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Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 11:39pm On Oct 22, 2023
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
I don't know why I meet the kind of guys I meet o, bad guys tend to gravitate towards me especially the randy ones. Most times, I'm well dressed and I respect myself a lot so I don't understand why I'm not meeting the kind of people I desire.
Am I doing something wrong or I'm just suffering from what I know nothing about?

I want to get married o or at least have a serious relationship going on by the end of this year cry
Advice needed on how to achieve this, thank you all for your anticipated contributions
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Reminderz: 12:02am On Oct 23, 2023
you said you dress decently, you don't expose your endowments, and you don't give the off the "she's just for fvcks vibes"? if so then, it might be something to do with your personality or character... believe me, when you respect yourself, men will also respect you...

if the men approaching you are only in for the fvcks, then you're better off single, or else, you'll just end up being passed around.. until a man does the needful, always like talking about marriage and taking it further, then just keep an open mind that you're still single.. or maybe the people that are attracted to you, ain't your 'type'? or you have created the imagination of what an ideal man should be in your mind and the people you're meeting ain't up to that standards? are you looking at the wrong place? or you're prioritising what's not really necessary when looking for your ideal man? just know that reality is often not what we expect it to be... if your character is good, and you're of good marriageable quality, and also comfortably feminine, just keep doing what you do best... your time will come...

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Shortcut2life: 12:29am On Oct 23, 2023
Singlesingle:
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
I don't know why I meet the kind of guys I meet o, bad guys tend to gravitate towards me especially the randy ones. Most times, I'm well dressed and I respect myself a lot so I don't understand why I'm not meeting the kind of people I desire.
Am I doing something wrong or I'm just suffering from what I know nothing about?

I want to get married o or at least have a serious relationship going on by the end of this year cry
Advice needed on how to achieve this, thank you all for your anticipated contributions

Wasup can we get familiar with each other

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by JustPowerApps(m): 12:32am On Oct 23, 2023
grin grin grin

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by ipobarecriminals: 3:36am On Oct 23, 2023
cool stop deceiving yourself with this yo FAKE account. U can only FOOL the dumb ones

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by blacksam01: 6:56am On Oct 23, 2023
Singlesingle:
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
I don't know why I meet the kind of guys I meet o, bad guys tend to gravitate towards me especially the randy ones. Most times, I'm well dressed and I respect myself a lot so I don't understand why I'm not meeting the kind of people I desire.
Am I doing something wrong or I'm just suffering from what I know nothing about?

I want to get married o or at least have a serious relationship going on by the end of this year cry
Advice needed on how to achieve this, thank you all for your anticipated contributions

do u work...?

looking for a wife...only condition is dt sh must b working nd be a gentle well behave lady who calms down nd forgivs after being angry...simple...if u are such person just pm me
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Hideaki: 9:15am On Oct 23, 2023
You attract what you're


If you're a bookish nerd or a nightclub goer , you'll attract somewhat the same


Look at your life , find meaning in your life before finding man

Get a job or hobby if you don't have one

Read books especially romantic ones

Spend time doing that, Spend time doing what you love

Dress well and decent , You don't have to unclad to be sexy

I've female friends that are dressed to the core and nothing's showing but they still look dazzling

Man shouldn't be the goal until you're well equipped with necessary capacities and facilities.

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 9:43am On Oct 23, 2023
blacksam01:


do u work...?

looking for a wife...only condition is dt sh must b working nd be a gentle well behave lady who calms down nd forgivs after being angry...simple...if u are such person just pm me
Lol..
"Who calms down and forgives after being angry", this is not even a problem but for you to put it forward means you would often get her angry and you expect to be forgiven at all times. Am I right?

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 9:52am On Oct 23, 2023
Reminderz:
you said you dress decently, you don't expose your endowments, and you don't give the off the "she's just for fvcks vibes"? if so then, it might be something to do with your personality or character... believe me, when you respect yourself, men will also respect you...
It can't possibly be my character or personality, that I'm sure of 100%. People I get close to with time often tell me I look spoilt and give bad girl vibes. Whenever I ask how, they always start with my physique and the way I look not like I even have an hour glass shape o. I just tire jare
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 9:58am On Oct 23, 2023
Hideaki:
You attract what you're


If you're a bookish nerd or a nightclub goer , you'll attract somewhat the same


Look at your life , find meaning in your life before finding man

Get a job or hobby if you don't have one

Read books especially romantic ones

Spend time doing that, Spend time doing what you love

Dress well and decent , You don't have to unclad to be sexy

I've female friends that are dressed to the core and nothing's showing but they still look dazzling

Man shouldn't be the goal until you're well equipped with necessary capacities and facilities.
I'm neither a nerd nor a nightclub goer, not like I see it as something bad though.
I have a job and in my free time I read good books and watch movies.
As I mentioned earlier, I dress decently at least 95% of the time.
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by blacksam01: 11:01am On Oct 23, 2023
Singlesingle:
Lol..
"Who calms down and forgives after being angry", this is not even a problem but for you to put it forward means you would often get her angry and you expect to be forgiven at all times. Am I right?

no body is intent on making someone else angry....but in life we always b happy..ppl must wrong u

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Nobody: 11:12am On Oct 23, 2023
Singlesingle:
It can't possibly be my character or personality, that I'm sure of 100%. People I get close to with time often tell me I look spoilt and give bad girl vibes. Whenever I ask how, they always start with my physique and the way I look not like I even have an hour glass shape o. I just tire jare
u said u dress decently, yet only mess men come around u

It simply means, is mess men that stays around your environment or where u live

Simply move out from your current place of abode to a new and decent environment

That way, u may find good and responsible men around and not louts or mess men

Please try and change environment

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Iamcute(m): 12:30pm On Oct 23, 2023
Singlesingle:
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
I don't know why I meet the kind of guys I meet o, bad guys tend to gravitate towards me especially the randy ones. Most times, I'm well dressed and I respect myself a lot so I don't understand why I'm not meeting the kind of people I desire.
Am I doing something wrong or I'm just suffering from what I know nothing about?

I want to get married o or at least have a serious relationship going on by the end of this year cry
Advice needed on how to achieve this, thank you all for your anticipated contributions


Can we be friends and see how things unfold from there
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by louken(m): 12:44pm On Oct 23, 2023
Singlesingle:
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
How old and what kind of person are you?
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by lifenajeje(m): 12:46pm On Oct 23, 2023
Give ur life to Christ if u have not done so ..

Next start praying kingdom advancement prayers and invest ur time in soul winning ...



U will ve surprise at how God will visit u .
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Johnholt909: 12:53pm On Oct 23, 2023
Singlesingle:
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
I don't know why I meet the kind of guys I meet o, bad guys tend to gravitate towards me especially the randy ones. Most times, I'm well dressed and I respect myself a lot so I don't understand why I'm not meeting the kind of people I desire.
Am I doing something wrong or I'm just suffering from what I know nothing about?

I want to get married o or at least have a serious relationship going on by the end of this year cry
Advice needed on how to achieve this, thank you all for your anticipated contributions
Did you break someone's heart before?
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by CandyOps(m): 3:45pm On Oct 24, 2023
I think you're perfectly fine except you're religious or superstitious and want to link this to something other the the obvious -- which is the fact that 'bad boys' are usually more mouthed and tend to have the balls to make an approach when they see what they want.

It's the same with a guy like me, i had to kiss a lotta frogs to find my princess. Now guess what...? My princess just called me this morning and she broke a happy/sad new to me about her visa to CA been approved.

And she'll be leaving for Canada by month end. cry

I feel my heart drop when she said that. I took a few seconds to process the info and I immediately shut down the waves of mixed emotions that hit me.

Soon enough, I'll have to go back to kissing the damned fugly frogs again. It's an annoying process sieving through the dating pool to find the single perfect match 😢

Damn! No wonder she didn't let me in fully.
**heavy sigh 😔
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Kobicove(m): 10:09am On Oct 25, 2023
Singlesingle:
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
I don't know why I meet the kind of guys I meet o, bad guys tend to gravitate towards me especially the randy ones. Most times, I'm well dressed and I respect myself a lot so I don't understand why I'm not meeting the kind of people I desire.
Am I doing something wrong or I'm just suffering from what I know nothing about?

I want to get married o or at least have a serious relationship going on by the end of this year cry
Advice needed on how to achieve this, thank you all for your anticipated contributions

If you tend to attract only irresponsible type of guys then it could have something to do with the neighbourhood were you live or the places you prefer to hang out...consider moving to a more decent area and changing your circle of friends
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 11:07pm On Oct 28, 2023
CandyOps:
I think you're perfectly fine except you're religious or superstitious and want to link this to something other the the obvious -- which is the fact that 'bad boys' are usually more mouthed and tend to have the balls to make an approach when they see what they want.

It's the same with a guy like me, i had to kiss a lotta frogs to find my princess. Now guess what...? My princess just called me this morning and she broke a happy/sad new to me about her visa to CA been approved.

And she'll be leaving for Canada by month end. cry

I feel my heart drop when she said that. I took a few seconds to process the info and I immediately shut down the waves of mixed emotions that hit me.

Soon enough, I'll have to go back to kissing the damned fugly frogs again. It's an annoying process sieving through the dating pool to find the single perfect match 😢

Damn! No wonder she didn't let me in fully.
**heavy sigh 😔
Lol..
I'm neither religious nor superstitious. I just started getting worried about it lately anyway..
As for your relationship, you can do the long distance thing and maybe later you go join her there. Abi you wan comot your mind just like that ni.
Not allowing you in fully might just be a personal decision for her, not necessarily because she doesn't want to be with you for long. I personally do not consent to anything beyond heavy petting, it's a decision I made long before I even started dating
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Magnoliaa(f): 11:59pm On Oct 28, 2023
Reminderz:
you said you dress decently, you don't expose your endowments, and you don't give the off the "she's just for fvcks vibes"? if so then, it might be something to do with your personality or character... believe me, when you respect yourself, men will also respect you...

What a nice observation.

So this is you basically, in some words or other, saying that dressing doesn't necessarily correlate to behaviour.

Because I could have sworn that people (and men) like to equate modesty to good behaviour. They shame and castigate and tear down women who show their bodies, and conclude on their characters.

Now you've seen a good woman, or someone who assumes they are good because of how well they dress, and instead of you condemning the men, no. You still shifted the focus to the 'well-dressed woman' and what she might be doing wrong.

It nice sha.

Thank God we can now see that dressing in a way to cover the body doesn't necessarily confer morals on people.

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Reminderz: 1:48am On Oct 29, 2023
Magnoliaa:


What a nice observation.

So this is you basically, in some words or other, saying that dressing doesn't necessarily correlate to behaviour.

Because I could have sworn that people (and men) like to equate modesty to good behaviour. They shame and castigate and tear down women who show their bodies, and conclude on their characters.

Now you've seen a good woman, or someone who assumes they are good because of how well they dress, and instead of you condemning the men, no. You still shifted the focus to the 'well-dressed woman' and what she might be doing wrong.

It nice sha.

Thank God we can now see that dressing in a way to cover the body doesn't necessarily confer morals on people.
yeah sure, it doesn't.. but that doesn't still mean you shouldn't dress well just because you have a good personality or character... most people will always judge people by the cover... if you're to do an interview and one person shows up in a suit and one person shows up in a boxer, who would you give your attention to? of course, you know the answer, it doesn't even matter if the man in boxer is more competent.. showing up in a boxer can also mean that he doesn't take the job he's interviewing for serious... if a woman doesn't respect her body, how do you want men to respect her or take her serious? they will only patronise her based on what they see alone (her body) while ignoring other aspects and such men are only in for nothing more than just fvcks...

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Hermanie(m): 1:55am On Oct 29, 2023
Singlesingle:
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
I don't know why I meet the kind of guys I meet o, bad guys tend to gravitate towards me especially the randy ones. Most times, I'm well dressed and I respect myself a lot so I don't understand why I'm not meeting the kind of people I desire.
Am I doing something wrong or I'm just suffering from what I know nothing about?

I want to get married o or at least have a serious relationship going on by the end of this year cry
Advice needed on how to achieve this, thank you all for your anticipated contributions

Women, you know there's absolutely nothing wrong in making the first move.

Truth is most of the guys that go around approaching women are the randy type. Trust me a guy that is very comfortable approaching women especially in public places is most likely approaching multiple women.

You're expecting one "responsibile" guy to see you and fall in love with you. You want him to approach only you. Forgetting there are millions of decently dressed and seemingly responsible women just like you too.

Let's practicalise it. Let's say I'm a responsible guy, maybe an introvert that normally don't flirt around. Now tell me, what is special about you that I've not seen in 50 other women that would make you approach you.

My advice. If you see a cool guy you like. Try to find out if he's single, and ask him out for launch

You most likely won't do this though. Just know that the honest truth is 90% of men that actively chase women are not chasing only one woman.

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by zed7: 6:06am On Oct 29, 2023
How can only 'randy' people approach you? How did you even conclude they are 'randy'? Do they see you at first sight and just ask for sex or do they smack your bum at first meetings or what?

Sometimes, people have made up their minds already about what they want. Anyone who doesn't fit into their ideal specification is a write off.

If truly only 'randy' men approach you, then you may want to take a look at your outfits and makeup again, they may not be as modest as you assume. Or perhaps, you give out 'olosho' vibes.
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Kingogbotor(m): 6:45am On Oct 29, 2023
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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 12:45am On Feb 22
Hermanie:


Women, you know there's absolutely nothing wrong in making the first move.

Truth is most of the guys that go around approaching women are the randy type. Trust me a guy that is very comfortable approaching women especially in public places is most likely approaching multiple women.

You're expecting one "responsibile" guy to see you and fall in love with you. You want him to approach only you. Forgetting there are millions of decently dressed and seemingly responsible women just like you too.

Let's practicalise it. Let's say I'm a responsible guy, maybe an introvert that normally don't flirt around. Now tell me, what is special about you that I've not seen in 50 other women that would make you approach you.

My advice. If you see a cool guy you like. Try to find out if he's single, and ask him out for launch

You most likely won't do this though. Just know that the honest truth is 90% of men that actively chase women are not chasing only one woman.
I might be able to flirt a little around a guy I like but to outrightly ask him out I can't o..

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 12:54am On Feb 22
Kobicove:


If you tend to attract only irresponsible type of guys then it could have something to do with the neighbourhood were you live or the places you prefer to hang out...consider moving to a more decent area and changing your circle of friends
Hmmmm.. Which neighborhood should I relocate to like this?
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Jflex07(m): 12:34pm On Feb 22
Singlesingle:
Hmmmm.. Which neighborhood should I relocate to like this?
The guys you say approach you,is it that not one of them can be given a chance? You just judge them from afar without getting to know them? Or is it the first impression thingy?
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 4:07pm On Feb 22
Jflex07:
The guys you say approach you,is it that not one of them can be given a chance? You just judge them from afar without getting to know them? Or is it the first impression thingy?
Is not first impression thing o, me that even enjoy the feeling of being in a relationship, is just that I don't want proper sex until marriage. Just my personal decision but it seems rare to find guys that want same..

One even told me to get pregnant before we can go any further in the relationship, this is someone I really like o and he probably knew it but I just let him go because I don't want any form of mental stress

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Jflex07(m): 4:09pm On Feb 22
Singlesingle:
Is not first impression thing o, me that even enjoy the feeling of being in a relationship, is just that I don't want proper sex until marriage. Just my personal decision but it seems rare to find guys that want same..

One even told me to get pregnant before we can go any further in the relationship, this is someone I really like o and he probably knew it but I just let him go because I don't want any form of mental stress
Oh, I get now. I hope you find your heart desire soon. Wishing you all the best.

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Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by Singlesingle(f): 7:28pm On Feb 22
Jflex07:
Oh, I get now. I hope you find your heart desire soon. Wishing you all the best.
Thank you
Re: Please, Advise Me Genuinely by toujurs: 7:38pm On Feb 22
Singlesingle:
Being single at my age and for my kind of person is mind boggling.
I don't know why I meet the kind of guys I meet o, bad guys tend to gravitate towards me especially the randy ones. Most times, I'm well dressed and I respect myself a lot so I don't understand why I'm not meeting the kind of people I desire.
Am I doing something wrong or I'm just suffering from what I know nothing about?

I want to get married o or at least have a serious relationship going on by the end of this year cry
Advice needed on how to achieve this, thank you all for your anticipated contributions
This one have reached mid thirties, after like 2 abortions.

She is now looking for the weak men, to retire her over stretched coochie on. undecided

Men without standard, are who fall victims to these nonsense.

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