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no 2 I'm facing the consequence right now, when i met her 2021 i gave up my travelling dream now I'm stuck with no money nothing nothing and she left me April 8 last year also run away with my money

pocohantas:
If fees needs to be paid, I will pay it. Money is a means to and end for me. Not something I overthink like many of you. The joke is on you that thinks you played me.

That is not to say my family wouldn't be taken care of. Neither does it mean I will bend in uncomfortable positions to please you.

Laudable

Point #4. ..what if you have 4 children with the girl and she doesn't like your family or your family doesn't like her?

Yeah, I agree.

Particularly 1-4 is non-negotiable.

Offpoint1:
When it comes to love, only experience can teach people sense.
Your advice is useless to any individual that has never fell victim and dumped.

If you can't do it for Amaka, Amara will sweep you off your feet and you'll do it for her.

Don't waste your time, experiences will do the trick. E get why dem say "love is blind" 😂

You need chilled beer

EreluRoz:
Then no need for the relationship.

If you start being calculative and acting smart with your partner then it's best you go your seperate ways.

I don't even understand what you young people call relationship these days

A relationship where only one person gives and the other collects is not a relationship. it is called a parasitic relationship in science.

The good or naive Host will eventually suffer and lose everything.

The parasite does not kill the host it only uses and drains it.

Una go just Dey justify rubbish without context.

So if I am making millions and a lady is committed to me and her school fees is just a 100k or 200k or even 500k, which comes once in like 3 or 4 months I shouldn’t support her?

You all need to eradicate this “smart” relationship mindset.

If you love a woman/man and you are in a position to support them, do it with your whole heart! That is what love and partnership is, sacrifice. If it ends up not working out, good and fine, but make the best memory and enjoy the moment.

I can’t imagine a woman in my life and she is struggling and I would justify not supporting her with “What if she leaves”.

Not to brokeshame anybody, but most people with that kind of mentality are people who would take forever to make that kind of lean money again. How much is school fees in Nigeria? Abeg make una Dey try put context to these things. You are ruining other people’s beautiful relationships.

Hmmm number 2 touch me o, anyway i go still japa weather she wants it or not

So why do they want to claim gender equality?... na when e come to spending una go dey talk trash

EreluRoz:
So you'll be comfortable if a lady is doing all of the above for you?

God created each gender for different purpose, stop trying to be or take the other gender role.

kmaster007:
There are some certain things you should never do for a woman no matter how much you love her, all in the name of pleasing her.

As a man, you have the responsibility to make your woman happy but there should be limit. You have an ego to defend as a man and you should not let a woman ruin it or take advantage of you simply because you love her. Below are 5 things you must never do to please a woman;

1.) Pay Her School Fees

Unless she is your wife, never pay for a woman’s education. It is okay to help her and support her when she is in school but paying everything for her is a NO. If you feel compelled to do it. However, do not assume that she will forever be indebted to you. People change and she might as well choose to love someone else even after all your efforts.

2.) Forget Your Dreams For Her

Before you met her, remember you had your own dreams and aspirations. Do not stop chasing them just because she does not like what you do. If you wanted go study abroad, the last thing you want to do is change your mind because she is not comfortable with it. If she cannot wait, let her be but never stop pursuing your dreams to please a woman.

3.) Commit a Crime For Her

If you cannot sustain her flashy lifestyle, do not steal or do something stupid just to please her. If she loves you for real, she will understand when you are broke and will not pressure you to sort out her financial matters.

4.) Never Disrespect Your Family

Women can be so manipulative especially when they know you love them for sure and you can do anything to have them stay. Some will try to show you how bad your family members are and draw you further from them. If she ever leaves you, the only people you will have behind you is your family. So, never cut your family ties to make a girl happy.

5.) Compromise Your Needs For Hers

Unless it’s really necessary, you should be a little bit selfish with yourself. You cannot afford to go hungry so that you can send her money to buy food. You can maybe share the little you have but never sacrifice all you got just to make her happy.

You don't deserve love

PROPEACE:
Many of the people saying "I will pay her school fees" will abandon their siblings and even parents and be screaming "nobody owes you anything" (wicked man's favourite slogan) whilst paying the fees of a strange woman.

So, if u see a strange person you cant do her favour.


Anyone you want to help, HE/SHE must reciprocate.

Truly, I've known these things for about a decade ! Though its not really easy, but one thing I love doing is learning through what happen to others. Some guys wey no dey hear whot still dey do am though

But, almost all of them will cry and complain at the end, unfortunately.

Your No 1. is so insensitive and a poor man's way of thinking. Pay fees for people when you can afford it, it has its own reward even when you don't get appreciation from the recipient.

kmaster007:
There are some certain things you should never do for a woman no matter how much you love her, all in the name of pleasing her.

As a man, you have the responsibility to make your woman happy but there should be limit. You have an ego to defend as a man and you should not let a woman ruin it or take advantage of you simply because you love her. Below are 5 things you must never do to please a woman;

1.) Pay Her School Fees

Unless she is your wife, never pay for a woman’s education. It is okay to help her and support her when she is in school but paying everything for her is a NO. If you feel compelled to do it. However, do not assume that she will forever be indebted to you. People change and she might as well choose to love someone else even after all your efforts.

2.) Forget Your Dreams For Her

Before you met her, remember you had your own dreams and aspirations. Do not stop chasing them just because she does not like what you do. If you wanted go study abroad, the last thing you want to do is change your mind because she is not comfortable with it. If she cannot wait, let her be but never stop pursuing your dreams to please a woman.

3.) Commit a Crime For Her

If you cannot sustain her flashy lifestyle, do not steal or do something stupid just to please her. If she loves you for real, she will understand when you are broke and will not pressure you to sort out her financial matters.

4.) Never Disrespect Your Family

Women can be so manipulative especially when they know you love them for sure and you can do anything to have them stay. Some will try to show you how bad your family members are and draw you further from them. If she ever leaves you, the only people you will have behind you is your family. So, never cut your family ties to make a girl happy.

5.) Compromise Your Needs For Hers

Unless it’s really necessary, you should be a little bit selfish with yourself. You cannot afford to go hungry so that you can send her money to buy food. You can maybe share the little you have but never sacrifice all you got just to make her happy.

Oga, you won't even know when you do all the aforementioned by the time you fall in love.

The problem now is that most people especially men tend to fall in love with their head and not the heart.

No thanks to their first love who disappointed them or broke their hearts.

The truth is if you haven't loved to the point where people around you call you foolish then it's not love but like.

Love is indeed blind to so many things including the 5 you listed up there.

By the way sorry for having your heart broken by the one you once loved!
You are officially welcome to the club 🤗😁

ABC101FF:
Your No 1. is so insensitive and a poor man's way of thinking. Pay fees for people when you can afford it, it has its own reward even when you don't get appreciation from the recipient.

Abi ooo, he is talking as if fellow men or even siblings can't repay bad with good.

kmaster007:
There are some certain things you should never do for a woman no matter how much you love her, all in the name of pleasing her.

As a man, you have the responsibility to make your woman happy but there should be limit. You have an ego to defend as a man and you should not let a woman ruin it or take advantage of you simply because you love her. Below are 5 things you must never do to please a woman;

1.) Pay Her School Fees

Unless she is your wife, never pay for a woman’s education. It is okay to help her and support her when she is in school but paying everything for her is a NO. If you feel compelled to do it. However, do not assume that she will forever be indebted to you. People change and she might as well choose to love someone else even after all your efforts.

2.) Forget Your Dreams For Her

Before you met her, remember you had your own dreams and aspirations. Do not stop chasing them just because she does not like what you do. If you wanted go study abroad, the last thing you want to do is change your mind because she is not comfortable with it. If she cannot wait, let her be but never stop pursuing your dreams to please a woman.

3.) Commit a Crime For Her

If you cannot sustain her flashy lifestyle, do not steal or do something stupid just to please her. If she loves you for real, she will understand when you are broke and will not pressure you to sort out her financial matters.

4.) Never Disrespect Your Family

Women can be so manipulative especially when they know you love them for sure and you can do anything to have them stay. Some will try to show you how bad your family members are and draw you further from them. If she ever leaves you, the only people you will have behind you is your family. So, never cut your family ties to make a girl happy.

5.) Compromise Your Needs For Hers

Unless it’s really necessary, you should be a little bit selfish with yourself. You cannot afford to go hungry so that you can send her money to buy food. You can maybe share the little you have but never sacrifice all you got just to make her happy.

Chai am highly guilty of the last one ..... Only this month over 150k don go pending my own needs 🤦‍♀️

Your opinion though!

EreluRoz:
I don't even understand what you young people call relationship these days

Old woman don talk,lol

Simps can't relate to anything up there, Op.


As far as they are concerned, getting access into an organ that brings them few seconds of orgasm is more than enough to sell their destinies and souls.

NPFLADMIN:
6, Taking care of her bills(e.g rent, data, nepa bills, upkeep e.t.c.). I mean you can help out if you want. In fact you can take care of it all but NEVER EVER MAKE IT SEEM LIKE IT'S YOUR JOB! If you wan do am, do it willingly.

see this one, ur SIMPly telling me u don't understand women, if u start paying those bills u have started no going back. The day u don't do any of them is day u will become a bad person and she must start cheating on u and u can't do anything else she will dump ur ass to the next guy.

Good points

VinnyBaba:
That School fees though.

Any Guy that pay School fees for his Undergraduate Girlfriend, When he wants to Marry her,
Her Family should not collect Dowry from him Again.

Story... Na those fools Dem dey bill pass.

Ironically, the semi-useless guy that impregnates the dumb girl will literally spend nothing.

The family will literally shoo her into his hole to hide their embarrassment.

kmaster007:
There are some certain things you should never do for a woman no matter how much you love her, all in the name of pleasing her.

As a man, you have the responsibility to make your woman happy but there should be limit. You have an ego to defend as a man and you should not let a woman ruin it or take advantage of you simply because you love her. Below are 5 things you must never do to please a woman;

1.) Pay Her School Fees

Unless she is your wife, never pay for a woman’s education. It is okay to help her and support her when she is in school but paying everything for her is a NO. If you feel compelled to do it. However, do not assume that she will forever be indebted to you. People change and she might as well choose to love someone else even after all your efforts.

2.) Forget Your Dreams For Her

Before you met her, remember you had your own dreams and aspirations. Do not stop chasing them just because she does not like what you do. If you wanted go study abroad, the last thing you want to do is change your mind because she is not comfortable with it. If she cannot wait, let her be but never stop pursuing your dreams to please a woman.

3.) Commit a Crime For Her

If you cannot sustain her flashy lifestyle, do not steal or do something stupid just to please her. If she loves you for real, she will understand when you are broke and will not pressure you to sort out her financial matters.

4.) Never Disrespect Your Family

Women can be so manipulative especially when they know you love them for sure and you can do anything to have them stay. Some will try to show you how bad your family members are and draw you further from them. If she ever leaves you, the only people you will have behind you is your family. So, never cut your family ties to make a girl happy.

5.) Compromise Your Needs For Hers

Unless it’s really necessary, you should be a little bit selfish with yourself. You cannot afford to go hungry so that you can send her money to buy food. You can maybe share the little you have but never sacrifice all you got just to make her happy.

place a caveat to your title please. A WIFE is also a lady

EreluRoz:
Then no need for the relationship.

If you start being calculative and acting smart with your partner then it's best you go your seperate ways.

I don't even understand what you young people call relationship these days

Relationship these days?!!

Well, most guys see it as an avenue for regular safe sex.

While for most ladies, it's an escape from financial stress.

EreluRoz:
Then no need for the relationship.

If you start being calculative and acting smart with your partner then it's best you go your seperate ways.

I don't even understand what you young people call relationship these days

The truth if you really want to hear it is that love relationships are not supposed to be handled the way we handle it in Nigeria. Love relationship doesn't actually involve all what the guy listed above.
Paying her sch fee
Willing to commit crime for her
Going hungry so that she could eat
Sacrifice your dream for her. It doesn't make sense, a girl who wouldn't think twice before serving you cold breakfast

SIMPs will still not hear

They only learn after being dumped and used.

icankel:
see this one, ur SIMPly telling me u don't understand women, if u start paying those bills u have started no going back. The day u don't do any of them is day u will become a bad person and she must start cheating on u and u can't do anything else she will dump ur ass to the next guy.

I'm not the one u quoted o, but let me give u one beautiful advice on dating women.

ALWAYS GO FOR A LADY WHO DNT SEE YOU AS ATM MACHINE, THEY ARE STILL SEVERAL OF SUCH LADIES.

2. EITHER SHE SEES YOU OR NOT AS ATM, NEVER DO GOOD FOR ANYONE BECAUSE SHE/HE PUT PRESSURE ON YOU, ..... do it, on ur freewill.

3. Don't do favour for lady beyond what ur capacity can bear.


And lastly which is most important ,stop forcing lady to have relationship with you


If u can abide with these four advice, you would enjoy ladies you are dating, they might be few in number but u will enjoy the relationship, and u won't regret dating and giving them money.

icankel:
see this one, ur SIMPly telling me u don't understand women, if u start paying those bills u have started no going back. The day u don't do any of them is day u will become a bad person and she must start cheating on u and u can't do anything else she will dump ur ass to the next guy.

That's why I said do it willingly and not make it seem like ya job.

Cause there are some women who didn't turn evil when the bills stopped coming.

daytona008:
Una go just Dey justify rubbish without context.

So if I am making millions and a lady is committed to me and her school fees is just a 100k or 200k or even 500k, which comes once in like 3 or 4 months I shouldn’t support her?

You all need to eradicate this “smart” relationship mindset.

If you love a woman/man and you are in a position to support them, do it with your whole heart! That is what love and partnership is, sacrifice. If it ends up not working out, good and fine, but make the best memory and enjoy the moment.

I can’t imagine a woman in my life and she is struggling and I would justify not supporting her with “What if she leaves”.

Not to brokeshame anybody, but most people with that kind of mentality are people who would take forever to make that kind of lean money again. How much is school fees in Nigeria? Abeg make una Dey try put context to these things. You are ruining other people’s beautiful relationships.

A SIMP don drop quote. Sell your family house give am you hear?

EreluRoz:
Then no need for the relationship.

If you start being calculative and acting smart with your partner then it's best you go your seperate ways.

I don't even understand what you young people call relationship these days

Marriages of old didn't have relationships and they lasted unlike the quality of marriages today with all the romantics and relationships that crashes like a poorly built mobile app.

The best marriages are between people who:
1. Have kept their mind and body decently without useless and needless entanglement

2. By referral, I highly recommend arranged marriage because it saves times and the person referring knows the two party well. Dating a complete stranger because of some fantasy in your head is a gamble.


3. Relationship or courtship is for people who are educationally and and professionally ready not for students who are still figuring right from left

Offpoint1:
When it comes to love, only experience can teach people sense.
Your advice is useless to any individual that has never fell victim and dumped.

If you can't do it for Amaka, Amara will sweep you off your feet and you'll do it for her.

Don't waste your time, experiences will do the trick. E get why dem say "love is blind" 😂

please remind them this ever day and twice on monday morning

Everything is not about sex or relationship....I can pay her school fees and take care of her without any string attached. You never can tell what she becomes tomorrow.