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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by YelloweWest: 8:13pm On Nov 10, 2023
Gwin007:
I don’t have any job idea to do there, planning when I get there I will look for something doing

This is a big no no.

Stay and grow your business. The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know and trust me, Europe right now is no angel!

If you had a work permit for even care job, I would say go. But japa without a clear plan is always a disaster!

Stay here and grow your business. If you still want to japa, get work visa pls
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Filmdirect: 8:30pm On Nov 10, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

Please please please do not do this. I’ve seen lots of Nigerian without papers here in America and life is rough! The imagery many have of abroad is a snare.

Without the right papers you will be working in very very low paying jobs, with potential abuse because you have no legal protection. With that low paying job you will have to pay rent, phone bill, transportation, food. I haven’t included electricity and water because some apartments sometimes cover that.

You will have very little to send home. This process will take minimum about 10 years, if you are hustling legally. Within those years your children are growing up without a strong father figure, and your wife is over hustling. The world is rough, your kids need guidance, not a hope of Europe or America. They will not know you. You can’t get home because you are not legal. You will be depressed.

The solution you will be tempted with is to marry someone over there. You have just broken your marriage vows. God cannot bless that. You will not be the same man that left Nigeria. The intimacy with your wife will diminish, if not disappear. And all for what? Because you were looking for gold in a barren land.

Poverty can make you do things you never expected. You will be in that Europe and yes, it is pretty and nice but you will not feel it, because you are working like a dog to make ends meet.

Not to talk of how little you will feel as a black man without the covering of money to protect you from racism.

Please take that 5,000,000 Naira and apply it to your business at home. Be patient and write out how you can use it efficiently. That mental peace you have as a father and husband will be a maximum support.

Another thing people don’t tell you. Relationships are cold over here. Not that you can’t find other Nigerians to connect with, but man people are too busy.

I hope you really listen to this. It is not worth it. Invest your money there, grow it, then you can consider moving as a student way later. You and your wife can accomplish much together.

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Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by OboOlora(f): 8:48pm On Nov 10, 2023
Make sure u fvck for Europe cos dem go epp u fvck ur wife for Africa
Awon Omo mi toh stubborn, dem go use jekonmo knack am grin
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Jacku: 9:11pm On Nov 10, 2023
CoronaVirusPro:



Let me tell you the bitter truth!

Don`t leave without your family!

With a visitor`s visa is a no no. That route is unpredictable and comes with different unplanned circumstances. You could get stuck for longer than you expected, and your wife and kids would lose patience, if not forget you.

If you want to embark on such route, move wit your family so you can be mentally stable.

Don't let anyone sweet talk you about how easy you could legalize your stay, it is an unpredictable route
I don't support this advice.

Someone that is going to find the way for himself and his family, and yorie saying he should go with his family? How will he fend for himself, wife and children in a new place with 5m? Think about it!

I'll advice he goes alone, if at all he wants to travel. And he should travel legitimately and ALONE.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by kapelvej: 9:17pm On Nov 10, 2023
SavageResponse:


Vultures have started circling because the heard he has N5million!

@Gwin007 avoid all these so-called agents, they are only after your money.

Nothing stops you from processing your travel documents yourself
I understand your concern, it is unfortunate that this is how we are, I have told him, the choice is his. I repeat, I do not want anything.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by kapelvej: 9:20pm On Nov 10, 2023
obaidan:


LOOOOL why u dey carry am go koro to advice him....shey u no dey collect dime, u wan do am for God, drop the advice for am i public
Not all information can be dropped in a public platform, If you want, private chat me, I will send you the info, then you can drop it by yourself
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Pzpropertylimit(m): 9:20pm On Nov 10, 2023
Oga go into food stuff business with 5 million naira , u will be multi millionaire in no time at all . Do wast it in Abroad
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by kapelvej: 9:22pm On Nov 10, 2023
dkidd:

Well @ Gwin007 u can follow this advice if this guy is genuine but thread careful. Anything wey make u lost for Europe e done finish be that as u wouldn't want to come back empty and in so doing ur wasting time away from ur family which is dangerous especially if u no get money to even dey update them at home. She will now be faced with many wicked options and a woman can only be so strong. Ijs 🤷🏾‍♂️
LOL, Nigerians have become so paranoid. The choice is his, I thought about all these before I shared this info, I have done what I ought to do
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by efficiencie(m): 9:24pm On Nov 10, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

My guy do you read international news? Don't just move like that oh. You have to calculate your net benefits before making a decision. I don't know what you intend to do abroad but if you don't already have a business abroad or a ready job waiting for you I will not advise that you abandon small progress made at home for starting from scratch in Europe. Also how sure are you that your wife will manage the business as you would or even better? Do your calculations here. Don't plan with what you hope to achieve rather plan with what you can achieve given your resources now and the hope on GOD.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by JapaPrince: 9:48pm On Nov 10, 2023
This your information is not complete, you didn’t say which country you’re heading to. That information is very crucial. Even without that I will tell you that visitor visa is a NO NO. In most developed countries is almost impossible to change your tourist status, do not allow any agent fool you.
Your life your choice.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by KIDfurniture(m): 9:55pm On Nov 10, 2023
[plz what biz is that ? Maybe I can create it here. I v some useless millions with some banks .




















quote author=Gwin007 post=126883547]Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks[/quote]
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Dididrumz(m): 10:03pm On Nov 10, 2023
Dikastan:
Do a legit paper and go. If you have a reliable agent, you can travel and make it even if it takes a little time. You can go over there and acquire a skill to boost yourself. I have a similar plan with you . Don't go with your family now and don't worry about wife's infidelity,any woman that wants to cheat will cheat even under your nose.
1. Make sure you use a reliable agent
2. You need to do a serious spiritual work, especially through prayer to clear your way spiritually so that forces of darkeness won't frustrate your plans.
3. Be positive and strong,life is about risk. Take it and make it


Well said
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Enemyofpeace: 11:00pm On Nov 10, 2023
Please can I have your wife's phone number? I just want to check something
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Oburu202: 11:08pm On Nov 10, 2023
I will advise you to travel. It's going to be better for those kids.

1. Nigeria is not getting better.
2. You will make more money.
3. Health care.
4. Security.
5. Better environment.
6. Trouble free or less trouble.
7. Healthy lifestyle.
8. Your kids future will be secured. Eventually, they'll come to Europe.

Bro please travel. Anyone telling you not to travel is your enemy. Had it been Nigeria is getting better,I would suggest you stay. No place like home.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by nomolos92: 12:16am On Nov 11, 2023
Gwin007:
Thank you.. please which other processes can I use to travel legally but my budget is 5m naira

Never go to any country with visit visa if you intend staying, your budget is enough for some European countries work visa, although the process might take 4-8months but it's worth waiting for, again remove your mind from moving to any country with visit visa, you'll live to regret for the rest of your life if you try that
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by doneback04: 12:38am On Nov 11, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks


I don't know what give you people impressions that travelling abroad in better off, in your own case you have a business and a family
the money you should have used to invest in your business and also open another little business for your wife to do also you want to used it and travel abroad and leave your family , you better Wise up and build your family together
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Thegamingorca(m): 12:57am On Nov 11, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks

Going with a tourist visa. You must be a joker. Why not go as a student
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Emmaneze: 1:24am On Nov 11, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks
bro if its not study or work visa
its not adviceable
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by JohnQueen(m): 3:21am On Nov 11, 2023
You've mentioned "agent" twice. Who says he can't process anything himself?
Dikastan:
Do a legit paper and go. If you have a reliable agent, you can travel and make it even if it takes a little time. You can go over there and acquire a skill to boost yourself. I have a similar plan with you . Don't go with your family now and don't worry about wife's infidelity,any woman that wants to cheat will cheat even under your nose.
1. Make sure you use a reliable agent
2. You need to do a serious spiritual work, especially through prayer to clear your way spiritually so that forces of darkeness won't frustrate your plans.
3. Be positive and strong,life is about risk. Take it and make it
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by kinethic: 4:05am On Nov 11, 2023
Gwin007:
Good day nairalanders.. please I need advice on what to do.. am married with three kids, 5, 3 , and a year old.. I own a bussines.. but for now my bussines is down, the has been very good and lucrative.. but due to lack of capital to invest more on it. It was now shaking.. but the thing now is that.. I have the capital to invest on the bussines.. but now am saying should relocate abroad with the money and leave my 3kids and wife back home or invest on the bussines.. cus am traveling with a tourist visa and it’s a Europe country and I don’t how long it will take to get my papers over there please Nairaland I really need ur opinion not make future mistakes

Thanks


Do not ever travel to any Country with tourist visa with the hope to stay permanently. It is not going to happen. Tourists visa are for tourism, once it expires you are done, you must leave. If you do not you become an illegal alien and you would be living a restless and difficult life that you will regret. Do not believe anyone that tells you it is the best route to go. Do not waste your money rather invest in your business and grow your money , at the right time you can search more information about the process of relocating your family with you to anywhere. Do not be in a hurry to follow the crowd. One of the things that gives dignity is to travel on holiday and come back to your Country.
I repeat do not waste your money. Do not go that route . You do not have a skill that would be essential to your survival and obtain alien resident or work permit. Build your business and do not let the trend steal away your hard earned money. Do not do it. Wke up and smell the coffee.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by SavageResponse(m): 5:08am On Nov 11, 2023
Oburu202:
I will advise you to travel. It's going to be better for those kids.

1. Nigeria is not getting better.
2. You will make more money.
3. Health care.
4. Security.
5. Better environment.
6. Trouble free or less trouble.
7. Healthy lifestyle.
8. Your kids future will be secured. Eventually, they'll come to Europe.

Bro please travel. Anyone telling you not to travel is your enemy. Had it been Nigeria is getting better,I would suggest you stay. No place like home.

All the benefits you have mentioned above do not apply to a person who came on a tourist visa and is living in the country illegally
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by CYNNA: 5:25am On Nov 11, 2023
My friend please boost your business with the new money it will pay u far better. You have a young family. 5m is about 4k pounds or Euro.
Rent will eat up this money bf u balance u will .
It is not worth it. So much dynamics
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by bosco9: 7:14am On Nov 11, 2023
akpunda86:


Bros Bros bros see Ur beautiful family u wanna kill,hmm Ur family first ,guy u get mind ,when next u ass that 1 yr kid hmm,u have 5 million naira lucky you,kindly invest that in your business why waste your fortune on a temporal visa
.pls pls noting like family u Wana Japa,carry family but 5 million goes no where.
Bros Ur lucky yes you are ,please are u Igbo or in South East DM me let's talk.
Do u have an uncle,brother,aunty or strong relation in any University, Polytechnic,government agency,bros sky Ur limits
.I got a Canadian visa thru my elder brother there but at my age what am I gonna do there or u expect me to work in a farm or factory Mbah,I can't give bribes for contracts or they lock me up but here in Naija anything goes.
Bros Naija is hard but at same time sweet.
Please man up men DM me ,urs u have 5million,me I sold all to raise a company.good 🤞

I sent you a DM bro.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by OdumoduWhite: 9:11am On Nov 11, 2023
That money is not enough to travel out and leave your family behind to hustle, especially with a tourist visa. If i were you, I'd reinvest in my business and work hard to make it profitable enough to ensure that it brings more money to enable me & my family relocate legally and with peace of mind.

I don't know what kinda business you do but I'm willing to help build you a website for free to help elevate your business as well as give it a wider reach.

Cheers.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by OGsponstaneous: 10:12am On Nov 11, 2023
Hi bros.
How soon can one get a residence permit with a work permit in Poland if one chooses this path you advised. It takes longer time to get an appointment from the Polish embassy in Nigeria. I have someone who already has a permit. Please advise accordingly.
Abydupank:


If the country is in the schengen area, go when you arrive there, travel to Poland, buy Poland work permit for like 700 eur -comes out in 3 weeks, then use the polish work permit to apply for Temporary residence card. Then you are able to come to Nigeria back even before march. Afterwards, you can invite the family to Poland using your temporary residence card.

Thank me later..
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Nerdnextdoor: 10:15am On Nov 11, 2023
Several people I'm acquainted with, who initially traveled on tourist visas years ago, now hold both work and/or residence permits. Their prolonged stays stem from various reasons—some pursue asylum, others, unmarried upon arrival, swiftly wedded locals. Those possessing sought-after skills applied to companies for sponsorship visas. If you find yourself in such a situation, seeking advice from an immigration lawyer is crucial. Abeg, By all means Japa! and strive for a brighter future for your family!
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by LongBigg: 12:12pm On Nov 11, 2023
TOURIST VISA?? DONT RISK IT EUROPE IS FACING UNEMPLOYMENT ISSUES!! UR TOURIST VISA WOULD MAKE IT MORE COMPLICATED
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Cmeo(m): 1:15pm On Nov 11, 2023
Hakeem66:
you think it's easy as that, it's like you're not in Nigeria.


I am in Nigeria and n entrepreneur in Nigeria. It is not easy either way but it is much more easier when you have the required capital and more money to dominate the market.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Abydupank: 1:59pm On Nov 11, 2023
OGsponstaneous:
Hi bros.
How soon can one get a residence permit with a work permit in Poland if one chooses this path you advised. It takes longer time to get an appointment from the Polish embassy in Nigeria. I have someone who already has a permit. Please advise accordingly.

I am a woman. So once you have a work permit, arrive in Poland and go to those smaller cities around silesia or dabrowa, that's where you should register your residence permit as there is usually queue in lublin, warsaw and poznan. It takes about 2-3months after biometrics and application, if refused appeal takes like 2 weeks..
I suggest to get appointment in Nigeria u better buy as I also bought or apply schengen from some other consulate like France, Luxembourg who gives Visas faster and more easily.. and just use that to travel to Poland.. and use his work permit..
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by mercy87(f): 4:02pm On Nov 11, 2023
Abydupank:


If the country is in the schengen area, go when you arrive there, travel to Poland, buy Poland work permit for like 700 eur -comes out in 3 weeks, then use the polish work permit to apply for Temporary residence card. Then you are able to come to Nigeria back even before march. Afterwards, you can invite the family to Poland using your temporary residence card.

Thank me later..


Op look at this.
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by Love800(m): 6:12pm On Nov 11, 2023
Wat type of food business?
Pzpropertylimit:
Oga go into food stuff business with 5 million naira , u will be multi millionaire in no time at all . Do wast it in Abroad
Re: Leaving My Wife And Kids To Travel Abroad by DAVIDOLAWALE: 9:22pm On Nov 11, 2023
Be patient and allow God to guide you
Never take hasty decision

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