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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by ibinaboonline: 8:55am On Sep 24, 2023
Oh, I seemed to have missed that. It's hard to believe the guy really said "no problem, come" and still act this way. Although, I think, even if his younger brother didn't take permission to come, now that he's already here, treating him like this is out of line. Unacceptable. Unless there's more to the story.
Openfortruth:


Look at this @ibinaboonline
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by fobiflex(m): 9:05am On Sep 24, 2023
Mrdonadefe:


Fobiflex, maybe that is too extreme. Lets say his elder brother decided to travel abroad tomorrow, how then will he survive or will the elder brother be mandated to leave him upkeep before travelling?

See, if the young man was a teenager lets say under 18, i will understand. But if he is 18 and above, then he should be a man and plan his Life around himself and the elder brother can help only if he want to.

I personally do not expect my elder brother and sister to feed me. I will go out and look for daily pay job to do and will buy foodstuffs for the house because that is the least i could do.

Next if the elder bro get girlfriend na, then it will be more problems.
Did you read where he said he’s learning a skill? Boy ain’t lazy, he was at the village then decided to make something out for himself by learning a skill, what will i it cost the BLOOD ELDER BROTHER to feed to say the least, what’s family for then?
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Sammeistar: 9:09am On Sep 24, 2023
Entitlement mentality for food just food ooo….na still food madness don Dey happen …..if person stingy e stingy no cap
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 9:33am On Sep 24, 2023
Cpossibility:


I have been reading your comments on thread and if this is the real you, brother, you are a very terrible somebody. Your type is what the family would regret giving birth to because you have no usefulness to the family.
Let us say if I feed more people. I don't know in one month than You feed in one year
You will never prosper in this life

It shall not be well with you

Let it be so for me if You feed more people in one year that you don't know than I feed in one month


It is by action not coming online to form Samaritan

Nothing wrong in helping people on one condition

Help is not a right or entitlement. Once a person is an adult nobody owes him anything
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 9:39am On Sep 24, 2023
Openfortruth:


I could see so many people condemning your comments on the thread. It's ok this is coming from you.

I do not give a shit what people say or think
I have passed the age where I try to please people

So that you think it is OK or not OK
is your own
Honestly I don't give a shit. No disrespect

It is what it is

In this life there is time for everything including time to realise you came into this world alone and alone are responsible for yourself
No one owes you anything
If a person is housing you as an adult you should be grateful
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 9:56am On Sep 24, 2023
Cpossibility:


Noodles is not shareable?

For how long?
Did they share the noodles at any point?
We don't know because he did not tell but I suspect they did
Brother is communicating by body his language

which is my only criticism he should man up and tell him what's up
Bro I no fit again whether you go come dey go back village or know as you go sort yourself. Even that message as bitter as it is can be delivered with love
I don't believe OP 100% because he sounds like he doesn't understand how life is

Even a father will have that conversation with his son one day if necessary

There is nothing new under the sun

So let us stop pretending we are hearing something that started in 2023

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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by donsheddy1(m): 10:17am On Sep 24, 2023
Cpossibility:


He should head back to the village and waste away? Would that be your wish for your brother?
Yes.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 10:37am On Sep 24, 2023
Cpossibility:


He should head back to the village and waste away? Would that be your wish for your brother?

It is his life
He is responsible

That is what is called being a man

It is not by blocos

You are responsible for your life
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Coolgent(m): 11:01am On Sep 24, 2023
MS247:
cool


Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Best advice of the week!
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Samuels90: 11:27am On Sep 24, 2023
Nasri100:


I mean you probably been in Naija all your life so how would you understand responsibility in the real world. I don't blame you.

The child support was in a (). I added it to explain how parents would understand how demanding and expensive it is to raise kids in the right way into adulthood, not those suffering and smiling upbringing in the Nigerian culture. Bro u so wrong… damn, I can’t say the OP is right, but I’m ashamed at some of the comments here.

If OP was born into a proper setting, do you think he would be be waiting for his elder brother to come home from work to feed him? grin grin grin
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by deathmen12: 11:42am On Sep 24, 2023
See you when get sense, because you guys see wickedness as been logic and discipline.
AsaBlackheart:


So anyone with a different viewpoint from yours is evil? You don post *evil and wicked* like 1 million times on this thread.
Baba shift and get sense.

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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Mpanyi: 12:31pm On Sep 24, 2023
Opeyemi4real:
You are the one who is wrong here. In fact, you are a wicked human being. I am first out six siblings and i have never done this rubbish you are preaching to any of my younger ones. Sharing with a starving blood brother is not a crime. I have accommodated friends and fed them in the past.

What you should understand is some people probably were not lucky to know what united, loving and closely knitted family is all about. They never experienced filial love. Some with all due respect to them are from dysfunctional family. They take their type of family as what a normal family should be. So that's the problem. The topic is making me angry to discuss. Not giving food, that the next thing it does is perish, to your brother Even if not your brother. If the money or the food is not there, you two will suffer it together.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth: 3:37pm On Sep 24, 2023
Nasri100:


I will hit you up very soon.

Cheers!

Good day sir. I'm yet to receive a mail from you.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Cpossibility(m): 3:39pm On Sep 24, 2023
Gajagojo:


It is his life
He is responsible

That is what is called being a man

It is not by blocos

You are responsible for your life


Get out please. The world does not need someone like you. I really pity your family members.

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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 3:45pm On Sep 24, 2023
Cpossibility:


Get out please. The world does not need someone like you. I really pity your family members.

That is a problem for you and your mother
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by vikkogg: 4:30pm On Sep 24, 2023
I'm not saying the elder brother is under any obligation/compulsion to feed the younger bro. But common sense should have told him to have a heart-to-heart conversation with his younger brother on the situation of things and why he acts the way he does. I mean...you can't just act like you don't know that your younger brother is starving nah. Haba! If you can't feed him, let him know why.

I don't know if you get my point.

Mrdonadefe:


I honestly do not think it is right to tell someone how to leave their life, especially if it is not against the Law.

The fact that you can sacrifice your meal for your siblings does not mean everyone must do the same. The young man is 21, the elder brother is just 28 and also struggling.

What do you expected a 28 year old to own in this life stage? He is way too you young to feed a 21 year old. They can both work together

Just my humble opine
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 5:42pm On Sep 24, 2023
vikkogg:
I'm not saying the elder brother is under any obligation/compulsion to feed the younger bro. But common sense should have told him to have a heart-to-heart conversation with his younger brother on the situation of things and why he acts the way he does. I mean...you can't just act like you don't know that your younger brother is starving nah. Haba! If you can't feed him, let him know why.

I don't know if you get my point.


You have no point

Any elder will know there are two sides to any dispute

You cannot judge without hearing both

It is this same kind of unthinking job mentality that would hear somebody stole penis on the street and beat somebody to death.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Mrdonadefe: 7:06pm On Sep 24, 2023
vikkogg:
I'm not saying the elder brother is under any obligation/compulsion to feed the younger bro. But common sense should have told him to have a heart-to-heart conversation with his younger brother on the situation of things and why he acts the way he does. I mean...you can't just act like you don't know that your younger brother is starving nah. Haba! If you can't feed him, let him know why.

I don't know if you get my point.


My brother i get your point 100%. I just feel the younger brother should be open to his elder brother. For example, he ask the elder bro for money and was given 500 the next day and was also told not to expect anything.
I feel he has to be a man now.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Dpen11(f): 12:20am On Sep 25, 2023
Pacesetter2021:

There is something that serving does. Not everytime one will be advised to move out and stay alone.

Serve for some time. Serve under someone. It grows you inside.


A big truth
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by purples25(f): 1:22am On Sep 25, 2023
Mrdonadefe:


I agree with you. Just wanted to understand your thoughts.

Okay.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by AsaBlackheart(m): 1:27am On Sep 25, 2023
deathmen12:
See you when get sense, because you guys see wickedness as been logic and discipline.

Dey deceive yourself. Na u be father Christmas abi. By the time your eyes don see shege in the real world, you go know say that secondary school wey you still dey see pocket money collect weekly no be forever.
Hustle yourself for one week and see how easy it is taking care of another human being.
Idiot
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by deathmen12: 2:11am On Sep 25, 2023
Despite your stinginess you are still broke, can’t you see how f*olish you are? Irresponsible adult.
AsaBlackheart:


Dey deceive yourself. Na u be father Christmas abi. By the time your eyes don see shege in the real world, you go know say that secondary school wey you still dey see pocket money collect weekly no be forever.
Hustle yourself for one week and see how easy it is taking care of another human being.
Idiot

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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by AsaBlackheart(m): 2:23am On Sep 25, 2023
deathmen12:
Despite your stinginess you are still broke, can’t you see how f*olish you are? Irresponsible adult.

Drop ur aza if e sure for you. You think say na everyone dey jobless like you? Lmao

Your English sef is annoying. Stop forcing the English if you no sabi am abeg.
Shift and rest.
Exit Asa.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by deathmen12: 4:10am On Sep 25, 2023
Drop aza for someone who can’t feed his his younger brother? idiot that cannot make complete sentence without using pigin
AsaBlackheart:


Drop ur aza if e sure for you. You think say na everyone dey jobless like you? Lmao

Your English sef is annoying. Stop forcing the English if you no sabi am abeg.
Shift and rest.
Exit Asa.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by vikkogg: 8:14am On Sep 25, 2023
Only a food like you would not understand that my point/conclusion was solely based on the available information.

How do you intend to hear the brother's story now?

If, all the time, we would be waiting to hear both sides of stories, then no one would have anything to say to anything here.

If I may ask you, how many stories on Nairaland have you heard the both sides??

Gajagojo:


You have no point

Any elder will know there are two sides to any dispute

You cannot judge without hearing both

It is this same kind of unthinking job mentality that would hear somebody stole penis on the street and beat somebody to death.

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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by vikkogg: 8:15am On Sep 25, 2023
Yes, you're right. But I feel the elder bro is the one that should be open to the younger bro.

All the same, good luck to the both of them.

Mrdonadefe:


My brother i get your point 100%. I just feel the younger brother should be open to his elder brother. For example, he ask the elder bro for money and was given 500 the next day and was also told not to expect anything.
I feel he has to be a man now.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by HRHQueenPhil(f): 8:18am On Sep 25, 2023
All this Is story
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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by AsaBlackheart(m): 8:30am On Sep 25, 2023
deathmen12:
Drop aza for someone who can’t feed his his younger brother? idiot that cannot make complete sentence without using pigin

Lmfao. Mind you, the fact that I decide to type in pidgin is so that illiterate fools like you can understand what I write up without you making a bigger fool of yourself.
And does my moniker resemble that of the original poster? Man you're so dumb.

Go back and write waec. Get some sense. Get some wisdom. Stop typing shit English online.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by deathmen12: 10:19am On Sep 25, 2023
Lol see this jobless fool with a damage brain, talking about education.
AsaBlackheart:


Lmfao. Mind you, the fact that I decide to type in pidgin is so that illiterate fools like you can understand what I write up without you making a bigger fool of yourself.
And does my moniker resemble that of the original poster? Man you're so dumb.

Go back and write waec. Get some sense. Get some wisdom. Stop typing shit English online.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by AsaBlackheart(m): 11:22am On Sep 25, 2023
deathmen12:
Lol see this jobless fool with a damage brain, talking about education.

*Damaged not damage.
Construct your words properly before you try to insult me.

I will reiterate my point. Go back to secondary school and actually pass Waec.
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth: 3:59pm On Sep 25, 2023
abuhusna1:

Quote me Paste your aza make I give 10k hold body

Good day sir, please you asked for my account number. I'm very very hungry right now please. I have not eaten since morning. Please just help me with anything first, in few days time, I will figure out what to do to be making my own money to survive. I really need help to survive first. Thanks and be blessed.

6019680 815, Keystone Bank, Victor Monday
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth: 4:09pm On Sep 25, 2023
Good day sirs, please you people showed interest to help me based on this thread by asking for my account details. I'm very very hungry right now please. I have not eaten since morning. Please just help me with anything first, in few days time, I will have anything I can be doing to be making my own money and survive. I really need help to survive first, please. Thanks and be blessed.

6019680 815, Keystone Bank, Victor Monday

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