I talk to many women who don't understand what brought their relationships to the point where they need therapy. After all, they 'never argue with their husbands'. Well, of course it sends up a huge, waving red flag. If you NEVER disagree, you're probably not being honest, or worse, you're not saying anything.

Relational silence. It's annoying for you and your partner, because usually when you reach a point of silence - or closure - and you just don't want to engage with your partner in any meaningful communicative way...you have a big problem and it could be headed for a breakup or separation.

How do I know we are silent?
You know your relationship is suffering from silence when you haven't debated anything with your partner in the past few months—in fact, you haven't had an interesting conversation about anything that matters to either of you in the past few months. months or weeks. You have disconnected. And either you or he initiated the silence in an effort to stop having to deal with judgments, criticism, and other negative conversation killers.

Why is it such a poison?
When there is a healthy debate or even a heated argument in a relationship, it means that both people are trying to make their voices heard. They are trying to get their points across. They try to convince their partners of something or to convince themselves. However you divide it - opinions are on the table and you both know where the other stands. With silence, no one knows where the other stands. There is a lot of arguing and assuming because no one is heard. And we all know where that can lead.

what can i do about it
Relational silence is easily treated. Just start talking. The biggest hurdle is for someone to take the first step. The second is to begin to understand why the two of you closed. What was your last big fight? And what was said? And if the silence has gone beyond the point where anyone has taken the first leap of faith – you may need an impartial person like a mediator, religious leader or therapist to help you through this.

Quick Tip: If you're afraid to talk to your partner because of what their reaction might be - ask yourself "what am I afraid of?" What would be the worst case scenario if I asked to be interviewed? Do I trust my partner not to judge me, berate me, or leave me when I speak up?
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Am naturally I silent guy I don't know how to stay long in a conversation. The things I say though are not just for conversation sake I say things needed to be said and once I've driven home my points that's the end of the conversation.i hate beating around the bush,I hate fabricating tales although I like listening to fabricated tales to while away time So conclusively my partner has to talkative,I mean very talkative if we have to be together.

I'm usually silent when I'm angry... I can't shout and if I attempt to speak when I'm angry, I'm gonna say harsh things that I might end up regretting.

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Usually silent when I feel we aren’t on the same page or our views of life don’t align.

What point is there talking to someone who has no opinion from personal experience, but almost all of their opinions are based on what people think or say?

Unintelligent people turn me off.
I no know, so I want someone who knows.

Omo so dollars na 1200 to naira ona nor protest , as na Yoruba person be president everywhere m quiet if na good luck ona nor go let us hear word

silence speaks when words can't

Sometimes silence is good because words can't be recalled

Also state how too much talk can causes see finish.

Apt.

Relationships have too many hurdles. Both genders are confused. Date a person while keeping in mind the union has a shelf life.

Anytime I have an argument with my lover lover & I decide to tow the silence part, konji always sets my head correct. I will say I won't apologize she's wrong but laslas after 2 or more hours, na me go still go pet her. She kuku stubborn ehn. She won't talk too ooo but the vexing will be much. Don't touch me, don't come near me, she fit pour extra pepper into food sef omoh but laslas na me dey pet her last & induce subtle apology. The elders wey talk say konji na bastard no lie.

Well said …

I rather be single than to be with someone that will activate my silence mood in the name of keelationship

Communication keeps relationship healthy

As a prophet, I endorse this post.

This I have seen.

When we go deep into silence, we experience a form of communication without thoughts. This is when all the questions in one’s mind disappear. The highest intelligence within starts speaking. If one could only be totally in silence and eliminate all the noises of the mind, that intelligence will never fail to reveal the best solution even to the most critical problems.

ItisWell22:
Usually silent when I feel we aren’t on the same page or our views of life don’t align.

What point is there talking to someone who has no opinion from personal experience, but almost all of their opinions are based on what people think or say?

Unintelligent people turn me off.
I no know, so I want someone who knows.

Post is talking about a guy u have relationship with and not just random people.


Wen u choose to go into relationship/marriage with a guy in which u re not in same page, just know u re heading towards single motherhood.

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While I agree on most of the statements there, I don't agree on the part of heated arguments being healthy.

Heated arguments often lead to fights. I'm in a healthy relationship with my wife and for the 11 years that we've been in relationship I can't remember ever having a heated argument with my wife. In fact, while we do disagree on a few things once in a while, we hardly get into arguments.

We express ourselves maturely. Even when displeased, we don't raise our voice.

Naso

There is a time for everything, and extremes are not helpful. There is a time for slience and a time for speaking. What happens if one person wants to always speak all the time, then the other may not be heard and what hapens when a person is silent all the time, he may not be understood and may not realise certain things.

The worst thing you can do to anyone is silence, totally ignoring the person, Omo you fit cry if someone that matters to you ignores you and yeah i understand. I only talk when i'm comfortable around you.
It is bad to ignore people but it's nice to do when you angry and trust me when you ignore someone to a certain level, the person would run away because he or she don't know what you planning. I fear silent people more, most of them are mean.

How many Nigerians are actually in a relationship? And by relationship, I mean true friendship.

A lot of people are single simply because they don't have a job. Once they do, that's when one stupid girl with scabies in her pvssy will start greeting him on his way to work or back. After 3-4wks, the guy will now approach and boom, relationship don start. But can we say that's a relationship?

Na transaction we de do for Nigeria

Give me your big nyash make I fvck make I give you urgent 2k

Despite the fact that their bodies is littered with infections and diseases, Nigerian girls will still want to monetize it.

Meaning you're paying to get disease

God abeg

A lot of people aren't conversant with the basic etiquettes of communication. Moreso, people only listen so they can respond rather than understand.

Thus, silence is a valid option... sort of a way out when the a simple conversation becomes an argument or a shouting match. Someone like me cant afford to waste valuable mental energy on unproductive conversations


What's tha business?

Silent maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fvck about what’s truly fvckworthy.

Always be silent when ever the need arises.

tega192:
Omo so dollars na 1200 to naira ona nor protest , as na Yoruba person be president everywhere m quiet if na good luck ona nor go let us hear word

what's stopping other tribes from protesting?

Some people can keep speaking without stopping, even with little feedback or inputs, its like they need to speak out till they are ready to sleep. I find that very disturbing or rather very distracting.

Repectful and healthy communication is good for the brain. There is time for everything.