Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 3,158,878 members, 7,838,143 topics. Date: Thursday, 23 May 2024 at 04:07 PM

Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This - Romance (2) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This (4389 Views)

ANOTHER ONE — Mature Minds Only [Picture] / Please Mature Advice Needed / Tell Us Your Best Dating Site That You Can Recommend For Mature Minds (2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (3) (Reply) (Go Down)

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by HopeNeverDies: 12:00pm On Feb 09
I've read a story like this on NL before.. lol
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by ghettochild(m): 12:07pm On Feb 09
anyways, u don rush for freedom...
I think u shd sit her down...and let her know u both have to contribute to ur daily feeding and house keep.
if she no agree...
just go back to ur parent house Ooo after all dem no pursue u.
and leave her in that house....
she will understand Nigeria of today, man and woman gots join hands to come.
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by drimzsmoke(m): 12:12pm On Feb 09
Eunoiaa:
No. I changed my mind.

You're not a provider man. You're not a provider man in the slightest. You do not have the spirit of long-suffering and you aren't self-sacrificial. That is what men are built to do? 😒


You men of today do not even want to be supermen like our fathers of old. Any small strain, you're already complaining and seeking for equality. You should rediscover the template for masculinity because it's clear that you've lost it. Men are men and women are women as designed by God. We have the burden of pregnancy; you have the burden of provision. You have to toil and sweat to eat. If you couldn't handle it, you would not have been made as a man. Above women, innit? Because I saw in one of your comments that men have "allowed" women freedom so much and you have to put us women back in our place.

So is this how you plan on being a dominant man? Whining like a chicken? 😒


You should be happy you have a woman who wants to bring out the man in you. A woman who wants to allow to be manly. Why should she care about your feelings? Women are incapable of doing that. Also, are there not domestic duties she performs for you?


It's funny that you're crying over an "independent" woman who wants to kill you with billing, but your fellow men will swear that a stay-at-home wife and working husband is the ideal marriage. 🤣🤣


You cannot eat your cake and have it please. You're a redpill follower. Stick to the the demands of tradition, and not trying to eat from the table of of an equal relationship and a master/submissive one.



This!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You're a clown!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by NevetsIbot(m): 12:15pm On Feb 09
Lol. Coming from someone who was somewhat in your shoes. I didn’t cohabit or anything but I was with a leech. And oh.. I’m financially bouyant to an extent and I still felt her fangs deep in my finances.

My advice!! That girl doesn’t love you. Woman wey love you go pity you. Spend her money on you. When a woman loves you, she acts like a mother.

LEAVE HER ASAP.

Break up and leave!!! She’s not supportive and trust me bro…..
.
.
TRUST ME!!!
No matter the amount of love a woman swears to you! She will waste no second to leave you when you can no longer serve the purpose she needs you to serve. SHE WILL LEAVE WITHOUT BLINKING AN EYE!! Women are the most selfish, self serving and absorbed species of any life form that is existing and ever existed.

We are agemates and I can tell you… we never reach that stage to dey do husband and daddy duties!!

With mine.. I started with doing things for her even when she didn’t earn it. I turned her into an entitled person at the end. You also started to provide fully without asking her to contribute… If you can’t continue it on the long run, don’t even start it. Thats a big lesson I learned when it comes to the world of women.


Bro.. it’s gon be heard to let go cos you did a lot and invested a lot but man.. You ain't moving forward! You ain’t making progress. You don’t even have savings. Better send her out of your life and focus on yourself and your finances. Love yourself and live your life.

1 Like

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by FRANCISTOWN: 12:24pm On Feb 09
OP. The lady is not just a leech. She is not just obsessed with you. Ladies can sell their fathers' properties and give the proceeds to the men they are obsessed with. Emphasis on obsessed because women don't love.

2 Likes

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by FRANCISTOWN: 12:32pm On Feb 09
WantsandMore:
Really? Do you've a link?
I do not. But please check the screenshot above this->your post . The OP is a different personality entirely
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Nemesis0147(m): 12:33pm On Feb 09
The first apartment you rented all your life which is probably a single room or a selfcon…you go carry woman go camp.

You probably saw a few 100 bulks in your account and you thought you had arrived….
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by MisterBanny(m): 12:34pm On Feb 09
Obviously, you're Yoruba by tribe. Why did I say so? You're waiting to get her impregnated before you can go for introduction, so that on the day of the child's naming, the Marriage will also join. That's what some of u lots do, especially the young financially disadvantaged Yoruba guys.
Well, you weren't smart enough. The girl used u and it's quite saddening. She asked u to leave ur parents house, when obviously u weren't ready to move out at the time. But since u needed to prove that u are a man, u moved out. Truth is, she had already planned leaving her own brother's house even before u started dating each other, she was only waiting for the right time to strike. How do u even live with someone you are not married to? It's highly irresponsible
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Kevineleven(m): 12:37pm On Feb 09
I couldn't finish the long article but I got an idea of what you are talking about.
OP sit her down, explain to her that you guys should share the responsibility since you are both struggling.
Two is actually better than one, when they agree to work together, again I didn't finish your write up but if you have done that already and she refused,
I suggest that you end the relationship immediately.

2 Likes

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by ezegenigbonine: 12:45pm On Feb 09
You just taste being a man small and you are running away grin grin grin grin and your type will be the one that doesn't value your father. You just witnessed a tip of what he is facing. grin grin grin grin TO BE A MAN IS NOT A DAY JOB grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

1 Like

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by WholeLottaDrip2(m): 12:47pm On Feb 09
Bruh if you truly like the gyal and would rlly love to keep her in your life, I think you need to open up to ha, first let ha know, try have a heart to heart conversation and see where her mind is at ... It's either she wanna be a team player or a liability, if she wanna stay being a liability then you need to let go, peace of mind over everything.... You dey do your big boy normally before she enter your life but now e con be like say she dey drag u back, na the way the life be sumtimes, women dey come with some type of responsibilities u ghats dey fully equipped and ready to chest everything wey dey come with their wahala, especially the ones wey no be team playas, wey no ready to build frm scratch with a nigha.. Give dem chance make u nuh go drown yourself oo blooda.. Real matter
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Tallesty1(m): 1:04pm On Feb 09
The person who advised you to get your own apartment for privacy doesn't have her own apartment.


Are women not wonderful?

4 Likes

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by TheBlueDiamond(m): 1:12pm On Feb 09
Intoboy:
I started dating this lady that's a hairstylist that has her shop next to mine,i am a barber too...i started liking her because we were together and she's nice and pretty... along the line she said she doesn't like the fact that i still stay with my parents that i need my own privacy especially now that i am in a relationship with her,i wanted my own privacy too so i started working on getting my own place of which God made it possible for me last year December...i moved in and since she was staying at her brother's place that she doesn't really like she decided to move in with me...mehn this shit is crazy.
I figured it was gonna be easy because we were both working but it's different now,i feed the both of us from the money i work...i buy our cream,i do virtually everything for US...she makes her own money too but she saves it,the only time she spends her own money is when i have been drained to the last Kobo,i initially used to give my mom money but mehn I don't remember the last time i gave that woman money,if i were to be staying alone my stuffs will last longer for me and i will know how to manage my money but since i stay with my girlfriend i spend all my money to the last Kobo i don't even have fuel in the shop to work, she's a good girl but the only problem i have is that i am always broke while she keeps her money and makes plan for it and do business with it... while i struggle to sustain the little business i am doing, before we started dating she was fine and doing well taking care of herself but now everything is just so tiring that sometimes i sit and think think think...i know i am a man and am supposed to take responsibility but i see myself on the loosing side already,if anything happens in this relationship i stand to loose a whole lot because i have sacrificed a lot...i left my parents home because i needed privacy,i don't even get that,she nags and complain about everything,if ant bites her she'll cry to me and tell me ant bite her that i should say sorry,if i don't say sorry she will tell me i don't love her,i hide my pains,i cry inside i don't disturb her with my pains.

I intended getting married to her but things don't seem to be working right, should i tell her to go back to her brother's House?
She's the reason i rented this house,will she not think i am trying to send her away or i don't love her anymore, everybody thinks we are married and people keep telling me to do fast and impregnate her so that dey will come and eat rice but deep down,i am slowly getting tired and dying...i miss being single,i Miss being alone, I miss everything...i don't even make much money sometimes to buy my weed because we have to eat,weed helps me forget my problem a little.

Her family knows me already,dey are just waiting for me to come and do introduction or she should get pregnant,i am 26 and i want to know if it's my responsibility or i foolishly brought this upon myself...i thought i was the luckiest to be with a girl that's independent but little did i know that no girl is really independent when they see someone to depend on...i am not saying she's not trying but that's only when i voice out and complain that's when she'll tell me she has one money somewhere that we should buy something with it,but i can't be complaining everytime and if i sit her down and tell her all this she will feel like it's because i know that she has money that's why i am thinking that way...mehn the whole relationship and married thing just tire me and i really do feel like just being alone,i want to plan my life myself because this plan is not working at all, she's honest with me and I'm honest with her too,i am so honest and very nice i think she's taking advantage of me,i am taking care of her and slowly dying while she's judiciously making her plans work out and making progress...i have not even talked about my school, tomorrow is Saturday and i should be going to school,no transport or kobo with me,will i go to my mom to borrow money,woman i don't remember the last time i gave her money,or should i borrow from my girlfriend,that will always remind me i am owing her money...or should i go to my saloon and work then take the money to school tomorrow? What about feeding... who's gonna bring money for food today and the most annoying part of the whole thing is the way this girl disturbs me if she's hungry,even when my customers are there, she'll be telling me incessantly that she's hungry,i know for sure she has some money she has saved, and she knows for sure that i don't have any money with me,is she waiting for this customer to pay me so i give her the money to go and eat when i know she has some money she has saved,i don't have any money saved and even if i do have money that i have saved anytime anything comes up i go to that money, Maybe we need to eat or something but nobody touches her own money she has plan for it,i feel like i am being dragged back... someone should talk to me


Almost all barbers I've encountered are just like you, OP.
They're damn superficial, philandering, reasons with their pre*k.

Nothing in skirt passes without them losing their damn senses.

Damn, you need to listen to their gossips with their fellow idiots, you'll cringe!
they're either chronic alcoholics or damned smokers.

OP, nah 26 be your age. Perhaps it's the reason you're still naive and dim witted.
You don't need any further test to decode the narcissism, parasitism and manipulation tendencies of the lady. They're written in bold capital letters!

When you're much more older with sense, and you look back at who you're right now, you'll then decipher how senseless and foolish you currently are.

Things never needed to reach this stage before you take charge and purge her out.

how pathetic!
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by 100smile(m): 1:15pm On Feb 09
slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar

You are almost gone brother

You better sit yourself down and act shaperly

Because if you continue like this it will get to a time you won't be able to take decisions again because you must have sacrificed alot
That is the game that girl is trying to play

See let me tell you a secrete about women
If a woman loves you their sympathy, empathy and pity hormones start flowing in their body for you

My niggar!! You know why i like you? You dey settle down, then confidently say nonsense. Though sometimes you nonsense dey make sense. This post make small sense.

@op, just because say you wan fornicate, you get mind move commot ur parent house. Wey nor be say they (ur parents) dey give us problem. Oya continue na...

You better dischare dat banny when e never too late now. She go soon get belle for you, just dey watch. Dat time u go shed blood.

Niggar's takin bout love. Lol.

1 Like

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Halastershang(m): 1:44pm On Feb 09
Zaheertyler:
Relationships deals with compromise but not to the point where you have issues emotional
You no be stone and communication doesn't make you less of a man
Take a weekend away at your mothers place ...comminicate with your mom...she's a woman and she's been there and knows better
Create strong and healthy boundaries
You need to save your money so why don't you allocate some bills to her
If she has sense she will understand
He is doing the compro while she is doing the mising
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by DohFahSo: 2:07pm On Feb 09
Thurmieee:
This guy dey talk wetin pain am.....Una dey catch cruise.
Bro you have to decide oh....... cohabiting no be small thing. If you marry her like that just be ready that's how things would be forever. She go later dey tell Una pikin if she assists in their school fees or anything.
Brooo!!! The amount of children on this forum is irritating. I could feel the pain in this guy's words and unserious children are busy catching cruise. So sad.

1 Like

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by WantsandMore: 2:07pm On Feb 09
FRANCISTOWN:

I do not. But please check the screenshot above this->your post . The OP is a different personality entirely
Right I saw it, from a supposed redpiller to a depressed lover boy, I wonder what happened to this Op particularly 🤔 hmm
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by DohFahSo: 2:08pm On Feb 09
Eunoiaa:
No. I changed my mind.

You're not a provider man. You're not a provider man in the slightest. You do not have the spirit of long-suffering and you aren't self-sacrificial. That is what men are built to do? 😒


You men of today do not even want to be supermen like our fathers of old. Any small strain, you're already complaining and seeking for equality. You should rediscover the template for masculinity because it's clear that you've lost it. Men are men and women are women as designed by God. We have the burden of pregnancy; you have the burden of provision. You have to toil and sweat to eat. If you couldn't handle it, you would not have been made as a man. Above women, innit? Because I saw in one of your comments that men have "allowed" women freedom so much and you have to put us women back in our place.

So is this how you plan on being a dominant man? Whining like a chicken? 😒


You should be happy you have a woman who wants to bring out the man in you. A woman who wants to allow to be manly. Why should she care about your feelings? Women are incapable of doing that. Also, are there not domestic duties she performs for you?


It's funny that you're crying over an "independent" woman who wants to kill you with billing, but your fellow men will swear that a stay-at-home wife and working husband is the ideal marriage. 🤣🤣


You cannot eat your cake and have it please. You're a redpill follower. Stick to the the demands of tradition, and not trying to eat from the table of of an equal relationship and a master/submissive one.
You're a goat 🐐🐐🐐
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by techgen(m): 2:16pm On Feb 09
Now you know “but little did i know that no girl is really independent when they see someone to depend on.


Your combination is mad…cohabiting-Barbing-Weeding-Schooling…how do you expect to breathe.

You’ll finally appreciate your parents more, you never balance you go put woman for house….so, you expect to Dey Kna**k for free.

Werey ni 😄


Intoboy:
I started dating this lady that's a hairstylist that has her shop next to mine,i am a barber too...i started liking her because we were together and she's nice and pretty... along the line she said she doesn't like the fact that i still stay with my parents that i need my own privacy especially now that i am in a relationship with her,i wanted my own privacy too so i started working on getting my own place of which God made it possible for me last year December...i moved in and since she was staying at her brother's place that she doesn't really like she decided to move in with me...mehn this shit is crazy.
I figured it was gonna be easy because we were both working but it's different now,i feed the both of us from the money i work...i buy our cream,i do virtually everything for US...she makes her own money too but she saves it,the only time she spends her own money is when i have been drained to the last Kobo,i initially used to give my mom money but mehn I don't remember the last time i gave that woman money,if i were to be staying alone my stuffs will last longer for me and i will know how to manage my money but since i stay with my girlfriend i spend all my money to the last Kobo i don't even have fuel in the shop to work, she's a good girl but the only problem i have is that i am always broke while she keeps her money and makes plan for it and do business with it... while i struggle to sustain the little business i am doing, before we started dating she was fine and doing well taking care of herself but now everything is just so tiring that sometimes i sit and think think think...i know i am a man and am supposed to take responsibility but i see myself on the loosing side already,if anything happens in this relationship i stand to loose a whole lot because i have sacrificed a lot...i left my parents home because i needed privacy,i don't even get that,she nags and complain about everything,if ant bites her she'll cry to me and tell me ant bite her that i should say sorry,if i don't say sorry she will tell me i don't love her,i hide my pains,i cry inside i don't disturb her with my pains.

I intended getting married to her but things don't seem to be working right, should i tell her to go back to her brother's House?
She's the reason i rented this house,will she not think i am trying to send her away or i don't love her anymore, everybody thinks we are married and people keep telling me to do fast and impregnate her so that dey will come and eat rice but deep down,i am slowly getting tired and dying...i miss being single,i Miss being alone, I miss everything...i don't even make much money sometimes to buy my weed because we have to eat,weed helps me forget my problem a little.

Her family knows me already,dey are just waiting for me to come and do introduction or she should get pregnant,i am 26 and i want to know if it's my responsibility or i foolishly brought this upon myself...i thought i was the luckiest to be with a girl that's independent but little did i know that no girl is really independent when they see someone to depend on...i am not saying she's not trying but that's only when i voice out and complain that's when she'll tell me she has one money somewhere that we should buy something with it,but i can't be complaining everytime and if i sit her down and tell her all this she will feel like it's because i know that she has money that's why i am thinking that way...mehn the whole relationship and married thing just tire me and i really do feel like just being alone,i want to plan my life myself because this plan is not working at all, she's honest with me and I'm honest with her too,i am so honest and very nice i think she's taking advantage of me,i am taking care of her and slowly dying while she's judiciously making her plans work out and making progress...i have not even talked about my school, tomorrow is Saturday and i should be going to school,no transport or kobo with me,will i go to my mom to borrow money,woman i don't remember the last time i gave her money,or should i borrow from my girlfriend,that will always remind me i am owing her money...or should i go to my saloon and work then take the money to school tomorrow? What about feeding... who's gonna bring money for food today and the most annoying part of the whole thing is the way this girl disturbs me if she's hungry,even when my customers are there, she'll be telling me incessantly that she's hungry,i know for sure she has some money she has saved, and she knows for sure that i don't have any money with me,is she waiting for this customer to pay me so i give her the money to go and eat when i know she has some money she has saved,i don't have any money saved and even if i do have money that i have saved anytime anything comes up i go to that money, Maybe we need to eat or something but nobody touches her own money she has plan for it,i feel like i am being dragged back... someone should talk to me
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Savedday2: 2:31pm On Feb 09
Let me tell you the truth, women doesn't care about you. Don't be deceived, all they have ever done or care about is themselves.

Wise up and send that cow out of your huz. Believe me, when she upgrade with the money she is saving, she will leave you for another man without guilt or thinking back.

2 Likes

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Kaido: 2:42pm On Feb 09
Intoboy:


Sex don tire me,i hardly touch her in a week
You need to let her go.

Living with a woman for two weeks straight no be beans. People wey marry dey try.

1 Like

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by pansophist(m): 3:11pm On Feb 09
You are suffering because of your mask.

Forming Bruce Lee, when in reality, you are not. Nowhere in your write-up do you share your problems with your wife-to-be, you are dying inside, but choose to endure, because you want to appear man enough to her?

Also, the only time you should carry this responsibility is when you are married, not before. You should have left her in her brother's house since reversing will be difficult now.

Truth always heals. Have a genuine conversation with her that is intended to bring positive results. You can't pretend forever, you will just die for nothing.

Tell her that things are different than you have planned and that you guys should share the rent, or she consider going back to her brother's house. You will probably feel vulnerable (and you should) saying this, but if you can't say it to her, it calls to question the kind of woman you want to wife up.

Because this is nothing compared to real problems of life. You can wear a mask for a friend, a neighbor, or even a best friend, but not a wife.

I can plan to kill you today but I won't be successful, but your wife will do it tonight neatly, easily. So the status of a wife-to-be is not one where you hide things that hurt you.

So if she gets angry, feels disappointed, heartbroken, and any grammar she can come up with, at the end of the day, you matter. The relationship is also for your happiness and well-being, not sacrificing yours for hers.

7 Likes 1 Share

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Bonjovi13: 3:12pm On Feb 09
Intoboy:
I started dating this lady that's a hairstylist that has her shop next to mine,i am a barber too...i started liking her because we were together and she's nice and pretty... along the line she said she doesn't like the fact that i still stay with my parents that i need my own privacy especially now that i am in a relationship with her,i wanted my own privacy too so i started working on getting my own place of which God made it possible for me last year December...i moved in and since she was staying at her brother's place that she doesn't really like she decided to move in with me...mehn this shit is crazy.
I figured it was gonna be easy because we were both working but it's different now,i feed the both of us from the money i work...i buy our cream,i do virtually everything for US...she makes her own money too but she saves it,the only time she spends her own money is when i have been drained to the last Kobo,i initially used to give my mom money but mehn I don't remember the last time i gave that woman money,if i were to be staying alone my stuffs will last longer for me and i will know how to manage my money but since i stay with my girlfriend i spend all my money to the last Kobo i don't even have fuel in the shop to work, she's a good girl but the only problem i have is that i am always broke while she keeps her money and makes plan for it and do business with it... while i struggle to sustain the little business i am doing, before we started dating she was fine and doing well taking care of herself but now everything is just so tiring that sometimes i sit and think think think...i know i am a man and am supposed to take responsibility but i see myself on the loosing side already,if anything happens in this relationship i stand to loose a whole lot because i have sacrificed a lot...i left my parents home because i needed privacy,i don't even get that,she nags and complain about everything,if ant bites her she'll cry to me and tell me ant bite her that i should say sorry,if i don't say sorry she will tell me i don't love her,i hide my pains,i cry inside i don't disturb her with my pains.

I intended getting married to her but things don't seem to be working right, should i tell her to go back to her brother's House?
She's the reason i rented this house,will she not think i am trying to send her away or i don't love her anymore, everybody thinks we are married and people keep telling me to do fast and impregnate her so that dey will come and eat rice but deep down,i am slowly getting tired and dying...i miss being single,i Miss being alone, I miss everything...i don't even make much money sometimes to buy my weed because we have to eat,weed helps me forget my problem a little.

Her family knows me already,dey are just waiting for me to come and do introduction or she should get pregnant,i am 26 and i want to know if it's my responsibility or i foolishly brought this upon myself...i thought i was the luckiest to be with a girl that's independent but little did i know that no girl is really independent when they see someone to depend on...i am not saying she's not trying but that's only when i voice out and complain that's when she'll tell me she has one money somewhere that we should buy something with it,but i can't be complaining everytime and if i sit her down and tell her all this she will feel like it's because i know that she has money that's why i am thinking that way...mehn the whole relationship and married thing just tire me and i really do feel like just being alone,i want to plan my life myself because this plan is not working at all, she's honest with me and I'm honest with her too,i am so honest and very nice i think she's taking advantage of me,i am taking care of her and slowly dying while she's judiciously making her plans work out and making progress...i have not even talked about my school, tomorrow is Saturday and i should be going to school,no transport or kobo with me,will i go to my mom to borrow money,woman i don't remember the last time i gave her money,or should i borrow from my girlfriend,that will always remind me i am owing her money...or should i go to my saloon and work then take the money to school tomorrow? What about feeding... who's gonna bring money for food today and the most annoying part of the whole thing is the way this girl disturbs me if she's hungry,even when my customers are there, she'll be telling me incessantly that she's hungry,i know for sure she has some money she has saved, and she knows for sure that i don't have any money with me,is she waiting for this customer to pay me so i give her the money to go and eat when i know she has some money she has saved,i don't have any money saved and even if i do have money that i have saved anytime anything comes up i go to that money, Maybe we need to eat or something but nobody touches her own money she has plan for it,i feel like i am being dragged back... someone should talk to me

You are drowning and smiling. I wonder if you think someone is coming to help you. No one cares including your woman. If you don't take steps to free yourself from this prison you created for yourself you will slip into depression and God forbid hurt your self.
Listen most women are like your girl. They will bleed you dry while hoarding what they have. They will watch you stretch yourself until your back breaks and won't lift a finger to help. We'll Until you shout out. Sit her down and tell her things can't continue like this. Yall should unpack everything. Expose everything. Your income and expenditure.

Then ask her what she can contribute weekly to the common purse. If she says nothing or accepts and reneged on her word, there you have the sign.
Tell her to move out and stop footing her bills. In life as in marriage, you must look out for yourself. Man up and don't be a simp
Nice guys are trampled upon.
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Streetmovement(m): 4:08pm On Feb 09
Wotoporiously cool speaking

You made a mistake and I believe you've now recognized your mistakes, learn from it and never let it repeat itself again.

I nor dey wait make something happen to me before I Sabi body o.

You know what to do, so my advise will be, just go and do it.

1 Like

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by emerged01(m): 6:35pm On Feb 09
Bro,you took the wrong step. Just sit her down that you are not ready for this kind of life. Though it will not end well but you just have to leave that bondage.
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by OgaTheTop2: 1:27am On Feb 10
OP, divide your monthly takes into two, spend half on your relationship and keep the other half. Anywhere that half you spend on your relationship take you is what you manage. Don't overdo yourself because of a woman o. No gree o bro!

Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by advanceDNA: 3:42am On Feb 10
FRANCISTOWN:
:


1. Our mothers of old helped our fathers of old in their businesses. They followed and assisted them on the farm. They did all the house chores, never threw tantrums when our fathers of old came home with another woman.
Our mothers of old were like daughters to our fathers of old.
Is the lady in question assisting the OP in any of his work?
Did you even know that our mothers of old even if they were working would give their profits or salaries to their husbands, in fact with kneeling.
Is the lady doing the same?

Your point is dead on arrival.

2. Women are incapable of caring about a man's feelings. I hope guys can see this. Any man who cares about the feelings of any lady except relatives should die a miserable death.

What chores is she doing? She's probably doing the dishes? The food they'd both eat, the plate they both used , sweeping the floor they both walk on or tiding the room they both sleep.
If she was living alone wouldn't she tidy her own room or wash her own plates?
Unless if she washed his clothes, she hadn't done anything grand. And by the way he's feeding her . Washing his clothes should be the littlest way to say thanks.

Women don't bring out the best in men. They bring out the worst. I've said it already that men and women are not meant to live together.

Women were the ones who made have regrets about creating man.

3. But the lady in question is not a stay at home wife. Your point is 50years dead.

4. What if I baked two cakes? I'll eat one and I'll still have the other one.

5. I honestly feel the Red Pill is weak, very weak. MGTOW is a bit better.
In loving memory of your point. The girl should stop working then, and she should assist the guy in his business or sit her ass at home.

U are allowing urself get triggered over of petty, weak sarcasm
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by advanceDNA: 3:46am On Feb 10
OgaTheTop2:
OP, divide your monthly takes into two, spend half on your relationship and keep the other half. Anywhere that half you spend on your relationship take you is what you manage. Don't overdo yourself because of a woman o. No gree o bro!

Half ??
Why ??
Even God... na 10% we dey give am...
How will u save...how will u give ur own family?

Una dey do too much for women....abi na the kind of women wey una dey date?
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by OgaTheTop2: 4:31am On Feb 10
advanceDNA:


Half ??
Why ??
Even God... na 10% we dey give am...
How will u save...how will u give ur own family?

Una dey do too much for women....abi na the kind of women wey una dey date?
The half is not for the woman but to maintain his home, himself and the woman.
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Josbreed: 6:13am On Feb 10
Intoboy:
I started dating this lady
Where is the story? Me I cant see any story here o. Kindly repost the story.
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by okerekingsley90: 6:13am On Feb 10
Hacktod:
Go back to memory lane
And check the 2 different person u are now

The boy never know really wetin de worry am
Re: Please Mature Minds Should Help Me Out With This by Badmashiii: 6:14am On Feb 10
Prec1ous:
When I learnt in life that some experience will not come your way if you learn from other people's story, my life quality improved.

You my friend, is currently in a very parasitic relationship. You are the host and she is a leach. But she is almost done with you, damn I can see your grave in front already.

Thank God you have learnt that there is nothing like independent woman, she has not just found her own fool or someone rich enough to chest her bills.

Then to those fools who think men who pay for sex on the spot are idiots, this is what they are avoiding. You think because you use relationship to hold her, the sex is free. You will pay compound interest.

Now here is what you will do...

- You are not in love and she doesn't love you. You are currently an end to a means. You know, like a ladder to get to an height before she monkey branch to another ladder.

- Pull the bandage. Tell her enough is enough. You will lose your access to pussy but I tell you your sanity is better than that momentarily ecstasy you feel.

- Count your loss now. Send her away or leave. Yes, I said it leave and go to your mother's place if you are too weak to discharge her. Leave everything.

- Your life Is stagnant but you will know how deep you are gone when she start acting up or leave you.

- Don't talk to her, never negotiate with a terrorist because she will just put breast in your mouth again and feed you the milk of idiocy again.

- Move your shop or sell everything because you cannot function business wise around her.

- All my advice may seem drastic and that is because your disease is likened to a gangrene. Cut it off or it will spread and kill you.

Don't ever forget the below...

Everybody wants to use you. So use your head or someone will dump their load on you.

Cheers!

Bros you too much abeg. See wisdom chaii! Omo nairaland na another institution on it own. So many things to learn.

This is why i believe experience is the WORST teacher.

"Everybody want to use you" that's the reality of life so better use your head.

(1) (2) (3) (Reply)

What Is The #1 Thing Women Lie About / Light Skin Females Dark Skin Females: ..the Final Debate. / My Letter To Another Nairalander

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 154
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.