2buff: Personally, for my own, I wuld like the idea of enjoying my wife for some time before putting a baby in her and wrecking her body.
Be sure t use those exact words when talking to him about it.

pro01: So Rokiatu got married without seeking permission from, or at least intimating her numerous suitors on Nairaland! O ma se o.

rokiatu:




When all failed, I said even worst then that. And he called me too superficial. He also said, is better for a woman to born young, so she can later work on her body and still look better, instead of leaving it when you are a bit older.

This seem to be a lose case for me, I really need more defense on my side. No matter what I say, he have an answer to it. LOL

But you're superficial aren't you?

Meanwhile, which study you wan complete. . .Fashion & Beauty studies, Indian Celebrities, Cinematography & Culture abi wetin?

[size=4pt]If to sey dem dey take the no of friends for Nairaland collect money for Bank, Roky for don become Billionaire by now[/size]

rokiatu:




When all failed, I said even worst then that. And he called me too superficial. He also said, is better for a woman to born young, so she can later work on her body and still look better, instead of leaving it when you are a bit older.

This seem to be a lose case for me, I really need more defense on my side. No matter what I say, he have an answer to it. LOL

Daresh: Tell him you are ready to try for a baby and go and put in ur birth control.

Daresh: Tell him you are ready to try for a baby and go and put in ur birth control.

Miss_Ife:

My thought exactly.

semid4lyfe:

But you're superficial aren't you?

Meanwhile, which study you wan complete. . .Fashion & Beauty studies, Indian Celebrities, Cinematography & Culture abi wetin?

[size=4pt]If to sey dem dey take the no of friends for Nairaland collect money for Bank, Roky for don become Billionaire by now[/size]

rokiatu: Please how can I make my new husband understand that I am not yet ready to have kids? I have said everything under the sun, but he don't seem to understand. I luv him very much but I want to complete my study before I start having my kids. I told him that, but he insist I have atleast one, and then complete my study. And before marriage, I told him my plan i mean this has never been a secret to him. Now suddenly he have changed his mind and seem to be sticking to it. I don't want to disrespect my husband, but then again, I am not at all ready for motherhood. Please how do I make him come to term with this decision of mine?

Or if you have any other suggestion please do say.

rokiatu:

Semi4life, this is a serious matter.

jennykadry: Oh dear me

maclatunji:

Rokiatu, I hope you don't take this as a personal attack but Girl Grow Up! You are now a wife! All of that shakara in your single days is out the window now. Once you agreed to get married, you also agreed to get pregnant if God allows from the first night! All the other stories about studies and blah! Blah!! Blah!!! is thrash. You had better start having those babies now!

If you didn't want babies, why get married? I see that you already take your husband for granted- he says he wants a baby- you say: Yes sir! I am sure you don't want to come here and start sobbing over another woman having a child for your husband out of wedlock in a few years from now- you said: God forbid! However, this is how it starts!

jennykadry: Rokiatu got married without inviting me, her fellow Aussie?

jennykadry: Lol Debrief, for a second there I was lost for words

jennykadry:
How many more semesters have you got to go?

jennykadry:
husband do for a living(if you don't mind me asking),

jennykadry:

where do you both live?

jennykadry:

what do you think about kids?

jennykadry:
can you both handle a child now, I mean are you both ready mentally, physically and financially?

Kevin_II: Rokiatu get him pregnant

rokiatu:

Take it easy sir geeezz LOL Pregnancy on the first night? U are indeed funny.




LOL forgive me ooo. But Genny, what is ur view on the matter? I mean Ur honest opinion.

jennykadry: Rokiatu

I am not God that gives children but my advise will be one of you finish school, get a good job and then start a family my reasons are as follows

1. Financially it might be too hard for you both seeing that he works part time.
2. You will have to stop working and stay home until that baby is old enough to start school or you pay for daycare which is like a 100 dollars per day here in western australia, I don't know about sydney.
3. My husband could afford taking care of me, so I did not have qualms conceiving whilst in school BUT he was very supportive especially during my exams, at some point he had to take the baby and they spent a night in a hotel just to allow me study.
4. You might miss a few semesters if you are not getting enough support.
5. The reason why I asked where you both live is to know if you both pay your rent or live with a family member, renting in australia is expensive can you both handle that?
6. Huggies nappy cost heaps and I am seriously telling you both that you have to be ready for that.
7. One of you need to be done with school atleast and have a good job, I know how much pharmacist assistants get per hour hence my point. A good career earning job gives so much security
8. I know if you are a PR or citizen center link helps very well for low income earners, so maybe you guys might be able to get by financially.

If he wants kids, he needs to be sure of himself and I don't think he is yet neither do i think he is mentally ready for kids. You know why? cos he is more concerned about having kids early, being the youngest dad, working on your body now than later, than having kids for really wanting them because you think it is time. I think he is in a phase right now that MIGHT fizzle out

I don't know what you both wanno do but I love kids and would advise every woman to taste what motherhood is all about.

rokiatu:

Thank you very much. Great advice. This advice is right on point.

maclatunji: ^Rokiatu needs to pray hard because without searching I can see 'fire on the mountain O'. I hope they can be mature enough to surf through the challenges though.

I am being honest and don't wish you ill Rokiatu. I wouldn't benefit from you having problems- I hope you understand that!