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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Mozenge1: 11:31pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
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Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Eyinju112(f): 11:37pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
Numerouno94: Your own case worst pass op own sef. If I were you I'll snap the house and then show him, I will ask whose is it? If him tell me say "em, em, I was thinking of completing it before telling you", na blocking straight and that's the end of the rehatetionship. 2 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Blackdisciple(m): 11:54pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
You might feel bad but don't ok.... Now you know who he is to you even as you take him as your friend which he don't.... I haveg people like that at work place at least we are close but don't tell me certain things till later also me too I don't but when I need then for advice in some areas I do reach out to them minds you these are people I eat with in the same plate if need be sometimes. I accepted it that way because I have no close friend even as i might be available to you but you are not available me I take it that way so that when I will not be available to you then you shouldn't be surprised... The only person closed to me is my girl even as I don't know what she does out there but I know were I keep her... NB: Don't mind anyone do your thing so that when they don't mind you it shouldn't be a surprising or angrily thing to you... |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by RommelJD: 11:58pm On Dec 22, 2023 |
I have been reading a lot of stupid comments regarding this issue. And from my own understanding, those commenting rubbish don't understand the power of TRUE FRIENDSHIP. When you've bonded with someone for years and done many things together common you will share your secrets together. For this guy to build and not tell his dearest friend of many years with many memories together is just heartbreaking. Except there must be something he saw in the op that made him not to tell him. If not he should have. Op just take it as one of lifes lesson. 4 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by akaahs(m): 12:01am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532:I might be tempted to say we re of similar character, its happened to me but not as urs. A very closed friend we went to his girlfriend house to formally introduce ourselves to his inlaw when they started dating. On d process he got the lady pregnant and was compelled to marry. He informed me about the traditional rite without informing about the reason behind the marriage. I attended the traditional wedding. I only discovered on the white wedding day that the lady is pregnant. I felt betrayed honestly. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by lekbel09(m): 12:06am On Dec 23, 2023 |
YngDenzel1:You be mumu |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by InvertedHammer: 12:25am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532:/ Consider him an acquaintance not a friend. Your case is similar to those ladies dating themselves who think they are in a relationship for years until they see wedding videos of their supposed boyfriend that just happened last weekend. / 2 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by incogni2o: 12:38am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jones90: What if OP discourages him in one way or another. People's mentality differ Imagine OP not being the frugal type and the so called friend is. Some people believe your salary is for enjoyment and paying house rent. Having that kinda person as a friend, you may not get good vibes when embarking on a project. My own issue with the so called friend is , why then invite him for house warming 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by smasher1(m): 12:45am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532: Stop this improper jealousy. He doesn't owe you any explanation. 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Abbeyb1ack: 12:46am On Dec 23, 2023 |
To the OP dis goes beyond building/ been envy He felt betrayed that's just it Alot of people are like that....you can share secret with them with the hope they will do the same....but you tend to feel pain when dey don't It's like you loving someone and the person is not reciprocating dat same love back to you To OP such is life,the world will be a boring place if we all reason or act the same way... Just let him know how you feel....and continue with d friendship....you both are still friends #my-opinion 2 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by viodemus: 12:46am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Maybe he dey fear jealousy or something But he still suppose dun use style ease you into the plans. He probably think am, but say make he do am first. I dey give am the benefit of doubt. Na wa o. When I first dey wan jakpa after several failed attempts, I no tell my guys. Mind you I be numero uno for the confra wey I been dey play for that time. Na after me and my bro dun collect the paperwork to go, dun get ticket for hand, na im I decide to tell guys for my area, even at that, I no tell them the day, I tell them say na 3 weeks to a month later, show a few the visa at least make them see as e dey be, meanwhile na 3 days later. No be me, dem wan use do gbojugboju. I sha tell my main mains say I dey wait ticket, say ticket fit come tomorrow or within a month. So, the morning of me and my bro walka, we go choko for where we dey always hang, some other extended our guys been dey there, na so I tell them say, e be like say we go need jakpa that evening. We come do handover. Shayo, enough choko. That evening, as we dey ready go airport, Like over 30 of my guys show for my papa house, plus some of my guys wey dey area - wey dey play for other teams, neutrals, small pikins for area, etc. Na so everybody just dey shake me and my bro, dey turk say, guy no forget me o, guy no loose focus for that side, etc. I give some of the pikin dem some money. We cun ride go airport with like 4 car convoy. I know say some people for dey look us with side eye, say we no tell them. I dun dey both sides of the fence. Me sef, sometimes sef, I dey look say, if I fit no tell my shadow, I probably no go allow am know. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by smasher1(m): 12:47am On Dec 23, 2023 |
brain54: It can happen anytime. People do things based on their past experiences. They may have encountered challenges and don't know why it is that way so they choose to remain silent so they can achieve their goals. I see nothing wrong here 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by pansophist(m): 12:48am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Make sure those you call friends see you as a friend. Thats all I have to say. 8 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by smasher1(m): 12:49am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jones90: I don't see any reason why he should inform him. The friend is 100% free to do as he pleases. 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by smasher1(m): 12:51am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Tobijays: Please, tell them. I have seen too many electronic fraud in bank perpetrated by family members, husband, wife, children and you are saying one should not be careful? |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by SharingIsLife(m): 12:52am On Dec 23, 2023 |
ItisWell22:Your wisdom, intelligence, and balance is top-notch. Are you sure that you are female as indicated? |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by smasher1(m): 12:59am On Dec 23, 2023 |
lavylilly: People get robbed, kidnap etc every day. Based on information given by close friends, family members. Never disclose to anyone, more information than they need to know. A colleague contribution by others worth about 4 months salary was debited last week. It was evidently done by people she knows who check the phone regularly and waited for the appropriate time. 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Xkale1996(m): 1:12am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Candidlady:you see how useless and stupid you're You just display ur mumuness here Coward |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Tzar(m): 1:12am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Oga! Jealousy is a form of witchcraft. Your apparent denial of your unnecessary jealousy shows you don’t even know that you are a witch yet. If he builds a house without telling you, go & build yours without telling him too na?! How has your bitterness and jealousy helped?? 2 Likes |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Xkale1996(m): 1:13am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532:guy next time don't tell him your achievement o Keep quiet till you achieve it This kind friend can harm you |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by highoctane: 1:19am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Polish your shoes. Put on your finest linen. Buy a bottle of wine. Go there and put up a politician smile. Give him a warm handshake. And say to him a big congratulations and part his back. And learn to keep secrets from him, if you can. 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Bigjane(f): 1:34am On Dec 23, 2023 |
I figured if Ops friend had told him even before he posted it on his WhatsApp status, it would have lessen the betrayal. Op had to read it on his status before he was DMed and informed of the house warming party probably because he saw that Op viewed his status. Let me tell an almost similar story. I had a friend who wanted to Japa but was told not to inform anyone before he collects his Visa. He did exactly as he was told but before he left, he called and told me about the plans and I did not feel bad a bit about it. What Ops friend could have done better is to inform Op first immediately after the completion explaining that he was told not to let the cat out and all those ish. This should be before he even posted on WhatsApp. Op, you have learnt your lessons. Him no rate you at all. Go for the house warming party and please do not ask him about this. Him go think say you Dey Jealous. But I will like to point this out that you overestimated your value with him😀. That thing can pain😂 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Mayplays(f): 1:56am On Dec 23, 2023 |
jessylaurel:Some people can’t be told what to do with their money and want to ball all the time… You’re a hater if you suggest otherwise Do you know if the poster’s friend has asked him to get serious or hinted at it a couple of times and it was brushed off? Do you know how dangerous it is for hustling man to connect with people that are not on the same orientation? When you as a serious person notices your friend is not ready, you quietly detach then come out sometimes to ball with them because it’s them that will not let you rest or call you a snob when you refuse, with how emotionally this man is even speaking, his friend dare not even refuse an invitation The poster sounds like one of such guys and the fact that he went through such length to type about his fellow man on an online forum tells me exactly the kind of person he is, a loud mouth that cannot be trusted and always wants to tell a story… like I be woman but who go want guy man like this? Wey fit enter internet dey cap to strangers about our personal matter? You no dey reason am? A man, you had better realize you have only yourself… Keep attaching yourself emotionally to people who are not attached to anyone in any form is very dangerous Show no weakness in any form and use human beings to your advantage, know the people in your life, what they’re for and stop getting emotionally attached to people even family members, no one cares and everyone is about their own interest |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Ehmmah588(m): 2:00am On Dec 23, 2023 |
If you really took him as a friend, then, tell him your mind .. Don't let people's perspective of him let you start making unnecessary assumptions.....TELL HIM YOUR MIND OR RATHER, AIR YOUR VIEWS AT HIS ACTIONS.......You say He's like your brother abi?? Then, imagine your kid brother did this same thing, how would you react?? Won't you air your views?? Do the same thing |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Zane2point4(m): 2:10am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Candidlady:Bro u don’t understand, if you have a very close friend you reason with,share mistakes and investments ideas with, chase women with and he do this kind thing it means he doesn’t take u close enough,you go feel am! 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by wonyi: 2:35am On Dec 23, 2023 |
gidjah: You made so much sense |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Funflipper: 3:04am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Peter532: . |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by bitingcool: 3:09am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Nebes: it's not envy. it's dissapointment. There's a level of openness expected if a friend. I totally understand you. My so called best friend was planning to leave the country and didn't mention to me. she called me when she had left. I was stunned. that was the day I knew I was not her friend. be happy for the person bit keep away. If they don't value you as you value them, devalue them. 1 Like |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by AliEzeOlu: 3:13am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Candidlady: Uwarki, this the most "stewpidest" post I've read on nairaland. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by gbagyiza: 3:20am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jones90: We have heard bad stories involving people that informed their close friends of their next big move n plans. The guy need not to bother himself about this. Just keep somethings secret to yourself also, simple. |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by adonisuwa(m): 3:30am On Dec 23, 2023 |
I can very well relate to how you feel. Sometime early this year I got a call from my friend's mum, while we were discussing she told me my friend had left the country. And she went further to say why Am I even telling you, you know this already. She said that because she knew how close my friend and I was. We weren't just friends we were more like brothers. I could remember how we sat down at our favourite bar with a bottle of beer🍺, talked about our plans to leave the country together. I didn't bothered to call him since he didn't feel the need to inform me. Three months later he called me to inform me. Though I was very happy for him because it gave me hopes that our plans will work out fully. I raised my concern about him not telling me earlier. He had some explanations to my opinion doesn't excuse a 2 minutes call just to inform me. After that conversation I realised while I feel the need to know, my friend feels the opposite. I understand it was just a conflict of interest and my mind was just reacting like it should. It's normal for us to feel betrayed, but just deal with it how you can without letting it mess with your emotions and spoil a friendship. It's a win for them and also a win for the friendship. Six months later we sat down together as usual with a bottle of beer 🍻 and had conversation like old time. People are who they are, we can change that but can maybe learn to deal with people just as they are. Peter532: |
Re: He Completed His House Without Uttering A Single Word To Me As A Close Friend by Omoapena(m): 4:01am On Dec 23, 2023 |
I understand how you feel, it hurt badly to see someone you are very pure at heart to, to have such impression about you, I will advise you limit things you discuss with him cox he's not seeing you as a friend. He probably thought you won't be happy for him and that's why he kept it all to himself. Just distance yourself from him and focus on your progress. 1 Like |
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