LikeAking:
Stingy man!

If she is the type of woman wey they try, buy for her. But I’d she is the sturborn type dont buy anything for her.

Did the woman buy any rice for her man's mum?
What stops the woman from buying her own mum rice?

Pala Palace.Oro buruku,tohun terin

Did I just read even your own mum?

Not a good idea.

Take from that money buy smtin for ur Mom her mom nd forget anyone else.

God will reward u more.

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

Most women would always say "buy this buy that" but when you're enmeshed in debts they'd still ask "what did you do with all these monies you're mentioning". Be a man by practising financial prudence, be open to her on reasons for avoiding "fiscal rascality ".

How much is rice that you cannot buy for your own mom and hers? Is rice that expensive in Nigeria? Christmas is once a year; you should be able to buy them something.

Your wife cannot buy rice for her own mum Wetin una dey marry self

Offpointng:


But OP you did not try, you have a whooping sum of 1.7m I see no reason why you shouldn't allow ur mother in law have atleast 1m outta the money. and since the budget for the baby is 400k, you'd be left with 300k. Man you'll still have alot at ur disposal

What's sort of men do we have these days.

A woman that is having your baby deserves every goddam thing in the world that she asks for.

In making a family, the average man throws in cash and hardworking, the woman gives her life.

Let her buy with her money,
U concentrate on ur baby, to spend money on babies no easy

Uncle

Buy half bag of rice for her Mum.

She did not ask u for gold or push gift. You are saving for car for your Ego not her.

What means the whole world to your pregnant wife right now is rice for her mum. Negotiate buy half bag and move on.

Buy rice for her mum.

U will not understand how important that is to her.

How much is a bag of rice? Nothing is too much to sacrifice for your wife guy. You may not realise how much she would appreciate that later

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

No let anybody coerce you to do beyond ur power...

Wait, na from a never chop family u marry?? Why is the bag of rice soo important to her like their family life depend on it??

Why do you have to be told that you are supposed to buy rice for your in-laws Are you daft already ?

So strangers now decide what you do in your household

You have no obligation to do anything you cannot afford. All the best

Offpointng:


But OP you did not try, you have a whooping sum of 1.7m I see no reason why you shouldn't allow ur mother in law have atleast 1m outta the money. and since the budget for the baby is 400k, you'd be left with 300k. Man you'll still have alot at ur disposal

Esthered:


300k for baby things oga mi?
I think it's on the high side sha o.
Only if they're buying the consumables in bulk.

See what this vendor is offering for 290k (promo price o) with just few clothes. No food, bed, or brea$t pump, etc. These are basic/essential items according to the vendor, but of course, I know it's possible to improvise.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C04RWowo3Ra/?igsh=M3F4aG83OGg5YzF0

dominique:
Tell her to get the rice for her mum with her own money if she feels her mum is badly in need of it. Don't under any circumstances give into her pressure or emotional blackmail. Once you start, the entitled behaviour and demands won't stop. However I don't support your idea of not wanting to give anytime a dime. Tis the season of sharing love and gifts. Gift at your own discretion

U are one of nairaland women wey get sense, the rest are isi ewu

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

Don't buy anything for anyone... And if you must... It's stupid for you to buy for her mum and not your own mother..
Keep all your financial secrets to yourself.. The less she knows the better... At this juncture wei naija hard wei you dey find money so... You can't shout.. Just keep quiet and continue your plans... She's doing her part of carrying and nurturing the baby... Do. Your part by providing all the comfort your wife and baby will need...

Things like this will tell you that some women have fish brain

Well I see no reason not to buy bag of rice for your inlaw, if you have such amount in your disposal, this season you have to show love to people showing love doesn't mean you have to do it within your in-law alone but your entire family, someone to say God bless you would go a long way

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

do DNA first before you start dragging who/what is most important. E get why sha

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

bro pls listen to me too,I already had kids and I swear I was on you shoes once ,pls if you love your baby,learn to sacrifice to her and keep it as an important record,your wife will later remind you when u have small issue,that u did not buy a bag for her,to justify the issues get her half bag and watch reactions ,think about it,you won't lose anything,what if that's the last favor her mom wish for ,do it ,for now divide your self now to pls both than pleasing them for a longer time,I give u my word ,u will be just fine,I wish I could rewind the hands of time but I did not I was too blind caring for my daughter,than my wife wish,what if her mom dies next yr or today Godforbid,at list u will know peace with the brothers ,that last yr u tried .pls 🙏 buy half to show u tried ,it won't take a blood out of u,and it will moltivate your wife too,pls listen to me, tomorrow make u self get mouth and respect for were her in-laws dey , double respect for u,next yr u won't buy ,now she is pregnant do it for the unborn baby, keep your mother inlaw incheck ,by using your wife advice as a chess pond to keep her mom eyes away from your marriage.

dominique:
Tell her to get the rice for her mum with her own money if she feels her mum is badly in need of it. Don't under any circumstances give into her pressure or emotional blackmail. Once you start, the entitled behaviour and demands won't stop. However I don't support your idea of not wanting to give anytime a dime. Tis the season of sharing love and gifts. Gift at your own discretion

I can't believe this coming from a female. A woman can ask her man for anything, not because she can't afford it. She just wants that from her man. She didn't ask for a car, expensive clothing...but a bag of rice which her man can easily afford. If she's desperately in need of a bag of rice for her mum, she'd gladly buy it without involving her husband. He may not even notice anything. Women save money for anything they're committed to doing, even if it takes a year to raise that money.

There was a time my wife asked me to buy yam tubers for her parents, not because she couldn't afford them. She can always ask one of her siblings to drop the tubers at her parents' place without me knowing. I bought those tubers. On my birthday, what she bought for me was worth 100 times more than the cost of the yam tubers

Valoromega:


I've thought about this and it's a very good reason. I won't lie, when it comes to my pregnant wife and the baby, my mother inlaw will go through hell for them. When the baby is born she will be the one to do the caring. I think I'll sacrifice 100k to buy the rice and other things for both my mom and my mother in law. But I tell me wife I bought it on credit ( the seller is close to us)

Credit or no credit, u will pay for it

Offpointng:


But OP you did not try, you have a whooping sum of 1.7m I see no reason why you shouldn't allow ur mother in law have atleast 1m outta the money. and since the budget for the baby is 400k, you'd be left with 300k. Man you'll still have alot at ur disposal

This is the worst possible advice.
He should buy 60 or 70k worth of Christmas presents for his inlaw and call it a day.
Na Jesus birthday, no be her own.
1.7m is small compared to what the baby will consume.

Nazgul:

1.7m in Tinubu's Nigeria is rubbish. No thanks to inflation and high dollar rate.

Do you know that at child both a considerable amount of that money would go into the hospital expenses. After being discharged from the hospital, there are still other things you'll have to keep buying.

Baby soap and cream.

Napkins.

Baby milk formular.

Baby clothes.

Routine medical checkup.

Coupled with your regular household expenses.

If he does this consistently for 3 months, that 1.7m would finish.

Rubbish talk

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

So as ur head big reach no common sense in it
Are you supposed to wait for wife to ask u to present a gift for ur mother in-law this December?

You are down mentally bro

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

Oga let everybody take care of themselves and focus on your nuclear family.

Na mumu dey carry extended family matter for head.

Don’t start what you can’t finish, once you start you would create expectations, the year or moment you default on that execution you go turn bad person.

Never give to your wife's mom what you cannot give to your mom. A certain girl that I didn't even marry that we were about to start dating stylishly told me I'll have to take care of her mom that's instant hatred for her

dominique:
Tell her to get the rice for her mum with her own money if she feels her mum is badly in need of it. Don't under any circumstances give into her pressure or emotional blackmail. Once you start, the entitled behaviour and demands won't stop. However I don't support your idea of not wanting to give anytime a dime. Tis the season of sharing love and gifts. Gift at your own discretion

Are you a lady?

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

Your mum nko