I greet you all. My people pls help me address this properly. There's this babe I met at an Agricultural programme in 2023 last year we exchanged contacts and started communicating but it was a rare communication initially we just talked only about our agric programmes and some times we just chat a little after I buy data from her, she's a graphic designer and data vendor, she doesn't even disturb me for money. fast forward to when she claimed to be single so I proposed a love affair she told me she's single mom and everything that happened, I understood her n felt for her but I really love this girl especially her eye color. she accepted we started dating, she has been so nice sometimes she gave me data I didn't ask for, she even proposed to give me some money to put in my business but I stylishly rejected it because I know how women are, she's really been so nice and loving but later on she got too confident that maybe I love her too much so she kind of snub me and act somehow sometimes, I actually love this female and intend to marry her because we have alot in common in respect to life interests and careers. I feel this inner peace I never felt before but I just dislike her being single mom, she has promised me sex several times but I just give her excuse for us not to have sex because if I don't marry her later on she will say I used and dumped her and that's not my intention for her, my intention is beyond just sex so I won't do it with her since I don't know if I can marry her. lately we were chatting I asked her if she still has feelings for her ex and she admitted to me that recently she felt something for him because the guy recently started caring for her. So I was like ok, since then I limited the conversations and she too kept ignoring me also, 2 times she misbehaved b4 but she used emotional blackmail to get me back and my conscience starts judging me not to leave her because I know honestly her type is rare these days, but till now about 4 days we have not communicated and I already moved on. I remember I read somebody's comment on nairaland that said "single mother na person wife". So like I've moved on and I don't intend to continue no matter the emotional blackmail she may put up later, have I taken the right step by moving on? or I should try to mend things if the female reaches out again? Is it okay to marry a single mom? What are the possible dangers?

Whether your intention to marry her is right or wrong depends on how she became a single mother.

Her baby may turn out to actually be your baby that she didn't tell you about and was trying to pin on another man before you.

The guy above me tried desperately to make sense........... He failed

Op
If her ex-husby is still alive

Don't just go for marriage with her...

It would have terrible consequences.

You have been told oo

she has promised me sex several times but I just give her excuse for us not to have sex because if I don't marry her later on she will say I used and dumped her and that's not my intention for her, my intention is beyond just sex

She offered money, you rejected.
She offered sex, you rejected.

What truly is your intention with a Nigerian single mother?

Some single moms are actually very good, they were just unfortunate with an unstable and irresponsible man in their life. Stop demonizing them

There is no harm in whatever step you want to take, there's also harm in whatever you want to take..
1. Marrying a single mom may good for me and may likely be bad for you..
2. You know what is good for u without the opinion of the public, you know what you want and what you don't.. You know the woman you need in ur life..
3. People condemning single mom are just their sharing opinion with their little experiences and that should not bother you that much because i've witness so many single moms who make good wives..
4. You can get problem anywhere either single mom or not, problem dey everywhere..
5. Lastly her baby dad can bleep her anytime depends on the cause of their breakup..

I was enjoying the story and also she would have been the best for you from your analysis until you said this lately we were chatting I asked her if she still has feelings for her ex and she admitted to me that recently she felt something for him because the guy recently started caring for her. Thank God you’ve moved on

If she was that great a person, why did she become a single mom?

Use your number 6 and you'll understand the statement

you sound confused that's all I'm going to say ,no advice is not worth it.

Sirmwill:
The guy above me tried desperately to make sense........... He failed

Op
If her ex-husby is still alive

Don't just go for marriage with her...

It would have terrible consequences.

You have been told oo

she was never married. She dated the guy in school

EreluRoz:
Some single moms are actually very good, they were just unfortunate with an unstable and irresponsible man in their life. Stop demonizing them

bro I never demonized them

talented321:
There is no harm in whatever step you want to take, there's also harm in whatever you want to take..
1. Marrying a single mom may good for me and may likely be bad for you..
2. You know what is good for u without the opinion of the public, you know what you want and what you don't.. You know the woman you need in ur life..
3. People condemning single mom are just their sharing opinion with their little experiences and that should not bother you that much because i've witness so many single moms who make good wives..
4. You can get problem anywhere either single mom or not, problem dey everywhere..
5. Lastly her baby dad can bleep her anytime depends on the cause of their breakup..

number 5 is my major concern. She said nothing like that can happen but I know these b1tches crazy always. I just like this one in particular

Go for it but don't rush into marriage.
Also, set some terms for her kids before going deep.
So that she wouldn't start shouting don't touch my kids.

Zonefree:

She offered you money, you rejected.
She offered you sex, you rejected.

What truly is your intention with a Nigerian single mother?

one has to be careful with Nigerian females

NPFLADMIN:
Go for it but don't rush into marriage.

Also, set some terms for her kids before going deep.

So that she wouldn't start shouting don't touch my kids.

she's got just 1 boy

Justice for single mothers

OP is brainwashed by the society, not all single parents are bad. Some are just unlucky with men

labake1:
Justice for single mothers

OP is brainwashed by the society, not all single parents are bad. Some are just unlucky with men

yes but no justice for the ones who still have feeling for their ex

rocknation62:
I was enjoying the story until you said this lately we were chatting I asked her if she still has feelings for her ex and she admitted to me that recently she felt something for him because the guy recently started caring for her. Thank God you’ve moved on

yea

GodPrince:
she's got just 1 boy

Makes no diff.

I repeat, don't rush into marriage.

Also, when or if she tries to show dominance again, or try to be in countrol or behave as if you can't do without her, RUN OOO.

About the feelings, you're gonna have to talk to her abt that.

That's if she's still interested.

GodPrince:
bro I never demonized them

Sis you did stylishly. Let your next post be about single dad

NPFLADMIN:


Makes no diff.

I repeat, don't rush into marriage.

Also, when or if she tries to show dominance again, or try to be in countrol or behave as if you can't do without her, RUN OOO.

About the feelings, you're gonna have to talk to her abt that.

That's if she's still interested.

if about talking to her about how I feel, I swear I feel deep love. There's this inner peace I have had since we started dating, but like u said she's trying to act like I can't do without her, is why I've moved on. I don't want any communication with her again

GodPrince:
if about talking to her about how I feel, I swear I feel deep love. There's this inner peace I have had since we started dating, but like u said she's trying to act like I can't do without her, is why I've moved on. I don't want any communication with her again

Hmmm, I would still advise you to talk to her concerning that.

It may be that she's just trying not to get hurt.

But if you have moved on, that's on you.

GodPrince:

I should try to mend things if the female reaches out again? Is it okay to marry a single mom? What are the possible dangers?

Guy Marry her.....if all goes well...all praise to God....If it goes bad...u will come and educate nairaland ..

But the standard issues most face are:

Wahala of ex: strafing ur wife if she's not over him...Once the ex start to provide more for ur wife......guy..ur home is under threat...

Double authority: "My daddy said", ...my daddy doesn't want me to do this or that" .

If u are rich: u shouldn't have issues with caring for an extra kid that's not urs.......if not, a time will come u will choose ur own kid when u cant afford a major expense for both.wahala go start

Discipline: .never forget...her child is not urs... How u will slap ur own kid is not how u will slap her kid....the outcome will never be the same.

Female children: give urself brain...u will always be viewed as a potential rapist...

Over all..u have more work to do ..because u gats make her happy, make her kid happy, keep the ex in check ....keep her second inlaws in check...... but u go dey alright naaa..shebi u be strong man...??

I asked her if she still has feelings for her ex and she admitted to me that recently she felt something for him because the guy recently started caring for her.

What is the something that she felt for him? This is a red flag unless you don't care if your wife has two husbands.

Being a single mom is a sign of irresponsibility. It takes an irresponsible lady who cannot reason properly to open her legs for an irresponsible jerk!

So op, if you decide to allow yourself get blackmailed into marrying a single mom, OYO.

GodPrince:
she was never married. She dated the guy in school

Oh


Have you heard of Okafor's law?

You fell in love with her eye color blue I guess. Wait till you see red.

immortalcrown:
Whether your intention to marry her is right or wrong depends on how she became a single mother.

Epic

EreluRoz:
Sis you did stylishly. Let your next post be about single dad

Bro are you gay? Why are you calling a hairy balls person like you sis?

Go ahead she is far better than all those single who have been committing abortion/ murder

They are pretentiously evil. They can kill you in your sleep.

They are only loyal to their child and sometimes the baby daddy.

Don't be deceived!