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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by FireUpNow(m): 3:46pm On Nov 07, 2023

nairalanduser23:
If I show any form of threat, she saying things along the lines that I should break up, date another woman that she regrets marrying me.

Those words she is say is out of ignorance and annoyance, that's how women are. She can never let go I am telling you. Do you have kids together?

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by franksam209: 3:47pm On Nov 07, 2023*

Another simp coming to nairaland to cry,,,.
It's not a must to communicate with her na. You too try respect yourself,
You can call your friends when you are home and bored and gist with them, or probably hang out with friends, don't rush going back home after work, give her some space and only talk to her when it's important, she should be the one coming to nairaland to lament and not you the man ..
See finish don dey enter and she's probably fuvking another and getting tired of you

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Available9: 3:47pm On Nov 07, 2023

Kobojunkie:
Who sponsored whom?

There are two sides to every story..did you get the screenshot for the man ? Have you heard the man's story ?

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Umadam: 3:47pm On Nov 07, 2023

Always stay mute with her, talk when its necessary, but between u and ur kids, be very friendly and communicate well with them, avoid speech with her most time if its not important.
Control ur anger with her.
U are a man

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Neddyogu(m): 3:48pm On Nov 07, 2023

Free2Fly:
Mumu and his mumu talk

As in ehh .......

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Kobojunkie: 3:49pm On Nov 07, 2023

Available9:
■ There are two sides to every story..did you get the screenshot for the man ? Have you heard the man's story ?

The man told his side of the story first, the woman countered it, and the man responded by saying he had nothing else to add... so again, who sponsored whom? undecided

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by DND069: 3:49pm On Nov 07, 2023

ahnie:
Op majority of those addvicing you to divorce your wife are bunch of frustrated lots.

If you follow their advices your name na sorry.

Kindly keep correcting your wife
Women are dramatic,always keep that in mind.

For how long should he keep correcting her? Whereas she is an adult not a toddler.

I Do not blame the wife but the husband. Too many weak men who can't put women in their place.

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by prophetfire: 3:49pm On Nov 07, 2023

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

She hates you. She feels you don't deserve her and she should have married someone else.
Las las she has a crush on another and must be knacking.

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by djon78(m): 3:51pm On Nov 07, 2023

Fiscus105:
During boyfriend and girlfriend relationship,when u re supposed to have studied her nagging behaviour, u ignored but focused on different styles she was given you thinking that's most important aspect of marriage, now her nagging has metamorphosed to nasty attitude.

You run to a forum to announce for the whole world.

On more serious note, you haven't been in charge since the relationship began and now she doesn't see u as a her superior and someone she should accord respect.

To correct, it's harder now, but can still, next time she doesn't that, either you sent her parking or you leave house for her, make sure people intervene before you reconcile.

WOMEN ARE LIKE KIDS, THE WAY YOU HANDLE THEM FROM VERY VERY BEGINNING SAYS ALOT ABOUT YOUR GOING FORWARD WITH HER.

You said the truth

Exactly

Hand Man give woman from the start is very important

But many of us Men made this mistake and it's affecting our Marriages

We allowed Love cover our eyes without being firm from the get go

Although you can be firm
But stubbornness especially when them don born for you and feel they have arrived

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by MeaslesMumpsRub: 3:55pm On Nov 07, 2023

OP go and do DNA test for all your kids

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by nairalanduser23(op): 3:58pm On Nov 07, 2023

AmbassadoR100:
Bro.. I feel your pain. Sorry about the negative development.

If you are into pornography and masturbation... Pls stop... It could be the cause.

These vices brings chastisement, insult, shame and mockery into the life of a man.

If you put a stop to it... You will definitely see changes like Magic.

If you are not into the above vices, then you need to talk to your wife about her behavior or you arrange for both of you to go for counseling.

Never forget to pray about the negative situation.

May the Lord come through for you and your family in Jesus Name Amen.

Remain blessed.

If

She doesn't priotize our sex life. She can use her energy for so many thing and saves the last for sex.
Sometimes even when we are about to have sex, quarrell can start right there in the bedroom.
She wants me to pray more but when I try to start trying to pray it more it seems she becomes more troublesome and frequency of quarrelling increases

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Zinpat: 3:58pm On Nov 07, 2023

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

Do you satisfy her needs both financially & in the other room? Try and have a discussion with her, I think she is not happy with you.

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by djon78(m): 4:01pm On Nov 07, 2023

sonofthunder:
Tone down the love, affection, jokes, 'care', even provision. If you can focus more on yourself (work certifications, building projects, higher degree's/diploma's, go for them); so that you can have a good lullaby why provisioning may temporarily decrease. But whenever you choose to reignite the love, affection, jokes, 'care' et all, do to her as is expected.

If she draws to you while you are pulling away, don't distance yourself. Give her all she deserves.

Don't ever tolerate disrespect. Also don't apologies too much, even when you are wrong and especially if you're not wrong.

When you don't understand human psychology in this 'woke' generation, women that don't deserve you will frustrate your destiny.

Edited: women love a form of adventure. Even if you are already 10X better than someone she thinks is developing themselves while you aren't doing same, she'll start comparing you to them and may find it difficult to see your positives while never seeing the negatives of others.

Smart!!

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Available9: 4:01pm On Nov 07, 2023

Kobojunkie:
The man told his side of the story first, the woman countered it, and the man responded by saying he had nothing else to add... so again, who sponsored whom?

the man is yet to say his side of the story...the friend that brought the issue to social media did not mention who sponsored who....an alleged third party who was the one who said the man sponsored the wife...then another person who knows the woman said the woman sponsored herself...can you please show me where the man said the woman sponsored herself ?...you can provide the link

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Banbanna(m): 4:01pm On Nov 07, 2023

Nawao! Na so some pple married life be? How can I live with someone almost on a daily basis without any trouble-free meaningful or casual conversation, jokes etc? It's as if he didn't befriend her before marriage . But then, pple do change though with time or she might have been pretending all along. And @ the bolded, a man isn't supposed to act like some robot, action ought to be backed by words

WantsandMore:
There are two Phrases you ought to make your best friends going forward?
" why do you say such a thing in such a manner?"
" How do you mean. because I don't understand the sudden show of attitude ." For effects make sure you only say this when your only response will be "ok" or better still "quietness." Have the rest of the conversation in your head, if she quizzes simply say nothing. You've to do this at strategic times & reduce the I must talk to my wife urge, communication is to a woman, action is to a man.

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by CoolAmbience(m): 4:01pm On Nov 07, 2023

ahnie:
Op majority of those addvicing you to divorce your wife are bunch of frustrated lots.

If you follow their advices your name na sorry.

Kindly keep correcting your wife
Women are dramatic,always keep that in mind.

And what is wrong with divorce when things have collapsed irretrievably?

Does any wife need to be corrected or advised on the necessity of honouring her husband?

Who dey advice them before dem begin call their pastors daddy upandan?

No let woman kill you o!

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by nairalanduser23(op): 4:03pm On Nov 07, 2023

Available9:
the man is yet to say his side of the story...the friend that brought the issue to social media did not mention who sponsored who....an alleged third party who was the one who said the man sponsored the wife...then another person who knows the woman said the woman sponsored herself...can you please show me where the man said the woman sponsored herself ?...you can provide the link

If I am wrong in most matter, I am quick to accept my wrong and move on but I can't say the same for her thought she is improving in that aspect but still drags and it gets heated before she accepts

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Available9: 4:04pm On Nov 07, 2023

nairalanduser23:
If I am wrong in most matter, I am quick to accept my wrong and move on but I can't say the same for her thought she is improving in that aspect but still drags and it gets heated before she accepts

.
Can you provide the link where the man told his side of the story ?

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Kobojunkie: 4:06pm On Nov 07, 2023

Available9:
the man is yet to say his side of the story...the friend that brought the issue to social media did not mention who sponsored who....an alleged third party who was the one who said the man sponsored the wife...then another person who knows the woman said the woman sponsored herself...can you please show me where the man said the woman sponsored herself ?...you can provide the link

This response of yours coming many days after the man and woman concluded, and the whole world moved on? Abeg waka pass me o'jare! undecided

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by djon78(m): 4:07pm On Nov 07, 2023

mariahAngel:
You'd rather he jeopardize his home?

Why do some men give up easily, and advise other men to do so whenever challenges arise?
For how long are you going to keep starting over, especially without trying to work things out?

But is she not jeopardizing the home already?

This is the problem many homes are facing right now and if the man can't bear
He moved on

To be honest plenty women are not raised properly now

And that's why a Man must vet the woman he is marrying properly before putting a ring on the finger

Very important

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by fabianiyobosa(m): 4:09pm On Nov 07, 2023

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

Abeg leave her, that is her love language.

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by advanceDNA: 4:10pm On Nov 07, 2023

DND069:
For how long should he keep correcting her? Whereas she is an adult not a toddler.

I Do not blame the wife but the husband. Too many weak men who can't put women in their place.

Women don't ever blame fellow women for anything ...they always want to get away with their actions, never to be blamed .... they never want the consequences of their actions to blow up in their face..

Come and see this woman's advice when it's the man abusing the woman....

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by djon78(m): 4:15pm On Nov 07, 2023

DMerciful:
Home is about the wellbeing of the people making up the home and not necessarily about the ideal that the people are staying together irrespective of whether its healthy.

People make mistakes in life and choosing a spouse is no exemption. No matter how far you've traveled on a wrong road, you best bet is to change direction to the right road rather than proceeding in error.

If you divorce, your experience will help you in choosing the next spouse because you wont take warnings for granted. We're not asking for divorce upon the first challenge but when differences becomes irreconcilable, why will you advice a man to die there?

Besides, its not compulsory to remarry.

And people divorce now because of irreconcilable differences

Honestly a man shouldn't kill himself
If it isn't working
Every party should go there way

Before I used to be no divorce
But from what I am personally seeing in marriage now

If the differences can't be resolved
Let everyone go there way
And maybe get wiser in the next relationship they venture into

That's my perspective now

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by DND069: 4:17pm On Nov 07, 2023

advanceDNA:
Women don't ever blame fellow women for anything ...they always want to get away with their actions, never to be blamed .... they never want the consequences of their actions to blow up in their face..

Come and see this woman's advice when it's the man abusing the woman....

The thing is, for women to take accountability for their actions, men should/must put them in their place.

Sadly many men don't have the balls.

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Chummynoni(m): 4:17pm On Nov 07, 2023

If you can afford it, go for DNA on your kids. I can’t even fathom how some men end up with troublesome wives they cater for, and find it hard to control them . If your wife doesn’t give you peace, she too mustn’t have peace. Man up, and Don’t be a sissy.

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Bakersfield: 4:18pm On Nov 07, 2023

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VEHINTOLAR:
[color=#770077] This is the best submission for me on the trending topic. I'm a grandfather in my mid sixties who had seen it all. Unfortunately I felt sorry for the OP, but you have to be man enough to look for peace of mind in your marriage. Be MAN enough to take charge. Young women of nowadays, hummmmm. Let me drink my bottled water🙏]

Guy,I'll be very honest with you;you've got to change the dynamics of your relationship with your so called wife. What do I mean ? Yes,you have got to show her your "other side" too. This is a must for you to do if you must have that respect you deserve in your own house. See,if you listen to the advice of any woman or those women in man's body here,trust me, you're done for !

You see, it's very likely that your wife has another man,a new man in her life. Don't ever underestimate what any woman can do;you can't afford to trust any woman. These are what I'll advise you to do,they are very simple :

(1) Without giving her any clue or a slight hint, start investigating her activities - check her phone call logs,text messages and interactions / engagements on the social media platforms. Check if she passworded her WhatsApp and other social media accounts. If she does,get a tech guy to hack her account for that means she is hiding something.

(2) While you're gathering information about the likely reasons for her toxic behaviors and disrespect towards you,start learning how to GO MAD WITHOUT WARNING ! You'll need that when you discover that she has been secretly seeing another man behind your back ! It is a well established pattern;a woman starts losing respect for her man/husband when she is involved with another man that she thinks is better than her own husband or man. She may have been comparing you with another man in her life whom she thinks is better than you !

(3) Do I or anyone need to tell you what to do if you discover that she has actually been cheating on you with another man ? The choice is yours,but I hope you won't be so naive to continue living with such a woman. Be quick about the (1) above;it's very important as it is very important to know the root cause of her bad attitudes towards you.

(4) If you discovered that she was not involved in any extramarital affairs,then you begin to stamp your authority as the MAN in that house by taking out unnecessary sidetalks and any other frivolty with her. Show her love but don't ever be "a sucker for love" ! Be angry when it is necessary;that shows that you won't tolerate nonsense. It is time you change her perception about your personality. As it is now ,sadly,your wife sees you as a weak man !

Goodluck.

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by IamtheTruth1(m): 4:25pm On Nov 07, 2023

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

Ur ordeal reminds me of “Dax To be Man”

Married man are going through alot

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Shigobaba(m): 4:27pm On Nov 07, 2023

Your wife is tired of the marriage.
It is not her fault, is the situation of the country. Everyone is disconnected.
Just manage her like that.

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Nobody: 4:27pm On Nov 07, 2023*

DMerciful:
Why do women advice men to remain in unhappy marriages?

So the man can die young and frustrated or at best become a vegetable while she has the chance to whor.e about after his demise/ invalid condition while shedding crocodile tears to the world

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by hkidola00(m): 4:30pm On Nov 07, 2023

2 to 3 time a year

SIXTEENTH:
If you are working with a firm that has another branch interstate please apply for transfer to another state, I think with this method you can be able to evade some of her threat.

Only visit maybe 2-3 times a year can solved half of the nagging and quarrelling couple with confrontation going on in your households.

Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by RealNiggaDee(m): 4:33pm On Nov 07, 2023

slap her on the mouth next time she speaks rudely to you.

never win through argument, win through action.

mind you , I'm not telling u to beat her up. just smack her mouth , get up and don't say a word , even when she starts galavanting.

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Re: How Can I Deal With A Quarrelsome Wife by Comedian2019: 4:33pm On Nov 07, 2023

Did she tie your leg?

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