swaqq:
Go for dna bro. The 15k fit still later reduce to 10k or 5k

slimjohn2k5:
15k monthly?
For children, not child?
In this economy?
You are the problem in the marriage not ur wife.
You either increase the money or hustle more

U can add to it, request for his children account

Not everyone is rich like u

Stevenbright:


You would have clarify it in your main post. But still, if you have more, you can make it bigger than the 15K because things are expensive now.

Although, I know you are trying to make it tight to ensure she doesn't have extra to spend on herself.

That 15k can't take care of food for three children only excluding the wife for a week not to talk of a month!

ahnie:
No arse to lick today?
Who nor know you for diary section?
Coward!
Worry not very soon I would give you some resounding slaps.

Now switch to your other moniker and continue the trolling. P.I.G.

kevwemike:
bros u try, in my own case i collect my children, and I have been the one taking good care of them bços my x wife vow to mk my life miserable but now I have move on and I and my 2 children we have great peace

Better than that miserly amount he is mentioning.

You made the right decision, except that 15k is not enough to feed a child for one week let alone feed "children" and their mum for one month.

spencekat:
Thank you bro

It's bullsheet when they try to shift the whole welfare of the children to the man. The mother is alive and I see no reason why she should not contribute her own too(since the kids are with her), but no! The man should work all round the clock and drop money while the mother can live fat on it.

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

15k every month or every week?

Even every week is almost nothing compare to the situation at home.

being:


I think d devil wants to destroy your life, your marriage. And you also know you have taken very seriously wrong decisions before which at the time you thought was right.. I think this is another wrong decision. REBUKE those evil dreams, they will stop. The devil is playing píng pong with u. Don't become game for him

Hey man.....leave religion out of failed marriage, you will be the first to blame them should they eventually kill themselves. I thought you would have adviced him to increase the 15k upkeep for his children and not sermon that will amount to nothing. If you feel your marriage is not working, leave it and move on, instead of ending up in the grave or prison. The devil in failed marriages is uncontrolled temper and ego.

Take the floor... Ventriloquist arse licker..

Nlanalyst:

Now switch to your other moniker and continue the trolling. P.I.G.

Mugu...oya entertain us.
Lolxx

We go gather slap you for diary section.

Stupid small boy.
Take the floor!

I wanted to contribute but when I say 15k monthly I'm just speechless. Op are you sure you are not the problem in your marriage?

kevwemike:
bros u try, in my own case i collect my children, and I have been the one taking good care of them bços my x wife vow to mk my life miserable but now I have move on and I and my 2 children we have great peace

How did you pull this without a fight

smasher1:


That 15k can't take care of food for three children only excluding the wife for a week not to talk of a month!

Is the wife Lame?? Can't she also raise 15k? The man is literally taking over a huge part of the bills(rent,school and light bill). The wife/mother should be able to pull her own part too. Let her bring her own 15k too and support the family.

The kids belong to the both of them, not the man alone

15k monthly
OP is clearly not able to provide for his family, and the wife is giving him hell, because he couldn't pay school fees, house rent and feeding.
He has chosen the path of a coward to escape his responsibility.
Thank God he didn't choose suicide, op work harder and see if you can increase the money you send to your family.
Seems your wife is earning more than you, that should be a challenge .

I saw whr you wrote a stepdaughter,it means she have a child for someone else before you marry her or my eye Is paining me ?
Bros you don fxck up na ..... What bring you go marry such a person?

If you are truthful about your write up and sure u were not the cause of your marital challenges. I am indeed very sorry for you, this age marriages are facing very huge temptations and Satan is always very happy when marriages break and children divorced of marriages are littered every where without proper guidance and direction. If you can be a bit patient and don't leave your house for any woman or abandon your kids because of one irresponsible wife or husband, trust you understand why I added husband in my statement. For the sake of ur kids, just find a way to be happy and engage in some activities that will give you joy. Ignore her ill behaviour and try to be a man and father for your kids. I ve been in your shone for over ten years but I can tell you today I am happy I stayed and in my next wife I will wish to marry my wife. She is just a beautiful soul. I ve overgrown her shortcomings but always see her strength and those area she is a wonderful and virtuous woman. If you tarry with hope, faith and submission to the will of God who hates divorce. I promise you, you will leave to testify. Thanks

OSDD:
Shey the mother is handicapped or what?? He'll be paying house rent and school fess, and other bills, and still add 15k.. but Chinedu,osas and kunle who are still living under their parents house are complaining that the money is too small.


The mother of those kids can't work too??

I laughed out loud when someone up there called women "assistant devils" . Look, the problem in our society is illiteracy and too many illiterates calling themselves pastors. OP entered into a marriage where his wife already had a child. And they made another child, all good and fine. A third came about 2 months ago.

That makes 3 children. 3, because you cannot discriminate against the child she brought into the marriage. Ordinarily, both parties should know from an assessment of their combined income that they cannot afford to raise 3 children until their financial situation improves.

Illiteracy does not allow for critical thinking, and your pastors cloud your minds with messages of hope and renewal, thus depriving people of a rendezvous with the realities of their existence.

Many of our women still see marriage as an escape into laziness. They have forgotten that they are young and married to an ordinary, struggling man, and are therefore reasonably expected to be part of their family's support structure. Our grandmothers did not feel so entitled and docile. The reason our parents were raised in mostly intact households.

15K for gala? abi agbado? in this Tinubu regime? are you mad?

bdrefessy:
I saw whr you wrote a stepdaughter,it means she have a child for someone else before you marry her or my eye Is paining me ?
Bros you don fxck up na ..... What bring you go marry such a person?

Love don choke am na.... everything don clear, and to even think he'll be providing for the step daughter too(paying her school fees,rent and even sending 5k for her feeding)

He don shoulder responsibility wey pass e own

Handsomejok:



Yes for 3 children aside from the 15k I will also be paying their rent, school fees for 2 children one is my stepdaughter plus Nepa bills I don't think that 15k is small

if you are paying house rent, school fees for your own children then 15k is not bad at all. weldine boss... stay strong

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

Yes, nice decision on your part, that's if you are also not guilty of the same character she exhibit. We only heard from you alone.

But I taught I heard Children? Do you think 15k will do anything in a month for one child let alone children? 15k is way too small. You should be talking of 40k to 100k in a month, and what about their School fees? You think separation is easy?

Skyview01:
15k monthly, for what!

Is it for eba, ewa or agbado?

Anyway showing responsibility is better than none.

The children education is not part of it. Won't they go to school?
What of health care?

Op didn't even say the change he's asking for.
Even Buhari no gree give Nigerians change.

nedman77:
15K for gala? abi agbado? in this Tinubu regime? are you mad?

he is paying their school fees, house rent and light bills 100% 15k is ok.

ottersberger:


I laughed out loud when someone up there called women "assistant devils" . Look, the problem in our society is illiteracy and too many illiterates calling themselves pastors. OP entered into a marriage where his wife already had a child. And they made another child, all good and fine. A third came about 2 months ago.

That makes 3 children. 3, because you cannot discriminate against the child she brought into the marriage. Ordinarily, both parties should know from an assessment of their combined income that they cannot afford to raise 3 children until their financial situation improves.

Illiteracy does not allow for critical thinking, and your pastors cloud your minds with messages of hope and renewal, thus depriving people of a rendezvous with the realities of their existence.

Many of our women still see marriage as an escape into laziness. They have forgotten that they are young and married to an ordinary, struggling man, and are therefore reasonably expected to be part of their family's support structure. Our grandmothers did not feel so entitled and docile. The reason our parents were raised in mostly intact households.

I'm even surprised at those commenting that the 15k is too small, considering the fact that the man has said he will foot every other bills. No one is even saying anything about the mother working or doing something to help the family.

Assistant devil is an understatement, more like devil's successor. Oh well, there are soo many things wrong with an average Nigerian; illiteracy and religion are ontop of that list

Skyview01:
15k monthly, for what!

Good question. 15k that cannot comfortably take a single person for a week.

Skyview01:
15k monthly, for what!

For cassava, garri, ewa and dodooo..

The most important thing is that he is Tired of marriage.And he made right decision to move on.

The only problem is 15k bfida increase it to 40k so u know they will leave well or better still u give her 15k and buy food 4 hus and pay fees and enjoy while u check on them.

Never force tired people to remain in marriage or you may see that poison or brutally in action..

Isobug:

Yes, nice decision on your part, that's if you are also not guilty of the same character she exhibit. We only heard from you alone.

But I taught I heard Children? Do you think 15k will do anything in a month for one child let alone children? 15k is way too small. You should be talking of 40k to 100k in a month, and what about their School fees? You think separation is easy?

You clearly didn't read the ops post well and his subsequent replies, he'll be paying the house rent, school fees(even for his step daughter) and light bill. Hasn't he done enough?...

LadyG05:



You must be a wicked man to think that 15k for 2 kids is sufficient a month. Even if you stock the house with foodstuffs, there is no where 50k will be sufficient.


You expect this woman to feed each child with #250 daily ( morning, afternoon and night)

You said one of the children is not yours so her mom should fend for her.


If you continue in this wickedness, Go.d will send help to them but your end will be miserable.

Did you ask how much is his salary or profits in a month? Abi you feel you should just comment to sound relevant?

slimjohn2k5:
15k monthly?
For children, not child?
In this economy?
You are the problem in the marriage not ur wife.
You either increase the money or hustle more

u be mumu is like u never marry or if u are a female, u will end up like his wife. If he have more than that he will give. See as u dey talk as if nah dat e easy. I don't think there is normal man dat doesn't like taking care of his family if money dey. U are not a man that is y u are being stupid in your judgment. Nah people like u dey push man to go rob. So that when he got killed u will inherit his property alone. Werey

OSDD:


You clearly didn't read the ops post well and his subsequent replies, he'll be paying the house rent, school fees(even for his step daughter) and light bill. Hasn't he done enough?...

Alright

sonofsteven:


Did you ask how much is his salary or profits in a month? Abi you feel you should just comment to sound relevant?

To even think she didn't even say anything about the mother doing something to help the man..

Fgs, he'll be paying all bills na, dem wan kill the man quickly