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Re: Closed thread by fyzaila: 4:22pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
Acidosis: Yes part of it. And northerners especially hausas don't joke with their culture. Anything that will separate them from their culture, they'll better do away with that thing. So going abroad to base there doesn't move them but they go for vacation, shopping and all that. |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 4:31pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
Mhizzard: I did everything, this my first issue and been that I have not gone through that route I seek advice |
Re: Closed thread by SUPERPACK: 4:32pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
Acidosis:Feel free to say whatever you want, kid. I am too busy for this, let's just agree to disagree |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 4:40pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
Wujio: Good thought, I will call the mother and tell her this to hear from her |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 4:46pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
mexxy1: Even if I should allow her travel and deliver with them, I will still be the one to foot all the bills both before and after delivery |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 4:48pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
Acidosis: I think the first should be the case because the father keep asking me the hospital I went to and all that Besides its in government hospital in Abuja |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 4:50pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
fyzaila: Which pocket, I will still be the one to foot all the bills which might be inflated 2 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by Kobojunkie: 4:50pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3:You say your in-laws said, but what is your own wife saying? Are you able to be there to help your wife through it and afterward? Or are you of the mind that she can do it all by herself? 2. Why are you asking the house? Is the house married to your wife? You and your wife ought to come together to decide who will do what, when, and how. And whether it is best she goes stay with her parents or whatever. Why you dey ask strangers who know nothing of the capabilities of you and your wife in this? 2 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by Wujio: 4:54pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: I'm not your father plz. Stop treating your wife's family like enemies and sometimes see help as beneficial not acrimony |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 4:54pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: My wife prefers here but each time the parents father or mother they keep asking her to persuade to allow her come home and born. |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 4:56pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
Wujio: I'm not seeing anybody as enemy, I'm only asking to know the right thing to do |
Re: Closed thread by Kobojunkie: 5:00pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3:If your wife prefers to stay with you but her parents insist that you send her to them, then it means her parents do not respect her choice as an individual. Let your wife deal with her parents. 3 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by Esthered: 5:42pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3:I delivered with my husband in Benin but ran after 10 days to Lagos to be with my parents. E dey sweet you as it's your first but if na only 2 of you, it wouldn't be easy o. I was happy I left as I had enough support from family. There's a enough time to bond with the baby. |
Re: Closed thread by mexxy1(m): 5:45pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: Then you already have your answer. The child and mother are your responsibility so, they have to stay with you till she delivers. The mother can come stay to take care of her prior to the EDD and probably a few weeks after. But, if the nature of your job will not allow you be around her when she is due, it's advisable she has someone around for that period. This is YOUR FIRST CHILD and nobody should decide for you. |
Re: Closed thread by Esthered: 5:46pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3:If she has supportive hands around, it's fine for her to stay back. I had nobody to massage me with hot water, cook for me....I gave birth during Christmas period and had to do cooking which was very stressful for me. I hope she has done a critical review of the journey ahead and you're willing to take turns to nurse at night especially you the husband. If it's a boy child, colic is not for the faint hearted o. Let her go to them if you love your sleep and will be selecting tasks. As regards bills, if it's going to be a burden if she leaves, bring MIL over. I'm talking from the point of a working wife. 2 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by Justkatty(f): 8:54pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
I heard some culture practice it...that when it's time to give birth, she must go back to her family and deliver,then stays for few months, when it's time for her to go back, the husband brings things to the family to appreciate and goes back with the wife. Dear op it's a simple thing, just make sure she's not taken to all these native places to avoid complication. I believe it's just a matter of 3months, she'll be back to the house BUT ensure you visit often to ensure all is going well. I wish her safe delivery. |
Re: Closed thread by Hedgefunds: 10:00pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: Did you marry from EDO...seems it cultural. |
Re: Closed thread by Dogalmighty17: 10:10pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
OP, I'll tell you just one thing. STAND YOUR GROUND! You are the head of your home. You are the man of your house. F(u)ck any cultural rubbish your wife's family may be holding on to. Your decision supercedes all of that if at all where she comes from has those stupid cultural s(h)it. No one has the right to tell you where your wife should go and give birth. If you agree to this, your inlaws will rubbish you beyond what they have done already. Na see finish even dey make them tell you say your wife suppose come born for their place. STAND YOUR GROUND Mr. Man! And I'm telling you this as a man who has dealt with his in-laws when they overstepped their boundaries. Rubbish! 2 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by Pharaohny: 10:27pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
MS247: you for kuku marry her to yourself ngbano |
Re: Closed thread by Pharaohny: 10:32pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: you get time to explain to the fool 1 Like |
Re: Closed thread by Pharaohny: 10:36pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: Ok answer this question if you were to reside in another country , UK or US will they ask you to book a return flight all cos of unnecessary tradition, Secondly if there daughter were to be married to a white man will this tradition still hold? oyaaaa 3 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by MS247: 10:40pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
Pharaohny: You sef go soon born and God go give you girl No worry you go understand soon |
Re: Closed thread by frozen70(f): 11:04pm On Oct 29, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: I think if you are not comfortable with that kind of arrangements, Make plans for your mother inlaw to be there on or before delivery to assist her Some newly married men are looking for this kind of opportunity, just to assist the woman as a first time mom So it depends on your relationship with them |
Re: Closed thread by ChybuzzDD(m): 4:25am On Oct 30, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: Capital NO! 1 Like |
Re: Closed thread by ChybuzzDD(m): 4:29am On Oct 30, 2023 |
MS247: Explain what?? Is her father's house a hospital? You guys should stop encouraging this kind of stupidity and arrogance. |
Re: Closed thread by Acidosis(m): 6:05am On Oct 30, 2023 |
MS247: There is nothing to understand. Every married man deserves to experience and stand by his wife during the pregnancy journey. If complications ever arise, a medical practitioner will be the right person to visit. When married men are talking about their wife's experiences in pregnancy and child birth, na so you go close mouth like mu.mu because of weakness and see finish? 3 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 6:11am On Oct 30, 2023 |
Acidosis: Someone suggested my mother inlaw to come before delivery, I think I will go with that because allowing my wife to travel to east from Abuja is not something I can easily approved 1 Like |
Re: Closed thread by Acidosis(m): 6:13am On Oct 30, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: Good. It's very okay to invite her to come before delivery. 2 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by LithiumBa3: 6:13am On Oct 30, 2023 |
ChybuzzDD: Because of this I asked my wife if they have family doctor she said NO |
Re: Closed thread by ChybuzzDD(m): 7:25am On Oct 30, 2023 |
LithiumBa3: What they're doing is simply intimidation, most probably because they're richer than you. 2 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by ChybuzzDD(m): 7:30am On Oct 30, 2023 |
Justkatty: Op is not going to comply with that stupid culture. He has his own culture that requires his wife to deliver from her marital home, not her parents' home. 2 Likes |
Re: Closed thread by Justkatty(f): 10:18am On Oct 30, 2023 |
ChybuzzDD:His choice not ours. |
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