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Financial benefits: Sharing housing costs can significantly reduce expenses, helping young couples save for future goals like buying a home or starting a family.
Practical assistance: Parents can offer childcare, help with household chores, and provide emotional support, especially during the early stages of marriage.
Stronger family bonds: Increased interaction and shared experiences can strengthen relationships between the couple and their families.
Sense of community: Some couples enjoy the feeling of belonging to a larger household and the built-in social support network.
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Yes peace is the major focus to focus. The man and wife are also contributory to the peace. If they're deficient in any way, entitled or overstepping boundaries.

Samfloxin:
You lived there because there was peace and you made the achievement because you and your wife are earning well and prudent in savings

Samfloxin:
You didn't achieve those things because you were living there, after all, how much is rent?

This is the worst outlook/question on earth anyone can have.
I've experienced tenancy in form of hostel, rooms, flats, compound space etc and as a landlord I can tell you that RENT IS NOT UP TO 10% of a tenants misery. Just as fuel is the cheapest article to consider in the running of a vehicle.

CandidAdmin:
In the same house?

Hope you knew that there's different btw house and room

Nazgul:
Your mom and your female siblings wouldn't respect your wife. She won't feel comfortable in that house

Only a desperate woman would marry a man living in his parents house.

Then you didn't marry a wife, you married a dummy and it would be most disastrous to be living alone with such woman.

Lamanii22:
I can’t wait for us to move into our own home so I can at least treat my husband to different meals and take care of him properly

You are trying but there's nothing stopping you. Doesn't mean you are restricted to one pot. You and your husband can still run your own things from time to time.

hakeemhakeem:
Hope you knew that there's different btw house and room

Even when my dad is speaking in the next room, you'll know he his talking not to talk of when you're...

You know what, I rest my case.

ufotunang:
It's wrong...at a certain time your parents will start not to respect you and your wife....your brother and sister will not respect you and your wife they will look down on you

Because he and his wife are idle and lousy. If you're both working, keeping boundaries and minding your own business, taking care of your personal needs, helping your aged parents with SOME chores and medical needs, contributing to bills and general welfare in the home no matter how low the income, where will the insult come from?

dreamwords:
there is nothing wrong with it as long as your own parent are still living in there parent house,
as long as your wife to be is also comfortable with it

Your hometown is your parents' parents' parents' parents' parents' parents' parents' parents' parents' home.

If apartments can be shared for financial reasons with one person using front while the other uses back entrance, why can't such be done with relatives especially if the parents have a compound?

JessicaRabbit:
I am flattered, truly! But I still insist that comparing me to Chimamanda Adichie is like pitting a sprightly haiku against a sprawling epic. Thank you for the kind sentiment though!

Lol 😆 at sprightly haiku vs sprawling epic (I had to Google what "haiku" is).
Well, I know Adichie is great but I still feel like I will place my bet on you if you're pitted against her.

In spite of the contradictions, the inconsistencies, and the sheer lack of empirical evidence, I wouldn't necessarily place myself in direct opposition to organized religion. It's more of a...fascinated bewilderment, you see? Like watching a particularly flamboyant, yet oddly persistent, game of dress-up from the sidelines.

Anyone who is curious, questioning and sensible enough will easily realize the problems with organized religions (the illogical beliefs, unrealistic expectations and sometimes, stüpid practices). After this realization however, the challenge is finding the "right alternative" , so to speak, to replace religion with. For some reason, you still feel incomplete without it.

Yes, I actually am.

😊 Of course. I will be shocked if you aren't.
Do you have any published books ?

Judolisco:
it's a norm in India.... It's jst a cultural thing here to leave your family and start another family.... But in India it's like a shame when u ain't staying with your parents

It's NOT a cultural thing. It's foreign capitalist idea. In our cultures, children are alotted rooms in their father's building or portions of their father's land to live and cultivate. Even in some Igbo where the first son inherits the father's building, he's can't chase his siblings out. They leave on their own accord when they most likely erect their own huts nearby.

Myer:
It balls down to the person you're getting married to. If she's fine with it, you will enjoy it. But if she isn't fine with it,, any slight issue will be attributed to staying in your parents house.

Then she better be coming into the marriage with building. If she was so uncomfortable, she would have engineered and forced building project for her husband. If you go and marry women with issues instead of solution.
My granny ventured into different businesses despite being a trained teacher, acquired many lands and made major contributions to grandpa's numerous building achievements. In case you don't understand, they forfeited many lands in Rivers state after the war yet I got over 3plots of her personal property not family inheritance oO plus She would have owned a property in present day Ariaria Aba if her brother and husband hadn't connived that time to seize the money and dissuade her, claiming the place wasn't yet developed and it's very far from our place.

Preciouschinwe:
not advisable, for peace and respect

For that to occur, you never had it in the first place.

JessicaRabbit:
Let me unravel this societal yarn for you. If your parents have a sprawling palace, and you've got a flourishing career nearby, who says you need to flee the nest like a startled pigeon?

Living with your parents doesn't equate to failure; it's a choice, a practical one at that. If the cohabitation vibes are harmonious, and everyone's doing the cha-cha of happiness, why disrupt the rhythm?

Marriage isn't a swift exit strategy from the parental abode; it's a union built on love 💑, respect, and occasionally stealing the TV remote. So, to those wielding judgment like a bludgeon, I say, let people nest where the heart is content, not where society dictates. After all, a house 🏡 is not a home if it's not filled with love, whether it's your own or your parents' overflowing embrace.

I'm assuming you're a good fiction writer.

I’m not been sarcastic, just saying the fact, between if you have a free apartment from ur parents in naija and abroad. Rent is relatedly cheap in naija, so is always expected of u to be able to afford one at least before marriage. Otherwise, people tags u as lazy or irresponsible, even when they don’t know ur pains
But if your parents own properties in the US or UK and u have the privilege to live there for free, even ur wife would moved in before you, knowing how many thousands dolls or millions naira that saves u in a year. But in all, I’m not supporting sharing same apartment with the parents after marriage, but if they have a free one u can stay till life gets better, I see nothing bad in such offer.

maasoap:
It is wrong if the location is Nigeria but it is okay if the location is abroad, right? Or, may be I didn't catch the sarcasm sha

MrBroke:
I don't understand how rent is the problem here, except you want to live above your means, rent is nothing. Let say you make 50k monthly, your rent should be 100k, look for a house of that range and cohabit with your spouse and grow from there.

Our problem is living above our means.

You sound like 50k is a very big amount of money, lol. If you are married with kids, you won't be saying this. You have mouths to feed, bills to pay, like Nepa bill, school fees, hospital bills etc. Feeding only alone is not easy let alone renting an apartment. Do you even know the cost of renting just one room apartment?

Truvelisback:
You sound like 50k is a very big amount of money, lol. If you are married with kids, you won't be saying this. You have mouths to feed, bills to pay, like Nepa bill, school fees, hospital bills etc. Feeding only alone is not easy let alone renting an apartment. Do you even know the cost of renting just one room apartment?

Everything is planning. If one is not ready for marriage then don't jump into it. There are a lot of 300k - 800k one bedroom Apartments.
We have self con. of 150k - 500k.
We still have single rooms of 40k - 60k.
You cut your coat according to your size and life although hard would be less stressful

Its not bad but does not give one full respect.

Well as for me o, I think it doesn't make one man enough. As a man u need to be completely independent.

Exceed15:
Its not bad but does not give one full respect.

U are right my guy

MrBroke:
Everything is planning. If one is not ready for marriage then don't jump into it. There are a lot of 300k - 800k one bedroom Apartments.
We have self con. of 150k - 500k.
We still have single rooms of 40k - 60k.
You cut your coat according to your size and life although hard would be less stressful

Where do you find single rooms of 40k-60k? In this harsh and horrible economy?😏

Truvelisback:
Where do you find single rooms of 40k-60k? In this harsh and horrible economy?😏

By single room I mean face me I face type of room with no toilet inside and probably a small kitchen outside.
You can find dem everywhere, that's the standard amount

JessicaRabbit:
Flattery will get you everywhere, they say, but unfortunately, "everywhere" in this case doesn't include my dating pool. As much as I appreciate the offer to "mingle" and become a "useful" duo, your emoji game is a little strong for my current emotional bandwidth. It's like staring into the sun of romance, and frankly, my retinas can only handle so much sparkle.

Now, if you're offering to be my wingman and point me towards someone with a more subtle emoji vocabulary, then we might be cookin' with gas (or should I say, "fire" with the appropriate emoji?). But otherwise, I'm afraid I'll have to politely decline your invitation to become the next Bonnie and Clyde... of awkward online flirting.

But hey, don't let me discourage you! There's a whole world of potential partners out there, each with their own unique emoji style. Just remember, sometimes less is more, and a well-placed wink can be far more effective than a double chin emoji.

Good luck on your quest for love, emoji warrior! ⚔️

In summary, his choice of emoji gave you insight to his personality right? I am interested to know the psychology tool you used to understand his personality.

You write well though with a subtle dose of good humour.

jmoore:
Una just dey quote bible with misinterpretation.

What I wrote is not for you bro, else you won't be here writing what I don't know.

jmoore:
Una just dey quote bible with misinterpretation.

I have noticed you even without making sense.

Truvelisback:
It is better to be married in your own parent's house than to be paying rent to a landlord or landlady except you have built your own house. To pay rent no easy.

You’re not fit enough to get married.