PuZZyNegro:


You guys are just foaming in the mouth. These people already served us food and we ate.

I don't really think we need bread again to take home.

Taking the bread home is the main reason you were given that bread.
The purpose is for you to explain to your people where you got the bread with Port Harcourt label from.
It is not just for eating.

Ishilove:

You are contradicting yourself. Gifts are symbolic, so the bread is a symbol of their goodwill towards you. You shouldn't have rejected the gift of your prospective in-laws no matter how strange it appeared.

It is even your own gift that is awkward. Imagine giving my future in-laws diabetes causing biscuits on the first visit

Lol very useless gift and he is so arrogant and calling others ppl gifts awkward....SMH. The girl better start to look for better man because this one will doing nonsense and still claim right

Ishilove:

You are contradicting yourself. Gifts are symbolic, so the bread is a symbol of their goodwill towards you. You shouldn't have rejected the gift of your prospective in-laws no matter how strange it appeared.

It is even your own gift that is awkward. Imagine giving my future in-laws diabetes causing biscuits on the first visit

Hahaha, the biscuits matter tired me self, are they children that his bringing biscuits for them

Ginaz:
Guy you are wrong, you should have collected the gift. I can't imagine the embarrassment of your in law when you rejected the bread, they must had felt inferior in themselves thinking you rejected their gift due to their condition.

you are wrong period! ha! you had the guts to tell your gf that her parents gift is the wrongest gift to give you.

damn! no respect at all.

The girl is dating a wrong guy because this one arrogance and disrespect is all over him.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Such an incredibly stupid thing for you to do. You should apologize to them. If not, their daughter may have just fallen into the hands of a very wrong man.

And this is my first comment on here in a long long while.

Muhehehehe, GenZ getting married, we go see things.

Greenfusion:

Lol...abeg must person bring gift to their prospective in law on the first day...?.....we too get wahala for africa......im bring biscuit and im dem give am bread in return e dey complain..lol

It is not about Africa, even here in Europe a mere visiting a neighbour for the first time, many go with a bottle of wine.

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

You forgot the power of bread abi.
And when going to see your future in-laws it's package biscuits you saw to buy from. Packaged biscuits is it symbolic?

So you just left your in-laws house with nothing....that is symbolic, in that you came and left with nothing.
You should have accepted it.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Dear Op,

It's like you're just forcing yourself into that intending marriage, right?

1. The gifts you gave your in-law are not even mature gifts.... They're gifts for little village children.

Your in-laws have weighed it that you're a broke asss and therefore they decided to test you with their own poor gift of bread.

2. You failed the test woefully by not receiving the same measure of gift from them.

They have already concluded that you're a man filled with pride...You even made it obvious to us on Nairaland that how can you collect ordinary common bread as a parting gift to Lagos.

3. You would have received the gift wholeheartedly and give it to beggars on the street of Lagos or even give it to your neighbor who would really be glad.

4. Your would be wife cuuum girlfriend called you and affirmed that you've already shot yourself on your rickety legs, and she's already angry with you because this singular act of pride of yours has been registered in your in-law's black book, and they'll definitely use it against you when the time comes.

5. You want to form an alpha male in the eyes of your babe and in-laws, right? There's no need to apologize to them...Just tell your smallie that you're no longer interested in the union, and you can pick up your yourself, and move on.

6. In reality, your campus babe already has like 3 - 5 wolves chasing her hand in marriage but she just need a fast finger to do the needful.

7. Your campus babe is on top of another guy right now, as I'm typing this...She has a lot of body counts and you can never trust all these inexperienced smallies, especially campus babes.

It's not by force to even get married...Just have a baby momma to give you kids and you're good to go.

Cheerios!

My brother!!! Do you know why I called you that? Some of us had passed that route before. No need to castigate you because going through the thread you chop enough bashing.

Nevertheless, marrying a woman process is unending open process. From my sojourn during my time. Before I visited my in-laws for the first time, I asked they daughter if both parents take alcoholic drinks and what they like. Going to see them I bought a bottle of original Seaman Schnapps, a bottle of cream Bailey, a bottle of eve wine, some kola, 6yards of wrapper that I made sure her daughter bought for me.

With all items, I went to see my in-law, while presenting what I brought, kola first, the Schannap and Bailey for papa, eve and wrapper for mama, that settled everything as we begin to discuss.

They presented egusi and fufu meal, my friend and I ate. While going, they gave us coconut, peas and a lobe from one of the kola nut. I collected everything, though I don't eat kola.

Coming home to your case, first apologies to your wife, then your in laws. When next you are going with your family to see your in laws, upgrade your humble gift items. It's cultural. Whatever they give collect and appreciate them. A day after you departed from them also call back for welcoming you and your family, double thank them for the gift again.

My fellow men were don marry I hope I no talk bad. My opinion though.

GO0DHardDick:


Personally it's weird for an in-law to give a son in-law bread. Who does that? Jezz! Personally I won't even accept anything. Na me supposed dey give them gifts not the other way round.

However, in your case, you're supposed to buy them bread bro. It's the normal Nigerian custom thing. Na U supposed buy them that bread but because U thought you're in the west you decided to buy them biscuit. Dey play

Why U go visit your future in-law without the girl being there? She didn't tell U about her family ways or what exactly? Una never serious.

Hmm they might be speaking parable with that bread,
If I visit my inlaw ten times a day, I will buy them bread,. I did that when I lost my father in law doing the burial.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Man must not live by bread alone but by the penis you will use to expand your fiancee's vagina and deposit sperm inside for her to grow more lives.

He has to reduce his pride, since its his wife mother. He should treat elderly people with kindness and respect, its good for their health.

loswhite:
The girl is dating a wrong guy because this one arrogance and disrespect is all over him.

The op no suck him mama breast when him small. He is so immature and unintelligent. First visit to inlaws you no see wine carry, na biscuits and juice.


Mumu!

PuZZyNegro:


I accept I would have collected it. My friend told me that but I needed a broader opinion

Opinion on your stupidity I guess.

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

If they had given you something local/traditional like alligator pepper, bitter cola etc you would still have complained. The truth is that it's unwise to reject the gifts offered you by your future in-laws that you're meeting for the first time.

But you got them biscuits and juice but have the effrontery to reject their bread... Did they reject yours?

Don't you know that gifting your would be in laws biscuits and just in your first visit could be seen as disrespectful too?


Na pride be your problem and your action points to your background.

You insulted them first by buying them biscuits and juice! Are they nursery pupils! Shuuum

henrimoto:
Ginaz!! Be calming down .. you sabi the in-laws ne? Wey the matter dey pepper you like this .

I have collected so many gift from people that I don’t even need just to make them feel loved. That biscuit and juice you gave feels like silver and gold to you.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You have no idea the kind pains you've caused your In-Laws by rejecting their gift, it's wrong ! If you know you truly want to marry their daughter,you've got to do something very fast to remedy the already bad situation! People like you na over dey always worry una...I pray it won't ruin you though ! You're yet to marry their daughter but you've already given them a very bad impression about your personality, too bad !

I suggest you reschedule another visit to remedy the situation. You goofed big time, man !

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You have no idea the kind of pains you've caused your In-Laws by rejecting their gift, it's wrong ! If you know you truly want to marry their daughter,you've got to do something very fast to remedy the already bad situation! People like you na over sabi dey always worry una...I pray it won't ruin you though ! You're yet to marry their daughter but you've already given them a very bad impression about your personality, too bad !

I suggest you reschedule another visit to remedy the situation. You goofed big time, man !

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

you are been corrected yet you are arguing . I just hope you won't be a Linda husband who will keep claiming he's right in all things

Maybe it's their tradition of culture and it's not most that you must eat it and you will give her some folded notes in return

emmyt2:
Since you stand to be corrected. I will correct you.
He travelled all the way from Lagos to PH to visit his potential inlaws. From the narration. I think he travelled by road which is a long journey. So, the bread would serve a purpose.

Another point is. Probably, both of them are from different tribes. So giving him the bread serves as him being welcome into the family. That is a sign of being loved by the gf family members.

No. I disagree with you because every tribe in Nigeria has its own local delicacy that are peculiar to that region ,they should have gotten something of such in readiness for the would be inlaw and not Bread that is very common in the town no matter how expensive the bread is .Even if it is something of #100 once it is local it is most appreciated by me.
Bread is a NO NO AS far as I am concern .

They spoke a parable using that Bread, he should have bought them bread instead of biscuits, haba who does that.
But unfortunately he didn't understand that Parable.

LadyRosa2:
The op no suck him mama breast when him small. He is so immature and unintelligent. First visit to inlaws you no see wine carry, na biscuits and juice.


Mumu!

And him one put wife for house common sense him no get.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

In marriage and life, you have to be diplomatic. Next time, you ll collect and keep except they forced you to eat it right there

Obiorahpcfg:
You insulted them first by buying them biscuits and juice! Are they nursery pupils! Shuuum

just imagine ?? He's going to visit inlaws and he's buying chocolate biscuit and juice shey they are children ni

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

collect the bread and throw it away if u don't like it.

Can't imaging buying biscuit for my in-law, they even try for collecting it. Abah bro, biscuits are they teenagers? Out of all things in store from city.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You offered them gift, they collected and they are offering you something back and you rejected it, how do you want them to feel that they accepted yours and you rejected theirs...

It's really not proper, just tender a sincere apology to them.

PuZZyNegro:


You guys are just foaming in the mouth. These people already served us food and we ate.

I don't really think we need bread again to take home.

But you really think they need biscuits...You are not matured for marriage

MyAmericandream:


And him one put wife for house common sense him no get.

Me tire fir the Mumu.
Him say short bread and juice, like say na luxury him give the old folks.

Short bread wey my baby dey scatter for ground, then ants go finish the rest