Women have realized that they can obtain the same benefits and more from men without being married to them, and not bear the price, that is, marriage, for obtaining such benefits. The moment a woman is able to free herself from traditional norms sorrounding relationships and marriage, men become the prey.. And, of course, they lack the self control to notice they aren't the prey.

I tried telling SirDick this once, but he block me.

ednut1:
why are men who are unmarried themselves obsessed with women/marriage

Tunde when are you getting married? Make sure you come back to Nigeria to marry a Nairaland lady oh, we have good beautiful ladies on this forum, I can match make or recommend for you if you are ready

Downside to upside of women liberation.


To think you come to this world to work and build careers is one of the most sickening forms of orientation to impose on the human mind.

Men can easily break pass it. but once it set in for women it's hard for them to emerge out of it.

Astra101:


The bolded is the real deal breaker. This is the sole reason why they vehemently refused with red eyes to sign a prenuptial agreement before marriage because they know their intent and purpose of going into marriage isn't genuine.

As for me, be it Uk, US, Canada, German, Japan or anywhere in the world, if i must tie the knot you must sign a prenup. I can't labour only to have my property confiscated by a vile, strategic feminist that will in turn spent it on one useless gigolo/ a bloody Simp!

But why are they still keeping such laws that are anti men in place?

Jman06:
So, all your little brain could think of is that I support Boko Haram? Much as I don't support Boko Haram and their violent ways, I also understand that they are fighting to correct one of the negative sides of Western education and civilization,,,which is the destruction of the traditional family system.

I think life today is far, far better than life yesterday, and a billion times better than life 70 years ago.

Women have not been sitting at home, that's a new thing, or atleast, forced on other cultures by the Romans. Women have always been contributing members of the society, even aside child birth. Some tribes had warrior women, others, women were also farmer, textile "engineers," nurses and doctors, spiritual leaders, hunters, and so on.

The economy isn't tough, nor have women raised their standards. The issue here is, many men with a mobile device all want their women to be submissive Tacha.

There are thousands of women, literally thousands, who will date you. All you have to do is ask. But, all men are now gunning for the same small cohort of women, the slay queens. To get the slay queens, they need money. But, in an economy like naija, money no dey. So, men get frustrated---frustrated by their pursue of wild-sex life, imposed on them by only themselves.

Why aren't men going to pick the women doing night vigils looking for husband? Simple. They don't twerk on social media.

madridguy:
Nice write up.

Yeah. I enjoyed reading it despite its length.

Just here to read comments...Nairalanders ehn, meanwhile someone's COZA and another Cursive.

Aren't you embarrassed that you couldn't understand the article?

It's not like it's a treatise on Quantum Mechanics oo

The writer just took time to identify that many well to do Nigerian women in the UK are single against their will and pertinent reasons why men are staying away from marriage.

That's not rocket science

Biglittlelois:
How come it is usually Men that cry more than the bereaved? I don't understand.

Yugoslavia247:
Women living in Nigeria can never relate


They will be asking mumu questions like

Did they tell you they want husband?

Most don't even have friends in the UK so they don't understand

never argue with someone that has never been to the international wing of an airport.they will drag u back to the village.some of the comments so far from ladies here shows they have not seen life.look at one village girl talking about money.rich ppl need partners even more than poor ppl.i didn’t want to comment.only those that are well travelled will understand this thread.

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Abeg make una Link me to one na

Amumaigwe:


Go and ask pastors that are into marriage counselling if rich and successful women cry for marriage. They stand a better chance of giving you a more credible answer.

bros u for no reply this babe.shes either in her early twenties doing hook up or she’s sick.

VULCAN:
Aren't you embarrassed that you couldn't understand the article?

It's not like it's a treatise on Quantum Mechanics oo

The writer just took time to identify that many well to do Nigerian women in the UK are single against their will and pertinent reasons why men are staying away from marriage.

That's not rocket science

If your little brain could comprehend easily, you'd understand that single Nigerian women in the U.K and their way of life is not his business, because he is not in their mind and heart to know if they are single against their will or not, to the extent of crying more than the bereaved by creating a thread on something that is not his problem.

But then common sense is an issue for people like you, so I expect nothing less.

Jman06:
Everybody can now understand why the likes of Boko Haram are against western education.
It destroys the traditional family values and keep the two genders at loggerheads as both men and women appear to be in contest of who is smarter than the other. No gender wants to 'gree' for the other.

Continuity of human existence is clearly threatened by the above scenario.

You're not making sense.

Marriage is not by beauty or looks. That's considered more for hookup or dates.

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Biglittlelois:



If your little brain could comprehend easily, you'd understand that single Nigerian women in the U.K and their way of life is not his business, because he is not in their mind and heart to know if they are single against their will or not, to the extent of crying more than the bereaved by creating a thread on something that is not his problem.

But then common sense is an issue for people like you, so I expect nothing less.

Why are you shouting?

We all know how prevalent the problem is for Nigerian women in the UK, so try dey calm down.

omooba969:


Why are you shouting?

We all know how prevalent the problem is for Nigerian women in the UK, so try dey calm down.

It is not your problem, stop crying more than the bereaved.

I’m allergic to long write-ups.

Proserpina:
Thank you for being honest.

Please let them continue to chase their Tacha ooo.
They shouldn't come for women doing night vigils , we don't want wolves among sheep Before you know it, they will expect a "kabashing" sister to give bj mouth wey holy spirit dey talk through oooo.

Abeg!!! No let them come frustrate an innocent sister who married as a virgin with monkey in the shadow style. These women are made specifically for men like them

Thank you.

I am just confessing my sins.

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Biglittlelois:



Oh so women are the cause of the death of traditional family and marriages? purely women? because we were empowered with education, so education should be withdrawn from us? that is the only way traditional marriages can thrive? only when women become illiterates?

No wonder Nigerian men cannot produce anything, they cannot invent anything, they cannot even rule their country right, except to kill, kidnap, steal, yahoo, skull mining, cannibalism, cultism, corruption, fraud, and all sorts of evil vices, Nigerian men have spoilt our images abroad, you are not known for anything good outside this country except negativities, that is why in your own little 2 by 2 cubicle, you can spew all this nonsense and think you are making sense, western countries that are above you in every ramifications will never be caught saying utter rubbish like this and be proud of themselves, no wonder Africa is seen as a cesspit and a third world continent when the men ruling it are nothing to write home about with their sad little thought process

The world is failing, from Africa to the whole world, thanks to men and their bad decisions, yet what your limited brian could only think of is women education as the cause of men's inability to hold the home front as the captain of the ship by sailing it to the right direction for a productive end result,

The next generation of Nigerian men will be the undoing of this nation, which is a good thing anyway so that everyone will be accountable to their own region, which will make it easier to remove shafts from wheat.

He's finally dragged you to his level.

Previous reply remains apt tho.

Jeon:
Abeg r3st. Did they tell you they are looking for marriage ?
.Hardly to see a rich or successful woman crying for marriage because she has what it takes to get a way from *poverty *. Like what Men normal says *Marriage is an empowerment to Women*.
So why will she look for an uplift empowerment, when she had all and all.



Why enbe say nah Men dy cry over Marriage and Women pass?..... Crying over what you claimed to be a man's destructions.



*spit *

I know lots of very of well to do ladies who want husbands. I was in Nigeria last month for the wedding of a former colleague. By all standards she is better off than the guy. Both women and men need each other because after 45 it begins to get lonely

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Biglittlelois:



It is not your problem, stop crying more than the bereaved.

I never said it's my problem but your position on this issue is one of denial.

Hope you gerrit.

Make Tinubu marry them

Oro Oshi

Biglittlelois:
How come it is usually Men that cry more than the bereaved? I don't understand.

The answer to your question is simple: it's because this is one area most women are often shy to talk about publicly. It's rare to find a woman who would publicly announce that she is looking for a husband even though deep inside she is dying to have a man in her life.

You see, there is something only a man can offer a woman. There is a vacuum in every woman's heart that can only be filled by a loving mature man. No amount of money, wealth or social status can fill that vacuum. Only a man can. Any woman who do not realise this is a dead soul!

franchasofficia:
Tunde when are you getting married? Make sure you come back to Nigeria to marry a Nairaland lady oh, we have good beautiful ladies on this forum, I can match make or recommend for you if you are ready

🤣🤣🤣

kkins25:



I think life today is far, far better than life yesterday, and a billion times better than life 70 years ago.

Women have not been sitting at home, that's a new thing, or atleast, forced on other cultures by the Romans. Women have always been contributing members of the society, even aside child birth. Some tribes had warrior women, others, women were also farmer, textile "engineers," nurses and doctors, spiritual leaders, hunters, and so on.

The economy isn't tough, nor have women raised their standards. The issue here is, many men with a mobile device all want their women to be submissive Tacha.

There are thousands of women, literally thousands, who will date you. All you have to do is ask. But, all men are now gunning for the same small cohort of women, the slay queens. To get the slay queens, they need money. But, in an economy like naija, money no dey. So, men get frustrated---frustrated by their pursue of wild-sex life, imposed on them by only themselves.

Why aren't men going to pick the women doing night vigils looking for husband? Simple. They don't twerk on social media.

You must be living in fool's paradise for you not to realize that the majority of 'modern' ladies now set unrealistic standards of the the kind of men to marry. How convenient it is for you to blame men and accuse them of going for twerking ladies.

Try to approach those ladies in prayer houses disturbing God for husbands, maybe then you'll realize that their problem is not that suitors are not coming, but that the kind of men that meet their high unrealistic expectations are not coming for them.

Believe it or not, western civilization created a generation of greedy and insatiable women and that has put a strain on our traditional family system and created a chaos in romantic relationships between men and women.

No article written by a Nigerian man is complete if he does not wail about submission and marriage.

No one wants to marry the women and yet it's always men crying about it and writing epistle.

Biglittlelois:
How come it is usually Men that cry more than the bereaved? I don't understand.

It's on boths sides. One is just vocal about it while the other is crying and dying inside