Animals must act like animal.
It is natural.

We want random sex.

People no longer marry because they’re in love.
Women marry who is ready financially and men marry just because they feel it’s time to hence no bond shared.
Also women tend to loose shape and beauty due to the rigors of child birth and also exhibit a drop in hygiene level.
Lastly , some men are generally promiscuous. They discuss round a table full of beer with the their bottle of beers and discuss how many girls they’ve conquered and use em to keep scores.

theInfinity:
Why actually are the reasons why men change towards their wives after having kids. Could it be that the unwritten contract between them and their wives has come to an end after she has put to birth or what exactly. At that moment, no more sweet name calling, no more petting. They now see their wives as rivals at home. What is the cause?

When couples don't put each other first, and take each other's side first, situations like that are bound to happen.
Also, wives should stop acting like they have more rights to the children than their husbands.
Couples should put each other first, and raise their children as a team. (Let the children see and know it because children can be manipulative)
Couples should also be selfish once in a while, and create time for each (just themselves) as often as possible.
Their lives shouldn't just revolve around the children.

BXNX:
My landlord once told me that the use of women in marriages na to bear children

A man onces said "if no be children, I for no marry" that at time he feel like chasing his wife away but for the kids.

theInfinity:
Why actually are the reasons why men change towards their wives after having kids. Could it be that the unwritten contract between them and their wives has come to an end after she has put to birth or what exactly. At that moment, no more sweet name calling, no more petting. They now see their wives as rivals at home. What is the cause?

That’s because he believes he has caged you with children and you are going nowhere, hence he just puts in the minimum effort required to make sure you at least cook for him, wash his clothes, clean his house and maybe have sex with him occasionally. Getting a nanny , cook, housekeeper, prostitute etc will cost him more, so he will rather keep you for those duties while he has his fun outside.

Also he has the perks of being a married man which raises his status in society and gives him more opportunities to progress, cos people see him as more responsible as a married man.

Nwodosis:
Wives love and care more for the kids as a result the men feel less loved resulting in attitudinal changes toward their wives!

exactly. This is the plan truth.

It is the women that become jealous as the husband's love is now shared between the wife and the kids and women don't like this as they want full attention from the man all the time

adolfHitler1934:
It is the other way round instead. The woman begins to care less about the man and takes her love to the kids. She begins to dress and behave in a manner that will put the man off.

You're right. Seeing the way some women look in the mornings will make me wanna 🤮 and I always think if their husbands don't see them coming out looking the way they do. Most of them practically stop caring properly for themselves.

That's if the wahala of the wife is too much, especially if she's of no assistance

The fact that you found it so funny

Jewessgratitud3:
Everyone is just beating about the bush even though the reason is obvious.

Once a woman starts having kids, she loses her attractiveness as a result of all the body changes that come with child birth. This puts the man off or gradually makes him lose interest in her especially when he still sees young girls with perky breasts, plumper and firmer bodies out there. This is the whole truth.

A married man used to disturb me some time ago and I'll always shun him. One day he saw one small fine girl that came around and told me to him talk to the girl and I asked him what of your wife and he said " that one na condemn property now" .. chai!!! Laugh wan finish me that day. This is a man with 5 kids o.

Emma1Oj:
man is the head of the house. Woman is owner of the house. Parkage and content. Man is the parkage that owns the physical and it responsibilities. Woman is the content that own it inner cares and responsibilities and report to the parkage.

Hope you got the logic?

You still believe this lie in 2023? Smh

bukatyne:
The fundamental question is 'was there love before the kids came'? 'Why did they get married in the first place?' etc.

Then you would have your answer.

Why do people get married?

Things wey I go discuss during dating/courtship, must ladies go run, but it will prevent things like this from happening, because I don't want such.

cococandy:
The fact that you found it so funny

The way he put it was what made it funny not like I was laughing at what he said in context.

smasher1:


Not true. Your example only applies to adulterous fathers. The love becomes divided once there are kids.

Is there any man who's not adulterous in nature? E dey all of una body. Forget!

Iamzik:


You still believe this lie in 2023? Smh

I no even understand wetin the guy wan write.

Jewessgratitud3:


The way he put it was what made it funny not like I was laughing at what he said in context.

okay

MySexyMoni:


He's demonstrating his love in a different way and caring for his family is the point but most of my genders won't understand that...

They want the love they see in romantic movies, :Deverybody is diff anyways.

It's time your gender sit back and really think through and give their husbands who truly care for the family a break. Believe me, it's not easy out there especially for those doing field jobs. I believe that not every man tell their wives in details the risks associated with the nature of some of their jobs.

Fountainofyouth:



What stops men from caring for the kids as much as their wives so that they will not feel left out or less loved?

Madam leave matter.... Who told u that we dont care for the kids? The truth is SEE FINISH that causes it all... women dont like to be held accountable so they twist the matter to avoid blames... We know ur games...Yes men may appear not having quality family time because we are foccused on the hustle to meet up with bills. Some Women at the other hand having known that we have to prepare the family & kids for greatness tend to concentrate on them (With claims of loving them) to manipulate/brain wash the kids to see her as their guardian Angel and the father a careless man. An investment they hope to havest in the future... their actiins are intentional and calculative..

frankson1:



It's time your gender sit back and really think through and give their husbands who truly care for the family a break. Believe me, it's not easy out there especially for those doing field jobs. I believe that not every man tell their wives in details the risks associated with the nature of some of their jobs.

Ok..

Can you report my gender to ministry of women affairs then ?

SmartPolician:


This is the same reason why no reasonable man should marry a single mom.

Women, by design, transfer the love they have for their husbands to their children immediately they give birth.

If your wife cares for your children more than you, it's understandable. After all, they are just children who need love and care. Also, they are yours too.

But, for someone else's child? No, it's inexcusable to share my wife's love, care and attention with a stepson!

Ideally Speaking there should be enough Love
to go Round.

This is why olosho and runs girls will forever remain relevant in this world...

Sometimes the wife might be the cause , alot of women when they start giving birth they pay less attention to themselves like personal hygiene..

YoungLionken:
That's not the right question, it should have been vice versa..

A woman is supposed to be a wife and a mother. But most women stop being a wife and only accept being a mother...

Louder for those at the back of the class!
This is exactly what I've seen in most cases. The woman becomes 100% a mother totally ignoring the man. Is it any wonder that the man's eyes start to wander?

If women only knew how EASY it is to keep their man. Just pet him now and again and ensure the house is a tranquil place, where he's at peaceand is well fed. Trust me that man will pet and care for such a woman to the excusion of all smallies and side chicks.

DjAduba:

Madam leave matter.... Who told u that we dont care for the kids? The truth is SEE FINISH that causes it all... women dont like to be held accountable so they twist the matter to avoid blames... We know ur games...Yes men may appear not having quality family time because we are foccused on the hustle to meet up with bills. Some Women at the other hand having known that we have to prepare the family & kids for greatness tend to concentrate on them (With claims of loving them) to manipulate/brain wash the kids to see her as their guardian Angel and the father a careless man. An investment they hope to havest in the future... their actiins are intentional and calculative..

Na em be say such man wey marry that kind woman don carry problem be dat.
Little wonder why sometimes respect and obedience to fathers is on the decline.

theInfinity:
Why actually are the reasons why men change towards their wives after having kids. Could it be that the unwritten contract between them and their wives has come to an end after she has put to birth or what exactly. At that moment, no more sweet name calling, no more petting. They now see their wives as rivals at home. What is the cause?

Lol, are you married. If yes, do you consider yourself as bias or unbias?

Result of the perception(purpose) of marriage both had before going in-- they may include things like age limit, money, bodily features, crowning achievement after school, making babies, all which are very great reasons to be married and settle down but things can go downhill pretty fast and all these would become meaningless for some just a year or two! Getting married and staying married happily is beyond just the surface!

theInfinity:
Why actually are the reasons why men change towards their wives after having kids. Could it be that the unwritten contract between them and their wives has come to an end after she has put to birth or what exactly. At that moment, no more sweet name calling, no more petting. They now see their wives as rivals at home. What is the cause?

because when mens sees wife he shall goes for anodar marry

Everything make front page in this trash pile. Mscheew.

Because their wives change towards their husbands after they have kids... It's simple!!!


😏😏😏😏
You people should come and eat oo

Fountainofyouth:



What stops men from caring for the kids as much as their wives so that they will not feel left out or less loved?

It's very important to care for your kids. However, leaving your spouse behind and not caring for him/her is a disaster in the making

If you are interested to know, ask me why