Greetings to you all...
Pardon me, my write up will be long.

A little intro.
About 3 months ago, we got a new tenant who packed into our compound. A family of 5, three daughters and the parent. One of the daughter is married and the father blind and stays in the village. So we have just the mother and two daughters staying in the compound.
The elder daughter is around 24years and has a job that takes her out of the house, but the junior one doesn't have, she stays at hine 247 and shes about 20-22 years.

There is a guy just opposite our compound and he's group of friends. By just looking at them, you will know that they are upcoming yahoo boys but they never blow. So for me, even though as I see them everyday, I do my best to avoid them.

The main issue.
Not up to 3 weeks after our neighbour packed into our compound, the younger daughter start hanging out with the guys. Almost every minute of the day, the girl and the guys will be seated right in front of the compound for hours even late into the night.

At time, they will stand right in front of our gate, of someone wants to come out of the compound, the won't shift for you. You will have to be telling them to move or you just pass by "dodging" them.

I was actually concerned about their relationship, because me I see to those boys as criminals and that girl isn't supposed to be relating with them. If say them done blow, I for understand, maybe the girl is getting some money from them, but those guys have nothing to offer. Not even meaningful advice.

One day I came back from work, they were at the front of our gate. I have to wriggle my way in as I don't want to start having any form of conversation with them. Then as I entered, I saw her mum seated in the compound and I jokingly said to her "Aren't you worried that your daughter is always standing outside with these boys"... and she said to me, "when you married your wife, was she always inside house, abi you no wan make I pikin see husband".... I just laughed it off, but I began to mind my business from that day.

Continued....

One Saturday, me and another neighbour just came out from our compound, only to be hearing shout from those boys that "we can't do them anything, that we don't have the right to tell them not to stand at the front of our gate, that if we do anyhow, we go see anyhow". We just neglected them and went away.
Later on, I learnt that our caretaker warned the mother to tell her daughter not to be standing at the front of the compound with those guys. So obviously, the girl went and told the guys about it that's why they were raking.

On the on Friday, 22 Dec, I came back home to hear the news that the girl have been arrested in connection to a stolen item and even though the item have been found, it was found in a bad state and the owner is insisting that they pay him for damages before he can withdraw his case. Police are saying that they can only release the girl if we pay the owner the money his requesting for,as the boys claimed the item spoilt at the girls hand, but for the boys, they will be charged for breaking into someone's residence to steal an item.

Now the mother have been begging us to help her raise money to pay the owner of the item as she doesn't have enough. But our caretaker is saying that none of us should donate a penny to her.

I just feel as though we should help her, but all the other neighbours are buying the idea of the caretaker that we should stay out of the case.

lolz .
Very funny.

Comot eye
The mama knows
Not your business
When dey do am for the girl just do like you know know

Jesus

I don't believe a mother can say that...
seems this world is truly coming to an end o

Can you imagine…. What type of mother is that? In life maybe we should just mind out businesses…

Rich4god:
Greetings to you all...
Pardon me, my write up will be long.

A little intro.
About 3 months ago, we got a new tenant who packed into our compound. A family of 5, three daughters and the parent. One of the daughter is married and the father blind and stays in the village. So we have just the mother and two daughters staying in the compound.
The elder daughter is around 24years and has a job that takes her out of the house, but the junior one doesn't have, she stays at hine 247 and shes about 20-22 years.

There is a guy just opposite our compound and he's group of friends. By just looking at them, you will know that they are upcoming yahoo boys but they never blow. So for me, even though as I see them everyday, I do my best to avoid them.

The main issue.
Not up to 3 weeks after our neighbour packed into our compound, the younger daughter start hanging out with the guys. Almost every minute of the day, the girl and the guys will be seated right in front of the compound for hours even late into the night.

At time, they will stand right in front of our gate, of someone wants to come out of the compound, the won't shift for you. You will have to be telling them to move or you just pass by "dodging" them.

I was actually concerned about their relationship, because me I see to those boys as criminals and that girl isn't supposed to be relating with them. If say them done blow, I for understand, maybe the girl is getting some money from them, but those guys have nothing to offer. Not even meaningful advice.

One day I came back from work, they were at the front of our gate. I have to wriggle my way in as I don't want to start having any form of conversation with them. Then as I entered, I saw her mum seated in the compound and I jokingly said to her "Aren't you worried that your daughter is always standing outside with these boys"... and she said to me, "when you married your wife, was she always inside house, abi you no wan make I pikin see husband".... I just laughed it off, but I began to mind my business from that day.

Mind ya biz..

U see one collect pussy on code..

I jokingly said to her "Aren't you worried that your daughter is always standing outside with these boys"... and she said to me, "when you married your wife, was she always inside house,

Lol

Learn to mind your business.

Mind your business.

I can't imagine that u actually went to say that to her mother. Isn't she aware about what's going on before

No matter how much you try, that girl no go ever look your side, there are some girls that are destined to date bad boys, she's one of them.

U thought cos u are a cool guy, she should av been chilling with you ba

If u like part with your money cos u av the hope that she might start dating you. OYO.

Mind your business before them naked you for that house.

Foodqueen:
Mind your business.

I can't imagine that u actually went to say that to her mother. Isn't she aware about what's going on before

No matter how much you try, that girl no go ever look your side, there are some girls that are destined to date bad boys, she's one of them.

U thought cos u are a cool guy, she should av been chilling with you ba

If u like part with your money cos u av the hope that she might start dating you. OYO.

Mind your business before them naked you for that house.

I want to believe that you didn't read my post well before you typed this your reply. I have important things to do than to even think of following a lady. This is one of the problem with you ladies, when a guy shows a geniu concern towards your wellbeing, you automatically think that he's trying to "get you".

So if your neighbour sees a family member of yours following criminals, he should just allow her be because correcting her means he want her to be chilling with him. Uwa mmebi.

Lady, not all men follow things under skirt.

UnfairLife7:
Jesus


I don't believe a mother can say that...

seems this world is truly coming to an end o

Generally on our part, we don't usually allow people into our compound anyhow. And it seems like these guys are using the girl to gain access and hang around our compound. Within us as neighbours, it became a concern for us but we thought that soon it will stop. But it keep getting frequent. I just asked the mum that question because a concern mother shouldn't allow her daughter flow with people like that.

I didn't know that I will be embarrassed by her.

Just contribute your own potion of the money and help the mother. Children of this generation no dey hear word. Am sure when she comes out she go don get small sense for that her kolo head.

My nephew use to hang out with some upcoming yahoo boys, wey their mama still dey give chop money and he followed them to only godd know where he was stabbed and they left him if not for some good Samaritan that told me and i took him to the hospital where he was treated for his injury. Ever since he was discharged he has totally changed, more focus on his studies and always indoor cause i gave him a stern warning that if i see him with those boys again i will break his two leg and still treat him.

Lamanii22:
Can you imagine…. What type of mother is that? In life maybe we should just mind out businesses…

Minding of business is good, but this isn't how we grew up. Back then, even a stranger can correct your wrong doing. Now all we hear is mind your business.

Foodqueen:
Mind your business.

I can't imagine that u actually went to say that to her mother. Isn't she aware about what's going on before

No matter how much you try, that girl no go ever look your side, there are some girls that are destined to date bad boys, she's one of them.

U thought cos u are a cool guy, she should av been chilling with you ba

If u like part with your money cos u av the hope that she might start dating you. OYO.

Mind your business before them naked you for that house.

LoL

i guess you're not mentally stable or you're reading from upside down

Rich4god:


I want to believe that you didn't read my post well before you typed this your reply. I have important things to do than to even think of following a lady. This is one of the problem with you ladies, when a guy shows a geniu concern towards your wellbeing, you automatically think that he's trying to "get you".

So if your neighbour sees a family member of yours following criminals, he should just allow her be because correcting her means he want her to be chilling with him. Uwa mmebi.

Lady, not all men follow things under skirt.

you should have ignore that lady you mentioned, she no get sense.

UnfairLife7:
LoL

i guess you're not mentally stable or you're reading from upside down

E reach to ask my brother.

Stay out of the case

Thank God the caretaker seems to be a no nonsense person

If you were the Landlord I would have said you give them quit notice fast ...

Rich4god:
Continued....

One Saturday, me and another neighbour just came out from our compound, only to be hearing shout from those boys that "we can't do them anything, that we don't have the right to tell them not to stand at the front of our gate, that if we do anyhow, we go see anyhow". We just neglected them and went away.
Later on, I learnt that our caretaker warned the mother to tell her daughter not to be standing at the front of the compound with those guys. So obviously, the girl went and told the guys about it that's why they were raking.

On the on Friday, 22 Dec, I came back home to hear the news that the girl have been arrested in connection to a stolen item and even though the item have been found, it was found in a bad state and the owner is insisting that they pay him for damages before he can withdraw his case. Police are saying that they can only release the girl if we pay the owner the money his requesting for,as the boys claimed the item spoilt at the girls hand, but for the boys, they will be charged for breaking into someone's residence to steal an item.

Now the mother have been begging us to help her raise money to pay the owner of the item as she doesn't have enough. But our caretaker is saying that none of us should donate a penny to her.

I just feel as though we should help her, but all the other neighbours are buying the idea of the caretaker that we should stay out of the case.

You don't love yourself and your family at all. You better learn to mind your business before they will rope you in something you know nothing about. If you have plenty spare money, pls give it to beggars.

.

Klass99:


It is funny how folks are often quick to say mind your business BUT when they themselves are in a mess or bad situation they desperately wish someone will help them and not mind their business.

For instance, when it is raining or about to rain, the same crew of mind your business will want you to help them with a ride in your car or help them bring their clothes in from the line. When they jam wahala with police or SARS now, they will want others to join them in seeking justice and fighting their fight. They will not remember to say mind your business in these situations .

I write all this to say you did nothing wrong by voicing your concerns to the mother because that girl was courting the sort of trouble that could affect all of you in that compound. What am I even saying sef, her interaction with those boys was already affecting you guys, because they were repeatedly blocking the entry and exit point into your compound with their presence and by refusing to move for others to conveniently pass.

On the matter of contributing money to help the mother PLEASE MIND YOUR BUSINESS, do as the caretaker has asked and stay out of it. Let the mother plead with the property owner and explain to him that she has no money, her continuous pleading may touch the guy's heart and he may withdraw the case. There is a lesson to be learnt in all of this by the mother and daughter, they may not learn it if you guys rush to bail them out.

These neighbours also sound like the sort of people who can be ungrateful, the sort who turn around to bite the finger that fed or helped them.

Thank you my brother.... See everyone saying mind your business... mind your business when the result of their action is going to affect everyone.

UnfairLife7:
LoL

i guess you're not mentally stable or you're reading from upside down

Ur mom right?

Rich4god:


Thank you my brother.... See everyone saying mind your business... mind your business when the result of their action is going to affect everyone.

It seems you've made up your mind to contribute. If I were you I won't contribute a dime because her mother was warned but she wanted her daughter to marry so let her carry her cross

If you had not spoken to the mother about your observations before the arrest, I would have said you can help. With that kind response wey she give you, the best option na to mind your business.
See the guys wey she dey frolick with, Dem still mention hn name. Dem no send hn mama

Myob

An evil mother with a wayward daughter. Let her suffer small please.

Rich4god:


Generally on our part, we don't usually allow people into our compound anyhow. And it seems like these guys are using the girl to gain access and hang around our compound. Within us as neighbours, it became a concern for us but we thought that soon it will stop. But it keep getting frequent. I just asked the mum that question because a concern mother shouldn't allow her daughter flow with people like that.

I didn't know that I will be embarrassed by her.

It's your decision to make but if I were to be in your shoes and if I am capable, I'll talk to the caretaker and other tenants if we can help at least for this first incident.
Then observe the attitued of the mother and daughter.

Rich4god:


I want to believe that you didn't read my post well before you typed this your reply. I have important things to do than to even think of following a lady. This is one of the problem with you ladies, when a guy shows a geniu concern towards your wellbeing, you automatically think that he's trying to "get you".

So if your neighbour sees a family member of yours following criminals, he should just allow her be because correcting her means he want her to be chilling with him. Uwa mmebi.

Lady, not all men follow things under skirt.

Because 80% of the time, that's often the case

But this story seems fake

Why should the thoughts of helping her even cross your mind? I thought you should be happy to do as the caretaker says, so that she can spend a longer time in cell, and learn a lesson. You should be much more concerned about how the caretaker can do everything possible to frustrate/ evict them when their rent expire$. You are sounding like you have interest in the girl or her family

Mind your business this New Year

Rich4god:
Continued....

One Saturday, me and another neighbour just came out from our compound, only to be hearing shout from those boys that "we can't do them anything, that we don't have the right to tell them not to stand at the front of our gate, that if we do anyhow, we go see anyhow". We just neglected them and went away.
Later on, I learnt that our caretaker warned the mother to tell her daughter not to be standing at the front of the compound with those guys. So obviously, the girl went and told the guys about it that's why they were raking.

On the on Friday, 22 Dec, I came back home to hear the news that the girl have been arrested in connection to a stolen item and even though the item have been found, it was found in a bad state and the owner is insisting that they pay him for damages before he can withdraw his case. Police are saying that they can only release the girl if we pay the owner the money his requesting for,as the boys claimed the item spoilt at the girls hand, but for the boys, they will be charged for breaking into someone's residence to steal an item.

Now the mother have been begging us to help her raise money to pay the owner of the item as she doesn't have enough. But our caretaker is saying that none of us should donate a penny to her.

I just feel as though we should help her, but all the other neighbours are buying the idea of the caretaker that we should stay out of the case.

Majority of women don't have what it takes to raise responsible children.
The fact that the woman abandoned her blind husband in the village and lives alone in the city with her daughters says a lot about her.
Avoid them and mind your own business, as long as their lifestyle doesn't directly or indirectly affect you.

Actions have consequences. People need to learn that


Both mother and daughter are supposed to learn that