Nwodosis:
Wives love and care more for the kids as a result the men feel less loved resulting in attitudinal changes toward their wives!

Liers, after 4 children e still de do me like say I just meet my wife yesterday.

Authoreety:
Lol

Una too dey rush... Wait till u get married, then you will understand better..

Do you even know that women are highest subscribers of denying their husbands their coochies... Single girls have sex with their boyfriends far more than married women and their husbands... Guess you all know what this could cause... Imagine denying ur husband sex on a steady basis..

Oh... U don't even know...

Who no go no know

Don't mind them. They're not married, yet they all have opinions, lol. Some are even saying that it is because they didn't marry each other because of love. Causes of cheating in marriages vary and sometimes, there is no reason at all

BloomingDale:


That’s because he believes he has caged you with children and you are going nowhere, hence he just puts in the minimum effort required to make sure you at least cook for him, wash his clothes, clean his house and maybe have sex with him occasionally. Getting a nanny , cook, housekeeper, prostitute etc will cost him more, so he will rather keep you for those duties while he has his fun outside.

Also he has the perks of being a married man which raises his status in society and gives him more opportunities to progress, cos people see him as more responsible as a married man.

90 percent of men don't like marriage. This is fact. There is no benefit aside de kids. N u know it

Jewessgratitud3:
Everyone is just beating about the bush even though the reason is obvious.

Once a woman starts having kids, she loses her attractiveness as a result of all the body changes that come with child birth. This puts the man off or gradually makes him lose interest in her especially when he still sees young girls with perky breasts, plumper and firmer bodies out there. This is the whole truth.

A married man used to disturb me some time ago and I'll always shun him. One day he saw one small fine girl that came around and told me to him talk to the girl and I asked him what of your wife and he said " that one na condemn property now" .. chai!!! Laugh wan finish me that day. This is a man with 5 kids o.

Seriously, that's really funny. But the truth is, a girl that has standing and perky breast today will still become like his wife with saggy b**bs after some years nah
Instead of married men to stick to thier wives, no they won't, they'll be spending money on young girls around, money that some have never even spent on their biological mother just because one untrained girl is opening legs for you. It's Pathetic!

Everything fade with time but i'll not even call my enemy condemn property then talkless of a woman raising my kids, bro is not funny..

bonnyhope:


You are just using this word ",love" up and down

Love fades with time

Some people value their prick and don't share it anyhow..

Cromagnon:

Puny is not mere
If it were
Men will not fall to get it
Prick is mere not puny

It's the other way round.

Eriokanmi:
This question should be directed at the wives because 99% of the time, they focus their attention more on their kids once they start having children and their husbands are less cared for, as if the only thing women need in marriage is the children. Its not as if the man doesn't care for the family as he still shoulders his responsibilities. He feels less cared for, in spite of all these .

You see that bond coming back from the wife the moment children are growing up and starting their own lives. This time, you see women always complaining of loneliness, that the husband doesn't love again, he doesn't give her attention again, etc. Whereas, the man has adjusted to his lonely life since the days wife began to have children, and to now adjust becomes something else and the women always complain the most.

Once the children begin building a family , the wife travels again to meet them and abandons the husband . By the time grand children begin growing, she comes back and begins to complain of loneliness once again. God created us men to withstand and endure any situation...Good, bad or ugly. Its women who always complain.

You have solid point there, though it is not the only factor responsible for it. I only wish wives can notice this singular factor and stop letting their love and attention for the kids affect their love and attention for their husbands.
And men too should be calling the attention of their wives to this instead of just accepting the development and building walls around themselves. I noticed this and I'm addressing it constantly

Jewessgratitud3:


Is there any man who's not adulterous in nature? E dey all of una body. Forget!

Not all men or women behave the same way. Don't judge. You are not God, and Almighty God doesn't judge people.

smasher1:


It's both spouse and not a country issue. The love is now shared somewhat with the kids. And so the love seems divided because the kids have taken their own share. [/b] But both spouse should still work on their love life. [/b]

Yep. Most especially men, they need to remind their wives when the neglect starts instead of changing too.

Not all most as u hv said

mariahAngel:


When couples don't put each other first, and take each other's side first, situations like that are bound to happen.
Also, wives should stop acting like they have more rights to the children than their husbands.
Couples should put each other first, and raise their children as a team. (Let the children see and know it because children can be manipulative)
Couples should also be selfish once in a while, and create time for each (just themselves) as often as possible.
Their lives shouldn't just revolve around the children.

I do remind my wife of this anytime I noticed such behaviour. In fact, I do remind her of many things and it is really helping.

Jewessgratitud3:


Is there any man who's not adulterous in nature? E dey all of una body. Forget!

georgee:

Go and ask mothers why they are quick to peronalise their kids when talking to the husband

Ahh.. Omo mi daaa(Where is my child)

Ahhh.. Ki lo shey omo mi (What happened to my child)

The husband go just dey look like.. Is he in the right house..

Women put emotions into every damn thing that's why God made us men head of the family

Shebi when the child exhibits bad behaviours, Nigerian men are quick to say the child belongs to the woman, but when the child does something outstanding, they now want to claim ownership?

The question is upside down! Women are actually the culprits, they half their love or more to the kids at the detriment of the man of the house

Rhassidy360:
Liers, after 4 children e still de do me like say I just meet my wife yesterday.

Your wife is on Nairaland and you just wrote this to please her. We sabi una type!

maasoap:


You have solid point there, though it is not the only factor responsible for it. I only wish wives can notice this singular factor and stop letting their love and attention for the kids affect their love and attention for their husbands.
And men too should be calling the attention of their wives to this instead of just accepting the development and building walls around themselves. I noticed this and I'm addressing it constantly

You're right. Please keep addressing it. It's very important. I hope the scenario changes. It is what it is...their nature.

Omuuvwie:
It's see finish, no matter the bond between the two of you at one point or the other you get tired of her.

God bless you for this

frog12:
you are very funny

there's one woman I dey look at now. it's like her face dey change within 2 years of marriage. no longer attractive like before. she con dey use her hairstyle to make self look like before. it's the reality.

I saw what used to be my crush few days ago. She was a shadow of herself in terms of beauty. You can imagine how "Chemistry " quickly turned to history within few years of marriage

Nazgul:

Exactly!

Most people in this category the op is referring to get married because they feel they're of age and therefore should be married, and not because they have found true love.

A vast number of them have zero romantic connection with their spouses. The marriage is just for having sex breeding kids. This is why they cheat without any form of conscience cos they see their marriage as a prison, and want some breathing space.

I'll say this and say it again and again. No spouse would get fed up and cheat on a partner he/she geninuely loves and respects.

So don't u think it worth it ??
How can a man of 48 years still looking for love instead of to carry one girl and give belle 🤔 do u want him to cry of help at old age without children

My brother life no balance even ask those that married thier flesh and bone of bone if money come the man will still cheat ..

Oya quote me wrong am talking from experience

Authoreety:
Lol

Una too dey rush... Wait till u get married, then you will understand better..

Do you even know that women are highest subscribers of denying their husbands their coochies... Single girls have sex with their boyfriends far more than married women and their husbands... Guess you all know what this could cause... Imagine denying ur husband sex on a steady basis..

Oh... U don't even know...

Who no go no know

You are truly an adult ... Keep it up because u have said it all and with your writeup I can see u are an experience employee 😛

No be lie bro when they get married they will understand all this love love love sex sex and sex na because they are not living together yet mtheew

Oracleee:


A man is naturally termed a provider, an average man spends less time with kids and family as he his out trying to provide for their needs. Most women spends more time around the children naturally bonding more and having greater affection for the kids than hubby. Once a man realises the attention ain't there again like it use to, natural instinct makes him withdraw and build a wall around himself making the marriage more like a contract of him providing and expecting nothing in return.


I once asked my mum one day what dad loves doing for fun and she couldn't mention nothing substantial she was just beating round the bush. I also asked my Dad what he loves doing for fun, he just smiled and said no one cares about that anymore. It made me shed tears

My brother that's for you to know that marriage or love love love is overrated ..

Highest commitment can make marriage to past and not love and the likes 🤔

NastiLord:
I only stopped caring for my wife after i found a conversation she had with a male friend on Facebook. The guy asked her if she's married and she said no

If a pretty woman asked you same question on Facebook will you say YES 😂😆😆

Marriage is overrated bro ..

Omuuvwie:
It's see finish, no matter the bond between the two of you at one point or the other you get tired of her.

Na lie. My father n mother lived together for almost 60yrs yet never got tired of themselves. It's because people of today marry for the wrong reasons and this makes their love to fade with Time.

Emma1Oj:
A man onces said "if no be children, I for no marry" that at time he feel like chasing his wife away but for the kids.

My brother it rains everywhere it's.really happening to me now 🤔
Marry marry marry na overrated statement

jeromestarks:
Possible reasons:

1. She claimed hard-to-get for too long and he later discovers that she's not worth the stress.

2. He knew she wasn't a virgin when he met her. So he lost interest in her deformity.

3. Most women allow child birth to deform them; belly becomes big, face becomes undoctored, shape competes with that of amoeba etc. Come on, who wouldn't lose interest and change towards such a careless woman?

4. Many women reduce the love and care they give to their husbands and pour all on the children. Shame!

5. Some women begin to give excuse for sex. "My vagina has not healed" etc.

6. Some women start to cheat after child birth thinking they have hooked the husband with a baby and he can't do anything (e go shock you)

7. Many women becomes dirty after having a baby. They give so much time to the parasitic bastard that they forget themselves. Nonsense.
Who would want to love a woman who smells like corpse? Nonsense women of 21st century.
The women of 1870s and 1880s are the best. These current generation women are nothing but a waste of sperm.

Your point number 3 is stupid. Have you ever heard of hormonal imbalances in women? But how would you since you are just a young man?

The job. they feed the family including the woman caring for the kids

Fountainofyouth:



What stops men from caring for the kids as much as their wives so that they will not feel left out or less loved?

InvertedHammer:

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Those still mixing love and marriage are delusional. Find someone you like and respect, then approach him/her with some sense of responsibility. Both parties work together to build a lasting marriage. Love is a feeling and feelings do change. If you marry because of love, the outcome is divorce because the older you get, your priorities and life choices change. Then you realize that love is a fantasy good in movies. Oyibo people have tried love and it is not working.

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God bless you that's similar thing I told him that love doesn't mean the partner won't cheat and it doesn't guarantee everylastinf marriage instead commitment can do it...


So being in love doesn't mean marrying that person will last

Fountainofyouth:



What stops men from caring for the kids as much as their wives so that they will not feel left out or less loved?

You want a man to provide for the family and at the same time have all the time in the world for the kids?
After going through rain and sunshine, toiling for hours?
No wonder men die young..

1Sharon:


Because of maternal instincts. There is nothing like paternal instincts, that's why you can't relate

There's nothing like paternal instinct?
The vast majority of men that work their butts off, to put food on the table of that maternal instinct and her brood..
The vast majority of men that would die protecting their families from dangers..
Are doing it because you had a gun to their head?

themanderon:



Na lie. My father n mother lived together for almost 60yrs yet never got tired of themselves. It's because people of today marry for the wrong reasons and this makes their love to fade with Time.

That was then, and you said it all that it's because pple of today marry for the wrong reason which wasn't like that 60 yrs back.

theInfinity:
Why actually are the reasons why men change towards their wives after having kids. Could it be that the unwritten contract between them and their wives has come to an end after she has put to birth or what exactly. At that moment, no more sweet name calling, no more petting. They now see their wives as rivals at home. What is the cause?

What is the statistical basis for your comment? If you are married, for how long have you been married?