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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by atobs4real(m): 1:45pm On Dec 05, 2023

May your sorrow be suppressed to your pressure

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by luminouz(m): 1:47pm On Dec 05, 2023

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

Look at what this one is saying!!! 😒😒

Just look at how all the women came out of the blocks screaming and yelling. Most didn't bother about the backstory at all and were so adamant on her keeping the children, so she could collect child support from OP.

It's the exact same set of women that endorsed the killing of a foetus on another thread few days ago. Awon Child killers!!

Now they are claiming that kids are 'too young and need their mother upandan'

Now who no know una dey take una serious na...😂

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by 247man: 1:48pm On Dec 05, 2023

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?

Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530

Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

At least you know u will japa alone if the time comes

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by JALOZIE: 1:49pm On Dec 05, 2023

why don't you allow the woman to take care of her children ? don't you think she will be in a better position to take care of the kids than your mum and sister? the only thing you have to do is to make sure you take care of their needs ,visit them when you can . you can not loose the kids if you do the needful .

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by Testimony1988(m): 1:49pm On Dec 05, 2023

Get a good lawyer to also defend your case.

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by Fuckyoumod: 1:50pm On Dec 05, 2023

We4all:
You love your boys so much, but the girl doesn't matter, right? The money you used to rent an apartment for your mom could have been utilized in renting a decent accommodation for your ex wife and kids.

If you had done that, there is no way she would deny you access to your kid if you continue to be a responsible dad. As it is, you are doing more harm to the triplets by separating them.

Do you want them to grow up and begin to see each other as strangers? You guys should sit down and resolve your issues for the kids sake. Life is simple, but people just love to complicate things with their over bloated ego.

shut up there! See your mouth like rent apartment for your ex wife.

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by humblespirit: 1:50pm On Dec 05, 2023

Don't be childish, have a thorough thought about the children? No one can take care of the children like their mum if all things be the equal.
It's better to leave children with their mum relative in situation like this becos your pple will be talking ill of their mum which might affect their self esteem in the nearest future
Forgive and dont deprive children of their mum becos u be issue with her. Let her sign undertaking if possible, am separated from my wife eventhough my pple said I shud take the children from her i said no because I know that there's nothing like mum's love.

You will loose this case and with a good lawyer you will be forced to pay both child and spouse support

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by julybaba(m): 1:50pm On Dec 05, 2023

You can’t keep those kids away from her for a long time. She will finally get what she wants.

You need to start having meaningful conversations with her, on how you want your kids to have good future and your plans to make this happen.

Your children should not be pawns in this chess game.

I pray God give you the wisdom to do the right things.

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by ejimatic: 1:54pm On Dec 05, 2023

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?

Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530

Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

. The children are supposed to be with thier mother considering their ages. They need her now.
By the time they become 8 you have the right to take them back to yiur custody as yiur property but both of you even now and then have the right to see the children.
In some cases however some minor adults can be allowed to decide whom to stay with between father and mother but not in a tender of 4.
When father and mother are not at peace children suffer. In an ideal situation father and mother shiukd take care of the children together

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by Available9: 1:54pm On Dec 05, 2023*

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?

Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530

Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

allow her to take you to court...

Yes, the judge will grant her custody as it is usually the case, but for her to take you to court requesting for custody, the law assumes that she is capable of providing at least shelter for the children...in that case, you will PARTLY support her financially for the upkeep of the children and will also have the right to visit them occasionally...

Make sure you pass through the court to settle that aspect... don't use village people, or elders and don't assume to start providing without guidelines, hence you will just see yourself sponsoring her lifestyle and also paying her rent. When you pass through the court, you are partly supporting her and the issue of rent will not come in since she is fighting for custody...it means she has a place under the law

Additionally, after she has been granted custody, make sure you handle the health aspect of your children...either through NHIS or talk to a private clinic close to where they reside...from where ever you are, you can communicate with the clinic, else you will be receiving calls every week saying A is sick, B is sick, C is sick ...but I have treated them and the bill is 300,000 or the hospital needs so so amount...and before you know, she will start giving your money to her new boyfriend to start business. Have direct contact with their health care provider and if there must be any referrals, it must be approved by you.

Make sure you have direct communication with their schools...same reason as above.

Lastly, make sure that they spend at least one of the holidays in your house or parents house... either first term holiday, second term holiday or third term holiday...in that way it will be difficult for her to brain wash them against you

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by BarrElChapo(m): 1:56pm On Dec 05, 2023

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?

Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530

Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

Not necessarily according to the applicable laws but seek the services of a lawyer to be better informed.

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by danzaki63: 2:03pm On Dec 05, 2023

YOU can win in Court, just get a Lawyer that can prove

That she has no means of taking good care of them
That she will be of bad moral influence on them.
That she is of no stable mind, job and place.
That she has another husband who can maltreat your kids

if you have very good Lawyer you are good to go.

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by eyinjuege: 2:06pm On Dec 05, 2023

Yes, the judge in Nigeria will give her custody due to their age.
Since you're too busy yourself to look after them and you don't even live in the same state as the children, why can't you allow their mother have the children?
It's their aunt and grandmother looking after them now, when their mother is alive.
It would have even sounded better if you are living with them with their grandmother but uou don't even see these children everyday. Maybe even once a month sef.
Give the children to their mother and have sn arrangement about their upkeep and visitation.
It's not fight everytime.
She shouldn't have forcefully taken the girl though

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by laivwire(m): 2:07pm On Dec 05, 2023

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

Not if he has an equally good lawyer. There are numerous ways to discredit the mother from taking custody of the kids.

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by VULCAN(m): 2:08pm On Dec 05, 2023

It is a criminal offence for a parent to kidnap their own child.

Look it up and stop using your own knowledge as yardstick to judge everything you hear.

Having said this, from a legal perspective, her taking the kids with her may may not actually be termed kidnapping as he does not have sole custody of the kids granted to him by a court. Nor is she taking them to a place where he does not have access.

If she takes them abroad then that registers as kidnap as he cannot gain access to them again.

What evil women do in such cases is to claim that he abused her and the kids and get asylum.

At that stage the kids are gone for good.

He won't see them till they as adults come to look for him

Mhizzard:
The word 'kidnapped' you used it sounds funny to me,is she not your once wife whom gave birth to those kids;therefore she has right over them.
however,if she go to court there is posibility of her wining you in court.that doesn't mean you won't have the chance to see your kids anymore till they grow younger of age they would know the right.surely,they will come for you as far you will be taking your responsibility over them till time comes

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by LadyRosa2(f): 2:10pm On Dec 05, 2023

laivwire:
Not if he has an equally good lawyer. There are numerous ways to discredit the mother from taking custody of the kids.

They are still kids. Again, she is not mentally challenged.

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by Obierika(m): 2:10pm On Dec 05, 2023

Ovieemmanuel:
Ofcourse she would get full custody and you get visitation rights. I would advise you let her take care of the kids you just support financially and always pick them up to spend some time with you. The best person to take care of the kids is thier mum. Eventually when they come of age you can be together again.

The problem with letting the woman have custody of the kids is that she would systematically poison their minds against their father!

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by Singhabele: 2:16pm On Dec 05, 2023

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

To be honest if I know this us ur plan I will eliminate you long b4 u start harboring such thoughts cis I know u want to use the kids to extort the man.

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by esthel(f): 2:16pm On Dec 05, 2023

You took children away from their mother and gave them to your mum and sister in the village. You don't even stay with them, are you not wicked like this. How can a mum kidnap her own child.

Their mother is alive to take care of them but you went to dump them in a village you dont even live.

The wife should get a good lawyer who will prove you are not available to take care of them, and that their education and well being is at stake. You people are selfish.

If you have done well why are you scared their mum will poison their heart against you because thats the only reason you all weaponize children. Let her have her children and ensure you get visitation rights

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by FireUpNow(m): 2:17pm On Dec 05, 2023

Your x wife kidnapped your sweet little baby girl and you too decided to kidnap your boys? You two are guilty of kidnapping. My question is did you marry her legally either in the registry or traditional way or church? How did you and your x wife dissolved the marriage? Those kids are still under age and the court will give your x wife the custody of the kids. Why did you divorce her? Answer those questions then we can put our mouth. For me I will suggest you go to court and fight for joint custody of the kids. Have you married another woman and she has gotten another man too? You and your x wife and just suffering the kids and they belong to the two of you. Did you put your sperm in your anus to birth them or you put your sperm into her. See oga you did wrong so is your wife. Go to court and you go learn Chinese come back

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by id4sho(m): 2:18pm On Dec 05, 2023

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?

Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530

Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

The blunt truth is that the judge will give her custody. Find a way and frustrate her

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by Invest4growth: 2:21pm On Dec 05, 2023

I think she should go to court so there can.be a binding agreement on co-parenting. You are being marrow minded by denying boys of parental guidance. A d whatever is.giving you the idea that you are the owner of the boys is deceiving you. Kindly support her going to court or enter an agreement on guided visitation or you allow the boys go to school with her and you have them.durinf the holidays. You have no right to.deny.her access to her children and vice versa.

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by NoToPile: 2:21pm On Dec 05, 2023

You and your wife should resolve this una matter jare.

After all these while.

The judge will grant her CUSTODY they are little children and you can't even take care of the boys but shipped them to relatives.

Let her take care of the children, be sending chop money and you visit them. EOD.

If she drags you to court you are on your own, she will still get custody, you will send upkeep money and you will also get to visit.

Why not agree amicably.

How on earth do people take little children away from their mother,

Both of you have been dragging these triplets matter since they were 2years plus.

Ahan.

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by otosa(m): 2:23pm On Dec 05, 2023

She has a 92% chance of winning the cast against you since it has been noted once that you denied her access to see them. And as you said, the children are not living with you directly, with this, you have in 92% chance of losing the cast. Because since they are not up to 18 years old and they can't be living with you directly, the court will put them under her custody till they get to 18 years old. So, what you can do if truly you love those children, is make peace with your ex-wife for those children's sake so that the two of you will be on the good side to make life loveable for those children.

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by LadyRosa2(f): 2:26pm On Dec 05, 2023

Singhabele:
To be honest if I know this us ur plan I will eliminate you long b4 u start harboring such thoughts cis I know u want to use the kids to extort the man.

Extort a man earning 55k salary huh

I rather pity him cheesy

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Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by Slurity(m): 2:28pm On Dec 05, 2023

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?

Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530

Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

YES THEY WILL GRANT HER THE KIDS MAINLY BECAUSE THEY ARE BELOW 6 YEARS OLD AND IF YOU ARE THE ONE THAT ASKED FOR THE DIVORCE. BUT IF YOU ARE YET TO REMARRY, YOU HAVE A GRATE CHANCE TO KEEP THEM ONLY AFTER THEY ARE 6 OR ABOVE.

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by farem: 2:29pm On Dec 05, 2023

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?

Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530

Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

Re: Ex-Wife Threatened To Take Me To Court For Children Custody by Mindlog: 2:30pm On Dec 05, 2023

danzaki63:
YOU can win in Court, just get a Lawyer that can prove

That she has no means of taking good care of them
That she will be of bad moral influence on them.
That she is of no stable mind, job and place.
That she has another husband who can maltreat your kids

if you have very good Lawyer you are good to go.

I. She does not need to have the financial means because the court would mandate the father to make provision for the children.
2. He has to prove with pictorial and video evidence that she is involved in a lifestyle that endangers children.
3. A psychiatrist has to prove with clinical assessment that she is mentally not stable, a woman in Nigeria not having a job or her own accommodation are not minus when considering custody, men have been told to pay for the rent where the ex-wife and the kids would live.
4. He has to bring to the court, documentary proof that she has remarried.

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