nkolakacharles:
I talk to many women who don't understand what brought their relationships to the point where they need therapy. After all, they 'never argue with their husbands'. Well, of course it sends up a huge, waving red flag. If you NEVER disagree, you're probably not being honest, or worse, you're not saying anything.

Relational silence. It's annoying for you and your partner, because usually when you reach a point of silence - or closure - and you just don't want to engage with your partner in any meaningful communicative way...you have a big problem and it could be headed for a breakup or separation.

How do I know we are silent?
You know your relationship is suffering from silence when you haven't debated anything with your partner in the past few months—in fact, you haven't had an interesting conversation about anything that matters to either of you in the past few months. months or weeks. You have disconnected. And either you or he initiated the silence in an effort to stop having to deal with judgments, criticism, and other negative conversation killers.

Why is it such a poison?
When there is a healthy debate or even a heated argument in a relationship, it means that both people are trying to make their voices heard. They are trying to get their points across. They try to convince their partners of something or to convince themselves. However you divide it - opinions are on the table and you both know where the other stands. With silence, no one knows where the other stands. There is a lot of arguing and assuming because no one is heard. And we all know where that can lead.

what can i do about it
Relational silence is easily treated. Just start talking. The biggest hurdle is for someone to take the first step. The second is to begin to understand why the two of you closed. What was your last big fight? And what was said? And if the silence has gone beyond the point where anyone has taken the first leap of faith – you may need an impartial person like a mediator, religious leader or therapist to help you through this.

Quick Tip: If you're afraid to talk to your partner because of what their reaction might be - ask yourself "what am I afraid of?" What would be the worst case scenario if I asked to be interviewed? Do I trust my partner not to judge me, berate me, or leave me when I speak up?
Read lots of relationship tips at https://the10topdatingsites.com/

nkolakacharles:
I talk to many women who don't understand what brought their relationships to the point where they need therapy. After all, they 'never argue with their husbands'. Well, of course it sends up a huge, waving red flag. If you NEVER disagree, you're probably not being honest, or worse, you're not saying anything.

Relational silence. It's annoying for you and your partner, because usually when you reach a point of silence - or closure - and you just don't want to engage with your partner in any meaningful communicative way...you have a big problem and it could be headed for a breakup or separation.

How do I know we are silent?
You know your relationship is suffering from silence when you haven't debated anything with your partner in the past few months—in fact, you haven't had an interesting conversation about anything that matters to either of you in the past few months. months or weeks. You have disconnected. And either you or he initiated the silence in an effort to stop having to deal with judgments, criticism, and other negative conversation killers.

Why is it such a poison?
When there is a healthy debate or even a heated argument in a relationship, it means that both people are trying to make their voices heard. They are trying to get their points across. They try to convince their partners of something or to convince themselves. However you divide it - opinions are on the table and you both know where the other stands. With silence, no one knows where the other stands. There is a lot of arguing and assuming because no one is heard. And we all know where that can lead.

what can i do about it
Relational silence is easily treated. Just start talking. The biggest hurdle is for someone to take the first step. The second is to begin to understand why the two of you closed. What was your last big fight? And what was said? And if the silence has gone beyond the point where anyone has taken the first leap of faith – you may need an impartial person like a mediator, religious leader or therapist to help you through this.

Quick Tip: If you're afraid to talk to your partner because of what their reaction might be - ask yourself "what am I afraid of?" What would be the worst case scenario if I asked to be interviewed? Do I trust my partner not to judge me, berate me, or leave me when I speak up?
Read lots of relationship tips at https://the10topdatingsites.com/

Samantha124:
I'm usually silent when I'm angry... I can't shout and if I attempt to speak when I'm angry, I'm gonna say harsh things that I might end up regretting.

24dro:
The worst thing you can do to anyone is silence, totally ignoring the person, Omo you fit cry if someone that matters to you ignores you and yeah i understand. I only talk when i'm comfortable around you.
It is bad to ignore people but it's nice to do when you angry and trust me when you ignore someone to a certain level, the person would run away because he or she don't know what you planning. I fear silent people more, most of them are mean.

highchief1:
me I no sabi address issues sha.if u misbehave I go Dey look u.I don’t talk my countenance towards u will show u weda I’m happy with u or sad

4KNGOATS:
Am naturally I silent guy I don't know how to stay long in a conversation. The things I say though are not just for conversation sake I say things needed to be said and once I've driven home my points that's the end of the conversation.i hate beating around the bush,I hate fabricating tales although I like listening to fabricated tales to while away time So conclusively my partner has to talkative,I mean very talkative if we have to be together.

syntekelite:


The right word you were looking for is silent people are calculating and deep it has nothing to do with being mean cos even happy good talkative people can be mean

phemmyfour:
That's the way it should be. A man should be a man of few words. Only talk when it's necessary and your partner will come to understand that you're not a parrot.

SeriouslySense:
Some people can keep speaking without stopping, even with little feedback or inputs, its like they need to speak out till they are ready to sleep. I find that very disturbing or rather very distracting.

Repectful and healthy communication is good for the brain. There is time for everything.

Fiscus105:

Post is talking about a guy u have relationship with and not just random people.

Wen u choose to go into relationship/marriage with a guy in which u re not in same page, just know u re heading towards single motherhood.

nkolakacharles:
I talk to many women who don't understand what brought their relationships to the point where they need therapy. After all, they 'never argue with their husbands'. Well, of course it sends up a huge, waving red flag. If you NEVER disagree, you're probably not being honest, or worse, you're not saying anything.

Relational silence. It's annoying for you and your partner, because usually when you reach a point of silence - or closure - and you just don't want to engage with your partner in any meaningful communicative way...you have a big problem and it could be headed for a breakup or separation.

How do I know we are silent?
You know your relationship is suffering from silence when you haven't debated anything with your partner in the past few months—in fact, you haven't had an interesting conversation about anything that matters to either of you in the past few months. months or weeks. You have disconnected. And either you or he initiated the silence in an effort to stop having to deal with judgments, criticism, and other negative conversation killers.

Why is it such a poison?
When there is a healthy debate or even a heated argument in a relationship, it means that both people are trying to make their voices heard. They are trying to get their points across. They try to convince their partners of something or to convince themselves. However you divide it - opinions are on the table and you both know where the other stands. With silence, no one knows where the other stands. There is a lot of arguing and assuming because no one is heard. And we all know where that can lead.

what can i do about it
Relational silence is easily treated. Just start talking. The biggest hurdle is for someone to take the first step. The second is to begin to understand why the two of you closed. What was your last big fight? And what was said? And if the silence has gone beyond the point where anyone has taken the first leap of faith – you may need an impartial person like a mediator, religious leader or therapist to help you through this.

Quick Tip: If you're afraid to talk to your partner because of what their reaction might be - ask yourself "what am I afraid of?" What would be the worst case scenario if I asked to be interviewed? Do I trust my partner not to judge me, berate me, or leave me when I speak up?
Read lots of relationship tips at https://the10topdatingsites.com/

tega192:
Omo so dollars na 1200 to naira ona nor protest , as na Yoruba person be president everywhere m quiet if na good luck ona nor go let us hear word

tega192:

Omo so dollars na 1200 to naira ona nor protest , as na Yoruba person be president everywhere m quiet if na good luck ona nor go let us hear word

nairamaniac:


Most silent people are cowards and gossips.
Cos those things they don't tell you, would be told by them to third and forth-parties.



Better believe this and know peace.

They are gossips and backstabbers.

They always want to wait for the perfect climax of the issue to express themselves.
When they don't eventually get that climax, they deliberately create the climax.

Some men actually think being More-mean brings them more respect and fear from their partners&friends.

It's just really silly and eventually self-deceiving.

I'm talking from high experience of being at the receiving end in few occasions.

nairamaniac:


For a guy that's a very girly and bitchy thing to do.
Meaning "you would be CARRYING FACE".
Or expelling NEGATIVE ENERGY to your surrounding.

As a man, you should only put up the angry face for the very day/moment the issue occurred.

Doesn't mean you should force smiles. But address other matters that a necessary without bitchy-attitude or carried-over aggressions.

highchief1:
im not sure I carry face.for example you may not just see me again.I’m very lazy when it comes to talking.I also believe everybody know what they are doing.you that messed me up so you did it so I’ll come and be talking plenty talk.carry ur wahala go I don’t have time.that’s my way of life.Cureently I don’t think I have enemies.just doing my thg.I can be called an introvert

talk2hb1:


I guess you are not good at listening to people, how will they express themselves to others but not you?

Quiet People are not Silent to begin with, quiet people express their opinions it’s just that you are not listening to them. When you are not being listen to what do you do, you go silent till when they are ready to listen to you!

maureensylvia:
Communication keeps relationship healthy

4KNGOATS:
Am naturally I silent guy I don't know how to stay long in a conversation. The things I say though are not just for conversation sake I say things needed to be said and once I've driven home my points that's the end of the conversation.i hate beating around the bush,I hate fabricating tales although I like listening to fabricated tales to while away time So conclusively my partner has to talkative,I mean very talkative if we have to be together.

ATEAMS:
Also state how too much talk can causes see finish.

nairamaniac:


Anyone can easily do these things you say here to a passerby or someone you are not building a future with.


If someone unknown slaps me from a moving bus, I doubt I would think beyond that very day about the incident.

But if it's someone you are sharing a future with, a family with, money with, love with, I doubt your proffer solution of "carry your wahala go", albeit in silence would be your reaction.

highchief1:
I understand you.ppl are bad you will deliberately hurt someone and be expecting them to come and be settling issues.I just leave you to your conscience that if u have any.Most of the time people who hurt me they come back and apologize without me even complaining.

Persephone1:


A very great and insightful write-up... This week is going to be great 😃.

Lol ... I'm guilty of this though, keeping quiet. I don't like confrontations or repetition, I'm an advocate for good communication but when it yields nothing I keep quiet and the truth is for every moment I keep quiet when I ought to speak or point out something I lose interest.

I'm definitely going to work on this.

YourGFsnatcher:

Why do you sound like my gf. Because this is what we just finished fighting over and this is what she said. Are you my gf?

I wasn't snatched

Persephone1:


I wasn't snatched