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Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

Why are you both treating the triplets like this?
If she goes to court you will lose, and also be paying monthly dues better you allow her to take care of them and they be coming for holidays to stay with you

luminouz:
Look at what this one is saying!!! 😒😒

Just look at how all the women came out of the blocks screaming and yelling. Most didn't bother about the backstory at all and were so adamant on her keeping the children, so she could collect child support from OP.

It's the exact same set of women that endorsed the killing of a foetus on another thread few days ago. Awon Child killers!!

Now they are claiming that kids are 'too young and need their mother upandan'

Now who no know una dey take una serious na...😂

She is 100% right, you can't live the custody of the children to the grand mother when the mother is alive and healthy

Ovieemmanuel:
Ofcourse she would get full custody and you get visitation rights. I would advise you let her take care of the kids you just support financially and always pick them up to spend some time with you. The best person to take care of the kids is thier mum. Eventually when they come of age you can be together again.

"The best person to take care of the kids is thier mum"......Not true! Absolutely not true.

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

this girl no well ooo

We4all:
You love your boys so much, but the girl doesn't matter, right? The money you used to rent an apartment for your mom could have been utilized in renting a decent accommodation for your ex wife and kids.

If you had done that, there is no way she would deny you access to your kid if you continue to be a responsible dad. As it is, you are doing more harm to the triplets by separating them.

Do you want them to grow up and begin to see each other as strangers? You guys should sit down and resolve your issues for the kids sake. Life is simple, but people just love to complicate things with their over bloated ego.

What is wrong with him playing for his mums apartment?

Let her go to court. Don't be afraid. You have a good case of abandonment... No good mother will abandoned her kids.... I believe they are not up to 4yrs, when she left them. So you can claim she is not a good mother. But for the sake of peace, try and be there for the visit. Allowed her to see them in your presence or any strong reliable family member that can withstand her if she try anything funny

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

I support you sister. Nothing will ever make me leave my children. But above all, I hope the woman is responsible enough to take care of the children, both in character and finance.

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

Your wife will treat your kids more better than you keeping the kids with your mum or family member, bro i understand how you feel , most especially when you are not that financially strong, but you can talk this out with her and probably get a lawyer so you can always have custody of your kids anytime you are not at work and want to spend time with them.

Help those kids to have motherly and fatherly care and love, don't allow your personal greed's to affect the kids life, they are still small and need at least mother care . I know it is a very difficult decision to take , but if you truly love your kids let their mother be with them , and you can be in their lives too when you are very much available, when they start growing of age then you can decide on what or how to go about their custody.

Walahi i hate broken home, the innocent kids are always at the receiving end.

Prospertochu:
She abandoned them with me because I wasn't financially buoyant .

Can you find a way to show her and the court that you are still not buoyant financially?
Can you pretend as if you have lost your job or means of livelihood? Can it have some effect on the case?

Hotice085:
She is 100% right, you can't live the custody of the children to the grand mother when the mother is alive and healthy

Even when she is obviously irresponsible? She left him with the kids when he went broke, so what does she want now if not child support?

Prospertochu:
She abandoned them with me because I wasn't financially buoyant .

If you love those boys as you claim, they should have been living with you and not your mother, that way you personally oversee their upbringing on a day to day basis.

The Court favors parent more when it comes to care and custody of the kids, grandparents, siblings, etc only get involved when the court has determined that both parents are incapable of taking care of the kids.

As it is now, if she take you to court, she does even need a lawyer, the court will give her all three kids because the court would favor your ex-wife over your mother.

The case would have been a little different if the two boys are living with you, as since you stated she abandoned them, and they have good bond with you, you might be allowed to keep the boys with visitation to her and she keep the girl with visitation to you. But, you will need a very good lawyer for this, because courts favors that the kids stay together, there are a few exceptions to this and a good lawyer after accessing your case can draw up these exceptions in your favor.

If you guys share the kids as stated above, no one might pay the other support but if she get all three kids, you are in for a long one.

So access your options and proceed as you see fit.

What do you mean by "my boys$? The children belong to the mother more than the father. Return the children to their mother, when they are 18yrs, you can keep partial custody.

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

if it's with someone like me, see you in court then

We4all:
You love your boys so much, but the girl doesn't matter, right? The money you used to rent an apartment for your mom could have been utilized in renting a decent accommodation for your ex wife and kids.

If you had done that, there is no way she would deny you access to your kid if you continue to be a responsible dad. As it is, you are doing more harm to the triplets by separating them.

Do you want them to grow up and begin to see each other as strangers? You guys should sit down and resolve your issues for the kids sake. Life is simple, but people just love to complicate things with their over bloated ego.

What is this fool saying. Seriously u are a fool.

We4all:
You love your boys so much, but the girl doesn't matter, right? The money you used to rent an apartment for your mom could have been utilized in renting a decent accommodation for your ex wife and kids.

If you had done that, there is no way she would deny you access to your kid if you continue to be a responsible dad. As it is, you are doing more harm to the triplets by separating them.

Do you want them to grow up and begin to see each other as strangers? You guys should sit down and resolve your issues for the kids sake. Life is simple, but people just love to complicate things with their over bloated ego.

Thank you so much. The statement of "the mother abandoning them" it still difficult fo me to believe. There's something deep behind this post.

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

very soon u will be in her shoes ok? Divorce no dey tire una

In tandem with child's right,the custody of the children will normally go to your x wife because the children are still tender but you have visiting rights too.you also have the right to spend some time with them during holidays.you also have the responsibility to provide for those children because they are yours.if your x wife fails in her custody right the children will be taken away from her and given to you.please note that custody is not the same thing as ownership.you own the children so far they answer your name

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

The bottom line is... She wants both of you to come back together. I think she's the proud type because she don't want to come out clean and beg.

That's why she's coming for the kids.

Perhaps she wronged you.

If not, once a woman moves on, she won't give a fu*k about anything. Not even her kids.

I'm serious

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

Those boys will start behaving like village people while the girl would be smarter due to better exposure. Abeg get those boys and their sister together

LadyRosa2:
Oooh!

That's bad. Unfortunately, she will get the kids because they are still too small.

But who the hell leaves a marriage that produces triplet?You don't abandon such rare miracle, but I will never understand why people do somethings you know.

I am shocked 😲 to know that a marriage couple 👫 that birthed such a miracle could divorce so fast. The devil 👿 is really evil and wicked. Those bundles of joy 😂 don't deserve this immature and irresponsible behavior. I am sorry 🙏, I have to sound like this, you guys should retrace your steps to when the going was going good. Please and please, remember the good old days. I PLEAD.

royalfly:
What am I; a big fool even saying? Seriously I am a fool.

No wonder.

Fuckyoumod:
shut up there! See your mouth like rent apartment for your ex wife.

Yaba left escapee! Get off my mention.

LadyRosa2:
Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.

She will not any any child, in fact, the one with her will be taken away if the guy can prove that the ex wife is mentally unstable, that's what Femi Fani Kayode proved against that bleached Olosho who had triplets for him. So stop talking through your anus

Belleful:
Let her go to court. Don't be afraid. You have a good case of abandonment... No good mother will abandoned her kids.... I believe they are not up to 4yrs, when she left them. So you can claim she is not a good mother. But for the sake of peace, try and be there for the visit. Allowed her to see them in your presence or any strong reliable family member that can withstand her if she try anything funny

Don't mind all this people saying court this and that, are we not in nigeria? Let her take u to court. Ignore the court paper nothing will happen. Make sure knows the address of the kids, let them and come and arrest u. Seriously u can ignore any court case in nigeria nothing will happen.

We4all:
No wonder.

Wonder what. He should rent house for the ex cos of the kids? Have u followed the story b4 now, do u know the pain he has felt always this while. Some people just want to sound woke and forget reality. If u have never been through things like this u will never know the pain. He never wanted the family apart. She can't eat her cake and have it

Chiuzk:
I support you sister. Nothing will ever make me leave my children. But above all, I hope the woman is responsible enough to take care of the children, both in character and finance.

Well, is there father who leaves them to his mother and sister a more responsible parent in this?

since you dont even stay with the kids, isnt it better you let her have them if shes ready to still be their mother and you have full visitation right as well as having them visit you when youre on holiday...

theres no point fighting to keep the boys separate from her and the girl when they are not even living with you...

UNLESS OFCOURSE YOU HAVE A REASON TO BELIEVE SHE WONT CARE FOR THEM

She can't get the kids if you have a solid evidence against her but could equally get back the girl.


If you have a prove of her infidelity, sexual relationship with men, irresponsible attitude of her and the likes.


You made a claim that you don't want her to teach them such attitude as she's not a good role model etc

Have witness a case similar to yours as she was actually the one who went to court to claim her only son with her ex husband but end up losing the remaining Two daughter to her husband.

But the court granted her occasionally access to them and the husband was asked to always bring the kids to court every 3 months

Unless you are sure she's not a good mum and will be a bad influence on the boys, please let her have them, they need her at this age and I don't think your mother and sister can take care of them like she will. Settle amicably and out of courts if possible

Just kill the bitch and problem solved