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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Dexy4yah(m): 10:15pm On Dec 22, 2023
mariahAngel:


Cut him off.

Such a person can know something that will be helpful to you, and not tell you.
No need for me to say anything.... you have said it all
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by johnog4sure: 10:17pm On Dec 22, 2023
My friends and family dont know that my house is at finishing stage. Am I a bad person?

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by godofuck231: 10:18pm On Dec 22, 2023
Ultimate backwardness de worry you , if he had told you you would have poisoned him

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Dpharisee: 10:19pm On Dec 22, 2023
@OP I can feel your betrayal, I have been in this kind of situation before but all I did was learn my lesson and move. We are still 'friends' but I have drawn the line and put him in the category of friendship I think he deserves

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by frog12: 10:20pm On Dec 22, 2023
no. you go surprise them after

johnog4sure:
My friends and family dont know that my house is at finishing stage. Am I a bad person?

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Emekuz256(m): 10:23pm On Dec 22, 2023
Op.. take it like that cos I myself smts don't tell a friend what my plans are till I achieve them, not as if I don't value our friendship NOP. bt that's me.
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Jesubaby: 10:24pm On Dec 22, 2023
Some of you, before you comment, put the op in your shoe, If actually you have someone as a very close friend and see if you will the same. As for me, I no lie u, I go feel bad. Maybe his friend doesn't sees him as a very close one or he wants to surprise him.

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by candygist: 10:25pm On Dec 22, 2023
Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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He is not your friend. He was only using you to pass time.
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by EvangelistChuks(m): 10:29pm On Dec 22, 2023
Even in the animal kingdom,there is order,pattern,or established ways of doing things.With that kind of friend,who needs an enemy.
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by tunize(m): 10:29pm On Dec 22, 2023
Before i call you my friend you must worth am i don’t use the word friend anyhow, If i should call you my friend and you mess up na sorry
Op similar event of urs happened to me two years ago bro without thinking twice i ended the friendship.
I don’t deal with fake people if i call you my friend and you don’t trust me why then are we now friend? Then the friendship is baseless.

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by TrustNone: 10:31pm On Dec 22, 2023
lavylilly:
Abeg! He should tell you and you would discourage him or reap him off

Love all trustNONE is the motor in Nigeria
Even family fit run you street gan
why mention to bro?

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by kherlly(m): 10:40pm On Dec 22, 2023
Please he might be like me and some others out there

If I have intentions of doing something and I tell anyone it won't work out.

Let him be.
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by expert1(m): 10:41pm On Dec 22, 2023
You can rate your friend 100% not knowing he rates you at less than 10%.

Don't get disappointed because it's a win for your circle but it's a sign he is not into you 100% which is normal.
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by samuelson06(m): 10:42pm On Dec 22, 2023
Jones90:


I understand where you are coming from, but you know it takes some months to build a house and during these periods of time, the acclaimed friend of the OP would have been dining and wining with the OP without telling him that he's building a house. He intentionally kept it secret from the OP.

Personally I don't see any sense in it. Telling the OP will not stop him from building his house, why then keep it a secret from him?

He has every right to keep it a secret. I don't know why we like reacting to things unnecessarily. Most likely, the problem wasn't about his friend not disclosing but for him to keep it a secret as well. Information is hard to manage. Most times, you let things out without knowing, only to regret it later.

There's so much insecurity in Nigeria now and you don't know who the guy would go and tell that his friend is building, then before you know what's happening, the friend is kidnapped. We hardly keep information confidential in this country, so allow people that can keep certain things from you for their own safety to do so. Sometimes, you may not let the info out to cause harm to the other but you don't know how that info will travel, then begin to bring back negative effects.

cc: Peter532

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by ojun50(m): 10:44pm On Dec 22, 2023
Allthelight:
but when you need help you call then your friends again.
I pray never to ask for help from people like that
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Sammiehero: 10:46pm On Dec 22, 2023
Some people are like that.
Understand them and move on baba. Some people we give no boundary most time end up giving us boundaries. That's life. However, your good friend would never do such
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by finallybusy: 10:53pm On Dec 22, 2023
Nobody owes you anything. He don run him thing. You either hold a grudge against him or carry on with life.

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by jaxxy(m): 10:53pm On Dec 22, 2023
Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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It's a delicate and tricky issue. It looks like u were totally trusting and open and ur close pal was doing hos own thing behind even tho it might not be with bad intentions.

There is a law that says work in silence or don't make know all ur plans to people or even ur family until u have achieved it.... That's what he did.

My only problem is let's u pay all the bills and do all the helping while he did nothing in return to u bt rather built a house without any hints. It seems like he was using u and pretending bt this could also be wrong.

I don't mind him building a house without telling me but I mind him letting me do all the stuffs in the friendship whole he only does stuffs for himself.

Abit of selfishness and cunning behaviour.

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by femi4: 10:55pm On Dec 22, 2023
Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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You are not overreacting, it just shows that he didn't see you the way you see him.

Some people are wired like that, just too secretive. My roomate travel to his village without telling me. He only called to tell me when he arrived

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by osayuwamwen(m): 10:56pm On Dec 22, 2023
Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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your mouth they leak thats why he couldn't tell you for the fear of who you might also share is secret to, if you can share things even your parents don't know to your friends means your mouth they run like tap, there is a parable that says if your yam they white guard am jeolousy if not they go put sand spoil am for you, if you start making it in life, try and leave a very low key life op I know your pain, be say if he had told you maybe that will also ginger you to start your own house project. take it as it is and move on this go make you get sense and stop spending recklessly, stop been a shareful giver it is not stigennes

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by kunle75(m): 10:58pm On Dec 22, 2023
Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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You are not over reacting.

But honestly he owes you no explanation or whatsoever . In my humble opinion, this is our Nigerian culture and not necessarily should be so.
He is an adult and have the right to his privacy, all you will do henceforth is to reduce your exposure to him but that doesn't stop your friendship.

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Misworld: 11:01pm On Dec 22, 2023
Op run ..
Such friend can plan your death and still be dining with you on the day he will carry out his plan. Run
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by marv1: 11:05pm On Dec 22, 2023
atiku4President:
Some people are like that. He is not your friend and you never knew. Not everyone that is close to you is your friend.

Moreover, do not expect too much from people.

Good one.
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by goody234: 11:07pm On Dec 22, 2023
I hate people like this he is not your FRIEND ..these people will eat your food, collect money from you ..allow you to pay for stuff when you go out, you will invite him to your house he will know your wife and family and never show you this same generosity of spirit ....i advise you to write him off as your friend ppl like this you will never gain anything from them ....This is from my own personal experience

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by LagosG: 11:07pm On Dec 22, 2023
Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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Maybe he has one of all these useless pastors who preach that everyone and everything is against your progress
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Tonididdyx: 11:08pm On Dec 22, 2023
Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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This hurts even if you're 10x richer than he is.
You took him as a brother.
He doesn't value your brotherhood.
Cut him off ( tho it will seem like jealousy) but it's the right thing to do!

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by cococandy(f): 11:11pm On Dec 22, 2023
Nebes:


You don't know this OP oh!
There may be something about him that made his friend to seal such a secret. For the OP to be feeling the way he is feeling now says a lot about him.
Don't underestimate the power of envy. It can mount roadblocks for the envied.

godofuck231:
Ultimate backwardness de worry you , if he had told you you would have poisoned him
If the guy didn’t trust OP like that, then he shouldn’t have been visiting him and eating from the same plate as him.

How can you have so much distrust for someone and still bring yourself into a position that makes you vulnerable to them? What kind of person does that?

If you feel telling someone about your project can hinder said project, the last thing you want to be doing is eating at their house and hanging out with them. It’s backwards thinking.

It makes absolutely no sense

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by DDIA: 11:19pm On Dec 22, 2023
brain54:

If this guy is your only friend…

Then just take it that you no get friend.

You are friendless like this!
I swear grin
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by jojothaiv(m): 11:19pm On Dec 22, 2023
atiku4President:

Moreover, do not expect too much from people.
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Numerouno94(m): 11:20pm On Dec 22, 2023
Nebes:
It is called ENVY.

Congratulate him and move on. Friendship doesn't mean you own the person or have the right to know everything about the person. Does the guy know everything about you? Free the guy joor.

If I were you and he's better than me, na to beg him to show me the way.

Did the op tell u he was poor? I can relate to the op. Back I consulted a frnd of mine b4 I bought a plot of land,(100 by100) We even went along to access the plot and I carried him along while I fenced the land and got it gated.

I was constantly telling my frnd the next line of action. I took him to the architect who drew me a fantastic plan. I wen wit him to get a borehole drilling company so as to get water to work.

I was so free wit my frnd, only to b surprised that my guy bought his a own land, and starting building without even discussing wit me. It was my engineer that pointed to the house and told me that hey!!, That is ur frnd Brown's house. I was shocked. Bro wat is bad is bad. Respect is reciprocal.

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Anonimoux: 11:25pm On Dec 22, 2023
Reason I don't attach myself too much these days and I don't want anyone attaching themselves to me too much.

I owe no one anything no one owes me anything.

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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Anonimoux: 11:28pm On Dec 22, 2023
Now you have known the kinda person you are with, simple thing. Make adjustments. Not everyone you hold to heart will hold you to heart also. I have since embraced this truth and it has made my life simpler because I don't expect much from people, that way I'm never disappointed or surprised by their shenanigans.

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