the person?

Now tell me whos spewing bullsheet between the both of us.

MUMU


Cc Kobojunkie

bros this is Nigeria settings not the western world family has been destroyed . You are the bigger mumu here

Openfortruth:


This questions too plenty please.

Me: brother, please I'm wasting away here in the village as I'm not doing anything. I want to come to the city to stay with you and learn phone repair, before my admission.

Him: No problem. Come

Yes I can see you have no tolerance for questions and maybe that is why you are in your current situation
It seems to me like you are not straightforward

How old is your brother and how old are you

EruditeSupport:


Asking questions and taking such callous positions is counterproductive. If you've simply asked questions without taking those positions I wouldn't mention you.

I mentioned you on the basis of your position and not on the basis of your questions.

You cannot judge me
Calling my position callous is stupid

correctguy101:


That's why your advice is among the ones our dear OP should take notice of..

At least, man needs to first understand his position and situation, then acts accordingly.

I want to see if the shameless elder brother can say no when his younger sibling asks him for such basic matters.

People get mind o. And me wey dey take care of our lastborn, the small girl go still team up with my daughter dey fire me... smh

If your small sister dey team up with your own daughter dey fire you, then you need more help than the Op. The system has got you. You dey find answers from the universe and you do not even know the dynamics of warfare on of your own bloodline?

You just have to tag along and learn what is going on in the universe and the reason you have those 'distractions; around you without you even knowing the war.

Sorry about the tone, but you need to break down this stuff about your sis and daughter. So you can understand the nature of the virus hiding on your DNA tree. Your tree of life and consciousness.

If you take your brother asking for food and occasional support as entitlement mentality, I wonder what you do to your friends. I will be highly disappointed if you are a Yoruba man because here, Family is a priority unlike our brothers from the east who sees everything as a potential transaction

MS247:


This kind of entitlement mentality is very very wrong

Person wey no get sense

AgentGoat:



You go send him money to buy all these things?

Thats not training thats wickedness

talented321:
Openfortruth, your brother is only training you to be a strong man in time to come, don't lose hope, be strong and find other ways to assist yourself. Becareful with your brother because he don't mean good for you..

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Have you discussed feeding part with him. I'm sure you discussed accommodation and learning apprenticeship with him he agreed. Let him know you also need to be fed or show you what else you can do to make some money you don't have. Don't automatically assume you are his responsibility

Openfortruth:
in .

So many of you come from broken families from the comments you are all posting here. This is the result of a society that refuses to raise each other in love, but want to form i and my family are hard and tough cookies.

Bro, your brother owes you all you expect from him. Don’t mind all these people that were raised in mean homes and families. Don’t raise your next generation like that.
Your brother ought to share all he has with you. When he has one noodle to cook, he should leave half for you. When you have 2 satchets of pure water left and you spill one, leave the 2nd for him to drink.
Your brother is also trying to survive in the Nigerian economy and doesn’t really have, so give him a benefit of doubt he won’t be this way forever.
As you are doing your apprenticeship, start hustling with selling phones so you can make 100 or 200 daily. Speak to people in the market there to buy phones and recommend where to go and which to buy. That way you’d get some money from them. Just recommend. Don’t dictate or decide for them before they hold you responsible for a bad phone or deal.
Let people in your neighborhood and the route you use in trekking to work know you are a phone plug. You’d be able to get some connections or order.
Since you are on NL, I guess you have FB. Start posting phones for sale on FB Market Place and you’d get people to come to you at work. Don’t go to them. Don’t do online transaction.

Suffering is a lesson to those who want to learn..

Error401:
Thats not training thats wickedness

Gajagojo:


You cannot judge me
Calling my position callous is stupid

You can be insulting me for all I care. It shows the type of family you actually came out from.

The position is callous because ordinary human feelings would not allow you watch a human being near you go hungry while you feed. And when that individual is your blood brother, it's wickedness.

I'll rather send him back to the village than feed myself while I watch him starve.

Baba, hide your garri.
Tell your former providers to sort you out some times.
If that is how your brother chose to live.

True, you must be an Igbo man, because only those people see verything as transaction

talented321:
Suffering is a lesson to those who want to learn..

Gajagojo:


Yes I can see you have no tolerance for questions and maybe that is why you are in your current situation
It seems to me like you are not straightforward

How old is your brother and how old are you

I'm 21 and he's 28

EruditeSupport:


You can be insulting me for all I care. It shows the type of family you actually came out from.

The position is callous because ordinary human feelings would not allow you watch a human being near you go hungry while you feed. And when that individual is your blood brother, it's wickedness.

I'll rather send him back to the village than feed myself while I watch him starve.

You are talking nonsense.
Based on a one sided story

At my age I know there are two sides to every story
I not one to jump on an emotional band wagon because I want to be liked

In the Bible Peter told Jesus he will never deny
Jesus told he he will deny three times before morning
That is how most humans are
Hypocrites talking nonsense so they will look like good people

Talk is cheap

Reality is even a mother will have to stop breastfeeding one day it cannot last for ever
A brother does not love more than a mother

Yes I agree with you about sending him back to the village but we don't know if they have had that conversation

When i'm communicating i don't involve tribe, if you don't understand my writeup then have a good day..

Error401:
True, you must be an Igbo man, because only those people see verything as transaction

Gajagojo:


You are talking nonsense.
Based on a on sided story

At my age I know there are two sides to every story
I not one to jump on an emotional band wagon because I want to be liked

In the Bible Peter told Jesus he will never deny
Jesus told he he will deny three times before morning
That is how most humans are
Hypocrites talking nonsense so they will look like good people

Talk is cheap

Reality is even a mother will have to stop breastfeeding one day it cannot last for ever
A brother does not love more than a mother

Talk about your brother and mother please.

I'm an elderly man too. Not a kid. We don't do that in my family.

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Quote me Paste your aza make I give 10k hold body

Why are you reasoning like a slave, his elder brother is acting immature and you're here typing rubbish. Can you subject your own brother whether elder or younger to such turture and won't be labelled a devil. If his brother could not fend for the young man then why allow him come to stay with him in the first place.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.