Hello friends,
A brother to me wanted to marry a mother of four kids .

She has divorced and the husband took the four kids and the bride price was returned.

My sibling brother who has never married before want to marry the lady .

He is in early forties and the woman is in her late twenties.

Your suggestions is needed but I know nairaland may not be best but I want couples in the same shoes to comments.

Thanks

If the responsibility of the kids will not be on him, he should go ahead if he finds happiness with her and if they truly love each other.

cybernaut:
Hello friends,
A brother to me wanted to marry a mother of four kids .

She has divorced and the husband took the four kids and the bride price was returned.

My sibling brother who has never married before want to marry the lady .

He is in early forties and the woman is in her late twenties.

Your suggestions is needed but I know nairaland may not be best but I want couples in the same shoes to comments.

Thanks

For starters... what da fvck is "sibling brother"

That said....ur brother is probably desperate to get married......at over 40, his self esteem and confidence in getting a single young girl is probably next to zero.......so this lady is like a "miracle" for him..being under 30...

It will not end well....... However..the short time I've spent in this cosmos made me realize money can hide a lot of issues...

so If he has resources to start the match with 4 goals down and the usual wahala that all jobless women bring into marriage.....why not.?? He should go ahead.... Dem nor dey tell person for this tinubu era.....

U cannot marry a single mother and not care for her kids...na trouble u dey find....her kids her the number one priority....u are just a means to that end..

I'm afraid the marriage may not work out fine because l suggest you try to find out what happened to her last marriage in the first place while they took all the kids from her and decided to refund the dowry money back to the husband before going ahead to say you want to marry her, I'm smelling danger from the future

Some men cha.....

How guyman wan take start match with disadvantage of 4 goals . How you wan take equalize that kind match ?

advanceDNA:


For starters... what da fvck is "sibling brother"

That said....ur brother is probably desperate to get married......at over 40, his self esteem and confidence in getting a single young girl is probably next to zero.......so this lady is like a "miracle" for him..being under 30...

It will not end well....... However..the short time I've spent in this cosmos made me realize money can hide a lot of issues...

so If he has resources to start the match with 4 goals down and the usual wahala that all jobless women bring into marriage.....why not.?? He should go ahead.... Dem nor dey tell person for this tinubu era.....

U cannot marry a single mother and not care for her kids...na trouble u dey find....her kids her the number one priority....u are just a means to that end..

she is not jobless and she is a nurse. She is not with the kids and her ex husband took the kidd and only pay for pride price without traditional marriage .

cybernaut:
she is not jobless and she is a nurse. She is not with the kids and her ex husband took the kidd and only pay for pride price without traditional marriage .

WAIT...So u think that's the end of the kids she birthed.....because the man took them??
...women are not wired like that...unless those every irresponsible ones that wants to have freedom to fvck around

be ready to care for 4 kids...either remotely in the exes house or in ur own house...because shes going to go get her kids not too long from now....

. If he wants to marry because he thinks the kids are not in the picture he should think again...

He should find a woman without kids, but if he wants to marry someone with kids then that's his prerogative.

OP, are you sure you're not the man in question? Lol. Looking at your profile, you opened a similar thread in December:
https://www.nairaland.com/7943061/he-want-marry-mother-four

TheWinterBird:
He should find a woman without kids, but if he wants to marry someone with kids then that's his prerogative.

You are right

Hmmm... Inside life.

Well, I will never write off the lady. But that man needs a lot of enquiries and investigations to make. Very very important.

Why will they take all the 4 children? I'm sure they must be young. She's only in her late 20s and she's a working class... Like not broke.

Your guy must be diligent in finding out all details about her. He should not be under pressure or be in haste. Esle, he may later regret it.

No where on the Earth has a match started with 4 : 0 down... How do you think you can recolize

Let the man be

cybernaut:
Hello friends,
A brother to me wanted to marry a mother of four kids .
She has divorced and the husband took the four kids and the bride price was returned.
My sibling brother who has never married before want to marry the lady .
He is in early forties and the woman is in her late twenties.
Your suggestions is needed but I know nairaland may not be best but I want couples in the same shoes to comments.
Thanks

if he fully well knows all the above and wants to do it, then why should you/we care about what this man does with his life?
if thats what this mature man wants to do, then by all means let him do it. if at 40s this man wants to marry a divorced mother of 4 kids, then where is the issue? just because YOU wouldnt do it, doesnt mean that nobody should. to each their own!

BTW look at it from another angle....this 40yr old man is getting ready to marry a 20yr old. who is really winning here?

cybernaut:
Hello friends, A brother to me wanted to marry a mother of four kids . She has divorced and the husband took the four kids and the bride price was returned. My sibling brother who has never married before want to marry the lady . He is in early forties and the woman is in her late twenties. Your suggestions is needed but I know nairaland may not be best but I want couples in the same shoes to comments. Thanks

What is the major reason why you are against marriage? Is your "sibling" brother not happy with the woman he has chosen for himself or what?

nifemi25:
No where on the Earth has a match started with 4 : 0 down... How do you think you can recolize

Wetin be dis? wetin be dis??

cybernaut:
Hello friends,
A brother to me wanted to marry a mother of four kids .

She has divorced and the husband took the four kids and the bride price was returned.

My sibling brother who has never married before want to marry the lady .

He is in early forties and the woman is in her late twenties.

Your suggestions is needed but I know nairaland may not be best but I want couples in the same shoes to comments.

Thanks

e em if your brother is in his 40s, he can still settle for young girl with no child at all. Man is always market able, as long as he's responsible. Na 0;0 match dey start abeg

22just:


Wetin be dis? wetin be dis??

he meant equalize, considering the 4 kids she already has, he has to get his own kids to meet up her 4 kids already upfront. Na requalise be the term we use to mean equalize in football when we small. It also means to level up the game.

Creamypie:
he meant equalize, considering the 4 kids she already has, he has to get his own lids to meet up her 4 kids already upfront. Na requalise be the term we use to mean equalize in football when we small. It also means to level up the game.

What if one of the reasons he chose her is because he probably can't produce kids of his own? What happens with your equation for all games in that case?

advanceDNA:


For starters... what da fvck is "sibling brother"

That said....ur brother is probably desperate to get married......at over 40, his self esteem and confidence in getting a single young girl is probably next to zero.......so this lady is like a "miracle" for him..being under 30...

It will not end well....... However..the short time I've spent in this cosmos made me realize money can hide a lot of issues...

so If he has resources to start the match with 4 goals down and the usual wahala that all jobless women bring into marriage.....why not.?? He should go ahead.... Dem nor dey tell person for this tinubu era.....

U cannot marry a single mother and not care for her kids...na trouble u dey find....her kids her the number one priority....u are just a means to that end..

Na wá for u óò u just help me go talk all the thing wey I get to tell the guy 😢

Well thank you anyway

advanceDNA:


That said....ur brother is probably desperate to get married......at over 40, his self esteem and confidence in getting a single young girl is probably next to zero.......so this lady is like a "miracle" for him..being under 30...

I wonder if you’re a teenager the way you talk about a 40 year old as if they’re pensioners. 40 year old men are fit and healthy. This guy obviously likes the woman and doesn’t care about her circumstances. Some people like the idea of an already made family.

Brandiebird:


I wonder if you’re a teenager the way you talk about a 40 year old as if they’re pensioners. 40 year old men are fit and healthy. This guy obviously likes the woman and doesn’t care about her circumstances. Some people like the idea of an already made family.

This is pig shit. Something is wrong with the guy and he knows it hence he is flowing to what he knows he deserves. Most likely His Curse is in motion.

nifemi25:
No where on the Earth has a match started with 4 : 0 down... How do you think you can recolize

hehehehehe. And na under 30 don score 4 goals already.

TheWinterBird:
He should find a woman without kids, but if he wants to marry someone with kids then that's his prerogative.

OP, are you sure you're not the man in question? Lol. Looking at your profile, you opened a similar thread in December:
https://www.nairaland.com/7943061/he-want-marry-mother-four

So marry him na.

cybernaut:
Hello friends,
A brother to me wanted to marry a mother of four kids .

She has divorced and the husband took the four kids and the bride price was returned.

My sibling brother who has never married before want to marry the lady .

He is in early forties and the woman is in her late twenties.

Your suggestions is needed but I know nairaland may not be best but I want couples in the same shoes to comments.

Thanks

Bros, you are an adult you know good and evil, so enjoy your choice.

Wetin concern me?

Bet they are well suited nau. Early starter jam late starter both will average out well be that fa.

Brandiebird:


I wonder if you’re a teenager the way you talk about a 40 year old as if they’re pensioners. 40 year old men are fit and healthy. This guy obviously likes the woman and doesn’t care about her circumstances. Some people like the idea of an already made family.

Lol... ...being a teenager doesn't mean I don't have sense more than u....u get ??....

..if he doesnt care about her circumstances as u claim, why is he here asking strangers if he is truly convicted about the issue.....

No man likes the idea of a woman with four kids as a way of starting his marital life.. there must be another reason driving him...

.if ur eyes ddnt go on vacation u would have seen where he said he won't be caring for the kids because the husband has taken them, so how come u now think he likes the idea of already made family....

Already made family koor...tokunbo family nii.. u this old men on nairaland seff.....una dey one kind

Kingrshd3:



Na wá for u óò u just help me go talk all the thing wey I get to tell the guy 😢

Well thank you anyway

Baba nor vex..

If he's my brother, I wouldn't be happy with his decision. There are many responsible single working class ladies in their 30s, 40s, etc.

advanceDNA:


Baba nor vex..

😂

May be he wants to marry the nurse in her and not the woman in her.

I pity the guy seriously.

cybernaut:
Hello friends,
A brother to me wanted to marry a mother of four kids .

She has divorced and the husband took the four kids and the bride price was returned.

My sibling brother who has never married before want to marry the lady .

He is in early forties and the woman is in her late twenties.

Your suggestions is needed but I know nairaland may not be best but I want couples in the same shoes to comments.

Thanks

It may be because shes still in her 20s that your brother wants to marry her but he fails to realize that immaturity may be the reason the first marriage did not work. I keep saying it, if I had married in my 20s I prolly would have left the marriage due to my mentality and level of understanding then.

Let your brother ask deeper questions about the circumstances sorrounding her first marriage and why it failed.

No be to marry o, na make e last be the koko.