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We've been together for 6 years and are blessed with a son. No matter how hard i tried to ignite the spark, it just wouldn't work! The fact that most of the wifely characteristics i believed sha had was a gimmicks and over the years, she did not improve in appearance, maturity (in terms of how she carries herself) & otherwise. I don't think I'll have a happy marriage with her.

Change title to “I don’t find my baby mama attractive anymore”….

Have you spoken to her about it
If yes in what manner?
I think you're the immature one

you held someone's daughter for 6years no progress, no marriage no impact and you are here talking. Brother go and work on yourself cos you have a problem. If you have not been able to work on her appearance And model her to what you want you may as well fu..ck out of her life.

Chaii what a waste.

Some Ladies won't learn no matter what. Well I guess she's from the previous generation, not from mine.


Don't worry you will come across the one that will only care for and thinking about how to improve her appearance, maturity (in terms of how she carries herself).But don't come here crying "she has nothing to offer apart from sex".

Tell her what you have observed.

EmptyGarden:
Change title to “I don’t find my baby mama attractive anymore”….

we got engaged, did our introduction

Zaheertyler:
Have you spoken to her about it
If yes in what manner?
I think you're the immature one

A lot.

Have you spoken to her about it
If yes in what manner?
If no then try to encourage her to change don't force or complain...she'll feel insecure still and fear of abandonment will enter
Try encouraging and supporting the change
Love is kind and patient lol
Also it's a choice if she no change
Then you can change

Congratulations... A broken relationship is better than a sad marital status or rather divorce. Just pray the spark in your eyes will not be dimming out in every relationship you enter.

My advice don't pretend about it or force yourself into it.. I've been there before I know warrai m'saying.. just be open In a wise way.

Do it sensibly or it may backfire on the kid (I hope not)

Ciao.

. I'm sure you're not perfect too. People act like they won't die one-day, beauty or not even if you leave her for another woman, that woman will still get old, same as you looking old and unattractive.

Jeon:
Chaii what a waste.

Some Ladies won't learn no matter what. Well I guess she's from the previous generation, not from mine.


Don't worry you will come across the one that will only care for and thinking about how to improve her appearance, maturity (in terms of how she carries herself).But don't come here crying "she has nothing to offer apart from sex".

Ask questions before you blab. I must not put all the details in the write up

Impregnable101:
A lot.

Your manner of approach?
She's your partner not your daughter
Have you tried to see it from her pov and why she isn't changing?
Most men acts like tryrants in relationships
I don't think love should be that way

Op, let just turn the table around, let say someone did that to your sister, what could have been your advice to him? Am sure something better will come to your mind, now do that to yourself.

Impregnable101:
Ask questions before you blab. I must not put all the details in the write up

Cancel my subscription because I don’t need your issues.

A broken relationship is far more better than a broken marriage.

Move on with your life if you don't find her attractive



Date other women

Impregnable101:
We've been together for 6 years and are blessed with a son. No matter how hard i tried to ignite the spark, it just wouldn't work! The fact that most of the wifely characteristics i believed she had were gimmicks and over the years, she did not improve in appearance, maturity (in terms of how she carries herself) & otherwise. I don't think I'll have a happy marriage with her.

@Emboldened

hehehe

The Good 'ol Bait & Switch

It is over

Break off the engagement ASAP so u both don't live many years of tears and regret when it could have been avoided

Marriage is not based on a permanent sexual attraction. Remember the vow both of you gave to each other on your wedding day, and let that lead you. Maybe I should remind you.

for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until parted by death

If she had cheated or done something that violates her vow, then I can understand, but attraction is a mere feature of a long-lasting relationship, and both of you must work to reignite it.

You mentioned that she changed in appearance, and there lies the issue. If both of you are allowed to eat only soup, then the soup better be well-prepared. So both of you can get into fitness and strict dieting.

Besides, ever wonder if it's mutual? maybe she doesn't find you attractive anymore but forgave you for things you are holding against her? If this is the case, then she is the stronger person.

Lots of marital problems will end if people just keep being attractive to each other and keep forking each other.

EDIT - I think say una don marry sef. ANyways, this advice is still valid regardless. If your loss of attraction is not as a result of not being a good person to you, then tell her to go loose weight.

It's not your fault

Men aren't designed to be caged by one hole.

Even if you get married to the most beautiful woman on earth


When you both get to 50, she becomes unattractive


While you as a man can still bang 18year old

You know what to do next nau

I nor dey comment on this kin topics,

But

LOOOOOL

Impregnable101:
We've been together for 6 years and are blessed with a son. No matter how hard i tried to ignite the spark, it just wouldn't work! The fact that most of the wifely characteristics i believed sha had was a gimmicks and over the years, she did not improve in appearance, maturity (in terms of how she carries herself) & otherwise. I don't think I'll have a happy marriage with her.

Beauty is only in beolder's eyes. Seek for counsellors, take out for dinner. Ask her about her worries and fears. Change her wardrobe, if you can afford it.

IamDora:
Useless men, all they know how to do is complain complain and complain all the time

Watch how his fellow useless men will avoid this thread or create excuses for him, but when the table turns, they start insulting and talking down on the lady without knowing her side of the story,

The way NL men reason sometimes leaves me in awe, sometimes I wonder if most of them even experienced a mother's love. They insult us 2.4.7 yet slide-in to our Dms with alternates.

Alpha Nonsense online, mighty simps offline

Toto no dey tire us but then again the useful once open business or switch her iq to his perfection.

There is nothing like that bolded sentence you wrote. Who is tired will move on without hesitation. So be real and face reality.

pansophist:
Marriage is not based on a permanent sexual attraction.

Remember the vow both of you gave to each other on your wedding day, and let that lead you. Maybe I should remind you.

f[b]or better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until parted by death[/b]

Ok

Ok

Impregnable101:
We've been together for 6 years and are blessed with a son. No matter how hard i tried to ignite the spark, it just wouldn't work! The fact that most of the wifely characteristics i believed sha had was a gimmicks and over the years, she did not improve in appearance, maturity (in terms of how she carries herself) & otherwise. I don't think I'll have a happy marriage with her.

Nothing new, just another phase of relationship. No one Is perfect n if you expect her to remain attractive forever you are delusional. You are a man, don't do something u ll regret, handle your relationship, no human can remain attractive forever