Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

royalfly:


Wonder what. He should rent house for the ex cos of the kids? Have u followed the story b4 now, do u know the pain he has felt always this while. Some people just want to sound woke and forget reality. If u have never been through things like this u will never know the pain. He never wanted the family apart. She can't eat her cake and have it

Houseontherock1:
Unless you are sure she's not a good mum and will be a bad influence on the boys, please let her have them, they need her at this age and I don't think your mother and sister can take care of them like she will. Settle amicably and out of courts if possible

WorldRichest:


She will not any any child, in fact, the one with her will be taken away if the guy can prove that the ex wife is mentally unstable, that's what Femi Fani Kayode proved against that bleached Olosho who had triplets for him. So stop talking through your anus

MrFly:
very soon u will be in her shoes ok? Divorce no dey tire una

Akabuking:
if it's with someone like me, see you in court then

We4all:


You obviously don't know what you are talking about. I have followed the story and know he wasn't smart enough to marry a good wife. Why must his kids pay for his bad choices? Who asked him to marry a bad wife in the first place?

So, because his ex wife is bad, he should neglect the kids welfare, right? Have you ever heard of 'spousal support'? No court gives a damn whether your ex wife is bad or wanted to kill you.

As long as you have kids together, then you must put your ego aside and support them. That is the price a man has to pay for choosing a wrong partner. It is only in Nigeria that dumb men punish their kids for mistakes made by their ex wives.

Mindlog:

I. She does not need to have the financial means because the court would mandate the father to make provision for the children.
2. He has to prove with pictorial and video evidence that she is involved in a lifestyle that endangers children.
3. A psychiatrist has to prove with clinical assessment that she is mentally not stable, a woman in Nigeria not having a job or her own accommodation are not minus when considering custody, men have been told to pay for the rent where the ex-wife and the kids would live.
4. He has to bring to the court, documentary proof that she has remarried.

JALOZIE:
why don't you allow the woman to take care of her children ? don't you think she will be in a better position to take care of the kids than your mum and sister? the only thing you have to do is to make sure you take care of their needs ,visit them when you can . you can not loose the kids if you do the needful .

royalfly:



Well thank God this nigeria, we are dumb, no problem, let's leave it that way. Early Nigerian ways or culture, women don't run away with kids when they want to leave and if they do, they know it's thier duty to take care of that kids. Thats the Nigerian way we dont need no foreign ways. He is not punishing the kids, the woman is the one punishing the kids with her decision. It's only when it's the man that trew them away u can say that. Its a pity what we have all become.

Hotice085:


Why are you both treating the triplets like this?
If she goes to court you will lose, and also be paying monthly dues better you allow her to take care of them and they be coming for holidays to stay with you

Kobojunkie:
You say you have the boys but from your own OP, they don't live with you as instead you left them with relatives in the village. So technically, you don't have the boys. Due to the nature of your job, you can't be with the kids during this time that they need at least a parent to care for them so why not allow your wife havd them all until they are old enough and your job no longer keeps you from being with them?

You both ought to seek shared custody of the kids so she can care for them while you can visit them when you are not working but you holding the boys hostage by dumping them in the village is not something any sane person would want for children of that age.

Mindlog:


The boys are not even living with you but with relatives, that counts against you as you are not in a position to be the primary care giver of the boys.

They are triplets, their separation is not good for their overall development as they have to live and grow under the same roof irrespective of the issues between you and their mother, they are not slices of bread that each of you would choose the ones you want.

Get your state's social care/welfare office involved, to work out an arrangement that would benefit the triplets and that would be in the direction of the 3 children living with their mother while you make provisions for them in terms of feeding, education, healthcare etc and also arrange how often you go visit them, if possible work out time they can come spend some of their school holidays with you and video calling them on WhatsApp must be regular.

In as much as you feel that your mother and sister have been taking good care of the boys, they are just the boys' grandmother and aunt, not their mother who is still alive and not clinically diagnosed to be mentally unstable nor abusing substances.

You both should not allow your egos lead to using your children' lives as a battlefield.

We4all:


Keep justifying nonsense. You remember you are African when its convenient, right? The early culture you mentioned, were the men not the sole provider? If he was providing enough to cater for his family, would she have run away?

Kobojunkie:
You say you have the boys but from your own OP, they don't live with you as instead you left them with relatives in the village. So technically, you don't have the boys. Due to the nature of your job, you can't be with the kids during this time that they need at least a parent to care for them so why not allow your wife havd them all until they are old enough and your job no longer keeps you from being with them?

You both ought to seek shared custody of the kids so she can care for them while you can visit them when you are not working but you holding the boys hostage by dumping them in the village is not something any sane person would want for children of that age.

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

gidjah:
Kobo naira m kobo junkie , how are you today ?you sound amazing ,this is good on you o !where do you reside ?.Honestly I side you on this ,it's better he looses Thier custody than cause those kids to loose out of perfect and full parental care. I knew what I suffered being out of parental custody, till date I shall never wish same for anyone. Why should him a d his wife sef seperate just after four years and with triplets for God sake ? It's weird o!can't people just be tollerant ,?what has Hollywood and Nollywood done to us all ?

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

Beremx:
Oga release the boys to their mother for proper care and bonding. They need to be with their mom. Do you care to think how they are being affected without bonding with their sister? They should all be with their mum while you go visit them. If you can't cope with their absence, reconcile with your wife for their sake

HaneefahRN:
But the children are not even with you.

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

royalfly:


This is strictly, Nigeria for crying out loud. Do u know how many men thier wives av taken to the court and the man never showed up.its only those that want to be in court goes to court. It's a pity cos I will use every needs necessary to make sure the woman who takes me to court looses.

luminouz:

Even when she is obviously irresponsible? She left him with the kids when he went broke, so what does she want now if not child support?

Hotice085:


People are talking from experience you are talking " this is Nigeria', do you know how many numbers of lawyers like this case especially on the woman side?
Ogbeni, Nigeria or no Nigeria case pass case;

Hotice085:


That is why she wants to go to court and man a lawyer can win it for her, especially when the man is not directly taking care of the children