Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

Stay with your family. 'Nough said

I have a question for Nigerian husbands living abroad without their wives... Do you guys abstain from sex when you get there?

And don't you ever think that your wives get lonely back at home without you?

Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

If you're going using tourist visa, it is not worth leaving your family for. That journey of yours has too much is uncertainties

dawnomike:
If you're going using tourist visa, it is not worth leaving your family for. That journey of yours have too much is uncertainties

💯

I hope you know you will not be able to get a reasonable job over there if you relocate with a tourist visa

wrong decisions left and right

Samantha124:
I have a question for Nigerian husbands living abroad without their wives... Do you guys abstain from sex when you get there?

And don't you ever think that your wives get lonely back at home without you?

Well, u re right but the problem I have with my girl is that, she can stay three years without minding if u re existing, so far she has work to do

Kobicove:
I hope you know you will not be able to get a reasonable job over there is you relocate with a tourist visa

no.. thanks and they it going to be about 2weeks tourist visa.. Whc after it expires I will now start looking for my papers

Okay

Ballzproblemm:
wrong decisions left and right

Samantha124:
I have a question for Nigerian husbands living abroad without their wives... Do you guys abstain from sex when you get there?

And don't you ever think that your wives get lonely back at home without you?

Part of my job is to take care of lonely wives

tonicyril:
Well, u re right but the problem I have with my girl is that, she can stay three years without minding if u re existing, so far she has work to do

I can help you keep her company while you are away

DaudaTheSexyGuy:


I can help you keep her company while you are away

No problem, so far u don't change the surname of my kid to urs

If you have a lucrative business why not sponsor yourself or your wife to school in europe. Because goin through tourist visa is a very wrong move. If you go through school, your family can come as dependants with you and you will have enough years to work and get your papers.

Poland, portugal, Germany and Austria will be good options

Gwin007:
no.. thanks and they it going to be about 2weeks tourist visa.. Whc after it expires I will now start looking for my papers

This is where you people miss it. And you think these papers you are looking be like groundnut for Lagos traffic. 10 yrs fit pass you like 10days and you may still be in hiding. If you wan japa... Japa well. If you are not grounded with a purpose and strategy... Forget am.

Gwin007:
no.. thanks and they it going to be about 2weeks tourist visa.. Whc after it expires I will now start looking for my papers

My brother it's easier said. Pls don't take any decision that will make you regret. Getting paper in Europe is not as easy. Unless you have made up your mind to go

Good... Keep up the good work... We need more guys like yourself in this life...😂😂😂

Maybe these men will think twice before leaving their wives behind to drown in loneliness.

DaudaTheSexyGuy:


Part of my job is to take care of lonely wives

Okay thanks

Farrason:


This is where you people miss it. And you think these papers you are looking be like groundnut for Lagos traffic. 10 yrs fit pass you like 10days and you may still be in hiding. If you wan japa... Japa well. If you are not grounded with a purpose and strategy... Forget am.

Are you sure she's got work to do or she's minding another man in those three years? Because that's too long and her body also has needs.

I can't claim to be in a relationship but be feeling lonely for a whole three years, it's impossible... If my man is going to work abroad, either he takes me along because I don't mind starting afresh or the relationship is over because I don't do long distance relationships.

tonicyril:
Well, u re right but the problem I have with my girl is that, she can stay three years without minding if u re existing, so far she has work to do

Samantha124:
I have a question for Nigerian husbands living abroad without their wives... Do you guys abstain from sex when you get there?

And don't you ever think that your wives get lonely back at home without you?

No, a lot of girls beg for sex abroad. The man may even be colonized by a woman

Then I'm assuming that the wife back at home will also be having a man that's keeping her in company while her husband is away... As long as he doesn't find out about it.

Nigerfine3:

No, a lot of girls beg for sex abroad. The man may even be colonized by a woman

Gwin007:
no.. thanks and they it going to be about 2weeks tourist visa.. Whc after it expires I will now start looking for my papers

See you see life long suffering...at the end of the day you will ask yourself... Was it worth it?
1. Europe is one of the worst places to become an illegal. If it's not an English speaking country your suffering is x10.
2. There are better ways to Japa legally with your family on a student, work, or permanent visa. Explore those options.
3. Don't believe what you see on social media, and anyone advising to become an illegal in Europe doesn't have your best interest at heart tbh.
4. Most countries have systemized their visa and passport processes to the point that you cannot even get anything including housing, a bank account, a car, a good job, healthcare.. Etc if you become an illegal.
5. The fact someone went 5 - 10 years ago and the person made it and became successful as an illegal, doesn't mean if you go now in 2023/2024 you will see similar opportunities to exploit. Policies and technology has changed many things and rules are changing everyday.
6. The options for papers you re talking about including getting married to a citizen or working with someone else's papers will put you at the mercy of someone else who on a whim can destroy you. Why would you want to do that to yourself and your family?
7. At the end of the day, you will loose your family. The people you are hustling for will move on with life without you. Then you ask yourself..... Was it worth it?

RGRNetwork:
If you have a lucrative business why not sponsor yourself or your wife to school in europe. Because goin through tourist visa is a very wrong move. If you go through school, your family can come as dependants with you and you will have enough years to work and get your papers.

Poland, portugal, Germany and Austria will be good options

I agree with poster above
@ OP, If you have up to N5M & academic qualifications, why not face Austria..?
Check Dewon's twitter posts.
Tourist visa na long thing

Thanks for the advice I really appreciate

addictiv:


See you see life long suffering...at the end of the day you will ask yourself... Was it worth it?
1. Europe is one of the worst places to become an illegal. If it's not an English speaking country your suffering is x10.
2. There are better ways to Japa legally with your family on a student, work, or permanent visa. Explore those options.
3. Don't believe what you see on social media, and anyone advising to become an illegal in Europe doesn't have your best interest at heart tbh.
4. Most countries have systemized their visa and passport processes to the point that you cannot even get anything including housing, a bank account, a car, a good job, healthcare.. Etc if you become an illegal.
5. The fact someone went 5 - 10 years ago and the person made it and became successful as an illegal, doesn't mean if you go now in 2023/2024 you will see similar opportunities to exploit. Policies and technology has changed many things and rules are changing everyday.
6. The options for papers you re talking about including getting married to a citizen or working with someone else's papers will put you at the mercy of someone else who on a whim can destroy you. Why would you want to do that to yourself and your family?
7. At the end of the day, you will loose your family. The people you are hustling for will move on with life without you. Then you ask yourself..... Was it worth it?

Samantha124:
I have a question for Nigerian husbands living abroad without their wives... Do you guys abstain from sex when you get there?

And don't you ever think that your wives get lonely back at home without you?

Bleep loneliness,man need to go Hussle and come back for his family,if the money finish will she stay??

You're not answering my questions though.

And you can't ask me a question on top of another one.

Mandela27:

Bleep loneliness,man need to go Hussle and come back for his family,if the money finish will she stay??

Samantha124:
You're not answering my questions though.

And you can't ask me a question on top of another one.

she will stay,unless she chooses not to.
Loneliness doesn't kill, at least there's video calls and phone calls.

Will those video and phone calls have sex with her?

Will they penetrate her and take her to cloud 9?

Keep saying loneliness doesn't kill while she'll be back in Nigeria busy enjoying another man in different styles that she's never done with you...

I see her having those calls with you while the man would be hiding in the background and listening to you making a fool out of yourself...

After the call ends, the only thing that'll be coming out of her mouth would be "hmmm, ooh, ahh, and heee", for she'll be getting it real good...🤣🤣🤣

Mandela27:
she will stay,unless she chooses not to.
Loneliness doesn't kill, at least there's video calls and phone calls.

Even Mandela's wife emotionally and sexually dumped him long time ago before he even got released from prison.

She still continued having an affair with a younger man after his release from prison because the distance had caused a strain to their marriage.

And you think your situation will be better compared to that of the real and legendary Nelson Mandela?😂😂😂

Mandela27:
she will stay,unless she chooses not to.
Loneliness doesn't kill, at least there's video calls and phone calls.

Europe won't work for you


Go to Mexico then enter US from there

I am surprised when people talk of relocation with a tourist visa.

Really really surprised.

It is a fvcking tourist and temporary visa and not designed for relocation.

Good day with d economic suituation in Nigeria
Man need plan B. With a tourist visa which take 3 months like Germany where I base what happened after ur paper expired like in Germany for example for u to have ur paper is either u get married or u have a child. Talk with ur wife very well because it’s not a decision u will just take but if u know if u invest in ur business u will make more money. My brother invest and stay with your family. Discuss it with ur wife because she has a very important role to play.