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| To Marry Or Not To Marry by Peterrio(op): 9:25am On Jan 29, 2024 |
I need your sincere advise guys. So someone offered to help my fiancée get a job and also help her relocate abroad. He's one of her sponsors in school, he's a married man, a doctor too and they live in United States. I have plans of wedding my fiancée before she leaves Nigeria so it will be easier to join her in the US Now the issue is, if l get married to her before then, the man might lose interest in helping her. Right now i am confused, i will appreciate any good advise on how to handle this situation. I really want her to get that job and relocate and i want to join her as well. 5 Likes
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| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Sirmwill: 9:27am On Jan 29, 2024 |
The man might lose interest... WTF Then the man is not your rightful helper If he is your right helper, he would even support you in your Wedding And your assumption is too serious What if the man has only good intentions And if it turns out bad,let it go. Don't even stress further 134 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by FarmPlanetNG: 9:32am On Jan 29, 2024 |
Speak with your woman. Not Us. 95 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Acidosis(m): 9:46am On Jan 29, 2024 |
He will lose interest because she's getting married? Seriously? Sugar daddy parole no dey pass this one. 138 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by thorpido(m): 9:51am On Jan 29, 2024 |
Did you discuss this with your fiancee and did she discuss with her uncle? You shouldn't assume. 4 Likes |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by woginid967: 9:52am On Jan 29, 2024 |
Peterrio:Is your woman your ride or die abi she is a baddie who digs gold This discussion is for you and your woman. Here's a profitable plot. Discuss it with her family and yours too Just to test their hearts. Now, if your woman is legit and truly your peace, she will agree to secret court wedding... So that after the relocation she can travel first before telling the man and then she brings you over. If this is not feasible, the man has slept with her or she has agreed to be his side chic.... Drop her. Count your blessings and losses and move on. You didn't loose, you dodged a bullet 39 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by duduade(m): 10:06am On Jan 29, 2024 |
Sirmwill:That statement really sounds ODD.. Abi he be her sugar daddy... Please OP relook that sentence All I see is a couple trying to see how they can beat all odds especially the so called sponsor in japaing |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by missidy: 10:14am On Jan 29, 2024 |
Please don't listen to all these people telling you he is her sugar daddy. It is a known fact that when once a lady gets married, even her family members won't help her again. They will tell you your husband is supposed to take care of you, that is why it is easier for single ladies to achieve their dreams than the married ones. All my friends that had big plans and got married are now stuck here taking care of children, no financial or career help from their families again. You should discuss this with her not us. If the person won't help again because she has gotten married, then let her relocate first. You guys can then get married immediately she has settled in the new country. 35 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by aycapri(m): 10:28am On Jan 29, 2024 |
Did you just say the man would lose interest if she is married. That means there is something that you don’t want to tell us. See as this man wan set himself up, you better don’t get stuck with the ring on your hand hand in Naija.. 4 Likes |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by studyless123: 8:08pm On Jan 29, 2024 |
Peterrio:Which advise are you looking for? I'll also lose interest because I'm not a fan of couples living in different countries. It's either I assist both of you or you guys should remain happily married together.  3 Likes |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by pansophist(m): 10:37pm On Jan 29, 2024 |
What is the opinion of your fiancee on all these? If she tells you to postpone the marriage, that she should go first, then you should know that you are in the idiot in the midst  Also, if he loses interest in helping your fiancee just because she got married before coming, then he is not your real helper and probably wants to snatch your woman. Does this helper from America know you? Have you guys met or at least, spoken on the phone before? What is the basis of his benevolence? Shine your eyes sha, no go let anybody use your head. In situations like this, I will assume the worst and then hope for the best. That's how you save yourself from unnecessary headaches and disappointment. 17 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by jamesfield: 10:41pm On Jan 29, 2024 |
Shey ODE leleyi ni?  5 Likes |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Cassandraloius: 3:28pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
That man will definitely get mad because she is the center of attention and attraction. If you come marry her now, the man go find another chick and tell her that, sisi, now that you're married, your husband will take care of you. You both should have a dialogue. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by free2ryhme: 3:30pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
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| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by free2ryhme: 3:30pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Peterrio:How old are you that you are asking senseless questions 3 Likes |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Henix(m): 3:30pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Marry her secretly without the man's knowledge. Everyone must not know that u guys are now married. Go do "court wedding" and collect ur marriage certificate 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by obaidan: 3:31pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
won ti fe gbe e ni handicap 1 Like |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Westerhoffe(m): 3:32pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
The man will lose interest if he finds out she is married… Did the man say so or show signs of? If so, don't go through him unless you don't mind sharing her with him...and that, I won't advise... He's not ready to help. |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by obaidan: 3:32pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Peterrio:e be like the man wan arrange one citizen for the girl to marry, abi e get eye for ur babe. 1 Like |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Coldspice: 3:33pm On Jan 30, 2024*. Modified: 4:03pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
missidy:She sees marriage as an obstacle to obtaining financial help. Bambiala has ruined this one's life. 5 Likes
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| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by CatchMeIfUCanMO: 3:33pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
If what you said about the man's help if you guys get married is true, then it is kind of fishy. If he truly has the intention of helping her from a good or pure place, then your marriage to her shouldn't be a problem but if what you said is true, then something dey sup wey you no wan talk or wey you no know. Normally, you should discuss it with your woman and the two families (yours and hers) involved and not here. Discuss it with your woman and the two families involved, why doing that take your time to observe every response and reactions, that should help you get better understanding of how to handle it. |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Menclothing: 3:33pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Do what please ur hrt |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by ClassicMan202(m): 3:34pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Now the issue is, if l get married to her before then, the man might lose interest in helping her. Herein lies all the answers you are looking for. Use your tongue count your teeth. 2 Likes |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Hajokexyz: 3:35pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Man or sugar Daddy?? 1 Like |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by qtguru(m): 3:35pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Even if you join she's still on a student visa, what's the plan after that ? 1 Like |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Kingrshd3: 3:35pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
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| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by SirLakes: 3:36pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Why would he lose interest E dey chop your babe abi E wan dey chop her? 3 Likes |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by oluwaseyi0: 3:38pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Is the man fuxking your fiancée or what He is her sponsor is a vague word, you mean he's her sugar daddy or are they related Why will he loose interest in helping her if they don't have something sexual 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: To Marry Or Not To Marry by Aaaaarghmed(m): 3:38pm On Jan 30, 2024 |
Mumu post.All this weak guys sef 2 Likes |
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