₦airaland Forum

OBTOREPA:
Can we have out of nairaland discussion?

Sorry dear, I wish I could but I can't.

Thank you.

Jewessgratitud3:
Sorry dear, I wish I could but I can't.

Thank you.

Why?
What's the problem i mean no harm.

OBTOREPA:
Why?
What's the problem i mean no harm.

I know you mean no harm but I can't. This place has taught me a lesson. I shared my story here about a Nairalander and how he treated me after I gave him a chance to meet me offline. Since then I vowed never to do that again.

I'm a very plain and open person but I hate people taking me for granted and abusing privileges. I made a post about it recently but took it down cos I don't want it to get to front page.

So we can just be friends on here. No p.

Jewessgratitud3:
Which terrible mistake? Do you know why he left her?. Before you conclude try ask questions.

Now let me give you a quick back story of why he left her.

My guy said this girl has money because she was working in Glo. Meanwhile my guy just finished serving and was looking for job.
So she used to wire my guys account steady and my guy dey bafup with designers. Infact it was his dressing that attracted me to him in the first place but he said she was always calling the shots in the relationship and talks to him anyhow.

The girl was trying for him but he said he didn't have peace of mind because she was controlling. After he met me, he confirmed it that there's a huge difference. That I give him peace of mind and he doesn't care what she thinks about us.. that was why he invited me to the house knowing she was always there 24/7 so she can see me and know he's done but aunty no gree go.

See what men want is someone that will give them peace of mind and that he got from me cos then I very extra gentle maybe because I loved him. So if he tells me to do anything, I obey him. If I'm angry I don't shout at him. I'll just be silent and I dont all those gragra like she does that makes him avoid her.

If he says shut up! , Sit down here, me na to dey laugh and I'll obey. Another thing he finds comforting about me is that I play a lot. Chai! Whenever he's around, na so so play. We play like children. So if he comes like this, to go home no dey hungry am again. The lady was now saying eh.. it because I'm fair and pretty that's why the guy want to die on top my neck.

It was when we met each other I got a job, and he too got a job. So the love come tight. 😂 😂.. .

Make una dey ask question before jumping into conclusion

Madam forget peace of mind, your guy doesn't know what he's doing. Leaving a resourceful woman for a liability in d name of peace of mind? Na d girl wey nor know her worth I blame. My elder brother made d same mistake ur guy is making in his Marriage and till today he regrets it. He had a well-to-do working class lady he was going to marry, left her for a student girl on d bases of love and submission and till today he regrets it so much. 7 years down d line, love don clear comot for him eye

Honeydenz:
Madam forget peace of mind, your guy doesn't know what he's doing. Leaving a resourceful woman for a liability in d name of peace of mind? Na d girl wey nor know her worth I blame. My elder brother made d same mistake ur guy is making in his Marriage and till today he regrets it. He had a well-to-do working class lady he was going to marry, left her for a student girl on d bases of love and submission and till today he regrets it so much. 7 years down d line, love don clear comot for him eye

Point of correction I was not a liability cos we were both not working so couldn't have been depending on someone without a job. I even got a job before him, so it wasn't a case of being a burden to him. Go and look up the meaning liability.

Your brother knew what was good for him and went for it. Whatever happened later was normal. Every Relationship comes with its challenges. So that your brother is having a challenge is not because he settled for his heart desire cos even if he had married the other lady ( your family messiah) they would have still had their own challenges.

The problem you have with your brothers choice is because he cut off where you guys were getting free awoof money and that kind thing can pain because the lady will automatically withdraw resources and stop funding your family like before. So you're pained he made you people lose such a money bag you have planned all your family future around. Don't worry I understand where you're coming from but that was not my case .

By the way stop being a liability waiting for your brothers to bring a classy babe to come and elevate you from poverty so you don't end up crying again like the first one. You too try to work your way up so somebody sister can call you classy.

Jewessgratitud3:
Which terrible mistake? Do you know why he left her?. Before you conclude try ask questions.

Now let me give you a quick back story of why he left her.

My guy said this girl has money because she was working in Glo. Meanwhile my guy just finished serving and was looking for job.
So she used to wire my guys account steady and my guy dey bafup with designers. Infact it was his dressing that attracted me to him in the first place but he said she was always calling the shots in the relationship and talks to him anyhow.

The girl was trying for him but he said he didn't have peace of mind because she was controlling. After he met me, he confirmed it that there's a huge difference. That I give him peace of mind and he doesn't care what she thinks about us.. that was why he invited me to the house knowing she was always there 24/7 so she can see me and know he's done but aunty no gree go.

See what men want is someone that will give them peace of mind and that he got from me cos then I very extra gentle maybe because I loved him. So if he tells me to do anything, I obey him. If I'm angry I don't shout at him. I'll just be silent and I dont all those gragra like she does that makes him avoid her.

If he says shut up! , Sit down here, me na to dey laugh and I'll obey. Another thing he finds comforting about me is that I play a lot. Chai! Whenever he's around, na so so play. We play like children. So if he comes like this, to go home no dey hungry am again. The lady was now saying eh.. it because I'm fair and pretty that's why the guy want to die on top my neck.

It was when we met each other I got a job, and he too got a job. So the love come tight. 😂 😂.. .

Make una dey ask question before jumping into conclusion

okay oo, this is your side of the story. What I can take out of this was thatshe still loves him, she bankroll your broke ass boyfriend b4 he now makes it only to betray her for your special love towards him. Secondly, it was her bankrolling him (his designer clothes) that attracted you to him. That means both of you owns the lady some gratitude. Even though they say all is fair in love n war. But that's not always the case.

hansomb:
okay oo, this is your side of the story. What I can take out of this was thatshe still loves him, she bankroll your broke ass boyfriend b4 he now makes it only to betray her for your special love towards him. Secondly, it was her bankrolling him (his designer clothes) that attracted you to him. That means both of you owns the lady some gratitude. Even though they say all is fair in love n war. But that's not always the case.

Yes his designers and dress Sense attracted me, how does that make me indebted to her? I don't get it. That a lady decided to foolishly spend on a guy to win his love and the guy decides to follow his heart when he saw what he wanted in me does not make anyone indebted to her. She chose to overdo things and got her fingers burnt.
That is how some men too will be spending on a girl that doesn't love them, in the end she'll go and meet another man and he'll start crying that she chop his money. You ll lurn the hard way if you keep up with such mentality. No body owes any body papa anything.

Never you force a man or woman with gifts to love you. Love is natural love is not bought with a price. Love is priceless, how much can you pay for it.

You guys need to understand how matters of the heart works.

Jewessgratitud3:
I know you mean no harm but I can't. This place has taught me a lesson. I shared my story here about a Nairalander and how he treated me after I gave him a chance to meet me offline. Since then I vowed never to do that again.

I'm a very plain and open person but I hate people taking me for granted and abusing privileges. I made a post about it recently but took it down cos I don't want it to get to front page.

So we can just be friends on here. No p.

Alright, I respect your decisions

turmacs:
It depends on how rich the guy is ohh. If the guy is very rich, me and that his so called girlfriend go fight to the death because I'll do everything in my power both spiritual and physical to spoil that their relationship and make sure the guy becomes my own.

This here is the answer of the modern day average Nigerian Women


Majority of the Nigerian Women to be clear.

Jewessgratitud3:
Point of correction I was not a liability cos we were both not working so couldn't have been depending on someone without a job. I even got a job before him, so it wasn't a case of being a burden to him. Go and look up the meaning liability.

Your brother knew what was good for him and went for it. Whatever happened later was normal. Every Relationship comes with its challenges. So that your brother is having a challenge is not because he settled for his heart desire cos even if he had married the other lady ( your family messiah) they would have still had their own challenges.

The problem you have with your brothers decision was because he cut off where you guys were getting free awoof money and that kind thing can pain because the lady will automatically withdraw resources and stop funding your family like before. So you're pained he made you people lose such a money bag you have planned all your family future around. Don't worry I understand where you're coming but that was not my case .

By the way stop being a liability waiting for your brothers to bring a classy babe to come and elevate you from poverty so you don't end up crying again like the first one. You too try to work your way up so somebody sister go call you classy.

Kai 😂😂😂😂😂

"I will walk away feeling changed at times."

DDIA:
When will I have a taste of your buns?

🤣🤣🤣

Jewessgratitud3:
😂 😂 .
Thank you.

wickedt. You dey laugh the guy English 😭 😂😂

Jewessgratitud3:
Yes his designers and dress Sense attracted me, how does that make me indebted to her? I don't get it. That a lady decided to foolishly spend on a guy to win his love and the guy decides to follow his heart when he saw what he wanted in me does not make anyone indebted to her. She chose to overdo things and got her fingers burnt.
That is how some men too will be spending on a girl that doesn't love them, in the end she'll go and meet another man and he'll start crying that she chop his money. You ll lurn the hard way if you keep up with such mentality. No body owes any body papa anything.

Never you force a man or woman with gifts to love you. Love is natural love is not bought with a price. Love is priceless, how much can you pay for it.

You guys need to understand how matters of the heart works.

No worries, the Cain wey dey use flog ìyà ìlé dey wait for ìyà wó. Life na turn by turn. Everybody go chop breakfast 💔

what business does a guy who can't afford to get himself a decent apartment or a room at least has with relationship. Reason why some people stay poor for a long time

Jewessgratitud3:
If I love a guy and discover he has someone, I'll take my mind off him except he comes and tells me he likes me and doesn't want the other girl like my last ex did. He had one girl that refused to let go after he told her he no longer wants the relationship. She was spending money on my guy and trying everything to keep him from me but he kept coming to me. Me na, I like him so we kicked off. Even when she saw me at my guys place she couldn't do anything. Then my guy will excuse himself whenever I come and come stay with me till she leaves. Yet she no gree leave my thing for me. Me too I no gree .

At a point, my guy hardly stayed home where he was squatting then just to avoid this girl and be with me. She'll still go there looking for him. My guy will stay with me till dark when he's sure she's gone. Later I stopped bothering about her because I was getting the most attention and care .

So yes, if he indicates interest in me, I'll give him a chance. Na friends Dem be not husband and wife.

Dpzeewonder:
what business does a guy who can't afford to get himself a decent apartment or a room at least has with relationship. Reason why some people stay poor for a long time

Na you talk so. By the way dating is different from marriage. So anybody can date while playing safe and you need an understanding girl not the one that will now hook you with pregnancy and add to your suffering; but not everyone can marry.

He had prospects and few months after I met him he got a job with Chevron. So?? I look at men I date even if the don't have now, I look at their prospects and dreams; encourage and pray for them.

Go into a relationship with the guy as the assistant girlfriend.

turmacs:
It depends on how rich the guy is ohh. If the guy is very rich, me and that his so called girlfriend go fight to the death because I'll do everything in my power both spiritual and physical to spoil that their relationship and make sure the guy becomes my own.

Most of your comments here are always factual and scary

I like the non-hypocritical comments u drop here most times, but then again, dem dey fearful

Jewessgratitud3:
Na you talk so. By the way dating is different from marriage. So anybody can date while playing safe and you need an understanding girl not the one that will now hook you with pregnancy and add to your suffering; but not everyone can marry.

He had prospects and few months after I met him he got a job with Chevron. So?? I look at men I date even if the don't have now, I look at their prospects and dreams; encourage and pray for them .

Come let's date... I only need one contract take confirm everywhere. We can break up later if u want but after I have confirmed the contract 🙄

Over taking is allowed

Jewessgratitud3:
Sorry.. every relationship must not have a sexual tone to it. I'm not like you dear. I don't date for sex.

Coming from someone who proudly said as long as she's chopping money from the man she's okay with anything 😆