He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend - Properties (3)

He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend - Properties (3) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum › Nairaland General › Properties › He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend (34718 Views)

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 Reply (Go Down)

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Rinoxy: 8:44pm On Dec 22, 2023

He was your best friend, but you were never his. Facts bro. Just move on.

4 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by GloriousGbola: 8:45pm On Dec 22, 2023

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

File Photo for Illustration

Maybe you would have been happy if he asked you to lend him money to buy materials.

I really do not understand what the fuss is about.

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by LoveJesus87(m): 8:46pm On Dec 22, 2023

ojun50:
Like I keep telling people around me, I don’t have friends.

Smile, celebrate with him and move on.

Only Jesus is yr friend.

omo e be like say u go live long with this right mentality o
Ori e wambe

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Allthelight(m): 8:47pm On Dec 22, 2023

ojun50:
Like I keep telling people around me, I don’t have friends.

Smile, celebrate with him and move on.

Only Jesus is yr friend.

but when you need help you call then your friends again.

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by LoveJesus87(m): 8:47pm On Dec 22, 2023

Etosha:
It's one thing to see someone as a friend, but for that person to see you as a friend is another thing.

Gbam
What's your favourite drink?

1 Like

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by LoveJesus87(m): 8:47pm On Dec 22, 2023

Candidlady:
Men and their stupid entitleMENt MENtality

Ihave seen people build houses or even leave the country without their parents knowing

Yaro you are just a friend!! Get that into your shallow brain

So you fed him... Must we know.. Ubanka

Atleast he invited you.. You should be grateful..

I love this comment

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by sgtponzihater1(m): 8:48pm On Dec 22, 2023

Sad irony of life. If this is the case he is not your real friend, as he has failed an important test of friendship.

That said, he has done nothing wrong to you and owes you nothing, so hard as it is to take in, try and get over it, hold no grudge, but hold the vital lesson that he is not a real friend.

A real friend will be good to you, will never make you feel bad or treat you wrong, and also has a duty of candour to tell you the hard truth in a kind , firm but loving way, and a true firm will stick closer than a brother will.

It's hard to find a true friend with the description above. Count your loss, wish him the absolute best and hold no grudge. Your light will shine soon.

PonziHater

4 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by mozona(m): 8:48pm On Dec 22, 2023

My elder brother has person like that too,

But everything change when he left my brother house, i mean even me and him dey sleep together ooh.

But that's life, u just have to move on as long as you can provide for yourself the little wey you can, which am happy for.

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by ImoleNaija: 8:50pm On Dec 22, 2023

It could be so hurtful but you just have to be happy for him, so you won't be seen as enemy of progress.

Btw, don't take some mumuish comments here to heart o. Not all of us understand what friendship is.

3 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Bodexinvest: 8:50pm On Dec 22, 2023

Ko si ore laye, just move on. Stuffs like this hurts though but its no big deal. Enjoy Ur Christmas!!!!!!!

1 Like

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by AbujaLagos: 8:50pm On Dec 22, 2023

Congratulate him, free your mind, don't fink any kind evil towards him. May God give you grace for payback. E go amaze him like kilode

1 Like

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by faithfull18(f): 8:50pm On Dec 22, 2023

You are my friend and I am your friend aren't the same.

4 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by zoghys: 8:51pm On Dec 22, 2023

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

File Photo for Illustration

It's understandable you are disappointed based on your cordiality, but then it's also a lesson of life. If you think you know somebody, you may not actually know them, so the only true friend you've got is yourself.

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by outofthebox: 8:52pm On Dec 22, 2023

ojun50:
Like I keep telling people around me, I don’t have friends.

Smile, celebrate with him and move on.

Only Jesus is yr friend.

Learnt this the hard way
Only Jesus is your friend

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by mastermaestro(m): 8:53pm On Dec 22, 2023

Wahala for those who carry friendship on their head. grin

Your neck will break soon. I keep my boundaries. And most importantly, I deal with people based on specific purpose. Once purpose is fulfilled, I make haste. I have no regrets living this way.

I learnt this lesson after my Uni days. I realized friendship was a mirage. People stick with you to make gains. All those who claimed to be my friend did so because they wanted academic assistance. After uni days, na only back of car mechanic dey see after he fix customer car finish. cheesy

Peace and tranquility. wink

6 Likes 1 Share

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by VaginaAcademic: 8:54pm On Dec 22, 2023

Don't be angry bro previous life experiences may have made him do that... this life is too strong o

1 Like

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by blasterman(m): 8:55pm On Dec 22, 2023

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

File Photo for Illustration

african entitlement mentality! Are u his wife?

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by ednut1(m): 8:55pm On Dec 22, 2023

Lol by force friend

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by valentineuwakwe(m): 8:56pm On Dec 22, 2023

I understand you perfectly and have been there before....no one should call you names if they dnt have anything life has taught them.
There so many friends like that...some would even have more than you do but pretend as if, while you fed them...some may even have 100k in there account but wil rather beg or starve than removing even if its N500 to eat!
Tel that friend your mind n how you felt, perhaps he or others may say you are jealous of him but you know best..after telling him your mind..chose one;
Either you remain as friends but speak n talk less about your own plans n motives (even dont be the one to spend again) or
Stay far from him but stil communicate!

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by PlsStayAlive: 8:56pm On Dec 22, 2023

The person you consider your best friend, you might not be his best friend. Take the situation as is and move one bruhv.

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by afadi2410: 8:58pm On Dec 22, 2023

brain54:
Just because people do certain things…

Don’t make it right. How can any sane person travel out of the country without their parents knowledge- if they are in good terms?

If na you wear the shoe how you go feel?

And na women Dey feel emotional about these things pass o.!

I am sane,and I can travel out of the country without my parents knowing, nothing wrong with that,abeg.

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Etosha: 8:59pm On Dec 22, 2023

LoveJesus87:
Gbam
What's your favourite drink?

Malt will do. Lol

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by blowjohn(m): 9:01pm On Dec 22, 2023

OP, some things are better done in secret.
U may have gotten some details of the house and told another ' friend' who cud pray against the guy's success.

2. Its a lesson for u. Even ur best friend shud never know many things about u or what ur doing.

3. Ur not his family member. In my opinion, if u were to b his brother, I'd take a different stance on this.

4. U don't know if the source of money he used is evil

5. Another friend of his may have advised him to keep quiet about the house plan until completion.

6. If ur spiritualy sound, u wud understand that building a house is one thing many families have been unable to due to ancestral yokes.

7. U misinterpreted the meaning of the word friend or friendship or brother or a state of togetherness to mean one like like a cult thing or something.

8. There is wisdom in what ur friend did. Walls have ears and the times we live in are full of evil.

9. Personally, ask ur self this: if ur planning to build a house will u tell ur best friend or friends for that matter? And to what aim? To advice u?

10. What makes u think u shud have had a clue about his building plans? That's like usually the biggest project for an African man aside business ventures. Think carefully about all these cos u sound like someone who wud tell the while world his plans.

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Awakened38: 9:01pm On Dec 22, 2023

[quote author=Peter532 post=126659646]I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

[i]File Photo for

What if he was trying to save you from yourself(ego)?

Let's admit it, it's difficult to see, swallow, and celebrate a close friend's success.

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Bishop(m): 9:01pm On Dec 22, 2023

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

File Photo for Illustration

You should not take it personal,it just that his priority is different from yours,now that you know Start achieving your dreams while breaking boundaries silently.

Cheers

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Advision: 9:03pm On Dec 22, 2023

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

File Photo for Illustration

WIth "friends" like this, you need no enemy.

Avoid the guy bro, I had someone like this too. Taking information and strategies from me, but keeping his "secret". Cut the guy off and stop giving him any information. Today, he is no better off.

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Winnin009: 9:04pm On Dec 22, 2023

Now is the time to stop being boys and become men.

Ask him about it and express your disappointment about the whole situation to him. Even if he didn’t tell you from when he built the house; he could have told you during roofing, during painting etc.

But don’t be confrontational about it.

His response will determine how your relationship with him will continue then on.

2 Likes

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by gidjah(m): 9:04pm On Dec 22, 2023*

THIS IS WERE I AM COMING FROM !op is a spend thrift and his friend got wind of that.So he intentionally kept this away from you knowing you will stop funding your groups weird spending life style if he tells u along d line that he is into a building project.He is way smarter and calculative than the op.This is a lesson to us all, be a wise spender ,never trust hook line and sinker. Then on the other hand ,his friend is a terrible deceiver and a Hippo! He eats ,dine and wine with his best child hood mate yet refusedto let him understand that life goes beyond "PARTY RIDER ' group !he chose to join d band wagon of "chop clean mouth'all on d expense of his own child hood friend.Thats an evil act of betrayal on d other side.EITHER WAYS ,BOTH OF THEM ARENT MATURE! If at least when he got to the" lintel level"of the building construction, he tells him "oboi,! stop this your DAROCHA levels and start building ,see how far I have gone "!! I am sure op too would have adjusted .

ghettochild4u:
I won't be surprised he built the house to prove a point to u say u na DaRocha.
Who can't minimize money to build a house or another if u already have got 1....

2 Likes 1 Share

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by jessylaurel(f): 9:06pm On Dec 22, 2023

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

File Photo for Illustration

He was busy spending your money with you and hiding his own for his building project. You DON'T have a FRIEND.

1 Like

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by blowjohn(m): 9:07pm On Dec 22, 2023

1 Like

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Lekan239(m): 9:08pm On Dec 22, 2023

Jones90:
I understand where you are coming from, but you know it takes some months to build a house and during these periods of time, the acclaimed friend of the OP would have been dining and wining with the OP without telling him that he's building a house. He intentionally kept it secret from the OP.

Personally I don't see any sense in it. Telling the OP will not stop him from building his house, why then keep it a secret from him?

he sees the op as among the bad belle people na.

1 Like

Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Namdosky(m): 9:08pm On Dec 22, 2023

Congratulate him wish him well....but keep him far far arm length run fast

1 Like

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 Reply

Man Laments After His Wife Sold His House For ₦10 Million & Absconded (Video) • Noisy Sex: The Notice A Landlord Pasted At His House • Akowonjo: Fire Service Trucks Arrive Burning House Without Water • 2 • 3 • 4

Lagos Demolishes Some Properties In Banana Island For Flouting Building Laws • Can The Nextdoor Neighbor Harvest This Plantain? • Different Ways You Could Be Ripped Off In Building