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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Chetas81(m): 5:26pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
They resemble their mother's |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by EvangelistChuks(m): 5:27pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Lack of fear of God and proclivity to fulfilling fleshy desires. |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by optimusprime2(m): 5:33pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
The secret is this, if the hallmark of a marriage is patriarchy, it can Never... I repeat NEVER survive in an equal view environment. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by YelloweWest: 5:36pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
luminouz:Na so. Myron/tete repill freak! Carry on. You'll learn the hard way 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by YelloweWest: 5:37pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
optimusprime2:Simple and short. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by YelloweWest: 5:39pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
EvangelistChuks: Why do men expect women to have fear of God when they don't?? 3 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by YelloweWest: 5:42pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
ednut1:My sister's husband that used to be macho and abusive is now as loyal as a dog abroad. He loves his children and realizes he can't do the bull shit he used to do in Nigeria anymore because she can live without him now 6 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by SouthSouth1914: 5:52pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
YourKarma: The OP’s narrative is not only bogus but false! 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by sniperr007(m): 5:55pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
sukkot: False hope Reason is simple, women are raised to see men as providers hence the gender gap in Nigeria helps as they earn more in our society which makes them the primary providers plus it's only money that they bring to the marriage/table. When they relocate, the woman is able to earn as much of if not more than the man hence the man's invisibility is no longer there and she realises that she wants more than just a provider as husband cos she can provide and man realises that he has nothing unique to offer hence they start drifting apart 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Magnoliaa(f): 5:57pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
pocohantas: That's very much interesting, but sadly so. Omo. My heart goes out to those women, sha. 😥 Especially the ones who do not have the means to leave or seek other pleasure options. Imagine living the rest of their married life not knowing what an enjoyable marriage feels like, ontop bring aware of the men they're with not liking them in the slightest. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Magnoliaa(f): 6:03pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
I am just reading some comments and shaking my head. Toor. Life will be waiting for everyone sha. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Kcenyimbk: 6:06pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
ednut1:No woman treats a good man poorly…. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by luminouz(m): 6:19pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
YelloweWest:See this one wey dey talk to me as of na jjc you dey yarn.... So you don't know my antecedents here. Try and check na. You ain't talking to a green kid nigga 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Image123(m): 6:26pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
sukkot: Not really true. It's a combination of different factors though. Marriage doesn't work as well as it should in the West, not just for blacks but even for the Westerners themselves. Marriage is instituted and guided by God, or if you are more convenient with the word religion. You will notice that people(immigrants) who stay true to their religion and culture do not suffer this fate as much. Prime example being the Indians, followed by muslims. Why, because they have the mindsets not to be "westernised", but instead to conquer the land and impose their own ideas, cultures, festivals and religion. The average nominal christian on the other hand is largely directionless and not rooted. So they become 'westernised'. The core concept of marriage sees a woman as the homekeeper and the husband the breadwinner. This is totally incongruent with current Western values and realities, where even the wife may be more of the breadwinner or co-breadwinner. In the West, the woman is 'king' and at better advantage. So you see her working same or more hours and jobs, same education if not more, more opportunities. A man is not created to "take this". THEREFORE, there will be conflict in the home. An average man, any nationality or race, would rather his wife resign or reduce work/business commitment and make the home priority. Where this balance is lacking, there WILL be friction. It then depends on how both parties handle the friction and make compromises. Most white people divorce, many black people separate or break their homes. |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by xtervaganza(m): 6:30pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
letout:if Dem born your papa well carry that your wife go abroad if your eye no go peel 3 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by hkidola00(m): 6:35pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
tuale luminouz: |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by vickydevoka(m): 6:53pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
luminouz:I laugh I Swahili. You think say ma dog u de train 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:14pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
luminouz: Hehehe see stupid mindset lol You have really damaged your sense of rationality and reality, you can't be normal again, your sanity is almost 90% gone and I mean it literally. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:15pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
vickydevoka: Leave am na Saw his comment and had a big laugh, delusion is really bad for his health 🤣 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by BadBradley: 7:20pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
ednut1:the undiluted gospel of a brainless simp 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:21pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
luminouz: You are delusional, even your fellow males are advising you yet you prefer to be arrogant, continue, if only you will come back to tell bitter tales of how the nonsense you typed up there bite you big hard in the aśs with bitter unending lessons, you sound like a child at this point. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Kobojunkiee: 7:22pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
vickydevoka:Do you equally know how many married men his wife for Naija don do same with? |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Kobojunkiee: 7:23pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
YelloweWest:The man is no longer a boy it seems! |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by BadBradley: 7:23pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
letout:their are still controlling men abroad and patriarchy still exists in yhr west. The OP nailed it perfectly. When a woman finds the husband has lost value in western society she doesn't feel protected. Stop trying to push your own narrow , false perspective here 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Kobojunkiee: 7:33pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
BadBradley:The women who choose such men do so knowing this. they are not cajoled into such situations as is the case in Nigeria. Such men are like a fetish in the West as opposed to what you find in Nigeria where such men are the norm and the law allows them to roam free. |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by BadBradley: 7:39pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:nope. There are a billion simp in Nigeria. And women have taken over in Nigeria as well. There are many homes now being run by women. There are also many instances where women marry men. Nigerian women rebellion abroad is 100% tied to the timid and suppressed condition they find their once dominant husbands. Black skin, strange accent, little professional skills. You're at the mercy of your new environment making you unable to protect your wife. The women simply morph into their true nature 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Kobojunkiee: 7:47pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
BadBradley:So, una patriarchal society don dey fail una, abi? The war has been won by the women... so why you dey complain? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by GboyegaD(m): 7:51pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
1Sharon: You will agree with me that this is very bias. Different couples have their challenges and they can always work it out. I am not sure most Nigerian men try to control women with money. |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Brush1: 7:57pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
ednut1: You nailed it. Marriages in a situation the man was a good man, still doing super great abroad. Absolutely. 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by socialjustice93: 8:06pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
letout: Can you be more elaborate on 'men using the society to control their wives' please? |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by 1Sharon(f): 8:11pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
GboyegaD: Okay, so your own perspective? |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Berylpharm(m): 8:14pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
i swear, i dont understand its getting much |
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