Kobojunkie:
Is your sister under 21 or 18?

She is not. Someone with an Msc, who graduated from a Nigerian public University with all the strikes cannot be under 21 na.
That my question needed practical answers based on experience to judge if the practice is uniform throughout the federation.

Kobojunkie:
Where in the constitution is this stated?

I don't have that detail. But I was informed by the local government registry when they conducted the marriage talk.

FireUpNow:

Guy but going registry will not take that authority away from you

Don't worry, u will soon understand when u re advancing in age, when u start accumulating properties here and there..don't just worry sir

Do u know that part if the swear in registry is that u can't marry another woman unless u re divorced, now I a situation where u have three kids and all are not urs, and u re 50 already..

Guy don't worry, u will understand soon when ur woman start giving u timetable for sex just because she know u re tied on law...don't worry bro

Kobojunkie:
Where you under 21 at the time of your marriage?

I was . and my wife was . at the time.

airsaylongcome:


Your "shut up with all due respect" is very insulting. Focus on making your point without condescending to insults. And I repeat, No where in Africa is a dowry mandatory for two adults of age to be legally married. On the contrary, traditional marriage, like religious marriages have no legal binding. Counter my points with points you can corroborate and abstain from hurling insults

Being legally married is second to being traditionally married boss.
Even in western culture, you have to ask the permission of her parents first.
In our culture, you have to pay bride price first simple.

Kobojunkie:
bashlek

whatever that means, it is well

smasher1:
■ I don't have that detail. But I was informed by the local government registry when they conducted the marriage talk.

You were lied to by an equally ignorant person. There is no such provision in the Nigerian constitution.

UncleKoboko:
IN MY OPINION:

Paying bride is very symbolic and important. It is not the amount paid that is important, in many cultures (aside from those people in the down map that usually sell their daughters....) some still collect as low as 10k, but you might still be given a long list....

BRIDE PRICE IS TRADITIONAL AND SHOULD BE BASED ON WHO YOU ARE MARRYING.
ONLY VIRGINS DESERVE BRIDE PRIDE, OR AT LEAST, BRIDE PRIDE SHOULD BE BASED ON BODYCOUNT.
NON-VIRGIN WH0REZ DON'T DESERVE FULL BRIDE PRICE.
THEIR BRIDE PRICE SHOULD BE DIVIDED BY THE NUMBER OF THEIR BODYCOUNT.

EVEN AS A MILLIONAIRE, GOD FORBID THAT I WILL PAY FULL BRIDE PRICE ON A GIRL THAT IS NOT A VIRGIN.
EVEN IF HER PAPA SAY HER BRIDE PRICE IS 10K, I WILL STILL DIVIDE IT BY THE NUMBER OF HER BODYCOUNT.

R U a V?

otomatic:
I was 32 and my wife was 27 at the time.

I am afraid you have been busy writing and submitting letters that are unnecessary then. Even the Nigerian embassy link there explains that consent letters are only required for people under 18 years of age.

Abrahamweb:
■ Being legally married is second to being traditionally married boss. Even in western culture, you have to ask the permission of her parents first. In our culture, you have to pay bride price first simple.

Stop lying!

otomatic:
■ She is not. Someone with an Msc, who graduated from a Nigerian public University with all the strikes cannot be under 21 na.
That my question needed practical answers based on experience to judge if the practice is uniform throughout the federation.

She had all of that yet she didn't read the instructions to learn that consent letters are only required for those under age of 18, a fact verified by even the Nigerian consulate?

Kobojunkie:
Of course! Legality comes from marrying in the courts. Your brideprices are nothing of the legal route but of the traditional route which ae only accepted but not necessarily recognized as being legal. For a marriage to be certified legal, it has to be registered with the courts.

NO COURT will allow you marry if you have not fulfilled traditional marriage unless you go through the window

Kobojunkie:
I am afraid you have been busy writing and submitting letters that are unnecessary then. Even the Nigerian embassy link there explains that consent letters are only required for people under 18 years of age.

Lol. Wait first make the registry people tell you to go do your marriage for Nigerian embassy.

rockyh:
NO COURT will allow you marry if you have not fulfilled traditional marriage unless you go through the window

Stop lying!

otomatic:
■ Lol. Wait first make the registry people tell you to go do your marriage for Nigerian embassy.

My parents registered their marriage more than 3 decades ago in that very same Nigeria, and they never had to submit Letters of consent from anyone.

I had never heard of anyone having to submit Letters of consent seeking permission from parents until now. And now I know why. Because those letters are only required in the case the couple in question or at least one partner is below the age of consent, which makes sense.

tonicyril:
Don't worry, u will soon understand when u re advancing in age, when u start accumulating properties here and there..don't just worry sir

Do u know that part if the swear in registry is that u can't marry another woman unless u re divorced, now I a situation where u have three kids and all are not urs, and u re 50 already..

Guy don't worry, u will understand soon when ur woman start giving u timetable for sex just because she know u re tied on law...don't worry bro

The same law can also be used against the woman too just know the loopholes in the marriage registry. With a good lawyer such a woman will get nothing from the marriage and I will do DNA for all my kids on coded level. Any woman who wants to hoard sex will suffer it also. I will also hoard my dick.

Kobojunkie:
She had all of that yet she didn't read the instructions to learn that consent letters are only required for those under age of 18, a fact verified by even the Nigerian consulate?

Something that the requirements are in a leaflet form. I wonder what other instructions you will read other than the one the registry has given you.
It is not Nigerian consulate that will perform this marriage but the registry. So just follow instructions from them.

smasher1:


You are expected to visit and pay the bride pass in 21 days according to the Nigerian constitution. None payment in that time frame makes the marriage certificate no longer valid. So if anyone takes you to court after that time that you didn't satisfy the customary tradition, he or she can win the case in court leading to nullity of the marriage. But as long as no one dispute this, the marriage may continue endlessly.

You people just open mouth waaa and yarn dust with full confidence

Which section of the constitution is this

I recently got married in court less than a month ago

otomatic:
■ Something that the requirements are in a leaflet form. I wonder what other instructions you will read other than the one the registry has given you.
■ It is not Nigerian consulate that will perform this marriage but the registry. So just follow instructions from them.

1. Post an image of it make we see abeg!.

2. There are no two different Nigerian laws... The Marriage Act in Nigeria is the same act that is used and referenced by even Nigerian embassies everywhere in the world. So, don't deceive yourself into thinking one court can do its own thing while others can also do their own thing. The Law is unified for a reason.

oluwaseyi0:
You people just open mouth waaa and yarn dust with full confidence Which section of the constitution is this
■ I recently got married in court less than a month ago

1. That there is the most irritating part of it all.!

2. Were you also required to submit Letters of consent from your parents to register your marriage with the courts?

Kobojunkie:
My parents registered their marriage more than 3 decades ago in that very same Nigeria, and they never had to submit Letters of consent from anyone.

I had never heard of anyone having to submit Letters of consent seeking permission from parents until now. And now I know why. Because those letters are only required in the case the couple in question or at least one partner is below the age of consent, which makes sense.

Change is constant. And processes are dynamic. Maybe then it was not an issue. Maybe now men are absconding with people's daughters and the families are making trouble.
I mean how else will you explain a topic such as this. Someone wants to marry without paying bride price and wants the registry to provide cover.
Wait until a powerful family sues the registry staff for giving out their daughter(trafficking) or whatever they can come up with.

FireUpNow:


The same law can also be used against the woman too just know the loopholes in the marriage registry. With a good lawyer such a woman will get nothing from the marriage and I will do DNA for all my kids on coded level. Any woman who wants to hoard sex will suffer it also. I will also hoard my dick.

Bro I get you, but I must tell u one thing that its easier said than done..

Now let talk about sex...do u know that it is easier for woman to abstain trom sex more than men?? Not that men are dogs, no but this is the reason.

Men are sensitive to sight, while women are sensitive to touch. When ur woman start hoarding her kpekus from you she has an advantage because she knows she can hardly get on by mere sighting, on the contrary, men can get hard unprecedentedly by just seeing a booty from a TV shows and from there konji start knocking

How long can u endure not touching here in her sexy dress while both of u are home? I know what I am saying bro...but don't worry u can't understand it now but I am sure u will understand later sir

Kobojunkie:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 So, if a person does not subscribe at all to your traditional ideals or clings to traditions that are completely different or even opposite of yours, that personal is immoral, abi?

2. God forbid I accept anything called brideprice for my son or daughter. Tufiakwa! They are not cattle that I must have a price on their heads.

Good for you! Not everyone thinks like you do and you have your own convictions why you chose the path you are on but you cannot cancel out what is basically considered moral to most people simply because you don’t subscribe to it.

Except you won’t marry or you meet parents that have the same thinking like yours in this regard otherwise you’ll remain single if you insist adamantly on this

Kobojunkie:
1. Post an image of it make we see abeg!.

2. There are no two different Nigerian laws... The Marriage Act in Nigeria is the same act that is used and referenced by even Nigerian embassies everywhere in the world. So, don't deceive yourself into thinking one court can do its own thing while others can also do their own thing. The Law is unified for a reason.

I will have to look for it, which may not be practicable as such things are under the care of the wifey.

"Court Marriage" is in a registry not a court per se. It can only be dissolved via divorce processes in a high court.

And I'm sharing my experience not theory. So I cannot be deceiving myself about a process I underwent.

otomatic:
■ Change is constant. And processes are dynamic. Maybe then it was not an issue. Maybe now men are absconding with people's daughters and the families are making trouble.
■ I mean how else will you explain a topic such as this. Someone wants to marry without paying bride price and wants the registry to provide cover.
■ Wait until a powerful family sues the registry staff for giving out their daughter(trafficking) or whatever they can come up with.

The way una dey condescend towards women... ehn! So, in your head, an adult woman is the property of her parents, and consent is required from them hence the reason why you had to write this Letter of consent in your case and the case of your sister?

2. Clearly, Ignorance is to blame for you feeling you needed to write a letter of consent when you got married and for your adult sister too. You didn't realize that consent is only required when an underage individual is to enter into marriage. The registry does not provide cover. Rather, what it provides is legality to the decision made by two consenting adults.

3. I was right after all! This is all of ignorance on your part.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying!

Lie to because of?
You no feed or clothe me,I no fear you,so I don't f***g care about what you think,why will I lie to you.

otomatic:
■ I will have to look for it, which may not be practicable as such things are under the care of the wifey.
"Court Marriage" is in a registry not a court per se. It can only be dissolved via divorce processes in a high court. And I'm sharing my experience not theory. So I cannot be deceiving myself about a process I underwent.

Your supposed experience is marred by what is likely ignorance of the law in Nigeria though.

What is referred to as court marriage is the registration of marriage with the courts. You wrote letters of consent because you were not aware of the fact that a letter of consent is only required in the case that at least one of the partners in the marriage is underage. The Law hasn't changed much in many decades and it is available online for all who would like to learn to educate themselves.

luckyz4rea:
■ Good for you! Not everyone thinks like you do and you have your own convictions why you chose the path you are on but you cannot cancel out what is basically considered moral to most people simply because you don’t subscribe to it. Except you won’t marry or you meet parents that have the same thinking like yours in this regard otherwise you’ll remain single if you insist adamantly on this

So, all those people who decided to chart their path and not shackle themselves to the opinion of parents and third parties are what? Not Nigerians? Dey there dey carry other people opinion for head dey think say you are better for it!

immortalcrown:
I am not sure but I believe the court respects tradition and may insist on payment of bride price before conducting the court marriage..

This is not true. Nothing concerns court and bride price payment.

I did court way before the traditional marriage. Nothing of such was mentioned in court.

Kobojunkie:
The way una dey condescend towards women... ehn! So, in your head, an adult woman is the property of her parents, and consent is required from them hence the reason why you had to write this Letter of consent in your case and the case of your sister?

2. Clearly, Ignorance is to blame for you feeling you needed to write a letter of consent when you got married and for your adult sister too. You didn't realize that consent is only required when an underage individual is to enter into marriage. The registry does not provide cover. Rather, what it provides is legality to the decision made by two consenting adults.

3. I was right after all! This is all of ignorance on your part.

It's okay.
An adult woman is not the property of her parents yet the groom will be given a list to fulfil during marriage, else they are not married but cohabiting.
I don't condescend on women, but facts are facts.

Look, everyone who passed through that process in that registry fulfilled the same requirements. These requirements were not tailored to specific individuals. And you must fulfil them for your application to be accepted except maybe you are not interested in being married there.

I hope you know that underage marriage is not permissible in the south. Even registry cannot cover that.

Kobojunkie:
So, all those people who decided to chart their path and not shackle themselves to the opinion of parents and third parties are what? Not Nigerians? Dey there dey carry other people opinion for head dey think say you are better for it!

You probably thought you are better off and maybe expected I’ll applaud you for it. Everyone is free to believe what they would.

I will pay bride price and if I’m told not to I will not insist. I can decide to take and not take. Follow your convictions but don’t discredit others’ by insisting on opinion imposition.

80% of parents will take bride price. Those not taking understand why they don’t and you can’t do anything about that. so just ignore them and live your convictions.

Kobojunkie:
Lol... are your church weddings free? Do couples not pay for the space, time and food?

Stop spinning tales abeg!

Who is saying it should be free?
I have seen weddings done on normal service days with bride and groom wearing just their normal Sunday wears.
No bridal train or all of that sh*t.
Just blessing of the marriage and light refreshments.
Case closed.