I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

If this guy is your only friend…

Then just take it that you no get friend.

You are friendless like this!

Some people are like that. He is not your friend and you never knew. Not everyone that is close to you is your friend.

Moreover, do not expect too much from people.

Like I keep telling people around me, I don’t have friends.

Smile, celebrate with him and move on.

Only Jesus is yr friend.

It's one thing to see someone as a friend, but for that person to see you as a friend is another thing.

Dude was using you and silently saw you as a competition. Run as far away as possible from people like that.

Men and their stupid entitleMENt MENtality

Ihave seen people build houses or even leave the country without their parents knowing


Yaro you are just a friend!! Get that into your shallow brain

So you fed him... Must we know.. Ubanka


Atleast he invited you.. You should be grateful..

Mak u too do ur own no tell am
What matters most is progress

Candidlady:
Men and their stupid entitleMENt MENtality

Ihave seen people build houses or even leave the country without their parents knowing


Yaro you are just a friend!! Get that into your shallow brain

So you fed him... Must we know.. Ubanka


Atleast he invited you.. You should be grateful..

Just because people do certain things…

Don’t make it right. How can any sane person travel out of the country without their parents knowledge- if they are in good terms?

If na you wear the shoe how you go feel?

And na women Dey feel emotional about these things pass o.!

It is called ENVY.

Congratulate him and move on. Friendship doesn't mean you own the person or have the right to know everything about the person. Does the guy know everything about you? Free the guy joor.

If I were you and he's better than me, na to beg him to show me the way.

Nebes:
It is called ENVY.

Congratulate him and move on. Friendship doesn't mean you own the person or have the right to know everything about the person. Does the guy know everything about you? Free the guy joor.

If I were you and he's better than me, na to beg him to show me the way.

I understand where you are coming from, but you know it takes some months to build a house and during these periods of time, the acclaimed friend of the OP would have been dining and wining with the OP without telling him that he's building a house. He intentionally kept it secret from the OP.

Personally I don't see any sense in it. Telling the OP will not stop him from building his house, why then keep it a secret from him?

Jones90:


I understand where you are coming from, but you know it takes some months to build a house and during these periods of time, the acclaimed friend of the OP would have been dining and wining with the OP without telling him that he's building a house. He intentionally kept it secret from the OP.

Personally I don't see any sense in it. Telling the OP will not stop him from building his house, why then keep it secret from him?

no one Should see any issue with this except you got bad motives! You can’t really say if this OP is a good person or a devil Only God see us!! wives wey dy follow person sleep wake up don kill all der husbands for Benin lol na dem be landlady talkless of a frie

Jones90:


I understand where you are coming from, but you know it takes some months to build a house and during these periods of time, the acclaimed friend of the OP would have been dining and wining with the OP without telling him that he's building a house. He intentionally kept it secret from the OP.

Personally I don't see any sense in it. Telling the OP will not stop him from building his house, why then keep it secret from him?

Will not stop what!!!!

.....Sigma Rule.....
Rule Number 1; Don't trust Anybody
Rules Number 2: Follow Rule Number 1

For Op to Broadcast what is friend did here shows the reason why is friend dont want to tell him.
Your best friend may be your greatest enemy. We have see many news of people been killed or disappointed for putting trust in their love ones.
As long as you are not hurting anyone or killing anyone. Do your shit and don't care about what anybody say.... Op friend is my type..... you can avoid some experience by learning from those that have experience it..

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.
It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

And u are still calling that guy ur friend.


Hmm!

ojun50:
Like I keep telling people around me, I don’t have friends.

Smile, celebrate with him and move on.

Only Jesus is yr friend.

We have the same believe, I tell people around me that I don't keep friends

You have absolutely no right to know everything about your friend, and the fact that he didn't tell you does not mean he is a bad friend. If he is a bad friend he would have hurt you one way or the other in the past and wouldn't even invite you to his house opening.

Friendship is in categories. He may not have considered you as a very close friend, but sees you as just a friend. Or he may have felt that his building plans was something which only his close family members should know

Candidlady:
Men and their stupid entitleMENt MENtality

Ihave seen people build houses or even leave the country without their parents knowing


Yaro you are just a friend!! Get that into your shallow brain

So you fed him... Must we know.. Ubanka


Atleast he invited you.. You should be grateful..

The future is Ubanka

#op build urs to surprise him too shikina

Jones90:


I understand where you are coming from, but you know it takes some months to build a house and during these periods of time, the acclaimed friend of the OP would have been dining and wining with the OP without telling him that he's building a house. He intentionally kept it secret from the OP.

Personally I don't see any sense in it. Telling the OP will not stop him from building his house, why then keep it secret from him?

You don't know this OP oh!
There may be something about him that made his friend to seal such a secret. For the OP to be feeling the way he is feeling now says a lot about him.
Don't underestimate the power of envy. It can mount roadblocks for the envied.

So because he is your friend, he shouldn't keep some things to himself?

Don't expect much from people. Just be happy with him and move on. Learn to keep some details to yourself.

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently.. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.
It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Cut him off.

Such a person can know something that will be helpful to you, and not tell you.

Be happy for him and congratulate him. Not everyone tell their friends about everything. Sometimes, it's best to keep things to yourself until it matures.. Na so life be.

brain54:

If this guy is your only friend…

Then just take it that you no get friend.

You are friendless like this!

I concur with this.
After the housewarming..
Just stay away...
If dem say u be hater....
Let them talk

yeyebrity:
Dude was using you and silently saw you as a competition. Run as far away as possible from people like that.

I won't be surprised he built the house to prove a point to u say u na DaRocha.
Who can't minimize money to build a house or another if u already have got 1....

LilMissFavvy:
You have absolutely no right to know everything about your friend, and the fact that he didn't tell you does not mean he is a bad friend. If he is a bad friend he would have hurt you one way or the other in the past and wouldn't even invite you to his house opening.

Friendship is in categories. He may not have considered you as a very close friend, but sees you as just a friend. Or he may have felt that his building plans was something which only his close family members should know

And this is why the op is hurting.
He took this guy as a brother and had no secrets with him.

Let’s all be realistic and stop all this stoicism; it’s painful.

If op had seen the guy as just another of his guys, e for no pain am.
But he took this guy as a brother and hid nothing from him.
Why should he hide such huge leap from op?
So op doesn’t wake up from his slumber if he probably hasn’t built his own house?
Then he isn’t a good friend.

Op, learn your lesson and move.
He was never a friend.
Or probably, never valued you as much as you valued him.

Reason why I just expect nothing from no one and expect everyone to disappoint me; ahead, ahead…

Nebes:


You don't know this OP oh!
There may be something about him that made his friend to seal such a secret. For the OP to be feeling the way he is feeling now says a lot about him.
Don't underestimate the power of envy. It can mount roadblocks for the envied.

I'm telling you bro....this one OP is ranting up and down here.
Imagine the said guy would have told him about these, things are happening Even ourselves can't be trusted talkless of a fellow Human.

Abeg! He should tell you and you would discourage him or reap him off

Love all trust NONE is the motor in Nigeria
Even family fit run you street gan

Nebes:


You don't know this OP oh!
There may be something about him that made his friend to seal such a secret. For the OP to be feeling the way he is feeling now says a lot about him.
Don't underestimate the power of envy. It can mount roadblocks for the envied.

If so be the case, why didn't the person cut off his friendship with OP instead of pretending to be his best friend?

He has a right to see OP as a close friend or distant friend. The OP also has a right to see him as close or distant friend. It is not compulsory to disclose everything about us to friends. Its very wrong for people to tell the OP to end the friendship even when the guy has not done anything that's really bad. He can go ahead and end the friendship if he wishes, it's his life anywa.

ItisWell22:


And this is why the op is hurting.
He took this guy as a brother and had no secrets with him.

Let’s all be realistic and stop all this stoicism; it’s painful.

If op had seen the guy as just another of his guys, e for no pain am.
But he took this guy as a brother and hid nothing from him.
Why should he hide such huge leap from op?
So op doesn’t wake up from his slumber if he probably hasn’t built his own house?
Then he isn’t a good friend.

Op, learn your lesson and move.
He was never a friend.
Or probably, never valued you as much as you valued him.

Reason why I just expect nothing from no one and expect everyone to disappoint me; ahead, ahead…

The OP is right to feel betrayed. What stops the so called friend from telling him. If the friend really values him.

Personally, I don't call anybody "Friend" until I have seen some level of commitment and trust in the friendship.

OP, just congratulate him and move on. You guys can still be friends but don't let him in on everything going on with you again.

That's your enemy right there, not a friend. A friend that could keep such secret from you even when you've been nice to him not worthy to be call a friend. The same thing happened to me a year ago, imagine my close friend travelled outta country without letting me know. We even went to bar a day before he travelled. A friend of about 17years. Common.