laivwire:
I feel sorry for her. It's so bad especially when you're coming from a socially vibrant place like Nigeria.

The western culture is so isolated. Hello, Hi and that's all. Anyone you take as a friend is just for drinks/party o, if you assume any other type of attachment, you're on your own except it's your nuclear family.

What I don't understand is why people act like it is okay to live that way. Even Africans keeping to themselves like the whites only to get to their rooms and cry out of boredom. Because nothing can come close to true friendship, not Netflix not studies not work.

She should try to visit Naija every year. Spend at least two weeks greeting and gyrating with family and friends, chop suya and drink our cheap beer. Enter club and shake body, not all that Tecno electro music.

laivwire:
■ I feel sorry for her. It's so bad especially when you're coming from a socially vibrant place like Nigeria. The western culture is so isolated. Hello, Hi and that's all. Anyone you take as a friend is just for drinks/party o, if you assume any other type of attachment, you're on your own except it's your nuclear family.
■ What I don't understand is why people act like it is okay to live that way. Even Africans keeping to themselves like the whites only to get to their rooms and cry out of boredom. Because nothing can come close to true friendship, not Netflix not studies not work. She should try to visit Naija every year. Spend at least two weeks greeting and gyrating with family and friends, chop suya and drink our cheap beer. Enter club and shake body, not all that Tecno electro music.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop lying! Nothing like isolation in western culture. The problem is instead that many of us aren't as social as we always claim to be. Nigerians and other Africans simple have a hard time mingling with people from other cultures and countries. Go anywhere here and you find them all needing to hurdle together to socialize. The few that are able to break free of that problem enjoy the west as much as they want to.

2. She is keeping to herself because she is having a hard time opening up and mingling with others as they are. This is typical here with Africans.

laivwire:
■ I agree with you. I won't agree I'm lying though, we just see this issue from different perspectives.

freddie009:
■ Abroad is all about work work and work. Western world people mind their business.
■ People are usually advised to have a serious relationship before traveling because it is lonely out there. One thing about girls outside Nigeria, they can form. They don't read their DMs.

Unittyy:
The lady should socialize and mingle with people

Kobojunkie:
You lied about western culture being isolated. It is far from that. The problem is the African upbringing does not readily train people to mingle easily with people from other cultures and races. Yes, there is a racist aspect to the average Nigerian that hinders socialization with people of other nations and races. And that is highly likely why this woman, though surrounded by so many people, believes she has to cry in silence and alone.

kinkymax:
■ This silly girl will have many naija guys over there in Canada asking for her attention o or number but she won’t acknowledge those guys … they will be looking for oyinbo wey no send them…na that loneliness go wound u ode

laivwire:
■ While it may not be so isolated, it is not as liberal as you describe.
■ It's part of the culture shock on how everyone stands for themselves even if you're so open and social.
■ The fault is not entirely on her. I believe you may have friends from tier races but I won't believe you bond as easily as you would with Nigerians in Nigeria.

CJStarz:
Let her join Nairaland. By d time she join us for the gbas gbos wey dey go on here,no be person go tell d spirit of loneliness to leave her waka

She even fit find a husband here sef 🤣
TMKSouth,U dey single,ba?

Kobojunkie:
Was she forced to go live in Canada by anyone? Canada is not the problem since there are so many who live there and have lives. She needs to cut her coat if she has to... get herself the break she needs before she breaks down completely.

Taich:
■ When someone is in pains and obviously you don't understand her pains, try to be humane, just a listening ear can comfort her and we will have one less problem in the world.

TMKsouth:


💩

Bostin:
■ No more cheap attention , nobody send you in there .

Unittyy:
The lady should socialize and mingle with people

Yusufisraelj:
■ My brother e no easy as you day talk am, I find it hard to socialize, will definitely have too now, because I recently learnt that loneliness is deadly and kills faster that some disease.
Singleness no be good thing for long, honestly.

Kobojunkie:
You are not alone. Many Nigerians experience the very same problem because they are used to socializing only with other Nigerians and not others..

Yusufisraelj:
■ Yeah, I was thinking about it recently, there's no good dating site where you can just go there and get someone genuine, it's mostly people looking for paid sex on the flip side meeting someone on the street comes with its own risks as well.
■ I think cultural differences plays a role for regions outside Nigeria.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop lying! Nothing like isolation in western culture. The problem is instead that many of us aren't as social as we always claim to be. Nigerians and other Africans simple have a hard time mingling with people from other cultures and countries. Go anywhere here and you find them all needing to hurdle together to socialize. The few that are able to break free of that problem enjoy the west as much as they want to.

2. She is keeping to herself because she is having a hard time opening up and mingling with others as they are. This is typical here with Africans.

Kobojunkie:
Because you make it all about work, work, work!

The reason you have a hard time finding relationships here has a lot to do with the racist undertone to your upbringing. If not, there is no reason why you would not be able to find yourself a mate anywhere you go on this planet.

checkmatez:
Okay no problem
When you dey come back?

Help me ask am

Kobojunkie:
You say that as though back in Nigeria what many define as relationship is not almost entirely about the sex as well, and hook up culture has not almost always been celebrated down there as well.

2. I don't think it has much to do with cultural differences but the confusion most experience when they come here thinking themselves superior while much of what they complain of is exactly that celebrated by in Nigeria by many.

freddie009:
■ lol, numbers don't lie bro., find out from diaspora brothers and sister how easy it is to find a partner.
■ I have over 30+ course mates who relocated out of the country. They either got married before travelling or came back to Nigeria to get married, only 5 got married over there. The five of them got married to Nigerian women.