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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by wrongnumber: 1:36pm On Dec 13, 2023
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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by revolt(m): 1:36pm On Dec 13, 2023
Farrason:


Bro... For this type of marriage... The men lost control over the wives and hence lost everything else.

I tell you this for free, if all you have over your wife and kids is CONTROL in Nigeria... When you travel abroad with your family, you will loose everything you built with them. Cos in abroad, FREEWILL speaks so loud even the deaf can hear it. Alfa Male or Not.

There are families where kids can't even crack a joke on their mum's makeup or dad's haircut. Not to talk of wife joke about the husband's dressing.

Don't control your wife or children to love you but let them do it out of freewill. This will automatically come with concern, respect and understand of the new environment for you - Oga Alfa male.

The billionaires that run abroad societies still hve control. Broken families and single mothers is big business abroad.. there's people that gain from it. However their society is dying.. its the reason they need immigrants to keep coming. So keep thinking that is progress.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by sallazlee(m): 1:37pm On Dec 13, 2023
This one strong oooo

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by sukkot: 1:37pm On Dec 13, 2023
1Sharon:
That's the exact reason why they are also killing their wife. They come to the West and feel emasculated, inadequate and insecure.

They end up taking their anger out on the easy target: their wife.
true indeed

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by GloriousGbola: 1:38pm On Dec 13, 2023
sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.


The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

oddly specific
the real reasons for my mans reverse japa
i always knew you were a pussy. emasculated british nigga ran to naija so he could know what it feels like to be a man grin

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by NwaliE01: 1:39pm On Dec 13, 2023
sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad

You're so so ignorant of what you're saying.

THERE'S NOTHING like SIR abroad Mr man.
Stop spewing lies.
I have been abroad for couple of years now, I have NEVER address anyone as SIR. Oyibo don't even understand what it mean.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Greenfaces: 1:39pm On Dec 13, 2023
sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad
This is lame. There are black American men in the USA married to black men, does that mean they do not see the racial discrimination and how society seeks to keep the black man down trodden?
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by erai30(m): 1:40pm On Dec 13, 2023
The truth of the matter is that most women are actually tired of their husband, but they can't leave the marriage here in Nigeria because the man is the provider. Some women goes through a lot in the hands of these Nigerian husbands but keep mute, when they get to the land of milk and honey they have no option but to let out their frustration and quit. The law protects them over there and no one will try to Shame you or force you to be in an unhealthy relationship.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by ItisWell22(f): 1:40pm On Dec 13, 2023
ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

Solid fact stated! 💯 🙌

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by ukaface(f): 1:41pm On Dec 13, 2023
Stray bullets don catch Nigerian nurses in UK
Wahala 😂🤣

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by israelmao(m): 1:42pm On Dec 13, 2023
Lack of fear of God breeds many evils.
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Boss13: 1:44pm On Dec 13, 2023
These are not the reason. This thread is just fixated on Nigerian families abroad and ignoring that divorces also affect other races and ethnic group and even worse.

The west endorses and promotes divorce. This is not a Nigerian or African thing, it is just individuals who have decided not to stay in their marriages. Many of them, including men and women, think the grass is greener on the other side or some are just completely fed up.

Within the Nigerian community in the west, the major reason for divorce is FINANCE. Other reasons are just extra justification to leave the marriage. Money is number one, especially if the woman suddenly becomes the breadwinner. This factor is also the major reason Nigerians in Nigeria seek dissolution of marriages too.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by asiga(m): 1:45pm On Dec 13, 2023
Aside that, most Naija women carry pay back mentality for all their husband did to them in Nigeria where the society allows male dominance over women.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by delishpot: 1:45pm On Dec 13, 2023
Women left cos the society don't judge them for doing so and they also have resources to care for themselves and their kids.
No other excuse. When you use terror or economic power hold women to Ransome you start thinking you are God. When she takes back her economic power you start crying like a newborn baby trying harder to keep her under control.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by appini: 1:46pm On Dec 13, 2023
One guy told his wife that he has never seen his father sweeping before in Nigeria. If you're not a good actor, you cannot keep your marriage in the west.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Kobojunkiee: 1:47pm On Dec 13, 2023
asiga:
Aside that, most Naija women carry pay back mentality for all their husband did to them in Nigeria where the society allows male dominance over women.
So the men no reason before say payback dey come for their wicked acts then? undecided

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Boss13: 1:47pm On Dec 13, 2023
asiga:
Aside that, most Naija women carry pay back mentality for all their husband did to them in Nigeria where the society allows male dominance over women.

Those who have this mindset have no clue how difficult it is to get a reliable partner abroad. It is quite lonely and with this redpill messages spreading like wildfire, men are reducing accepting single mothers as wives.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Kobojunkiee: 1:48pm On Dec 13, 2023
appini:
One guy told his wife that he has never seen his father sweeping before in Nigeria. If you're not a good actor, you cannot keep your marriage in the west.
Na him papa dey him marriage for am? undecided
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by richie240: 1:53pm On Dec 13, 2023
sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Women by nature are survivalists! They will always seek to level up.
That is how they are created!

The average woman making 500k a month will still expect her man making 50k (ten times less than her) to still take care of her, and once you (no longer) can, kasala must buss.
Her money is "My money", but your money is "AWA money!"

If men think really deep, they'll realize that the only reason why they get married is because (of the false belief) of accessibility to 'free sex', only to realize AFTER MARRIAGE that it's far more expensive than they thought, bcus once you no longer can provide her needs wants, na to close leg remain!
cool

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Autobot05: 1:53pm On Dec 13, 2023
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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Timetravel88: 1:54pm On Dec 13, 2023
ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

I can tell you are the king of Simps by the tone of your comment. Have you wondered why over 70% of western black women are either single mothers or baby mamas? They can’t retain a man after the man has attained them, as their mind wanders over the thought of leaving him because they believe they can do better out there.
This has nothing to do with Nigerian men (although some are wimps and simps too and contribute to the exacerbation of the situation). There is an indoctrination machine in western societies designed to continuously emasculate the man by giving more authority to the woman. The end goal here is the destruction of the family unit which is the building block of any modern day society, once this is achieved, total control of the population will be next because a weak man can’t fight back and a woman is an easier tool for domination because she’s now married to the government and is subservient to who pays her bills, she’ll so happily abide to the bidding.
Any Nigerian family that moves abroad with their guards down will be infected by this too.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by woleabayo(f): 1:56pm On Dec 13, 2023
greediness
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Itiskdg121(m): 1:59pm On Dec 13, 2023
Are you aware men also do this?
The media is only aloud about women alone.

"Abroad" is a place where you are encouraged to live your life to the fullest as no one expect you to be clingy to your partner.

Live your life, enjoy it. But above all, be wise.
Before a woman sends you out, you would have seen the negative handwriting on the wall. It's not sudden.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Wealthoptulent(m): 2:00pm On Dec 13, 2023
sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad
This no follow wetin dey sup na FREEDOM women jam, seeing system wey support dem, platform wey everyone dey Win BREAD 🍞, till winter come when real & warm 🥒 is needed from a MAN!

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Babangidapikin: 2:01pm On Dec 13, 2023
ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.
I quite agree with you, some of this Nigeria men turn their wife into cooks, baby factory, zero career progression despite good academic records, zero intimacy(house furniture) and zero communication... Although some women too can nag for Africa and bad mouth their husbands.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by UnknownT: 2:01pm On Dec 13, 2023
sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad
But when they dump the emasculated man, many of them still follow a black man, who is also emasculated as the black husband she dumped

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by sukkot: 2:03pm On Dec 13, 2023
GloriousGbola:







oddly specific
the real reasons for my mans reverse japa
i always knew you were a pussy. emasculated british nigga ran to naija so he could know what it feels like to be a man grin
hmmm i wouldnt say i am emasculated, in fact the problem is that i cant be emasculated. i am a spiritual warrior. Orunmila baba ifa. thats me. and to harness my powers and have access to universal information in the electromagnetic ethers the angels told me i need to be close to the equator. see, the tropic of cancer and tropic of capricorn where the west exists are spiritually dead zones. Orunmila cannot thrive in a spiritually dead region. the west is my prison and africa is my throne. so i had to return to my throne

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by mysticwarrior(m): 2:06pm On Dec 13, 2023
The women get intoxicated by the advantage they have from western laws and they use it to weaponize the men.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by planetx: 2:06pm On Dec 13, 2023
According to the late great Aaron Russo, feminism and women's lib was created in the West by the Rockefellers one of the 13 illuminati families for two reasons, and both have nothing to do with caring for women
1 To get women into the workforce so as to tax them, because basically 50% of the population wasn't being taxed before feminism.
2 To be able to indoctrinate the children from a very early age in what direction the powers that be want them to move, because with the mother busy chasing money and careers, the children are left without proper guidance and the state steps in.

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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by SouthSouth1914: 2:07pm On Dec 13, 2023
sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad

Full of incredible conclusions on situations that goes beyond comprehension. If you have a professional job, wealthy and highly skilled. No one will disrespect nor disregard you in anyway, especially your wife.

What you wrote up there is clearly for broke people who made it by chance to overseas!
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by sukkot: 2:09pm On Dec 13, 2023
SouthSouth1914:


Full of incredible conclusions on situations that goes beyond comprehension. If you have a professional job, wealthy and highly skilled. No one will disrespect nor disregard you in anyway, especially your wife.

What you wrote up there is clearly for broke people who made it by chance to overseas!
most are broke. thats why they japa in the first place

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