As omoluabi you have to join, though iya-oko will surely not gree give you turning stick to do amala or cook on your first visit. WAIT, APART FROM BEING MY WIFE, I GO TAKE YOU(FEMALE) GO MY HOUSE AND YOU WILL SEE MY MAMA COOKING BUT YOU WILL NOT PRETEND TO ASSIST HER. YOU DEY CRAZY BE THAT.

You are not a wife material.

Puss360:
In as much as I am the girlfriend of her son, to her, I am a visitor, coming to her house for the first time... she should cook and serve me....
Then we talk Nd familiarise ourselves...
On my next coming, I can then see if I can assist her in doing anything I can do

imagrg:
You are not a wife material.

If a woman that slaves herself is now a wife material to you, then we aren't on the same page...
Besides, how you rate your wife is how others will rate them and see them..

U are not supposed to..... ladies who do that end up to be cat🐈 and rat🐀 with their mother in law. Observation is key

Puss360:
In as much as I am the girlfriend of her son, to her, I am a visitor, coming to her house for the first time... she should cook and serve me....
Then we talk Nd familiarise ourselves...
On my next coming, I can then see if I can assist her in doing anything I can do

Anyway it depends on how long you and the guy have been dating. But generally Africans do keep seriously to first impression which they say ,do last longer. in case you don't have the opportunity of visiting again immediately. It does not mean that you are bad or disrespectful The memory might not be ok as African except you requested to assist and she said no(better).

But, if you have been calling n chatting her on WhatsApp showing her the kinds of your stuff, hair, clothings , cookings, bags, shoes etc. Then she will not really see u as first timer

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

Girlfriend??
Visiting family house of the boyfriend for the first time?
....
If his people knew she was coming, then she was a special visitor.
So, all eyes will be on her.
His people would respect themselves, because that would be the same as respecting him and his special visitor.
So, she would sit there, as the novice and visitor she is.
...
If they just visited with the boyfriend giving a prior notice of visiting with her.
That means, his people were not expecting her.
She is now a STRANGER to them, and not even a visitor.
So, why would a stranger enter the kitchen? As-per what exactly?
...
So, in conclusion,, she shouldn't just enter the kitchen.. So far that is her first visit.

Dangrace01:
Join her in the kitchen. African mothers always use this to test their son's girlfriend.

The African mother must be a trouble maker.

Like,, who does that?
Any lady you see with your son, the next thing, she's in your kitchen that same day they both came for the first time?

phemray:



Anyway it depends on how long you and the guy have been dating. But generally Africans do keep seriously to first impression which they say ,do last longer. in case you don't have the opportunity of visiting again immediately. It does not mean that you are bad or disrespectful The memory might not be ok as African except you requested to assist and she said no(better).

But, if you have been calling n chatting her on WhatsApp showing her the kinds of your stuff, hair, clothings , cookings, bags, shoes etc. Then she will not really see u as first timer

Yes that's true... Africans do keep seriously to first impression...
But it's always good to set standard to your guy that you aren't a pushover... I'm sure his mother is aware that he is bringing me...
So she will prepare for my arrival..
At least let me feel comfortable..
I can assist to do the dishes after eating..
Then me and she talks and share minds....
But to begin enter house dey do househelp immediately, nooo...

Dangrace01:
Join her in the kitchen. African mothers always use this to test their son's girlfriend.

my mom won't even allow you to join her in the kitchen. You're her visitor.

illicit:


So if u met him mixing mortar to make blocks, or laying blocks to make a foundation for a new building

You will join him

Firstly, those are skilled tasks not basic domestic skills. How can you compare the two?
Secondly, yes I'll at least do whatever it is I can to help him even if it's helping him carry a thing or two.

There's no where in the world that watching an elder do something without trying to help is a good thing.

Away with the toxic wokeness.

Offer the woman help. Let her refuse. If she does not, continue.

pansophist:
As a boyfriend, you visited your girlfriend's parent for the first time, and met them arguing with the carpenter that they still owe him 20k for his workmanship.

Should the boyfriend pay the 20k, or not?

This table when u dey shake na only 3 legs e get..

Question coming from someone with no home training.

All this grammar wey full here,I hope say na so e be

englishmart:
I will personally insist she doesn't do anything sha.

this is one way to know nairaland's children community lolz

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do such

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

lolz I hope you will do this when the time comes

Just be yourself.
If you're one that can't see an elderly or any woman cooking without helping, then help her. If you're still the one that can't do so, go on.

Just be yourself.

Dangrace01:
Join her in the kitchen. African mothers always use this to test their son's girlfriend.

It's not just an African thing, a girl with good upbringing will make an attempt to assist even if it's the minute work like setting the table

englishmart:
I will personally insist she doesn't do anything sha.

You want her to find your mom as her opponent for the rest of her life?

She will be too forward helping out for the first time not even second

englishmart:
Mature mind only

As a lady your boyfriend took u to his family house for the first time and u met her mother cooking, are you suppose to join her in the kitchen or u seat as a visitor and allow her to finish the cooking and serve u ?
Remember it's the first time meeting the family

Wisdom demands that, you sit down and undergo the introduction process. With time, she will get use to the family and access will be given to her to cook but not on first visit. Abi you want to kill the whole family?

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram No be say some no go like help but 78% of Nigerian girls of this GENERATION no sabi cook..


Before pesin go add sugar inside PEPPER SOUP..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

All the girls I was interested in know how to cook. Perhaps they form the other 22%

Nigerians!!! Most of y'all making these rubbish comments will not try these rubbish when it their turn to meet their mother in-law, but will advice others who are not wise to do otherwise..
When you meet your mother in-law, you can sit in the parlour cross your legs and wait for her to finish cooking and serve you, and then you see first hand what happens next lolz, very funny..

spiritedtete:
If I am serious about her... she must join my mum in the kitchen... except my mum insisted.

bros help me, pls.