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Join her in the kitchen. African mothers always use this to test their son's girlfriend.

As the guy I won't let her do such

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

I am not

There's no need to do busy body for the first time. Perhaps you can take the plates to the kitchen after meal.

Depends on how serious the relationship is ...

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

Nigeria makes very inconvenient traditions and it used to work for them back then.


These days it doesn't matter if the lady choses to join in the kitchen or not.


My mother wouldn't allow my woman on her first visit to join in the kitchen. More so, if she chooses to do so, we might just see her to be a pretender.

The best way is to be yourself. If the mother-in-law to be wants you in the kitchen, the lady should do so, it wouldn't take anything away from her.

In as much as I am the girlfriend of her son, to her, I am a visitor, coming to her house for the first time... she should cook and serve me....
Then we talk Nd familiarise ourselves...
On my next coming, I can then see if I can assist her in doing anything I can do

How about if she doesn't know how to cook?

It's barbaric to allow such thing hian

I will sit and wait to be served because I don't know what she's cooking and how she's cooking it.

It'll only seem disrespectful of me being a new guest, but already being too forward and all over the place... But I can help her with washing the dishes afterwards.

Maybe your mother does it, but not all African mothers do it.

Dangrace01:
Join her in the kitchen. African mothers always use this to test their son's girlfriend.

Holly Gram No be say some no go like help but 78% of Nigerian girls of this GENERATION no sabi cook..


Before pesin go add sugar inside PEPPER SOUP..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

At first, she wouldn't be allowed to join in taking care of the dishes but with frequent visitation she can only if she wants to but instead I would wash it myself( I have washed plate as an adult in different occasions so I see it as nothing especially doing it in my family's home).



Anyway, Agriculture is life.

A first-time visitor as a girl the guy's parents already know as their son's fiancee or as a girlfriend unknown to the parents?

If his parents already know her as his fiancée before the first visit, the girl should join the boy's mother in the kitchen. But if his mother insists on doing the cooking alone, the girl should not insist on participating in the task.

The poster left out some necessary details. Commenters above me failed to asked for those details. Na so una dey answer questions or judge matters wey una no understand. The commenters above sound as if all first-time visitors are the same. Who the girl is to both the boy and his parents determines what is advisable for her to do. Some first-time visitors are more familiar or connected than regular visitors. Do not base your judgement on the fact that she is visiting for the first time.

As a boyfriend, you visited your girlfriend's parent for the first time, and met them arguing with the carpenter that they still owe him 20k for his workmanship.

Should the boyfriend pay the 20k, or not?

Samantha124:
Maybe your mother does it, but not all African mothers do it.

South African girl shut your mouth.

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do anything

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

I am not

why don't you apply same logic bro.her dad too have been doing the stuff before you come as a suitor

Mhizzard:
why don't you apply same logic bro.her dad too have been doing the stuff before you come as a suitor

I won't join him

illicit:
I won't join him

lol you be bhad guy.

I won't allow my girl to join the kitchen on the first visit.

But she can help out with a few things. Like setting the dishes for serving.

Come and make me...

Dangrace01:
South African girl shut your mouth.

The Girl should Join in the Kitchen.

Simple COMMON sense. 🤨🙂

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

Offer to help, Except they say otherwise

Ever irrepressible. I hope I met you someday

Samantha124:
Come and make me...

Whenever I’m at anyone’s home and they are busy, I ask if there’s anything I could do. Courtesy demands you offer to help and leave the rest to your host.

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do anything

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

I am not

Dey play..

So easy to say on social media but reality is always different..

A reasonable girl won’t even listen to you..

Make she go wash put inside the food and have the whole family simp for her. Kings, never give them access to your family's foods. Don't say you are not warned.

First time, No! . It shows desperation. My mom won't even allow her.

She's just a visitor, it's not necessary for her to join the woman in the kitchen, me as the boyfriend I wouldn't let her do it either even if she insist.
Unless maybe na ceremony cooking she fit join.

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No, I won't allow my girlfriend to do that , my mum will feel she's desperate.