it's well.

Away match with 5.7 odd

Your brother is already escorting her. It’s December, and she’s an adult, she can’t ask for approval every time she wants to go out, unless that was your agreement from the beginning. If you don’t trust her the marriage cannot last. Be at peace, there’s no problem. Go for your own events. High blood pressure kills.

After they will say women are petty.

She has even suggested your brother join her, what else do you want? Abeg free the woman! Marriage is not slavery!


If it's you won't you go

YelloweWest:

Kilon pa e lerin?

Oya we...yrey ni?

Oga, she told you she wants to attend a wedding, let her go. You stopping her does not change any intentions she has, rather if they are innocent moves, it them makes her feel caged.
Let her go, who will commit will find a way, even if you padlock her in your basement.

cococandy:
Would you require her consent before traveling yourself? If not, rest the matter

Them dey talk one thing, you don bring feminist movement in

For the fact she is going with your brother should give you peace of mind and take out any negative thoughts!
This is the festive period and women in particular likes to travel n hangout...you know her better than any of us here so allow the trust to remain.
I wish you the very best and merry Christmas!

"it is a sorry household where the hen crows and the cock holds his peace."
-Mafia Manager

Femiairboy:
Your brother is already escorting her. It’s December, and she’s an adult, she can’t ask for approval every time she wants to go out, unless that was your agreement from the beginning. If you don’t trust her the marriage cannot last. Be at peace, there’s no problem. Go for your own events. High blood pressure kills.

One of them spotted.

How many years have you been married?

If you can live with her all those years, why can't you give her a benefit of doubt now, till she proves you wrong


So much fuss about nothing.

Let agreement be agreement let there be no self-generated and impromptu wedding trip that was not discussed earlier or else she chooses between you and the wedding ceremony if that friend of hers was such a close friend to her a wedding invitation would've come at least a month earlier before her departure and she would've freely and excitedly told you beforehand.We're in the day of fast-moving technology and alot can happen in a record time most especially on cellphone.

Obolor123454:
NB, I OPENED THIS ACCOUNT FOR THIS

Hello my friends, I need you different view and please I need your in put about my wife.
We live in the states. she is in kenya for a three weeks visit with the 2 kids. She has been in kenya for about 10 days, three days ago, she called me and said she will be attending her friend's marriage ceremonial, which is taking place 600km away she did not say if the person is a male or female ( I did not ask because I was just kind of not wanting to be drawn into the discussion), she said she may not be able to come back same day, because event is starting late that she will like my brother to come with her, because she does not want to go alone. This is the first time I am hearing about this occassion, she never mentioned it before and I do not know the friend she is talking about. (or at least I am sure, because I do not really know most of friends, and she is not the friend keeping type)
I just told her that I am not ready for the discussion yet.
Please guys what are your take, I do not feel like telling her to go ( well, she may still go without my consent )
Please it may sound stupid, I just need your genuine advice

Too many kids on nairaland. How old are you? She wa ts to travel with your brother and you are already foaming in the mouth. If you are uncomfortable with it, forbid her fdom going

Another scam loading. Only God knows the intentions of mankind

NaughtyBrainiac:
I don't really understand why you are worried.

She requests that your brother comes with her.

Is there more to the story that you aren't telling us?

Several times, in time past, his brother snatched his girlfriends in high school & college, hence his paranoia.

IF SHE'S A WOMAN YOU CAN TRUST. LET HER GO WITH YOUR BRO. IF NOT, DECLINE.

Obolor123454:
NB, I OPENED THIS ACCOUNT FOR THIS

Hello my friends, I need you different view and please I need your in put about my wife.
We live in the states. she is in kenya for a three weeks visit with the 2 kids. She has been in kenya for about 10 days, three days ago, she called me and said she will be attending her friend's marriage ceremonial, which is taking place 600km away she did not say if the person is a male or female ( I did not ask because I was just kind of not wanting to be drawn into the discussion), she said she may not be able to come back same day, because event is starting late that she will like my brother to come with her, because she does not want to go alone. This is the first time I am hearing about this occassion, she never mentioned it before and I do not know the friend she is talking about. (or at least I am sure, because I do not really know most of friends, and she is not the friend keeping type)
I just told her that I am not ready for the discussion yet.
Please guys what are your take, I do not feel like telling her to go ( well, she may still go without my consent )
Please it may sound stupid, I just need your genuine advice

Op just dey fear because of ordinary 2 hours wey she go take fvck and svck the biggest and sweetest deek she has ever seen

Obolor123454:
NB, I OPENED THIS ACCOUNT FOR THIS

Hello my friends, I need you different view and please I need your in put about my wife.
We live in the states. she is in kenya for a three weeks visit with the 2 kids. She has been in kenya for about 10 days, three days ago, she called me and said she will be attending her friend's marriage ceremonial, which is taking place 600km away she did not say if the person is a male or female ( I did not ask because I was just kind of not wanting to be drawn into the discussion), she said she may not be able to come back same day, because event is starting late that she will like my brother to come with her, because she does not want to go alone. This is the first time I am hearing about this occassion, she never mentioned it before and I do not know the friend she is talking about. (or at least I am sure, because I do not really know most of friends, and she is not the friend keeping type)
I just told her that I am not ready for the discussion yet.
Please guys what are your take, I do not feel like telling her to go ( well, she may still go without my consent )
Please it may sound stupid, I just need your genuine advice

Oga, you are the man of the house, command what you want. men of nowadays self...

Dear, I'll prefer you not go. I'll credit your account for gift to the celebrant or....Simple!

She's is sensible enough to know what to say to her frnd. Abi ma she be best lady?

Simply tell her to send you the copy of the invite. That should clear whatever doubt you have in your mind.

Obolor123454:
NB, I OPENED THIS ACCOUNT FOR THIS

Hello my friends, I need you different view and please I need your in put about my wife.
We live in the states. she is in kenya for a three weeks visit with the 2 kids. She has been in kenya for about 10 days, three days ago, she called me and said she will be attending her friend's marriage ceremonial, which is taking place 600km away she did not say if the person is a male or female ( I did not ask because I was just kind of not wanting to be drawn into the discussion), she said she may not be able to come back same day, because event is starting late that she will like my brother to come with her, because she does not want to go alone. This is the first time I am hearing about this occassion, she never mentioned it before and I do not know the friend she is talking about. (or at least I am sure, because I do not really know most of friends, and she is not the friend keeping type)
I just told her that I am not ready for the discussion yet.
Please guys what are your take, I do not feel like telling her to go ( well, she may still go without my consent )
Please it may sound stupid, I just need your genuine advice

You mean you even had to open a new account just to post this!

By the way, I'm still checking to see where lies the problem gan gan, cos I can't find any yet.

I don't know about every other person oo but me In my marriage that is not even a discussion.
Anyday you feel u are adult enough to decide where to go with or without my permission not just consent will be the day we will end it all.
No time to long story and drama.

BS write-up. School is still in session for kids. The most they get off is one week for holidays. And if they are babies/toddlers what mother would take on such an arduous trek?
What wife/woman doesn't talk about her friends and share that with her husband?

Man cannot kill himself

To be honest, for you to say even if u tell her not to go she will still go it shows u are less of a Man.
secondly ur wife told u something like that u never wanted to have it as a discussion what kind of a man does that.?
I am married with three children if am not in house my wife knows where i am talkless of her. I think u need to grown up, u know ur wife and family better than anybody, i will advise u to discuss with ur broda and asked him about the marriage and also take time to do some private research because women are terribe being. In as much there is a clause in this story u might also have an issue, which u wont say probably that is why ur wife is acting this way, that is story for another day.
if u are to be honest with urself u should know the reason y she is taking this action. pls fix ur home in the best way for u and ur wife to be happy again and be careful about the advise u want to take.. i dont advise my listening to one party i prefer when both party talk there mind so we can appropriately address it.
because every woman knows the man is the head of the home, for her to be acting up there is somethign u are not telling us.
I wish u the best. I pray for restoration to ur home. God bless ur home.

Biola67:
Away match with 5.7 odd

...this one na Handicap

My take is that, you sound worried, and that is to be taken into consideration. If you the husband and one that lives with her is this disturbed then there must be underlying reasons for you to feel such. Therefore, I support whatever your heart tells you to do. You can't go wrong!
In my own situation, I will allow her to go. She doesn't even have friends (I always encourage to do), she has never travelled for any event in 9years and so far, I think I trust her. If she ever asks to travel for anything or any reason, I will be more than happy to allow her. I have had no reason to doubt her.

Its really unfortunate there is no longer trust in marriage.

The society is completely messed up such that trust is now fully eroded.

Too bad.

I think OP wants to do one thing in that US where he is. That's why his mind is worrying him.
He is now projecting his thoughts into his wife.
OP, your wife took your brother along as a witness to her actions.
At least your brother is your family member and you should trust him not to mess around with your wife.
All these people that will fly out of Nigeria and still be hanging unto NIgeria.
Nobody asked you, but you just have to tell us that you live in the states.
That is called bragging!
And it's very unnecessary.
Now, it's we local yeye people that you abandoned in Nigeria that you asking for advice again.
Which kind nonsense be all this?
Submit 10 fried chicken from McDonalds and 2 family bucket chips to quench my anger.