Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

Godoverevery:

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

drnoel:


Sit down and table the issue. That you are dating someone doesn't mean you have to be their bank.
Remind her what her words were before the relationship and make her understand how it has changed during the relationship.
Let her know you also have your expenses and would prefer she handles her money matters without disturbing you about it. It's that simple.
If then you care to give her something on the side, that's your own wish to do so and not your obligation.
I don't know why men shy to make their stance surgically clear on this issue.

Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

Godoverevery:

For good 2 months me and this lady spoke extremely about the kind of relationship we both want.
I don't need to sit her down and table cos it seems that her mindset.

She clearly know what she is doing cos the last time I actually had a discussion about this act with her.

Magnoliaa:
It's the Lizzy's Cut & Stitches for me.

That means you sef haven't 'upgraded' her from seeing her as just a mere date. So e be like she nor too rate you, too, because I understand that partners should be very generous to each other, but I cannot imagine asking for money for body cream, of all things, in just a 3-week-old relationship. When I am a working class woman, no less.

I have dated a lady that even when it wasn't working she never asked from me , I did give her on my on volition, meanwhile, I have dated countless of ladies, even though they are working, they start requesting for money for lunch and data , Even before I toast.

Don't you people do any preliminary 'gauging' before going into relationships?


Anyway, I don't really have much to say. Lemme hope my boo, pansophist, will come and do justice to the matter if he has the time.

NonAIWriting:
You will send away all the good wife life is sending in your direction. A man must provide, stop these macho mentality.

DaTruths:
Nigerian ladies sees Relationship as a mini marriage no matter how rich they are.

Buy the cream for her if you have the money, there is joy that comes with providing for your woman, even if she's dangote's daughter.

It makes you the Alpha of the relationship.

Me i don't believe in Gender equality, so i will provide for my woman if she's respectful.

Godoverevery:

I don't have an issh with one helping out a lady you dating once in awhile but I believe the relationship must have gotten to a certain stage.

3weeks into a relationship is too early for me to be doing all that.

Last week it was her soap that got finished after so much complaining of not eating all day I sent her money and this week her soap have finished.

Ballzproblem2:
The mentality of billing men has eaten deep into our girls whether they have money or not.

Nigeria girl fit get 300k for account but still want that small 5k you dey manage.

Godoverevery:

I don't have an issh with one helping out a lady you dating once in awhile but I believe the relationship must have gotten to a certain stage.

3weeks into a relationship is too early for me to be doing all that.

Last week it was her soap that got finished after so much complaining of not eating all day I sent her money and this week her soap have finished.

Fiscus105:



It has to do with orientation of individual, and not because working or not. There are some ladies that, it's embedded in their genes to turn relationship to ATM.

Even what they don't need, they request just to be feeling like conquerors.

DanielsParker:


I suggest you leave that relationship. On the long run you’ll be full of complaints and all. 3 weeks is too soon for all these coming from a lady that works.

Godoverevery:


Am going to tell her straight tonight I don't have money.

And I will re define things again ......so she can make a choice.

DanielsParker:


Better. Don’t start what you can’t continue with. If you start buying cream and soap, she will always remind you that her cream and soap has finished. That’s women for you.

But if you like her and you have the money, send it to her this first time, and tell her that it may not always be this way. Then watch her reaction, also watch if she will still continue to ask you for these things .

Magnoliaa:
It's the Lizzy's Cut & Stitches for me.

That means you sef haven't 'upgraded' her from seeing her as just a mere date. So e be like she nor too rate you, too, because I understand that partners should be very generous to each other, but I cannot imagine asking for money for body cream, of all things, in just a 3-week-old relationship. When I am a working-class woman, no less.

Don't you people do any preliminary 'gauging' before going into relationships?


Anyway, I don't really have much to say. Lemme hope my boo, pansophist, will come and do justice to the matter if he has the time.

Godoverevery:

Someone that is already complaining of only eating beans and bread since morning just now.

I have the money but I won't buy her anything.

She left my place yesterday morning after spending the weekend.....she deliver 3 clothes to her client which they paid yesterday night so how come she complaining of not being able to buy food??

Maybe she wants you to pay her for the weekend she spent with you. Funny but true, Nigerian girls monetize sex directly or indirectly.

Like I said , add something to the 4500 she has .. then watch if this behavior will continue.
As a Nigerian man, you really can’t avoid these kind of scenarios.

Godoverevery:

Someone that is already complaining of only eating beans and bread since morning just now.

I have the money but I won't buy her anything.

She left my place yesterday morning after spending the weekend.....she deliver 3 clothes to her client which they paid yesterday night so how come she complaining of not being able to buy food??